Hi, I'm Amy Shepherd. I'm lachland Stewart. And although we have different last names, we're married. Now we've been told the secret to a successful marriage is communication. So we're going to talk it out every week. Share our challenges, and pet peeves. Then we're setting each other. Some goals, some couple goals, couple goals. The podcast is for those who might be looking to life their way through challenging scenarios that all couples.
Go through occasionally. We might even get some other couples to join in. Yeah, you'd like that. Hit, subscribe and tune in. Every week to hear our weekly couple goals. You take it off. It's our big 21st you guys to anyone. It is exciting as the first time now. I do. Remember my 21st birthday. Where was my invite? I didn't know you then. Okay, you missed out on a great party. It was a Candy Land Theme. I was this. We had the stripper. No. No, I can't believe my Tardis fault.
I was around for you, twenty fourth and fifth. Oh, So it must have been my 22nd. I would you have a strip that you 23rd? This is young and dumb. It was m is 19. So yeah, my 22nd and we just like had a party for girls and we just thought it was funny to surprise the girls. We like, it's just party only. Yeah. And it was actually, it was it. Yeah. What was it? 20 strongest through the experience so we just had like a girl spotted me.
Like, no, you can't bring your Friends girls only so it was like a friends and my friends and then it said there's a big surprise for you so don't want to miss it. Was it a big surprise? Very small surprise really mr. Chow. Yeah he was like just gross because he he was just like the last River left because we left it to the last minute. I just had the idea.
I like I see he's available and then poor guy please now we know that girls love Getting strippers, it was just funny, like hilarious and he didn't really like show anything. Yeah. And he was like I'll show my willy willy for another. Like what happened was all the girls? Like okay it's time for the surprise. Everyone come into the living
room. Yeah. Like I'm gonna okay. Everyone sit down and he was he snuck him in so he was already like in one of the rooms in the house in a studio was now a studio? Oh my God. That put any police outfit. Did you wake up with it? So emerton know. And it's, it's like everyone's it down and a turns off the lights. And I play the music and it's like, what song do you like sirens?
Because like, oh my God, I knew what was happening in still in Italy and then like he comes out and Emma was like on lights or whatever and then he comes out and he's like, dude, in here, little cap gun. Let's do a little dance and then like ripped off his pants for like velcro pants. Into this like, g-string and a hat. You know, you like that. Would you like a party boy off jackass? You have pretty much. No, it was just so funny. Like everyone was dying of
laughter. So I think it was more fun doing it younger than like at your hands because by then your video you did. You do it at your hands? No I can't. No no I went to Pink Flamingo which is a like a cabaret Club on the yeah I'm like okay it seems like acrobats and kind of like the Moulin Rouge. Do you see boobies? It's a comedy and stuff is
really fun. Fun, I think in the late night show you do. So there's two shows is like the earlier one, which is a rude comedy, and we're dancing and stuff, and then they, The Late Night show is more like Cabaret or which is like topless dancing. And anyway, because I was the hand, of course they called me up and did like a Magic Mike section.
Yeah. And it was, it's just very funny like it's not really it's very tongue-in-cheek and not sexy, that's it is sexy but it's not like Yeah, it's just a bit of a laugh. Anyway so that was my stripper. Experience at age 22. And now we go into the. Have you been have you been to a stripper at since I'm finding out I get to ask you live on air and find out things that I didn't know. They're my two stripper experiences. Hmm. I've never been a fan of strippers.
Yeah, I think it's different and it's a man I do well because it's not like for comedy when boys do it. It's like gross. Sometimes, like, depending on what you're saying, there's some stuff that I've seen that I think is just hilarious. There's a lot that I might this is a revolting but I've never seen a stripper for the sake of been like this is sexual I sexual oh yeah.
I feel it's always just like We didn't have them at our box party, but then when I watch them at a mate's, like, I was, there's like five of us in the kitchen. So, do I watching but not watching because you feel uncomfortable and it's not like you know and it just feels really disrespectful to. Yeah. Well it's it's like that someone that could be your sister and not once I think we had spoke about this last week. Was that man doing, you know what I mean?
No, I don't like, but it's still someone. I'm not but then it's someone's career and it's like you can Aunt. I know there's so many ways to judge it and I think, yeah. But for me personally, I'd rather just get you to shake your toes around the bedroom. Is an option the echo where the castles little pasty other tests the tassels right here. They actually go pasties really. Yeah that's all of a sudden not attractive.
Pasties tassels is so much more attractive than its that pasty-faced is like it's finally the mechanical ones. Actually, like I said, Bob They do, I'll do the tassels tassels at your boobs. And we just gave me the for those who are watching on YouTube, maybe just gave me daggers. When I said, they'll droop, meaning the tassels, not your boobs. But that's like laughs that's gravity. Y'all can't fight it and your balls will droop to the Head.
ER, that's right. Where jocks one of the boys got the snip today or like last week and It's nothing. No, he said is not to like the size of apples and is like, it's supposed to do the cross. It's George is I'm supposed to do George, did it is, I'm supposed to do the crossword open today, but my nuts just heard. I might just wear a super-tight jocks? No, no, he didn't hate him. Anyway, no, but you can get an
infection pretty easily. So maybe he should just not trained for a little bit, or check the not effective, because I'm sure the doctor told him every, yeah, he's fast. Been told I think it's a thing. Don't you worry about the things? You don't need to worry about. That's true. Not my balls, your balls.
Fuck breakup songs. Yes. But actually, let's just quickly, I'm going to give a summary because I know every week we jump on a talk about all the cool shit you've been doing well traveling's and you've been traveling. Let's talk about because I want to get into the present. I got you which I've just had a piece of you ruined it. You got into the present.
So I'm going to present. Okay well Long story short, I've just come back in Tasmania, and I bought this at the airport, and I was like, oh, I'm gonna get lucky and really nice. Those old, like the Tasmanian gifts and stuff, my, I get lucky tonight. You come back as a little Tasmanian Devil. Certainly not, I'll get lucky and nice block of Tasmanian chocolate because they just looked really good. And then my, so this one is handmade conviction. Ray as manian, chocolates,
macadamia. Via and salted can we skip to the part where you give it to me? It's caramel, milk, chocolate and handcrafted in Tasmania. Got to the checkout. I was expecting it to be like six bucks. Yeah, eight. Maybe eight or even like 15? Yeah, it's $21. What did you pay for it? On our joint card? Yes. Yeah. So that's not a gift then and that's why we're sharing it. It's not a gift. Whatever, I give you stuff, I pay for it of my own card. This is why you can't be the
best. This is why you don't have joint bank accounts ladies and gentlemen, because even when you think you're getting a gift, you're paying for the bloody gift. Let me just check to describe the. I think there's two things in life is probably more but off the top of my head that you don't really need to understand the process of how it works or comes to be and you just enjoy the outcome. One Transportation. Are you car? I don't care how it I can operate.
I like playing. Yeah we're fine. This is long as it gets me from A to B safely. The second one is chocolate. Okay, how it's made, sometimes it tastes good. It's good. That tastes very sugary though. It might impact my sleep. It has like little toffee bits. Okay, that's better.
What do you write that out of 10, 10 being like, the most amazing thing you could ever put on your tongue and it's light and one being like putting charcoal, it's not doing me, any more enjoyment than a block of Cadbury? No, I think Cadbury wins. Sorry, Tasmania, you represent you you ripped us off. I include myself in that breakup songs. Okay. It's been a Hot Topic with the boys because I had a story of I went for a beer with your brother, George did I talk about
this on the podcast? I sweet. No, I do 70 podcast episode. I can't remember who I've spoken to about what anyway. And what did George say? No, I had to, I was like, boys, I've learned embarrassing story because we're in the, in Jimmy's, in the mall, as it Jimmy's in. Whatever. The one in the mall is in Queen Street. Yeah. And we'll having a point and were a couple of pints in and the conversation was just like
flowing. Mmm, and somehow this song somehow, I obviously came on through via the radio. And obviously when you hear a song but most songs they are linked to something. There's a good story behind it and I piped up and as I boys doing here something that I haven't shared with many people at all and it was really like left of curveball for the conversation but I felt like it was had enough beards to have the courage and the song came on in the song was JoJo, too little too late.
He quickly singing. It's just Anyway, so I was over in the UK. I was on a rugby tour and I was 15 and day 2 or day. Two or three is very early in my trip. What you do that come out, I don't know. Anyway, did I say 2015? Geez, I'm old 2005. So, Jesus. X 4's 2005 I am was on the rugby tour. 2006, so 2006, I was I was
15 and Yeah, I got dumped. I found out my missus at the time was cheating on me. Cheated on me and that song came on. So I had a Nokia phone, you know, the slide up phone is like a slit up. Yeah, it was that one so you could have like five songs on it and obviously when I'd gone over I had to change. Yeah. I'd had like that song and a couple more clicks I do. Isn't it crazy how quickly?
Technology changed? Well, maybe you used to get the first iPod or even like a USB Like MP3 player, you'd plug it into your computer and you, it was 100 megabytes or whatever. You could get four or five songs on it. And remember, when the iPod the first iPod color came out, it was like one gigabyte. You could have maybe 100 songs and you were like, oh my God, this is gnarly. I've now got all the Blink-182 and Sum 41. That was a game-changer. Yeah, practiced.
Now, we've got unlimited, like, you don't even need That anymore but that was my Breakup Song JoJo didn't even write that song. What's her name is actually ruthann? Google it, let me go. It's not Okay, JoJo didn't write that song but it came out. I wasn't it. I still like that we go there to play after that actually in the pub. Hmm she's still writing now. How do you find when it comes out in 2006? So it must have been the year. That's probably why I was listening to it.
Great. You were 16? No, you 5050. Yes. I was 16. My little heart was vulnerable. I gave it away and it got fucking Rippling lasting Joe. Yeah, I literally like in the UK and we'll being billeted it out. So I was me and Hugh or me and whoever at random people's places and went up when you know we'd go to bed after foot or whatever. I just lay in my bed at look at a photo and play the JoJo song on repeat, my phone's recording. Are we going to do that piece out?
I can do it through here. I thought that maybe you'd play a little bit of too, little too late, so people who haven't heard it. Jonah. Yeah, mess it up. Was meant to use this friend. That's right. So I've got two phones and this is supposed to be my recording fan. What? Displayed in the microphone? Yeah, I don't know how much you can play before. Spotify says, I'm ripping it off. Don't miss is bringing back memories. He gonna cry? You don't like me.
You just like the chase. Everyone's a, the UK. And it was a sad time. My life anyway, breakup songs. What's yours? I hope you got dumped off course. Good hasn't been. I feel better. Um, yeah, I got dumped by my boyfriend, who's now a gorgeous game, man, but my heart broke. I didn't know he was gay. He just broke up with me and I was like, but I love you. Did you love him? I thought I did. It's cute. Okay. What song I'm just like looking through 2008 hits of 2006 going to be in here.
I know like one that was going around around that time was like how am I supposed to bun? The what was that Mio and Jordans pot. Yeah joints that was a bang. I was that oh well that was 60 16 years ago the ground floor and you give it a quick little play Forever. That's gonna jot some memory. That is a. Is that 16 years ago? I don't know what date, but we're so old. Yeah. Oh my goodness. My cousin. You wanted one, you little whore bag who's gay?
Then uh yeah I thought you were just wanting a dickhead fucking hell. Well, be careful how you word things so you don't we my There was like, why doesn't he love me? And now I know you didn't have a dick. Oh, well anyway, come off that it now. But yeah, that was probably one of the saddest songs. Yeah, it's good chain. We should actually do a whole episode gone through likes songs from 2005 and just share a story around what it meant to us. Yeah. That'd be a good idea.
It's actually a good little even like segment. Cool, don't steal that anyone treat. You heard it here first, but stay tuned. And we do, I know we did promise our guests but they had to postpone due to work commitments, which is fine. And then this week we couldn't do it because they Ms away as usual, just left here by myself. But anyway, we're moving house. So this is probably our second last episode in the home, studio crazy. And we still haven't worked out
what we're doing. Nash like, we'll probably just rent a ransom. We're in limbo. I think we did mention this last week. Yeah, well, in limbo. I'm back in with the mum Mary couple mum, which is great. Yes, but we are calling everything. It's really hard to kind of get rid of because, when moving from, how many bedrooms 45 lat down to one bedroom, which I think's really quite. They're not a bedroom apartment as in one bedroom in the whole house. Yeah.
Which is very cool. I think we have a lot of stuff that we don't necessarily need. Yeah, I know it's hard but we don't need to do this. It's hard to. Me because we I feel like I've built I felt this how home you know know we've got this like Amy built our wedding. No I've it's just like we've made a home here I know but stuff like an alpha are chosen hand-selected. We're going to do that again. Synchronize this house and next house is going to be a home you know.
This is apartment. Yeah I don't believe you can make a home in an apartment. I do. We made one. Here is very is is like Whoo. Anyway here we are. So what's some fun stuff you found? While moving the best thing I found. This is a cool message to receive this one that's going through the drawers like you know, the front. We've got drawers at the front where you put your keys on the sideboard. It's draws that I was going through it.
I was like I cannot believe the shit that in these drawers. Like literally, yeah, ten years ago just old photos old random one of keys at you. I've no idea what? It's from receipts from driving. This bus trip is in 2000. Whatever JoJo CD is. Yeah. All sorts of stuff right in the back of the cupboard. I found an envelope that's like, what is this? Because it was like that envelope and it's probably mine and it was full of cash, was it? Mine hard, cold cash, baby.
But people don't even use cash now it's like well I'm fine to have it. No, it's You deposit it into the bank accounts in my handbag. What would you do? If I said to you? Yeah. If I said to you could use it, what would you buy? Honestly? It probably just go to groceries away that but not the price of bananas are to. I tell you, I'll give you a bit on it for free but the price and the price of eggs. Yeah, no seriously. It's ridiculous fucking fucked. The cost of living.
I don't want to be that guy. So I'm not going to be but you know where that conversation can be. Everyone's feeling the squeeze right now. It's just like what the hell? I can't even go to Wally's without spending a hundred bucks. Hmm. Even if I just want like three things because you buy 20 dollar box of chocolate. Well I never expected it to be $20 so why didn't you put it
back? Because I like there's someone behind me and I was at the checkout I see it was an embarrassment or you just wanted to follow through. Yeah I was just like Couldn't it be like, no, it sucks. Even enjoy this. All right, I'll enjoy it. Yeah, so anyway, you know what, though? Aldi bit out is always an option. It's a great option to spend more time at Aldi because the food's great prices better and I saw that they have, you know, the only thing about healthy that's annoying is for us.
Anyway, it's a little bit more out of the way than woolies. Yeah, but the another annoying things, Check out like it's really anxiety-inducing for me. The inspired unemployed video where they're just peg in stuff and it's pretty much exactly what it's like. Yeah, that's hard for me. But that have to almost train them to be that fast at the checkout. Chef Time is money, time is money, you know, they don't even play music and LD because I
don't want to pay for these. So maybe I should be standing up against Aldean. But cheap produce. Well yeah, music, yeah, music, he can get free of Napster all Spotify or Spotify. Yeah. Anyways serious. Serious topic where we want to keep these short and sharp, 20 minutes, we're going to go over a little bit but you had a serious question that you came across on Reddit. This is Amy's. Amy spent her time at night on, read it.
As we all know. I love it because I don't really I don't know like what it really scroll. Tick-tocking Instagram constantly. I think you do and I think I've spread it because, yeah, for me, like Instagram Tick, Tock, small, like work-related for me. Yeah, looking to maybe something that inspires me or whatever.
But with read it, I will scroll for hours and it's really engaging and interesting for me because Pete, there's people just like throwing out their ideas asking questions, there's interesting Videos videos that will blow your mind. Like let me blow your mind. What about that chick? Who got eaten by an alligator? That was Tick-Tock that was it take to tell anyone else say that it was a lady in elderly lady. Was it like Miami or summer
somewhere? I don't know where it was, but it was in America. It was a fucking Merica Miami have fun. And yeah, an old lady was walking her little dog by the river bank and an alligator can go to. But, you know, it's obviously stopped before that, but it was like, I'm sure you could find it on like, live leak or something. It was the 911 call. Oh, yeah. And it's, we don't need to go into that. But anyway, there's some wild
stuff on that, and Amy finds. And I literally Amy sends me so many reels every day, which is funny because they're funny, but I'm just just like, how did you end up here in the internet? What were you doing to get here? But I love reading because it's more educational and it's not just a dumb fuck. What's the most educated thing? You've learnt a guy on Reddit? Yeah, well the question I'm about to ask, let's do it.
Okay. All right so how the question I came across and it was on the Oscar ask women subreddit. Yeah. So a woman asked her fellow women. How do you know if a man is emotionally Unintelligent. Is that what the question? How do you know when your guy let me ask him? How do you know when your guy is not mentally and emotionally mature? Sure. Good question, could you ask that back it to the blows? How do you know, when your lady is not mentally and emotionally
mature? You could because there's Savage goes out there that I'm just like, come on. Well, what was somewhat of a something? Women are more in tune with their emotions, of course, because you allowed to yeah, historically been more. What would you say? I'd love to hear. What does that question? I'd love to hear what the lady said. First Could you do a blind spots? I'd say, like mentally and emotionally matured is a, taking responsibility, all use me as an
example. Because you've been with me, when I haven't been mentally and emotionally mature, and I'm still not there, but I'm a little bit more mentally and emotionally immature. So, what, would be some things? It reacts badly to hearing know, instead of calmly accepting it like an adult guilty. What else? Someone said I dated a guy briefly, who threw like a toddler tantrum. When I turned him down for six, which we had often. So it's not like I was
withholding. You'll see have a look at in the same way again, in the relationship ended pretty quickly after that. Another person said, when he never admits he's wrong, also a lack of emotional regulation. So yeah, Tantrums, it's a regulation would say, awareness. And then people are just kind of telling the stories which is really interesting. What would you say? Someone said, Bachelor syndrome what's Bachelor syndrome, maybe that's next week's topic, Bachelor syndrome.
Never heard of that. Is that the same little, like I'm guessing it's when men are just so used to being single that they don't change their so set in their ways. You know, and then when they get a girlfriend it's like they're still acting like a little kid. Mmm, it's funny how the Dynamics work though because like yeah, this person says like not having a like having a couch you found on the side of the road or card table. Collapsible chairs for dining
set guilty guilty. That's what I had. We would have had at our wedding if I was in charge. Yeah. Yeah, I'd agree with all that. I think 100%, there's some definitely some key points on some. Someone said he thinks periods a tick and throws a tantrum if you send them out up to pick up, tampons. I come on. That is just ridiculous. What do you mean like Tyrion sent out to get tampons now chilly, but there it is. Yeah, I know, I don't really care.
I think it's just really like, yeah, I think that's it. When I told my ex I was on my period he would recoil and fake gag like yeah. Like, what are you gonna do? Honestly, what are you gonna do anyway? Yeah, it's an interesting topic. Yeah, I would agree with all that. I'm sure. There's so many examples that the ladies, listen to this could share about their Partners. I'm sure I'm guilty of all of them that you just mentioned that. I think. I think you're more aware
though. I'm definitely aware of being aware of it and denying that you've done. Yeah, I still do. I still have Tantrums because sometimes is well-liked. No matter how everyone has moments of weakness, if you like ice right now. We're both very tired. And when you've got nothing left to give, and someone saw something doesn't go the way you want it to go. It's upsetting.
Mmm, and you might have it, you know, if it's like the other day when I was doing that, flipping work had spent four hours building. A course, is the day you left. I think or the day before you left and all I'd like, I went and spent five minutes outside just complaining. To you. And I was a hopefully only gives me sympathy because I was so upset. I was pissed off. Yeah. And then I is that what you asked?
We were looking for? Well, no, because I knew I should have been a little bitch, but by default I went out and had a little complaint for a second. And then I was like, fuck, what would Brad Brad would tell me to fucking get on with it? It's not going to help me get what I want. I know but as you just said, with emotional intelligence, you got to Feel the feels you can't just deny that you're pissed off.
Yeah it's no. No but you're allowed to be pissed off at. Yeah, I think there's a difference between being pissed off and looking for sympathy. Yeah. Like I didn't have to go out and beasts like upset around you about it can vent to me. Yeah. But I don't think I need to let it ruin my interactions with you because at the end of the day I think it's good. If you can just you can complain about you vent and then yeah you don't let it ruin your day.
No, I think so that's why you're emotionally intelligent. Yeah, so if you want to get emotionally intelligent, call 1-800 lucky awesome and again. Yeah, well yeah. Well do that? Let's move on from that. Let's hit pet peeves because I would love to eat this chocolate. Yes, I really want to eat the chocolate yummy that poop. That's the same horn as last week. So my pet peeve happened.
A moment ago, I went to the airport, picked you up and Amy oh, Opens the door and just stands there, like a deer in the headlights. Just like what? No, I said I gave you a kiss. Put the bags in the car. Yeah. Which okay so you made progress to getting in the car and you stop at the door and you continue texting. You flip a tax on, might use those. I've got a million things going on. I know you tell the story and then yes, thank you because You open the door and just chop it
up like you can text in the car. Your phone's not going to die when you get in the car. But right now I can't drive off. We aren't getting closer to dinner because you're just standing there like a deer in the headlights, doing your messages and the second thing I'm going to tonight the second was we haven't seen each other for a couple of days. You get in the car, you sit your bum down. And you just keep texting. I know I am talking to you as well, right? You make me sound like, I'm just
like, well, pretty much. I was like here. What are you? How was your day and responses? Like, three minutes later in a man. I'm like, mate, I know. So I said a new rule, we made a new rule, we did the new rule is that whoever of us has been away the first five minutes, not 10, just five, put our phone down and we catch up. Yeah, which is fair, and it's fair and no more zombie walking around the car. That's still go my pickle. You pack up?
Carry them in rebuttal. I can we want to hear about a we want to hear from you. Let's make this interactive. Do you guys want to hear Amy's rebuttal know? Is that someone who's calling in? No, we don't want to hear excuses that. Okay, thank you. People want my digital okay? Now. Oh my goodness.
Are you saying I'm not busy. You know I decide when you land that's when you just get reception right and then you getting your bags off and then finally people like Amy I don't think I can you do this can you do that? Can you this interview are you free in 15 minutes so it's just like what about your husband? Yeah am I not worth the frame 15 minutes you are and that's why I agreed to this. Okay. Carry On pet peeve. Couple goal. All right.
Okay so my pet peeve for the week is So what a to do that moving, but sort of not because we've had this going on what's going weeks and weeks and weeks and weeks weeks weeks our car, but a better, but I think this has been my puppies before wouldn't have been any way. We drive this little Beetle and it's broken down in our garage. Downstairs in the basement where it belongs Under 12 feet of concrete. Yeah, and it's run out of battery.
And it's, you know, the battery for a while or yeah. Yeah. And before you don't need it, we sell it actually. It was oh my gosh. Has it really been a year? I can't remember. Now would have been when we got back from Nashville. Yeah, that was in July. Oh my God, that's so bad. This is he I'm going to come on. Yeah, I blame this on the counter for putting those E Scooters around because now I don't need the car. I just use it as a scooter.
Anyway, we'll all right. We'll fix it up this week. Sell the car because obviously we don't use it. No Sono. Clearly, we don't. So we need to if you want to buy a beetle 2007, we love it. It's so Impractical. No, it's a great City Car. It hasn't even done a hundred thousand K because if it did it would blow away all rights. So I agree it's a great Car, special price for anyone listening but we don't use a okay. Well that's a goal. Will get that may be audible anyway.
Thank you. It's your I didn't even get to say what the goal is. Lucky said he was going to call racq and he said it to me all for a year. Well, here's the problem. The insurance. My name. So you need to give me the details because I can call up and go hi. It's Amy Shepherd. Now, it's my cup of. What's your member? What your member number? No rebuttals lucky. Okay, we'll just might send me the details if you don't mind. Your couple goals is to fix them
blooming car. You could actually order it from the app right now. All right. Well, that's another episode of couple goals coming at you with 22 to make any promises. Because now I'm just saying we won't because they're booked in next Thursday. So you'll be hearing from us again. Anyway, thank you for tuning in. Hurry guys. Who