In this episode, DSO delves into the topic of retroactive jealousy, addressing the insecurities and discomfort that can arise when a partner has had previous sexual encounters. He explores the dynamics of past promiscuity and the feelings of inadequacy that can arise when comparing oneself to a partner's previous experiences. DSO offers empathy and validation to those struggling with these emotions, emphasizing that their feelings are valid and not indicative of weakness. A thought-provoking dis...
Feb 19, 2024•15 min•Ep. 204
DSO comes face to face with a conundrum that plagues many married individuals – the struggle for consistent, fulfilling intimacy. The host addresses a listener's question concerning the frequency and nature of intimacy within marriage, offering his insights on the complexities of physical and emotional connections. With raw candor and a touch of humor, DSO delves into the nuanced challenges of igniting passion in a relationship marred by a disparity in sexual desires. The listener, adopting the ...
Feb 13, 2024•13 min•Ep. 203
DSO tackles a sensitive and commonly encountered issue in many marriages: the dynamics of sexual desire and satisfaction. Delve into Daniel's story, a listener who, despite having worked on improving his relationship and experiencing an uptick in bedroom activity, is grappling with the feeling that his wife's participation may not stem from genuine desire. DSO, with his blend of straightforward advice and empathetic insight, dissects the complexity behind the listener's concerns, pointing out th...
Jan 29, 2024•10 min•Ep. 202
I had the pleasure of sitting down for a nice chat with Carla Crivaro from the UK. From her website at carlacrivaro.com : "I started out as a sexually repressed, stay at home mother and wife with chronic anxiety, low self-worth and deep-rooted insecurities in all relationships from working to familial to romantic. I went on to experience a 'sexual awakening' which took me on a path of self-discovery. I consensually dabbled in play parties and dating while still married to my then husband and we ...
Jan 26, 2024•55 min•Ep. 201
DSO addresses a message from a listener who is experiencing a disparity in libido with his postmenopausal wife. The listener explains that his wife's libido has significantly decreased since entering menopause, while his own libido remains high. DSO discusses the complexities of menopause and its impact on women's libido and explores the listener's concerns about his wife's past sexual experiences and her lack of desire for sex. Additionally, DSO offers empathy and understanding to the listener,...
Jan 22, 2024•17 min•Ep. 199
In this episode, DSO responds to a letter from Nate, who is feeling drained and frustrated in his marriage. After a long military career, Nate has come to realize that his wife is lazy, unambitious, and constantly negative. He has recently started focusing on self-love and personal growth, but his wife's behavior is wearing him down mentally. DSO offers two options for Nate: either his wife needs to join him in his positive mindset and make an effort to improve the relationship, or Nate may need...
Jan 19, 2024•9 min•Ep. 198
DSO discusses the statistic that married people have more sex than single people, and whether this means that single individuals should get married to improve their sex lives. He examines the reality of sex in marriages by looking at survey data, which shows that a significant percentage of married couples are in dead bedroom relationships. DSO also explores the societal benefits of marriage and how it can serve as a solution for men who are not having any sexual encounters or causing chaos in s...
Jan 15, 2024•11 min•Ep. 197
In this episode, DSO responds to a question from a listener named John Rambo, who is feeling anxious about his wife attending a bachelorette party in Vegas. John has been with his wife for almost 13 years and they have three children together. He describes his wife as beautiful and trustworthy, but he still has concerns about the party and worries about potential infidelity. DSO explores two possible explanations for John's anxiety: insecurity and a gut feeling that something is not right. He en...
Jan 12, 2024•12 min•Ep. 196
Karen and Catherine offer a service that they call "My Divorce Solution". It's an excellent method for gathering all pertinent information and uncovering all the facts you may need when going through a divorce. From their website at mydivorcesolution.com : "We specialize in supporting divorcing couples in effectively managing the division of their marital estate. We strive to demystify the complexities involved, ensuring our clients have a crystal-clear understanding of their financial situation...
Jan 10, 2024•34 min•Ep. 200
DSO addresses a common issue faced by many men in long-term relationships: feeling neglected and pushed to the back burner after having children. He explains that this shift in attention and priorities is a natural result of motherhood and the demands of raising children. However, he acknowledges the valid need for intimacy and connection in a relationship and offers advice on how to address this issue. DSO emphasizes the importance of understanding the biological and societal factors at play, s...
Jan 08, 2024•15 min•Ep. 195
DSO responds to a question from a man named Nick who is frustrated with his wife's lack of contribution to household chores and responsibilities. Nick works long hours and comes home to clean, cook, and take care of their four children while his wife spends her time on the couch or surfing the web. DSO explains that this situation is not uncommon and suggests that Nick has inadvertently trained his wife to behave this way by not setting boundaries or demanding equal participation. He advises Nic...
Jan 04, 2024•14 min•Ep. 194
Lloyd is obviously not too happy with his love life to his wife of twenty years. He labels her as "avoidant", and their scheduled once-per-week intimacy sessions aren't panning out. What can he do?
Dec 13, 2023•17 min•Ep. 193
A follower, JD, reaches out and shares a story that is, unfortunately, pretty common. His wife seems to have flipped out after enduring a pretty normal but negative life situation. Her father passed away. What does she do? She copes by getting attention and having sexual relations with people outside of the marriage. Not good! What JD does is a common thing: He frames the situation as, "Everything was fine up until the big life moment happened". With some honest reflection, he'll probably look b...
Dec 11, 2023•8 min•Ep. 192
A follower shares the story of being stuck in a long-term dead bedroom relationship. He has worked on himself and tried like hell to repair the relationship, but the wife doesn't seem to care. And now, with this high status as a business owner/boss and with his newfound physical fitness, he has caught the eye of a younger woman. He's obviously already head over heels for the woman, but doesn't want to destroy his marriage. Or does he? Like most men in this situation, he is very conflicted....
Dec 07, 2023•16 min•Ep. 191
Nov 20, 2023•7 min•Ep. 190
Nov 17, 2023•15 min•Ep. 189
A follower reaches out and tells the story of his wife who wants nothing more to do with him. It's time that he listens and stops hanging on... You can ask DSO a question by filling out the form here: https://dadstartingover.com/dear-dso
Nov 15, 2023•8 min•Ep. 188
A follower asks if I have ever heard about an affair saving a marriage. "John" says that he has been in a dead bedroom relationship for a while, tried all kinds to rekindle his marriage, but it wasn't until he actually stepped outside of his marriage that things seem to improve. Interesting! Let's talk about it. You can submit your own question to Ralph/DSO here: https://dadstartingover.com/dear-dso
Nov 11, 2023•12 min•Ep. 187
Something a little different for the Dad Starting Over world! I had the pleasure of chatting with one of my favorite business people, Daniel Priestley. Daniel is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and international speaker. Starting with nothing, he built successful multi-million dollar businesses in Australia, UK and Singapore. Daniel and I chat about entrepreneurship and all the opportunities that are available to men out there who are looking to start up their own business. Learn more about...
Oct 25, 2023•54 min•Ep. 186
It seems that everyone and their cousin has sent me the link to this video! This is a clip from a UK television show where a therapist sits down with a VERY typical dead bedroom couple. He wants more. She is too overwhelmed and busy with the new baby. As always, they both have a point. The man is completely clueless about how his old game plan for getting physical intimacy is done (just show up), and the wife doesn't realize that actual work is needed to stay connected as a couple. It's ok to pr...
Oct 24, 2023•31 min•Ep. 185
As they often say, stereotypes don't just fall from the sky. The whole notion of "my wife changed as soon as we got married" is not the NORM, but it's certainly not unheard of. For most of the men that I talk to, their stories of "my wife completely changed" usually involves marriage, cohabitation, years together, kids, stress, jobs... you know, all the normal life stuff that can really CHANGE a person. BUT, for some guys and gals, their partner absolutely changed on the day of the wedding. As s...
Oct 13, 2023•6 min•Ep. 184
With the loosening of social mores and a broader acceptance of casual physical intimacy, especially in younger adults, it's not a surprise that these relatively new worlds and opinions may collide with more "traditional" monogamous people. When those with "high body counts" try to enter into the world of strict monogamy, they are sometimes outright rejected because of their past behavior... and this hurts feelings! Is a high body count indicative of mental issues? Compulsive/impulsive tendencies...
Oct 11, 2023•15 min•Ep. 183
Dr. Psych Mom and I do an impromptu live chat for our social media followers on October 5, 2023. We had a great discussion and lots of great questions from the viewers. Give it a listen!
Oct 09, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 182
Heather Ray is a licensed Sexologist based in Texas, but she is able to help clients from all fifty states. Click here to learn more about Heather Ray and her services. In this interview, we talk about everything from her own dead bedroom marriage to an older man, her physical transformation, her second divorce, and her experience working with clients that are trying to repair the sexual intimacy within their marriages. Thank you for your time, Heather!...
Oct 06, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 181
This is a recording of a live DSO Fraternity meeting that was held on October 4, 2023. We opened this meeting to the public and had some great conversations! Click here to learn more about the DSO Fraternity.
Oct 04, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Ep. 180
Sep 18, 2023•55 min•Ep. 179
From Scharzad's website: "After 25 years of marriage, Schahrzad Morgan, mother of three, files for divorce and embarks on a powerful journey of desire, love and sexual liberation. Since then, her views on sex have inspired people around the world. Ms. Morgan has a B.S. in Computer Science from the University of Nebraska - Omaha, and an MBA from Arizona State University-West. She was born in Düsseldorf, Germany, and moved to Omaha, Nebraska as a child. She practices Transcendental Meditation, sp...
Aug 29, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 178
"Women need an emotional connection" -- How many times have we heard this? Is it true? Do women absolutely NEED that deeper emotional connection in order to experience true sexual desire? Let's ask our friend Dr. Psych Mom.
Jul 28, 2023•4 min•Ep. 177
In this episode, I pontificate about how time carries on with or without us, how change is inevitable, and my recent trip to Germany.
Jul 27, 2023•10 min•Ep. 176
DSO and DPM tackle a popular topic: What happens to the average woman's libido after marriage? IMPORTANT LINKS: https://www.liinks.co/dadstartingover FOLLOW ME ON 💥 Facebook https://facebook.com/dadstartingover 💥 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dad.starting.over
Jul 05, 2023•9 min•Ep. 175
