This week I discuss why we often cling to the “headline” we’ve written for our marriage—even if it doesn’t increase our happiness—and how we can write a more useful one.
Aug 15, 2019•13 min•Ep. 18
Parents apply simple labels like “good guys” and “bad guys”—terms that young minds can understand—to protect their children. A surprising number of us, unfortunately, carry these labels into marriage and waste time and energy trying to decide if we have a “good” spouse or a “bad” spouse.
Aug 08, 2019•9 min•Ep. 17
All marriages have struggles! Guests Diana and Dan Swillinger share how they’ve worked to overcome some of the challenges encountered in theirs.
Aug 02, 2019•33 min•Ep. 16
You’ve been married long enough to draw firm conclusions about your spouse. These convictions make logical sense and seem to be confirmed over and over by your marriage experience. Today I discuss why we should be very skeptical of our conclusions.
Jul 26, 2019•11 min•Ep. 15
This week I draw attention to a behavior that many of us exhibit, which, left unchecked, has the power to make us feel that we’re victims and our spouses are villains.
Jul 18, 2019•11 min•Ep. 14
Whenever I work with a client who has been cheated on by their spouse, the question I’m always asked is “How can I ever trust him/her again?” This week I demystify the nature of trust to help empower you to move your marriage forward in the way YOU want.
Jul 05, 2019•10 min•Ep. 12
This week I share tips to help all the soon-to-be-marrieds hit the ground running with healthy and happy marriages!
Jun 28, 2019•12 min•Ep. 11
If our thoughts are filled with “shoulds,” we make decisions from fear. This week I talk about how you can take back the authority to make decisions on your terms.
Jun 20, 2019•10 min•Ep. 10
Today I discuss a healthy step-by-step approach to navigating the difficult and sometimes long-lasting disagreements that can spring up in marriage—and how you can come out closer as a couple on the other side!
Jun 13, 2019•13 min•Ep. 9
Resentment feels terrible. And if we’re not careful, resentment can color our feelings toward our spouse and harm our marriage. Today I’ll talk about the source of resentment and how you can take steps to get it out of your life.
Jun 06, 2019•10 min•Ep. 8
Do we view our roles in our marriage as decisions we make or as responsibilities thrust upon us? Today I’ll share a few ideas on how you and your spouse can navigate ever-changing roles and draw closer together!
May 30, 2019•21 min•Ep. 7
Each of us decides whether sex leads to intimacy in our marriage or to disconnection and resentment. Today I'll share some simple ideas on how to choose intimacy.
May 23, 2019•16 min•Ep. 6
Our brains are biologically wired to desire human connection and pleasure. Today I’ll share some insights to keep in mind if you are faced with the decision of whether or not to seek connection outside your marriage.
May 16, 2019•19 min•Ep. 5
The circumstances of our marriage (or our life) determine our experience with it, right? Today we'll talk about the real problem behind our "real" problems.
May 09, 2019•21 min•Ep. 4
Should the goal of a "good" marriage be to always understand each other? Does this lead to harmony and help us avoid disappointment?
May 02, 2019•16 min•Ep. 3
How do you view your married-life past? Our attitude toward the past profoundly impacts our future!
Apr 25, 2019•9 min•Ep. 2
So excited to begin the Couples Coaching journey with you! In this episode I'll take a brief look at some of the differences between couples counseling and couples coaching and will introduce you to my husband—the person I get to practice all these powerful tools with!
Apr 16, 2019•16 min•Ep. 1
