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Courtship Code

Join Relationship coach, author and experienced matchmaker, Zara J., every week as she delivers courtship and dating advice for ambitious, high achieving, and successful women looking to break up with past relationship trauma and low self worth, and learn how to embody feminine energy, authenticity, and court compatible men for commitment. Using a combination of spirituality, psychology, and matchmaking techniques, Zara created the Captivating Courtship Code. Resources: Www.captivatingcourtship.com Instagram: @zarajcaptivatingcourtship Like, Subscribe, leave a Review and Share!
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Episodes

Heal Your Commitment Issues S3E40

Do you have commitment issues? Do you find yourself starting and stopping projects? Never fully showing up for yourself? Betraying your values and boundaries? If you’ve been struggling with commitment in your personal life you’re likely attracting men who equally struggle with commitment. Just by shifting this aspect of your life will quickly elevate and transform the types of men you attract. This episode covers what you need to know about healing your commitment issues and why you must stop av...

Oct 26, 202025 minSeason 3Ep. 40

Ruining Courtship Focused on Red Flags S3E39

You’ve been taught to pay attention to red flags and now you’re hyper focused and overthinking every time you meet a man on high alert for any sign he’s not the one. This is emotionally draining and backfires. When you’re in the mindset of looking for flaws you’re missing all the reasons for you to say yes to your future. On this episode I’m sharing the importance of shifting this approach to courtship. JOIN THE FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Www.captivatingcourtship.com/Facebookgroup Follow @zarajcaptivat...

Oct 19, 202027 minSeason 3Ep. 39

Stop Trying to Control the Outcome S3E38

Do you try to control the outcome? One of the most common things women tell me when they decide to join coaching is that they have a hard time not trying to control the outcome of courtship or relationships. This is a major block and is wrapped up with all kinds of anxiety, control, and trust issues that either repels the right men or attracts less masculine men who will leave you feeling like you did all the work to make the relationship happen which leads to resentment on the back end. This is...

Oct 12, 202028 minSeason 3Ep. 38

The Secret Cost of Courtship S3E37

As we close out this Captivating Month I want to have a heart to heart conversation with you about the trust cost of courtship. It’s really easy to believe you’re safe and secure with the sabotage, frustration, and rejection you’ve experienced because what’s predictable feels certain. What’s scary is taking a calculated risk to decide you’re worth more than sitting on the sidelines feeling anxious, fearful, and in disbelief that you could actually enjoy courtship and find a partner that’s good f...

Sep 28, 202032 minSeason 3Ep. 37

How My Clients Transform Their Love Lives, Quickly! [Captivating Testimonial] S3E36

Want to know how my clients transform their love lives, quickly? On this episode we break everything down and share an intimate testimony from former client, Najwa, and her new marriage. Ready to enroll in Coaching? Book a FREE Captivating Session and we'll discuss exactly what steps you need to take and what coaching option works best for you. Www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply follow Zara @zarajcaptivatingcourtship

Sep 21, 202057 minSeason 3Ep. 36

Will you find love again? [Captivating Testimonial] S3E35

Whether you’ve experienced divorce, a traumatic breakup, or years of consistent rejection it can truly start to break you down and make you question if there are any men available for you or if you’ll ever find love again? Most will get stuck with this paralyzing question and find themselves courting and manifesting relationships from this mindset or fearful and untrusting due to being stuck in the past. Moving on from past heartache can be difficult. It’s hard to see the other side of the unkno...

Sep 14, 202040 minSeason 3Ep. 35

Law of Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners S3E34

It's a Captivating Month! Doors to the Captivating Courtship Code group coaching program opens. You can book a Captivating Session and learn more about coaching at Www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply . On this week's episode we speak with Brittiany who shares how coaching has quickly shifted her love life and had freed her from relationship anxiety. We also discuss the law of attracting emotionally unavailable partners and what you need to do to change this aspect of your love life to have a more...

Sep 07, 202029 minSeason 3Ep. 34

Are you really settling? S3E33

Is settling a REAL thing? When is it okay to settle and when are you simply being “realistic” about partners? This is a question so many women struggle with and something we dive into with Captivating Courtship Code coaching. So, I want to share with you all the deets on IF you should settle with relationships and how to think about your partner selection and courtship options. JOIN THE WAIT LIST www.captivatingcourtship.com/cccwaitlist

Aug 31, 202020 minSeason 3Ep. 33

You Don't Need Matchmaking S3E32

Many women believe all their problems will go away if they just meet their match BUT I can say as an experienced matchmaker why that's probably not true and why coaching may be the better option. Join the Captivating Courtship Code Facebook group for additional content and a Free Captivating Courtship Code Playbook. Follow @zarajcaptivatingcourtship Want to Join the wait list? Www.captivatingcourtship.com/cccwaitlist

Aug 24, 202031 minSeason 3Ep. 32

Let's Confront Your Insecurities S3E31

Security is a mindset that requires you to transform your beliefs and mindset around the things you feel insecure about in order to shift. Your actions are a result of the beliefs you have and what you are or aren’t doing. Your issues aren’t your ability to invest in your upgrade. Your issues aren’t that everyone else or courtship makes you feel insecure. Your issue is you’re failing to provide security for yourself...so what are you doing to give yourself more security? On this week's episode w...

Aug 17, 202025 minSeason 3Ep. 31

Are You Too Future Focused S3E31

Courtship and dating can be a fun experience that gives you the opportunity to meet and enjoy new mem while embarking on a journey to meet your future husband OR It can be an anxious, stressful, heart wrenching and tiring road that leaves you feeling emotionally drained, undervalued, and completely over it. What if I told you YOU play a major role in which of these experiences you actually have? It's true. One of the main reasons your experience is more stressed than blessed is due to you being ...

Aug 10, 202018 minSeason 3Ep. 31

Why You Feel Men Aren't Leading Courtship S3E30

Do you often feel like men aren't stepping up to pursue you and if you don't do the heavy lifting they won't ask questions, plan meetups, or move the relationship along? If so this episode breaks down the shifts you need to make to create a different experience for yourself and shift into the role of being led instead of leading. Join the free women's only Facebook Group at www.captivatingcourtship.com/Facebookgroup AND join the wait list for the next group coaching session at www.captivatingcou...

Aug 03, 202020 minSeason 3Ep. 30

Why you don't have time for Courtship S3E29

Are you too busy with work and school to have time for your relationships or courting? Do you find yourself constantly putting family or your children's needs above your own? How would it feel to finally decide your love life is worth putting first? On this episode we discuss the real reasons you believe you don't have time for love. Join the FREE Facebook group www.captivatingcourtship.com/Facebookgroup ... Join the Captivating Courtship Code group coaching wait list at www.captivatingcourtship...

Jul 27, 202017 minSeason 3Ep. 29

Being Independent ISN'T intimidating men S3E27

Are you convinced your career, intellect, education, or income is too intimidating for men these days and has pushed men away? What If I told you being an independent woman has nothing to do with your challenges with finding a compatible partner who sees and aligns with your values? What if...there were things you’re doing or NOT doing energetically that’s repelling the types of men you desire to attract, and attracting men who have qualities you want to avoid? On this week’s episode we dive int...

Jul 06, 202027 minSeason 3Ep. 27

Hard Truth About Your Relationship Sabotage S3E26

On this episode we discuss 3 things you're probably thinking right now that's sabotaging your love life and will continue keeping you stuck plus 20 things you need to gain to transform your love life and relationships right now. Doors to the 12 month group coaching program ends soon. To join, book a call at www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply or email captivatingcourtship@gmail.com OR send Zara a DM @zarajcaptivatingcourtship for more program details

Jun 29, 202045 minSeason 3Ep. 26

Are YOU Ready for a Good Man? S3E25

Are you to receive a good man? On this episode we explore this question and being deeply transparent with ourselves about our alignment with the good partners we desire and the work required to attract the good man of your dreams. Ready to join coaching? Visit www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply or contact @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram to book a call.

Jun 22, 202034 minSeason 3Ep. 25

Where to Find a Partner? S3E24

Have you been asking yourself, where do I find a good partner or relationship? If so, this episode dives into why you've been asking the WRONG question and what you need to ask yourself instead. Doors are open to the 12 month Captivating Courtship Code coaching program and closes soon. Ready to join? Visit www.captivatingcourtship.com/apply to book a call. Follow Zara @zarajcaptivatingcourtship on Instagram and join the FREE Captivating Courtship Code Facebook group for more free content www.cap...

Jun 15, 202021 minSeason 3Ep. 24

What the Wealthy Know About Courtship S3E23

Have you ever examined the REAL cost of courtship? Meaning, the impact of not making significant, long term changes in your relationships has on your overall life? You may be surprised there are things you're totally ignoring and preventing yourself from achieving simply by not knowing the impact and importance of the the things we're discussing on this episode. I'm going to share with you three things wealthy people know about courtship and relationships that you're probably underestimating. Re...

Jun 08, 202037 minSeason 3Ep. 23

Stop letting things come naturally S3E22

So your friends and family been telling you to let things come naturally, again? 🤔 While you sit and stress about your love life and possibly missing out on marriage connection, a family and deep intimacy...they're telling you to just wait and be patient? Or they'll pray for you...but no real action being put behind it? That sounds really good, but let's talk about the numbers of love...I'll call this the #50centcourtship Because letting things come naturally gives you a 50% shot of success...a...

Jun 02, 202045 minSeason 3Ep. 22

How Negative Influences Impact Courtship S3E21

Who are the negative influences on your love life and relationships? How are they impacting your dating and courtships? If you're unaware of the impact or in need of a new circle of influence this episode will breakdown why the impact of the people around you are keeping you stuck in a major way. Join the FREE Facebook Group www.captivatingcourtship.com/facebookgroup to keep the discussion going. Want to join the 12 month Captivating Courtship Code group coaching program? Go to www.captivatingco...

May 25, 202028 minSeason 3Ep. 21

Finding Love When Covid19 Ends S3E20

Are you waiting for the pandemic to end before you put yourself back into the courtship and dating world? Are you tired of online dating and feel you've done everything you can do and nothing is working? That's because you're focused on the wrong step. You're more focused on where to meet partners that you're completely ignoring how you're showing up and the thought process you currently have that's consistently attracting the same experiences. This week's episode dives deep into finding love wh...

May 18, 202023 minSeason 3Ep. 20

Relationship Anxiety and Courtship S3E19

Are you struggling with relationship anxiety during dating, courtship, and relationships? Are you aware of what relationship anxiety is? How will you manage it? If you're a woman who struggles with managing anxiety in relationships this episode is for you. We discuss how to identify if you're feeling relationship anxiety, why you have it, and what to do about it. Join the FREE Captivating Courtship Code Facebook group for women and keep the discussion going. Www.captivatingcourtship.com/facebook...

May 11, 202026 minSeason 3Ep. 19

3 Reasons You Attract Toxic Unavailable Men S3 E18

Have you ever felt like you're consistently attracting toxic, emotionally unavailable, narcissistic men? Do you feel you keep attracting the same kinds of partners and experiences, just with different faces? There are reasons why this is happening AND you can shift this and turn your love life around. We're discussing this challenge on this week's podcast so you can dive deeper into your accountability in this circumstance and why you need to this this now if you truly want a leveled up love lif...

May 04, 202014 minSeason 3Ep. 18

How to Stop Avoiding Love & Intimacy S3E17

Intimacy, courtship, and love can be extremely scary. Especially for those with a deep fear of being seen, heard, or rejected. It doesn't have to be such a major marriage and relationship challenge, you just have to learn to communicate from a place of courage and less fear. Join the FREE Facebook group for women and post your relationship questions. Www.captivatingcourtship.com/facebookgroup BOOK YOUR CALL to join the proven 6 step coaching program www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching ......fo...

Apr 27, 202016 minSeason 3Ep. 17

The Problem With Hopeless Romantics S3E16

This week we discuss the problem and challenges of being a hopeless romantic and how focus on romance over reality usually leads to major red flags in love, courtship, dating and marriage. Join the FREE Captivating Courtship Code Facebook group and apply for coaching at www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching

Apr 20, 202014 minSeason 3Ep. 16

Why High Achieving Women Have Low Standards S3E15

Today we discuss a few reasons high achieving women tend to show up low value and with low standards despite feeling confident in other areas of their life. We cover topics such as compatibility, narcissistic partners, respect, materialism and the sabotaging mindsets that keeps this pattern going. To learn more or book a coaching call visit www.captivatingcourtship.com/coaching Follow Zara J. On Instagram @zarajcaptivatingcourtship and Join the FREE Facebook group for single women, Captivating C...

Apr 14, 202016 minSeason 3Ep. 15

Myth: Men Don't Commit S3E13

Do you feel men don't commit? This episode discusses that myth and more. Join the FREE Facebook group for women only, Captivating Courtship Code and post a discussion comment to keep the conversation going. Learn more about coaching at www.captivatingcourtship.com

Mar 23, 202031 minSeason 3Ep. 13

Wounded Sexual Passion Pattern S3E11

Continuing the conversation about wounded Passion Patterns, this bonus episode shares the 4th common wounded passion patterns. Passion Pattern Profiles are the signature 8 different patterns Zara J. Has uncovered over the years of matchmaking and relationship coaching that leads to single sabotage and staying in a single cycle for years and year. FREE MASTERCLASS How Successful Spiritual Women Break Their Single Cycle registration is open NOW link the the Facebook Group. Join the FREE Facebook G...

Mar 16, 202018 minSeason 3Ep. 11
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