I am sure you tried many ways, read tons of books, and listened to podcasts and videos on how to love yourself, how to see your worth, and how, at the same time, to heal yourself. Or, perhaps, you stumbled here by accident (or by choice) and want to learn how to overcome the never-ending spiral of self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and self-punishment. No matter where you are on your journey, one of the most loving and caring things you can do for yourself is to have the courage to look within. I k...
Sep 12, 2022•27 min•Ep. 139
Previously, I mentioned to you that I created a free self-coaching worksheet as a way to teach you how to develop this life-altering skill, and I am also providing you with nine questions to coach yourself. Click HERE to get the worksheet. In today's episode, I want to talk more on this topic since coaching has exponentially transformed my life, and I have seen many people who created significant changes by utilizing this skill. Learning how to coach yourself leads to inner exploration, self-awa...
Aug 10, 2021•19 min•Ep. 137
One of the most common patterns I observed during my growth and the growth of my friends and my clients is that once we start healing and growing, we are overly harsh on ourselves. We believe we shouldn't be feeling the way we feel, we shouldn't be acting in old ways, and we should be better than we are. As I always say, growth is an imperfect process, and occasional emotional relapse or stagnation is part of it. We work on ourselves because we want to be better and because we want to upgrade th...
Aug 03, 2021•22 min•Ep. 136
One of the most common struggles people share with me is the fear of healing or growing. At first, it may sound counterintuitive since we all want to be happy, positive, and peaceful since that's what growing and healing provide. However, if we bottled up too much for too long, looking at the truth of who we are or the truth of our situation terrifies us. Although the fear of healing and growth is natural, we can't let it stop us from the transformation we need to go through. In the end, it's th...
Jul 27, 2021•20 min•Ep. 135
Perfectionism is a desire not to be seen for who we are but to hide and pretend that we are someone we are not. Perfectionism is based on fear. Often, we strive for it since we don't want to fail or be seen who we are - with our failures, shortcomings, weaknesses AKA imperfections. The most common fear is the fear of failure. But there is also fear of rejection, unworthiness or not being good enough for others because of our flaws. Perfectionism doesn't let us take a risk because we fear failure...
Jul 13, 2021•22 min•Ep. 134
For many of us, it's uncomfortable to admit that we are "playing around," not doing the work we know we have to do while being stuck at the same place in life. Once we admit that we are the ones standing in our way, what's left? There isn't anyone to blame or point fingers at, and we are challenged to take responsibility. So if you feel that you are struggling right now, that the same situations keep repeating, the same people keep showing up, the same drama keeps happening, and the same chaos i...
Jul 06, 2021•19 min•Ep. 133
When we choose to lie to ourselves and stay in denial, it's because we don't want to see the truth about ourselves or others. These lies give us instant gratification, take away responsibility, allow blame while at the same time, we are betraying ourselves. We do that because the truth seems to be too much to handle. But without being 100% honest with yourself, you can't grow. Growth is confronting, uncomfortable, self-responsibility-driven, and at times intimidating. But growth is also liberati...
Jun 29, 2021•24 min•Ep. 132
There is so much wisdom, teaching, and opportunities in pain or hardships we are going through. But since we are such emotional beings often driven by what we feel, we overlook the lesson and look for the nearest exit or instant gratification instead. Then we wonder why some of the lessons keep repeating themselves over and over. In todays' episode, I will share with you a 4-step process on how to find the opportunity in hardships, recognize them and use them to support your growth and emotional...
Jun 22, 2021•23 min•Ep. 131
Hello, my beautiful soul. When we blame, we give our power to someone or something else, and our emotional and mental state depends on external circumstances. But when we choose to take responsibility for our life, it's like saying, "I am in charge, and I am taking my power back." There are two types of self-responsibility. One is what I call "artificial responsibility and then there is what I call "true responsibility." I will explain the difference between both. Last but not least, I will shar...
Jun 15, 2021•19 min•Ep. 130
People who experience traumas, fight the feeling of abandonment, struggle to see their worth or their value will often settle for less without recognizing it. You may find yourself in toxic relationships, constantly wrapped up in the drama, tolerating things you don't feel comfortable with, or taking abuse while never questioning it since it feels like home. But when someone who has healed or have grown up in a loving home point it out for you, you begin to realize that not everything you are al...
Jun 01, 2021•21 min•Ep. 129
In the previous episode, I talked about what emotional armor is and the reasons many of us carry this guard to protect ourselves from hurt, pain, or disappointment. But as we already learned, emotional armor is a product of our fear - fear to get hurt or fear to feel pain. We develop this coping mechanism since we haven't healed certain parts of ourselves, haven't overcome our traumas, or haven't felt through emotions we need to heal. Since the last week, we talked about the definition and reaso...
May 25, 2021•20 min•Ep. 128
In today's episode, I want to talk to all of my tough cookies, who are carrying this illusionary shield, or as I call it, the "emotional guard" for protection. We guard up because we got hurt. Since we don't want to feel this way again, we armor up, hoping it will protect us from experiencing this pain again. Do you know what I found out, my friend? This guard is nothing but an illusion, and it's based on fear. It took me a long time to understand that guarding myself is a waste of my time and e...
May 18, 2021•18 min•Ep. 127
Well, hello there, my beautiful soul. In today's episode, I will teach you how to build emotional resilience but before I dive deeper, let me give you a simple definition of what it means. Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to stressful situations and cope with life's ups and downs. Resilience does not eliminate stress or erases life's difficulties but allows you to tackle or accept problems and live through adversity. Resilience is also about accepting what is, letting go of resistanc...
May 11, 2021•17 min•Ep. 126
Any transformation or growth requires one essential skill, and that's self-awareness. Self-awareness is the willingness to see and acknowledge who you are, with all your imperfections, toxic traits, wounds, strengths, and weaknesses. Being aware is about being responsible for your life, thoughts, emotions, and actions. To me, my friend, that's power. Many of us fear acknowledging the truth about who we are. We are afraid that we won't like it, or we feel worse about ourselves. But the truth is t...
Apr 27, 2021•17 min•Ep. 125
One of the most common questions or concerns people share with me is how to properly deal with what we call the "hard stuff." Since our desire to feel good, to feel happy and excited about life is strong, our desire to stop feeling sad, depressed, or betrayed is even greater. But when we push those uncomfortable emotions away and try to drink away, binge away, or work away from our pain, what we are doing is pushing this pain even deeper into our subconscious. The goal of healing and developing ...
Apr 20, 2021•22 min•Ep. 124
For many of us, the idea of "How do I love myself?" is a million-dollar question. I will answer it in today's episode since there has been a lot I learned in these past months. Look at self-love as a skill you want to learn and develop. Like any skill, it takes a little bit of time and practice to get it "right" or become more familiar with it. For me, self-love requires three things - awareness, strength, and action. You become aware of your triggers and what makes you question or hustle for yo...
Apr 06, 2021•19 min•Ep. 123
Have you ever left a relationship, a job, or a situation and couldn't understand why you stayed in it for so long even though it wasn't good for you? You may be asked yourself "Why did I tolerate it?" As human beings, we are flexible. We adapt, we blend in, we change and we adjust to whatever situation we are in if we are in it long enough. And whatever seemed once unacceptable, becomes insignificant because we get used to it. The question is "Do we tolerate certain things because they move us f...
Mar 30, 2021•19 min•Ep. 122
How often do you find yourself in constant doubt when it comes to your decisions? You are going back and forth between multiple options, then consult your problems with numerous people, gather seven different opinions while feeling even more confused and unsure than at the beginning. So often, people come to me and ask me; "What should I do? What is the best thing I can do?" And I always tell them that they already know the answer. The problem isn't in not knowing what you need or want to do but...
Mar 16, 2021•18 min•Ep. 121
Developing a support system for yourself is one of the fundamental ways on how to work towards transformation and overcome personal challenges. When we talk about the support system, we often refer to our family or friends, our therapist, coach, or a mentor. Although the support of your environment is essential for effective growth, what can you do, personally, to support yourself? Your support system is a set of rules, tools, or personal commitments and boundaries you develop with yourself. Bei...
Mar 09, 2021•17 min•Ep. 120
Many of us worry a lot. We worry about our families, friends, our future, our jobs. But think about this: "How many things we worry about never actually happen?" Since we all know the true answer to this question, it's imperative to learn the skill of emotional management by being aware of our thoughts and working with them. Handling challenges isn't about surviving them but also about managing the amount of stress we feel in the process. In today's podcast episode, I will teach you how to bette...
Mar 02, 2021•16 min•Ep. 119
No matter how much personal development you do, addressing new things in your life will always challenge you. Changing yourself, your old patterns, your behavior, your toxic traits or your limiting beliefs takes courage and true dedication to your growth. In today's episode, I want to share with you what are the two most common challenges we face when it comes to changing our lives. Although you may think that addressing difficult things about yourself is a challenge, the real challenge is prete...
Feb 23, 2021•19 min•Ep. 118
Well, hello my beautiful soul. Let me ask you a question: "In your day to day life, do you choose more love or more pain?" We can argue that often, we don't choose pain or at least think we don't. So let me explain. Last week, I put a quote on my Instagram that says: "Self-Forgiveness is loving yourself more than the pain you feel." But do we choose self-forgiveness as a way of choosing love, or do we get stuck in self-blame and self-shaming and never feeling good enough? Since many of us tackle...
Feb 16, 2021•15 min•Ep. 117
Well, hello there! Since it's about to go down in a few days and my very first course "The Ultimate Self-Forgiveness" is launching on February 14th, in today's podcast episode, I want to talk to you about the four stages of self-forgiveness. Also, I want you to think of the stage you are currently in. Since people often ask me what it means to manifest your dream life through healing, here is how I began to understand it. When we heal and learn the art of self-forgiveness, we practice self-love ...
Feb 09, 2021•15 min•Ep. 116
The number one reason why we live or choose to stay in denial is FEAR. Although fear in this instance can have many forms, in the end, it's all about the willingness to face the truth. The truth about the situation we are in, the truth about ourselves, the truth about our healing or unresolved pain from the past. You know, my friend, the thing with denial is that no matter how hard we try to look away and not face the hard stuff, deep down we know we are lying to ourselves or refusing to look at...
Feb 02, 2021•19 min•Ep. 115
I was talking with my good friend, and we were brainstorming what has been the biggest game-changer when it comes to embracing self-love. We both agreed it has been the shadow work as well as addressing and accepting things we don't like about ourselves. Shadow work isn't about changing things you don't like but about accepting them as they are - that's the challenge. Here are some questions I want you to consider: 1. Is there anyone in this world who is perfect and doesn't make mistakes or have...
Jan 26, 2021•18 min•Ep. 114
"How can we love ourselves and others without condition, prejudice, judgment, expectations, and criticism?" It is one of the biggest questions that I have been thinking about lately. Often our love is based on conditions, not only towards others but also towards ourselves. We think, "If you do X, Y, Z, then I will love you and approve of you." But what if the person we expect something from doesn't do what we want? Do they deserve to be loved less? My client and I decided to take on an accountab...
Jan 19, 2021•17 min•Ep. 113
In today's episode, we will talk about experiencing discomfort on purpose. That is a certain level of pain we consciously choose to go through in order to grow faster, understand more, and level up our spiritual journey. Discomfort in and of itself often isn't something we desire or feel excited about unless there is a bigger goal associated with it. So if your goal is to experience discomfort on purpose for the sake of higher-good or reaching your most important goals, you can still prepare for...
Jan 12, 2021•19 min•Ep. 112
Since I want us to start this new year strong, today we are going to address the subtle inner voice inside of you. Does this voice support you and empower you or is it shaming you and keeps you small? I see so many people posting on social media about 2021 being a year without toxic relationships and non-supportive family and friends. But my question to you is; "What if we are the ones who are toxic and non-supportive of ourselves?" This is not a judgmental statement - this is an awareness momen...
Jan 05, 2021•17 min•Ep. 111
Today, I will share with you three principles I decided to keep real with myself in the new year and invite you to apply some of them (or all of them) to your life too. Before we dive into the topic, I want you to join me (during this podcast episode) to deeply reflect on one single thing you feel utterly grateful for when it comes to 2020. We all can agree that 2020 got a pretty bad reputation. How about we take all the lessons and benefits and focus on those instead? Therefore, we are going to...
Dec 29, 2020•19 min•Ep. 110
Since our focus is often on what we need to become or what habits we need to develop in order to achieve our goals, in today's podcast episode we are going to talk about everything we need to unbecome to find the path back to ourselves and slay 2021 like a true manifesting boss. In today's podcast episode, there are two most important questions I want you to think about: "Why aren't we all those things we want to be?" "Why have we become many things we don't want to be and how to unbecome these ...
Dec 22, 2020•17 min•Ep. 109
