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Cupid's Coach with Julie Ferman

Julie Fermanjulieferman.com
Are you Single? Wish you weren't? I'm your host, Julie Ferman, join me as I challenge today's evolutionary, modern day dating experts, through interviews that are frank, courageous, open-hearted and often hilarious. We'll shine light on your blind spots (yep, we've all got 'em) and we'll laugh through our A-HA moments together. You'll hear about couples who did dating well and found each other, and the flops -- those who are doing dating badly -- we'll learn from them too. How might you do dating differently? What subtle and not so subtle changes might you make that might just change everything? Join me on this journey as we listen, laugh, learn and love!
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Episodes

Ep. 34 - The Bigger Better Deal Trap

Join me in my office, to observe dating done well, and .... dating done badly. Are you falling into the Bigger Better Deal Trap? Or are you someone who makes your own gravy? Discover why the Hunky GQ guy didn't get the third date, and why the other "less HOT" guy DID. How Skype dates are solving problems, and what to do when you suspect that you might be shooting out of your league!

Mar 08, 202033 min

Ep. 33 - The Secret To Intimacy

Listen in as Julie interviews Interview Expert Allana Pratt about the nature of intimacy and the key to that kingdom. What there is to do when romance sparks aren't flying - or when things start to get stale. And finally, why erections are overrated, what rigidity in love truly is!

Feb 23, 202029 min

Ep. 32 - Two Matchmakers, Telling Stories

Listen in on a conversation between two matchmakers. Julie interviews colleague May Hui to glean insights from a decade of speed dating events and thousands of first dates. Discover why 60% of available candidates are overlooked, and why there's gold there to mine. Distance, height, ethnicity -- might you rethink these criteria? Hear about people who did...and what happened!

Feb 12, 202038 min

Ep. 31 - Who's Getting It...And Who's Not!

Why does dating go well for some people and...not for others? Join me as I shine a light on the WHY of both, through real life dating scenarios from this last week. What should she do when the date he doesn't grab the check, or when his idea of a fun second date turns you off. What about the Average Joe who's going for women who consistently turn him down? And what one woman did to unfreeze a man's heart!

Feb 02, 202036 min

Ep. 30 - Taking Back Control

Managing the constant stream of communications that hit our desks and devices every day? It's maddening, and it's affected dating big time. Listen in as we address this pesky issue head on. Discover if your expectations regarding communicating are absurd and unreasonable, or ... manageable for the people in your life. Challenge yourself to take back control of your communications - so those who matter can find you and connect with you. And turn down the noise everywhere else - it may be the one ...

Jan 27, 202034 min

Ep. 29 - New Year, New Love Life

Join me as I share some of last year's Success Stories, the couples who did manage to transform me to we! Discover how couples overcame obstacles like religion and distance, and how some seeds take years to sprout. Learn how to work an event and the magic in a second chance. Throw some parties of your own this year, get really good at engaging and initiating. And, this year, let's get you coupled up!

Jan 05, 202023 min

Ep. 28 - Making Magical Moments

Laugh with me over 1958 advice on where and how to snag a man. Which tactics are outdated, and which are timeless and spot on today? I'll give you the courage to ditch that five year old photo and maybe change up your hair or drop those pesky ten pounds. Find out how Mr. GQ blew it at my party - and how to make your holiday events magical. And rethinking those deal-breakers; the long distance relationship that did work out and why it's totally fine that her income doubles his!

Dec 22, 201933 min

Ep. 27 - Dangerous Triggers

Join me and Toronto matchmaker Carmelia Ray as we discuss the dangers of triggers over money, sex, and communication styles. How fear, anger and assumptions can derail your early dates. How to graciously handle difficult situations and develop a healthy first date mindset. The art and the discipline of staying in the present and the value in slowing down the pace of dating. How our social culture is strengthened by authenticity and compassionate communication, and the power of a sincere apology....

Dec 08, 201943 min

Ep. 26 - How Good Guys Get Game

Join me as dating coach and matchmaker, Dan Silverman, reveals how the Good Guy can get the girl! Developing "Game" -- the casual, just-edgy-enough exterior that serves to attract women. Nurturing your inner game, mindset, playful behavior, and humor to draw a woman in. Managing rejection and learning how to be playful. What is cold approach pick-up, and why it's good to practice it. Plus, how women can avoid the narcissist and design a true modern day partnership! What is female game and how sh...

Dec 02, 201948 min

Ep. 25 - Ageless Dating

We're in the midst of a demographic revolution. Nearly half of our population is over fifty. Listen in as I interview Senena Capanelli, co-founder of Age Nation, on how to grow and thrive separate from time. How to reframe and rename your story, maintaining and developing confidence through self-talk and how we speak with others. How the richness and depth of maturity is overpowering the myth of youth, enabling new, undiscovered capacity for love in dating and relationship today.

Nov 11, 201951 min

Ep. 24 - The Sugar Daddy Trap

In this episode I call out the Sugar Daddy trap; why it's a tease and a dead end for her - and for him. Why being too picky will leave you child-less, and why your stated age preferences are turning off your real prospects!

Nov 03, 201933 min

Ep. 23 - How To Discover Self-Love

How disasters and disappointments can spur breakthroughs through inner work, studying and experiential learning. How heartbreak can throw us into accelerated growth and access to higher consciousness, propelling us to hew levels of compassion. How to move from suffering to healing, transforming that energy into a greater capacity for love, creativity and contribution.

Oct 27, 201952 min

Ep. 22 - Sexy Boundaries...And Breezing Through Online Dating

Listen in as I interview Mike Goldstein, EZ Dating Coach, who has the answers to how to tweak your online dating methodology so that it becomes fun and fruitful for you. Sexy Boundaries; what are they and how do we set them in a way that brings a man closer? How much does a young guy truly want his date to reveal on that first date and how to co-created the pace of relationship and intimacy? Discover how every connection and every date is a bridge to build, not burn. Plus - the real reason your ...

Oct 20, 20191 hr 1 min

Ep. 21 - Finding Great Men Through The Sisterhood

Join me as I share with you how to find really good men right in your community. Why the vast majority of matchmakers have abandoned women - and what we can do about this tragedy. Why most dating agencies and matchmaking companies are too limited to serve you well. And you'll discover how to develop your own social network through hosting your own Plus One parties. It's your love life -- you get to design it!

Oct 06, 201935 min

Ep. 20 - Dating In The #MeToo Era

Listen in as speaker and consultant Matthew Mitchell and I address this sticky issue. The challenges and the blessings that are presented to us as we re-examine sexuality, intimacy and communication in this modern era. It's a bold, honest conversation about how very real vulnerability is for women. Also we call out the responsibility women have for the message our attire and physical presentation conveys to men. How to nip harassment or unwanted advances in the bud, on the spot, whether on a dat...

Sep 09, 201949 min

Ep. 19 - The Power Of Playfullness

Listen in as I interview Tripp Kramer, renowned dating coach for men (TrippAdvice.com) on the guy's perspective in dating. How smart women are finding feminine ways to invite him to initiate. First date conversation flow, how to develop the courage to be persistent. and how to exit with honesty and integrity!

Aug 25, 201944 min

Ep. 18 - When Julie Coaches Her Coach

30 years after Manuel Manga coached me on how to find my partner, the tables have turned and now I have my former dating coach in the hot seat, addressing what romantic love is today. The dangers in The List, why wealth and beauty aren't the answer, what women can do to become easier to find, to date, and to love!

Aug 12, 201950 min

Ep. 17 - Pickiness, Loneliness, and Happiness

Join me as I interview relationship expert Wendy Newman, author of 121 First Dates , revealing the truth about pickiness and how to evolve beyond it. Why dating the short guy might change everything for you. What to do if you're stuck in "One Date Wonderland" - and Happiness Habits that will transform loneliness into healthy self-love!

Aug 05, 201951 min

Ep. 16 - Romance & Intimacy

When romantic chemistry doesn't happen, why is that? "The Relationship Coach" Devon Loomis joins be to discuss how to develop the ability to connect with others, through falling in love with ourselves first. The real purpose of dating. The gifts in breakdown, conflict and triggers. When to go inward and when to engage? The dangers in pornography, as the ultimate disconnect and the exact opposite of intimacy, love, and healthy relationship.

Jul 21, 201943 min

Ep. 15 - How To Be Courageous

How did Debbie find her guy? Why does a prince look like in today's modern world? Why your expectations could be your biggest barrier to finding relationship. Should you lose weight first, or date while you're on a fitness kick? And what to do with that phone of yours while you're on a date. This episode is all about courage, developing the courage to step outside your existing comfort zone, and the rewards that this extra courage will bring you!

Jul 14, 201938 min

Ep. 14 - Small Town Love

We take aim at dating in Santa Fe, New Mexico! The best venues for dining solo, how to make magic of Trader Joe's, The Coop, Whole Foods, and how Ecstatic Dance is for anyone and everyone. Hiking, cooking classes, art gallery socials, connection opportunities over music festivals, festivals and food trucks. Why we should never burn a bridge, chatting, flirting, initiating, getting good at capturing that phone number, and what about sober dating? How women can and should let him know she's open t...

Jun 20, 201941 min

Ep. 13 - What Men Truly Need

Join me as I tap into the wisdom of renowned dating coach for strong, successful women, Evan Marc Katz. What is compatibility, really? How to adjust our dating behavior and expectations in this world of rapidly evolving gender roles. Discover what men truly need from women, and how to be that woman who gets the best out of the men in your life. Why so many married couples are unhappy and how to manage your love life so that won't be you in the future.

Jun 10, 201957 min

Ep. 12 - Adventure Dating

Listen in as Mark Owen, Founder of Events and Adventures shares the value of social and athletic events as a vehicle for developing interpersonal skills and as a chance to explore common passions with like minded people. Why sleeping around and drinking too much will kill your options, how to dress up a coffee date, what "marrying up" really is, and how a guy who isn't looking for marriage ends up there...happily!

Jun 02, 201949 min

Ep. 11 - Discover Your Love Lineage To Free Your Soul

What is your love lineage? The Love Designer Renee Piane joines me to show how what we learned about love from our family of origin often blocks us from the relationship we're hoping to find; healing our own hearts through understanding and releasing historical pain. We explore the power of intuition and how sparks can ignite after decades of dormancy.

May 25, 201945 min

Ep. 10 - Dating Disasters...And Miracles Too!

Listen in as I share real life stories of dating mishaps and success from the archives of a real life matchmaker. People who got it right, who did dating well, and ... those who are messing things up royally. What can we learn from these wins and the tragic losses? How expectations and assumptions are your enemy, how texting or the absence of a text can ruin everything. How a dog can be your best flirting prop, when to let the guy pay, the valet parking dilemma, and the real truth about money in...

May 12, 201941 min

Ep. 9 - Confidence, Vulnerability, Trust & Boundaries

Join me as I explore the ways we unknowingly sabotage our romantic relationships with psychologist and best-selling author, Dr. Debra Mandel. Dr. Mandel (author of "Dump That Chump" and "Healing The Sensitive Heart") reveals the power in confidence, tenderness and vulnerability. You'll discover how the stories you share might be hurting you, and how anger chases love away. You'll learn how to know if you're rebounding or truly ready to love again, and how to determine what YOUR part is, in relat...

May 06, 201943 min

Ep. 8 - Lose The Weight, Get The Date!

Wanna know how to feel great, and handle the weight issue once and for all? Nutrition and Health Coach Liz O'Keefe is the woman who knows, because she has done it and can show you how! Join us as we share a weight loss/nutrition solution that's easy to integrate and just plain works. Losing 15 lbs can transform your responses from "meh" to "wow!" and is the magic ticket to health, love, and the life you are looking to get!

Apr 29, 201934 min

Ep. 7 - Online Dating In A 2019 World

Online Dating Guru Julie Spira jumps into the hot seat to talk getting off the hamster wheel, the paradox of online snooping, the reality of rebounds, and finding a true connection! We reveal how to manage age issues, height issues, food issues, finances, transients, and non-committals - plus photo tips, safety tips, creating a welcoming space, and much, much, more! Everything you need to succeed online - and get offline fast!

Apr 21, 201942 min

Ep. 6 - Being Your Own Matchmaker

TV Personality and Dating Specialist Damona Hoffman joins me to explore taking control of your dating destiny through initiation, finding the FUN in dating, and being your own matchmaker. Listen in as we reveal the tricks to getting offline quickly to have real world connections, how much to reveal initially, and what to hold back. Everything you need to find the dates you want and the love you seek!

Apr 14, 201952 min

Ep. 5 - How To Create Love On Purpose

Soulmate Coaches Orna and Matthew Walters join me to talk creating love on purpose, and managing communication in a modern dating culture. Ghosting. The Money Trap. The Car Door. And the power of a foot rub! Dive in as we explore the blessing of a bump in the road, appreciation and acknowledgement as fuel for our men, how to tell if he really wants a relationship - and what his showing off for you REALLY means!

Apr 07, 201946 min
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