This is a guest episode where I was interviewed by Derrick Hamilton on his podcast, Unfiltered. I've met with more than a few people recently who seem unhappy in their relationships and can't seem to understand why they can't fix things. There's all kinds of reasons we haven't fixed the relationship yet, and in some cases, we don't even know why we stay...we just do. See my original article that prompted this interview at https://kevinbergen.com/what-keeps-us-going-back/
May 15, 2025•26 min
Hear Kevin interviewed by one of his former students, and grad student in psychology training to be a therapist. She asks him all about communication: Is business communication different from personal communication? Can communication be broken down into components so you can learn it and get better at it? Why would you want to understand someone you don't agree with? When Kevin talks about dysfunction, what does he mean about a relationship not being a relationship? Sepi and Erin host their podc...
Sep 04, 2022•48 min
How would you like it if your partner listened to you? What if you had the power to feel heard? Listen to learn about this little-known tool that, once you master it, will help you to never feel ignored or shut out again.
Feb 15, 2021•18 min•Season 4Ep. 2
I've seen so many men who grew up believing that they have to push through life doing everything on their own so they end up feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, and living a life they never expected. Improvement takes courage. It requires decision making. Commit to Courageous Decsions now!
Feb 04, 2021•4 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Lookin' to make some changes? Then order this book now! Personality Isn't Permanent is a new release from Benjamin P. Hardy, and in this episode I tell why you need it. Order it here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/607021/personality-isnt-permanent-by-benjamin-hardy-phd/ Or get the first chapter here: https://benjaminhardy88-gmail-com.ck.page/cfb71d6ac8
Jun 19, 2020•16 min•Season 2Ep. 4
What if we infected everyone . . . with a better outlook? . . . with kindness and hope and optimism? This blog post by Scott Barker struck me deeply, so I'm sharing with you here. See Scott's blog at www.bakadesuyo.com/
May 06, 2020•27 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Kevin’s Instagram account: @kb_photoart • Some who are down want to wallow in their misery. Not much you can do for them. But for you, if you want to improve how you feel, here’s a proven approach that works.
Mar 25, 2020•17 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Here’s how I have stayed calm during the scare of the virus who must not be named.
Mar 18, 2020•16 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Your self image is based on these two theories: we believe ANY message that we hear enough times, and once we are adults, those messages have to come from inside.
Apr 21, 2018•15 min
This method came to me when a client had intrusive thoughts that were negative and upsetting. It has since helped many people from their worries or cravings.
Feb 28, 2018•13 min
Kevin hasn't created a podcast episode for a few weeks. This one is a sampling of some posts he's recorded recently.
Feb 25, 2018•14 min
Ron McKinnon is the mandolin master who provided the bumper music by Bach in my last piece, The Written Word.
Feb 25, 2018•1 min
[CbyK] Curation by Kevin • Get the weekly email by visiting realkev.in/cbyk8021
Feb 24, 2018•6 min
Author, Wilson Rawls, gave this speech in the early '70s. Sit back and listen to one of the most enjoyable speeches you'll ever hear. • Jim Trelease's Intro • Grammar Remarks to Teachers • Growing Up With Sisters • Wading the River to School • A Country Boy's First Books • "Call of the Wild" • A Writer Awakens • The Great Depression Dawns • Begging for Help and Food • Finally—A Job! • Writing and Roaming • A Wife (and editor) • Burning Manuscripts • Quit Working and Start Writing • Keep Writing ...
Feb 23, 2018•1 hr 22 min
Kevin gets a book about poetry for Christmas, and it started THIS whole commentary and dialogue with Paul O’Mahony in Cork, Ireland——I want to share my thrill! • I want YOU to feel this, too! • Paul Requests Permission • You have Carte Blanche! • Poetry is an Awkward Thing (Paul) • A blessing from Paul • When Paul Heard My Poetry Sequence • An Irishman's Response About Poetry • An Irishman's Response About Poetry (2) • Poetry wrap up
Jan 15, 2018•34 min
How often have you said you can’t when in reality you’re simply unwilling? Join Kevin in this discussion about achievement, perseverance, and giving up. Can’t or Won’t? • Ray on Can’t/Won’t • Applying “can’t” to the self versus others • Ray on Impossibility • YES! If you CAN’T, then practice • When “can’t” does and doesn’t apply • Ray on "Best They Can" • Ray on Short Sightedness • Ray on Perseverance • Wrapping up Can’t/Won’t
Jan 05, 2018•15 min
Kevin wants to make sure it’s understood this is not a rant. He says it’s a commentary. It’s simply how he feels about cussing in public, in private, and on air. Then Jenafer Elan chimes in with her wisdom and experience. Kevin on swearing • I don’t effing like expletives • Jenafer on Cursing
Jan 02, 2018•6 min
Kevin reflects on New Year’s and goalsetting. He takes to the street and asks random people whether they make resolutions or set goals anymore. NYs: A time to reflect? • NYs man on the street • More man on the street • Still more man on the street • Last man on the street • Planet Call & Kudos • Man on the street wrap up
Jan 02, 2018•25 min
Kevin explains why gratitude is so important. Originally aired on Thanksgiving Day 2017 • Link here: realkev.in/cbyk7113
Nov 27, 2017•6 min
There’re two kinds of people: those who see their birthday as a number and those who see it as a day to celebrate.
Nov 21, 2017•5 min
Kevin offers guidance to someone in a relationship crisis • Lulu’s feedback • Kevin’s Response
Oct 15, 2017•6 min
“I love you, lady!” • THE EXCHANGE • Could you? Would you? • Debbie, your thoughts? • Debbie's Thoughts • Happening TO us • Debbie's Story • From Debbie to Ray • Ray’s Thoughts • Make a Difference
Oct 14, 2017•22 min
Kevin uses an email he received to illustrate the wonderful impact we have on others, often without knowing it.
Oct 09, 2017•5 min
First things to attend to when your primary relationship hits a bump (or crashes!).
Oct 09, 2017•6 min
Kevin shares an example of WHY we need to speak up. (hint: it’s for ourselves)
Oct 04, 2017•4 min
Anchor personality Kevin Touch interviews Kevin Bergen about broadcasting, his book, his help with couples, and something listeners don’t know about him.
Oct 02, 2017•20 min
If I embrace a mistake . . . • Made ya laugh!! • Andy Proctor & Automaticity
Sep 30, 2017•6 min
Kevin fields a question: it’s more about the resulting connection than the tension.
Sep 27, 2017•15 min
Kevin reads an essay by Shira Lichtman about weakness, fear, overcoming, and growth.
Sep 23, 2017•11 min
Kevin tackles grief and loss, and he shows us how to meet it in a positive way—a way that’s much more pleasant.
Sep 20, 2017•7 min
