A Journey back to YOU: Overcome burnout and creative blocks (174)

Hello, hello, my friends. It's so good to be with you today.

I hope you guys are having a beautiful morning. One of my favorite things about morning time is just waking up and feeling so much gratitude for the things that I have. I guess I just wake up in a good mood, which is nice. And if I ever don't, I quickly readjust my mindset around gratitude because I do not want to leave that bed thinking negatively about my day or dreading something that I'm going to have to do today or whatever's going on.

And so I really consciously make myself consciously be in higher vibration. But I'm wondering, have you ever felt like you are living outside of yourself? Like you're not in tune with your own emotions, with your own routines, or maybe like you're a visitor in your own life. Sometimes things just feel that way, right? Today, we're going to talk about what it's like to come back home to you, okay? Now, I get it. That sounds like this catchy phrase, and why would I even listen to this?

But if you are somebody who's feeling a disconnect, and maybe it's not all the time, but certain times of the day or when you're doing certain things in your life. You just feel like this outside person that you're doing things for other people maybe and not for yourself, not to better your own life. So it's easy to feel this disconnection. And I know a lot of people do.

But what we don't recognize is that this is an accumulation of events of significant traumas and sometimes just little letdowns that we've kept inside of us and it's become a trauma. Don't allow yourself to block out the word trauma just because it has a negative connotation. We're talking about things that felt really big when you were young.

It turns out that they're not big in the scheme of things, but it doesn't mean they didn't leave an imprint on you, especially if you're somebody that held a lot of emotions in like so many of us. I know I can speak for myself that I held in 99.9 of all of my emotions when I was a child. So as an adult, that has been a huge topic for me.

It's been a really amazing way to unfold and kind of revisit some of these circumstances and actually feel good about them at the end of the day because I've been able to release them. What we don't realize is those emotional traumas, we'll say, will lock themselves in our nervous system. It will cause us to not be able to properly process new information and new situations that otherwise should be things we can work through.

But in this circumstance may cause us to freeze up or to feel like I'm not brave enough for this or I'm not strong enough for this or I'm not worthy of this thing.

So I want the focus of today to really be on how can you release some of these past emotional traumas so that you can feel like you again. So that you can attack these problems or not be afraid of a challenge and really just tackle that in the best way you can with the emotional intelligence and the maturity to be able to work through them.

I can promise you by the end of this episode, you'll have tangible tools to encourage you to feel more grounded, aligned, and truly in sync with who you really are. So let me just introduce myself real quick. If you guys haven't been around, my name is Aubrey. I am a subconscious release technique coach. I'm also a photographer. I'm also a Reiki master and a licensed massage therapist.

I definitely have been around a few things in my life, and I am truly inspired to continue to learn and grow and teach, and that's why I have this podcast. So I hope this is a space for you, a creative entrepreneur, to be able to reach a deeper level of your understanding of your life and to feel more in line with your divine purpose, because that is always my number one goal. So what does it mean when I say come back home to yourself? I know that sounds so weird. It's like...

I've been home. But for those of you who have felt that disconnection, you absolutely know what I'm talking about. And again, it doesn't have to be all the time. Sometimes we feel disconnected or outside of ourselves when we're dealing with something big, but sometimes we feel that way when we just can't figure out if we should say yes or no to a proposition or if we should go a certain route in our business versus not.

Sometimes it just feels muddy in there and there's a lot of brain fog and there's a lot of incapability with decision making, right? So sometimes that's how you feel like you're someone else or you're a visitor in your own life. And I will say a huge reason why that happens is because of this pent up emotional trauma that we haven't released. And it can be chronic stress too, because once you get in this habit, we'll say of just holding it all in, it doesn't become a thought process anymore.

It just becomes your every day. And so you'll often find yourself in situations where you have to reevaluate that. Some people might call that a challenge, right? Or an obstacle. For me, for sure, it is an absolute opportunity to reevaluate where I'm at in my life, how I can push through this. What problems I can solve, and how I can better show up as already myself when these things come up in the future.

Because if you're running your own business or maybe you're just thinking about it, but you're also a wife and you're also a mom and you're also volunteering and all of these things, it can be really difficult to keep them all in order and to really address things with a very present and conscious mindset.

And I think that's where the hiccup comes in. So that's my biggest focus today is to walk you through how better to approach these situations by changing things in your life so that you're living in the present moment all of the time, okay? Now, I love that a lot of people find this easy, but I also know with ADHD and all the other crazy things that go on in my head that it's not that easy, okay?

It is so much easier to get distracted and so much easier to maybe hyper-focus on one thing and let something else slide, be a perfectionist in one category, and yet completely forget another, right? A lot of people would just say, well, that's just how I am. And believe me, I say the same thing because that is me in a lot of ways.

But what we're not recognizing is this is actually a dysregulated nervous system that's causing us to kind of be on edge when we shouldn't be or disconnecting the way that we do so often with certain tasks. So I want you to look at it as, okay, if that's my nervous system, how can I reset that? How can I allow myself to fall more in line with who I am. And that truly is the power of regulating your nervous system.

If you guys have been around for a while on this podcast, you know that almost all of my episodes have tips on being able to ground yourself. So I'm going to walk you through one now. The way that I like to really separate myself from the problems, from whatever's going on, is to use a different perspective. And we call this the step back perspective.

Actually, I don't know if that's like a technical term or that's just what I came up with, but basically you would imagine this problem right in front of your face. Like it really does feel right. Sometimes it feels like this is no matter where I go, this thing is right in my face and I really don't know what to decide and I don't know which direction to go in. And so in your mind's eye, just close your eyes, take a few breaths in and out and just feel super centered in the moment.

And I want you to recognize that this problem is a small little ball in front of your face. And all you need to do now is visualize yourself taking a step back, just one step back. And as you move back, you realize that this problem is actually a little bit smaller than it used to be. It's not as daunting, right? It's not as in your face.

Take another step back and notice that it's getting smaller and that you're able to have free flowing thoughts outside of this problem that you're dealing with. And just do that a couple times until you feel like you have a separation there. And I really want you to practice just breathing in that separation and say, I am not this problem. I release it and I know the answer will come to me or something like that.

That is a really good way to kind of separate yourself from something that is in your face and causing so much distress and overwhelm. Once we're in a state where we can kind of take a few breaths and not be as overwhelmed, it's really awesome to then picture yourself just walking through the grass barefoot or enjoying your favorite dance outside.

Maybe you can feel the sun on your face. Anything like that will help kind of break it up further and make you feel more in tune with who you really are by grounding yourself in nature or in the things that you love to do. So that's really a great way just to be able to say, I am separate from this. I am capable of still having a good life despite this, right?

It really leads you to a deeper understanding of who you truly are and how you are still a person outside of what you're currently dealing with. So I really highly encourage everybody to try that because it's also going to encourage reconnecting with your body after you've had the perspective switch.

You can do the walking, you can stretch, you can do some yoga, you can, like I said, dance it out, something like that where we're reconnecting with our body, feeling more like ourselves and maybe get some more endorphins going so that you're actually feeling good, right? It's almost like, and I hate to even say it because again, it has such a negative connotation, but fake it till you make it, right?

I know a lot of people don't like that term and I can see where it can be confusing sometimes, but in your own personal, emotional, intelligent side of you, it actually is a really good way to kind of move things along, okay? It can allow you to process things so much faster, right? We're not hiding it away anymore. There's a big difference. And if you're doing it correctly, you're not going to feel like you're hiding anything away.

You're going to feel like, no, I actually released this. I've actually been able to move past it. And that's why it's important to do subconscious release technique or something similar where we can actually pull those emotional. Roadblocks out of our system, out of our nervous system, out of our subconscious mind and release them and say, okay, thank you for the life lesson.

No worries. I am safe now, right? And I can move on from here without this trapped emotion or without this limited belief that I have trapped in my body. And there's just so much beauty to being able to be open to that opportunity, because then when you add in those tools, you can release things faster than you could have ever imagined, just because you've already opened up to that.

So anybody working on mindset shifts and just knowing that they want to grow personally, emotionally, intellectually in their lives are going to be able to recognize how pivotal that kind of work is because you're not just doing it for today or for now. You're actually making these changes for the rest of your life, right? You're making tangible changes that will change your perspective and transform

all parts of your emotional intelligence moving forward. It's super pivotal in that transformation process. So some of you might have heard me just ramble on with all of these stuff and all these tools, and you might be thinking, okay, how does this apply to my life?

How do I see this changing things in my life? And I will share just a quick personal story about my own transformation, what it felt like to me to come back home to myself. For years and years, actually my entire life, I felt like I was emotionally upset about something. I was sad about something. I was worried. My biggest emotional roadblock was worry. That's my default. That's where I would go. I moved around to all these different

schools, and I just always felt like I didn't belong. It didn't matter where I was going. It didn't matter how much I liked the place or how happy my family was. I was I didn't feel like I belonged. And it took me a long time to warm up to people. It took me a long time to form friendships. And I would constantly be hurt by my friendships because for whatever reason, they would upset me.

I was super sensitive, but also there was a lot that happened to me where yeah, it would be upsetting for any child. So I can see it both ways now. But I allowed that story of not belonging to become this part of me. It was like, there's no Aubrey if this story of I don't belong isn't there with it. It was literally so attached to my identity that I could no longer see that that's what the issue was.

I couldn't pick out that this was a subconscious program for me until I went through training to become an SRT coach. And I realized that that was the biggest mindset shift that I would ever experience, even going forward now. And it was going to make the biggest dents in my reality. And so let me tell you what happened when I finally released that story from my identity. I immediately started having all of these creative and inspirational ideas about how I can put myself out there in the world.

I became completely okay with sharing my insights and my ideas and my marketing like how i can help people and even with my photography business like i was okay sharing myself with other people i started a facebook group that grew pretty fast and then i launched a podcast and launched my coaching business. All because I was finally able to let go of that judgment I was putting on myself about how I don't belong anywhere.

And so when I finally did that, I had no idea who the new Aubrey was going to be. I really didn't. And it was a little scary. And I know I get that a lot from my clients where they're like, well, if I'm not that person, then who am I, right? Like that makes me really nervous. But it turns out that once you let go of that emotional tie to that identity in your life, you're absolutely a different person. And it becomes so exciting to discover this new person.

And it becomes this morning where you wake up and you say, wow, look at my life. Look at all the things I get to do. Look at all the people I get to serve. How's my day going to look today? You're excited about things. You're inspired within yourself. That's what coming home to you really feels like.

And so wherever you're at right now, if you're not feeling that inspiration, if you're not feeling that excitement to be who you are, and you're not recognizing what your purpose is, all of these things tells me that you absolutely have some emotional beliefs that you need to break through. You have some trauma that needs to be released, and you need to regulate your nervous system.

So if that aligns with what you're dealing with right now, if that resonates with you, I would love to personally support you on that journey. This is what my life's work is, is to be able to help people transform into this person that they absolutely are in love with, okay? And let's be clear, whatever's holding you back, you don't need it. You absolutely do not need to be that other version of yourself anymore. And that's where it feels sometimes like this isn't me.

I'm not comfortable. I don't like this. I want something more for myself but you don't know what it is. A lot of times it's these subconscious programs that are holding you back. We have to be able to recognize that and get help so that we can change and we can get past this phase of not feeling like yourself. Become this amazing, incredible person that you were so meant to be.

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