Welcome back to Couple Goals. We're here again. Episode 1818 season 218. Jeez, this year has just flown by. Honestly can't believe that it's nearly the end of November there's. Literally six weeks left until Christmas or five, five and a bit. Let's go between that. What did you ask Santa for this? Year, you don't want to know, but I was on the nice list, so it's looking good for me. What'd you get? What'd? You ask for, I asked for a Gucci bag.
A Gucci bag. I. Asked for a Gucci bag of all the things in the world. Champagne new golden goose shoes. Do you think I'm on the naughty list or the nice? You haven't been that nice. Let's just say that. That's a lot of niceness going out there. Do you think you've been nice enough for all of that? You know what I think I'm getting for Christmas? Sweet FA. Sweet four call. Now we're not doing presents. We're. Flying. We'll be on. We'll be in transit. Oh my.
Gosh, I am. So you'll probably get a nice aeroplane meal. Yay. Maybe they'll give you a dessert because it's Christmas. Who knows? It's taking all of my strength not to purchase anything at the Black Friday sales. Like I keep getting these emails. How long has Black Friday been a thing for? I think a while, but it's more, it was more an American thing, but with the rise of social media. It's yeah, we've adopted it because I've never done one.
And then when it popped up the other day, I was, I'm sure I've got no, actually someone asked Emma if they could have the program that she's doing. And I was like, I've got like heaps of programs from back in the day for running programs, hybrid program or strength and conditioning, but it's now called hybrid because it's cool and strength programs. And I was like, I'm just going to whip together a Black Friday sale. Awesome. But then I started thinking, how long has it been around for?
And. I feel like it's just getting bigger and bigger. Yeah, the some of the discounts are insane, Yeah. I think they're bigger than the Boxing Day sales. Now. Remember Boxing Day sales? Yeah, and but it makes you realize how much of A charge up businesses put on their products. I know, but I think also they have to to survive. Yeah. Especially if you've got a shop front. Like how are you going to pay your staff members?
Are you going to pay the wages? I don't know, I feel like some of the multipliers are pretty, pretty juicy. That's true too. I mean, we live in. Yeah. Crazy side. Inflated economies, but that's all good. We just went for a walk as well. We were trying to get some inspiration for today's episode. Look. It's been a bit of AI, wouldn't say lazy week, but an uneventful week for us. We've just been sort of laying low. It was such a rainy day yesterday, so Emma and I cleaned up our wardrobes.
Stay tuned because we might do a sale. Black Friday sale. Many clothes, but they're also good clothes that we just like don't want to throw away. I mean, we'll definitely donate some, but there's there's some I feel like could be go to a new home. And so we're going through the process of sorting all of that. It's almost too much hassle to sell them though. That's the problem. That's why it's easier to just
give it away. Yeah, I actually have a bunch of clothes that I've intended on selling because they're designer clothes. Yeah. And then I ended up just giving them away because I was like, I just can't. Yeah, give them away. Donate. Donate. Get them out of our room though. My auntie also has a vintage shop. Shout out to Sassy Sue's. It's in Kalgoorlie and so. Maybe you should sell them to her well. We just give them to her. She's our auntie, so. Yeah, but if she's profiting,
you should profit enough. Kidding, but questions. You've, you've got some questions there for us to go through. Yeah, we thought we'd do a little quick fire. Quick. Rapid fire. Rapid fire. Yeah. Questionnaire. We are. For those who are watching on Patreon as well, you'll see that I'm diligently holding a little microphone. So we say this every week. Obviously we're all sharing a house together at the moment. And it's not like our forever house meeting.
We're not we're not going to move things around and set things up permanently. So we're constantly fighting for space. And at the moment I'm sitting on Amy's, probably sitting on George's laptop because he was making music last night. So rather than continuing, because one of my biggest pet peeves is setting up the podcast stuff, it's it's, it's quite frustrating. So ideal one day to have our own studio like. We did it in Kangaroo Point. Was well, but like a property.
Set up, there's always like a backdrop and we can just sit. Just makes it easy. Like flick a switch and off we go. Yeah. So I just thought rather than setting that up, we'll use a lapel mic. We tested it. It sounded great. It's. A powerful little guy. It is a powerful and look, we should probably how it how it how it handles it. That's right. And we should buy. I should buy another one, and I probably will at some point, but for the moment it's picking up both of our voices.
Like Friday sales grab 1 mid one just. One just throwing money out the door, but no. So we were on a show also called Couple Goals. Not going to say that they stole our name, stole our name, but well, they were established in 2024. We were established in 2022. So we'll let you guys decide who was first. Logic wins.
But we thought this week we would ask each other some questions that will help us get to know each other a little bit more, but also help you guys get to know us a little bit more. I'm hoping they're not all serious. Are they all serious? I haven't read them. OK, Amy hasn't read them, so there's no prep. This is straight off the cup. All right, So are. We going to take. Turns. Yeah, we're going to go. You go, I go.
OK, All right, let's go. What is a defining moment in your life that shaped who you are today, and how does it influence the way you approach our relationship? Wow. Also, should we turn our caps backwards so people can see our lovely faces? Just thought that. So a a defining. Let me have a look a defining moment. What's a defining moment in your life that shapes who you are today, and how does it influence the way you approach our relationship? A defining moment.
I've got so many defined by so many. I think starting a business, especially in men's health, because it came off the back of me needing to sort my shit out. And as a result of that, now I get to work with other people going through different things, which constantly reminds me of what I've got to lose if I don't maintain the standards that I've built or the habits that I've built. So I think that's a defining moment, how it's helped me in
the relationship. I see so many people going through divorces and, or even just relationship breakdown and how it just destroys them. And so for me, it's made me and I'm not perfect, but I try to not take you for granted regularly. Oh. Thanks. Really. Peace. OK. We're not going to ask each other the same questions either. So what's something you've always wanted me to understand about you, but you've never been able to put into words?
It's a weird question. That's a deep I feel like you understand. Me pretty well. You're quite an emotionally intelligent person. I don't think you understand my innate desire to have to buy a piece of clothing every week. Where does that come from? What do you feel the need to do? That but I do feel the need why to buy it. What are you trying to validate? I just what hole are you trying? To I mean ladies, I'm sure you can all corroborate this with with me.
Does that make sense? Corroborate. Or would it be corroborate? Anyway, or sympathise with me because you just get, I think it's just like the marketing you get targeted so many ads, social media and just to wear something new is like. The best? Feeling but you feel like hot and like. But do you not feel hot if you wear old clothes? I do, but not as hot, not as it's not a thrill. I don't know what it is. Interesting. Oh, it's always just you feel so good when you wear something
new. I don't know what it is. It's just like a fresh look. You feel in style, you don't feel tired. It's funny because when hearing you say that, I like to literally wear my stuff until it's got holes in it. I was literally saying to Amy the other day, like most of my pairs of jocks have holes somewhere in them. And I've got a new, new set of seven coming, which is exciting. But even like this I can understand like when you put a new shirt on.
But for me, it's like if I always needed to wear new clothes at one, I'd spend a lot of money, but I wouldn't get the use out of what I've purchased. And so therefore I just wear all the It's a. Good way to be and I'm trying. Very well. I'm doing well and there's
always something to buy. You know, that's what I had to tell myself when I want to go buy peace because I'm like, you know, you get caught up in the the good deals, but I just think, you know what, come Boxing Day, there's going to be something else to buy. Well, I can appreciate it like if it makes you feel good, but there's got to be like a fine line between needing it and just, you know, treating yourself every now and then sort of thing.
Because I've I've, well, it's. Just like Mexico, it's like this innate desire to buy a new wardrobe, like all new pieces to take. Because I know that's what the other girls are going to do, that's what they're doing. But who? So I don't want to be. The only one in old clothes. Who actually cares? Do do you notice that the girls will sit around at drinks and go Oh my God, Amy 2021 No, do do girls do that or. No, but it's just like, Oh yeah, I've seen that.
It's not exciting. I've never had a. Do they say new and all the girls compliment on it? I'm sure that'll compliment you anyway, do they not? Probably. I'm sure they do. And I know like everyone who's got a really good friends and they don't. Care. And I feel like I compliment you daily, whether you're nude or you're in your pajamas or you're in your workout gear. I don't. Know you guys, let me know what you think about that and also like it's just the society and
that we've been bought. Consumerism. Consumerism and I am aware of it but I can't help it. So what are your tips to not buying new things? Actually I saw a really cool thing on Instagram where these girls got together and they had a Secret Santa but they bought each other something that was pre loved. I like that. So they all went to like op shops and bought something like cool glasses or that was pretty cool. Yeah, I think about it a lot.
I just think we've everyone focuses so much on stuff that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of it. Like I've lost two friends this week and I think like knowing like in a in a week's time, people are going to have moved on. So like when people stress about their outfits or their whatever, who gives a shit?
Like for me, it's like, I think people's career matters because most people are like, for example, for you and Shepherd is like, your music will live on longer than you guys will. But it also impacts people's lives. And I think I would like to think my work does. So I feel like that is a meaningful commitment. But then when people stress about what food they're going to eat or how they look or how they want to be seen, for me it's
like it doesn't really matter. Yeah, it doesn't really matter. It's not. It's small. People, people literally have anxiety. And I feel like a. Depression because of it. I actually don't care as much as a lot of people do. Like there would be a lot of people who would probably do full hair and makeup for an episode like this and I just don't give a shit because I know that my listeners are here, not for how I look. And you're already married.
So I do think that I'm well balanced in that sense, but I, I, I'm just like any other girl. I can't fight the. Urgent you got the emotions. Yeah, and they know how to, you know, I feel like it's like a casino. They know how to tap into your emotions and make you buy and make you want to buy. There's a great book called The Psychology of Persuasion. Read it. Anyone who's interested. Read it and you just read it and you're like, that's happening to me right now.
What do we got? OK, if you could relive one day from our time together, which day would it be and why does it stand out to you? That's a great question. That's a really good question. I would love to say our wedding day, like that's obviously the obvious choice and most of those days around that because it was just like stress free. I didn't think about work, You weren't thinking about work. It was just purely all. My loved ones around.
Yeah, I think like you could relive any of those days. But if I was going to choose something different, I would. I liked when we went to Europe together, like in 2019 and we caught up with like Izzy and that's not one day, but I feel like that was, I think that was one of our first. Like we'd been on holidays together, but we're always with people. So that was like our first holiday where it was just you and I and we got to catch up with some of your friends, some of my friends.
Like that whole time was just gnarly. I really like that. And I saw you snowboarding which which was one for the memory that was one for. The memory I knocked my old nogget and lucky I'm still alive. I know. Yeah, I was. Don't want to hit your head too hard there. What's a moment in our relationship where you felt most loved and understood, and what
made it special? Probably just like surviving those early days when we were Shepherd were touring a lot and we were going through a long distance relationship and I thought for sure that we were going to break up because I just didn't know how I would hold down a relationship with my crazy schedule. And you understood, and you stuck around. Wild. I think, yeah. You can expand on it if you want. No, I think that's does that answer the question. Definitely did, for sure.
Well, we'll let the audience decide. You can, Yeah. And. I feel like it was amazing how you started a business so you could join me more. You know what I mean? I just never felt more understood than that, like somebody wanted to change their lives and change their whole career so that you could, yeah, be a part of my life. Yeah, wild strawberries, you got me #3. What's a personal goal you're currently working on that you've never shared with me? Wow you got all the good ones.
Well it's probably always finances like I hate. I would love to just have money as no issue again. Like I feel like moving, moving overseas has taken that away from me in a sense. So I think in like. Like, we're OK, we still have a roof of our heads, enough to eat, enough to pay rent, but it's like we used to have excess cash, you know, just disposable. Yeah, like if if we needed a weekend away or whatever, we it's like you don't think about it, whereas now we have to think about it.
And I find really hard is like my role. I like the idea of it being able to provide and not have you stress about that, But because we're in a weird position where it's like, I don't want to work too much here in Australia because I know we're about to leave again in five weeks. So it's really hard to sort of set your roots. And then also, yeah, it's a bit murky.
So there's like uncertainty around that is is probably the goal that I'm working on solving that I don't necessarily, you probably already know, but I don't need to talk about a lot. All right, If you could describe your ideal vision of us 10 years from now, what does it look like? Oh, I 10 years from now so. 2034. I'd like to think we'd probably finally. We're going to be, we're going to be 43.
Oh, it's so scary. OK, we'll definitely have some kitties by then, I hope, and then we'll hopefully own. OK. Ideally own a couple of properties, like maybe one or two like one on the coast. We already own one We. Already own one in Toowoomba. So there's two, let's say 1A base in the US, whether that's a shared with the part of the siblings. And I think that'd be awesome if we could still travel around the
world. I don't think we're going to have a conventional life where, you know, our kids are going to go to regular school. I feel like they might have to be home schooled, but hopefully by then we're selling big. We're playing to big crowds in around the world, not just Australia. I think we're going to by then build up our US audience. And so we definitely. Live. Maybe even European. Oh yeah, you just announced that you're a Pinto.
We'll hit on that at the end. Yeah, very excited for that. But yeah, just plug that quickly in case we do forget my turn #4 What's one thing? Hold on, did I ask that? Yeah, no, I asked that. Sorry. It's your turn, sorry #4. #4 What's a quirk or habit of mine that you've grown to love, even if it annoyed you at first, it. Didn't annoy me but I think I mentioned this on last week's just when you do your random stupid dances.
You were literally doing one in the mirror before when you put your tights on a new cap on and you were doing some fucking weird dance. And it's so funny. But also you're just like in the beginning I was like, is she all there? Like oh, we've no kidding. Sorry to try. And make you laugh. But there you go. No, she did it before. I'll try and film some for you guys and we'll put them up because they're always happening.
Must be my turn. Yeah. What's one thing you've learned about yourself through being on this being in this relationship that surprised you? I think you definitely push me outside the boundaries. You know, if I'm thinking about doing, for example, thinking about doing a country song, you will push me to like fully dive into the country music industry, like podcasts, for example.
It was just like a little idea that we were talking about, but you actually like put it into action because I think a lot of times in my life, things can get in the way. I get very busy. And so to actually implement actionable steps can be difficult for me sometimes. So I think that you definitely push me to be better in that respect. I'll take that. You guys heard it here. AM I asking you?
Yeah, you're on. If you had to sum up what I bring to your life in one sentence, what would you say? Happiness. That's one word, but that's it. That's so cute. This will be the last question. We don't need to go to six H. OK, I want to hear your pet peeve or your Reddit story. If you could go back to the first year of our relationship, what advice would you give us as a couple? Now this is cool.
And just for context for anyone who's listening to this for the first time or doesn't really know, Amy and I, within the first year Amy was travelling the world. I was living in a town called Twomba, so we had a lot of distance. So. Our or whatever Amy's about to say might be a little bit different to what you would say to her. I guess. So. I don't want to say normal relationship, but like one where there's not a lot of travel involved.
I don't know. I think it's kind of one of those situations where you like if you changed anything, we'd have a different relationship and it might not be a good one. So I don't know if I would change anything. I would just say, if I could go back, I'd just say it's all going to work out. Don't stress the small stuff.
So I think, you know, like every relationship in the beginning, we definitely had our little fights and moments, but you need those to like learn about each other and learn boundaries. Right. Yeah, yeah. And no one's perfect, all right? Time for the Reddit story. If you have questions for next week, if you like that, wow, we have a crack next week, drop us some questions. I do enjoy doing that. Yeah, it's interesting to think, but let's go to your Reddit. OK, my Reddit story.
My best friend kissed my husband. It's destroying me. How do I proceed? I have been with my husband for six years, married for four years, and we have two kids. Everything in our relationship is perfect for us. He's the best husband and father to our kids that I could have asked for. I'm absolutely in love with him and his actions and words have always shown me that he feels the same way. There's no better feeling than going to sleep in his arms every
night. Last weekend my husband and I had some friends over and we were having a BBQ. We were all outside in the backyard, surrounding my backyard, surrounding my husband who was on the grill. As the food got closer to being ready to eat, we all started started sitting at our backyard table. Once the food was already at the table, my husband went inside to use the washroom and get another case of beer. I didn't realize that my best friend had followed him when he
was coming back out. My best friend hid behind the wall separating our kitchen and living room and surprised him by pulling him and forcing a kiss. My husband immediately pushed her back and yelled what the fuck. She immediately started crying and ran out of the house and left. My husband came back into the yard and asked to speak to me privately and immediately told me what had just happened. I was shocked and told him that would it be OK that we talked about it after everyone had
left. I managed to put in an appearance for the next couple of hours, but I was mentally distraught. After everyone left, my husband sat me down and told me what happened and showed me the footage from our living room camera. It was exactly as my husband had described it. Wow. My best friend of 10 years, the person who I treated as my literal sister, forcibly kissed my husband after the third date with my husband. After the third date with my husband, she was the one I told
I was going to marry him. She knows how much I love him and how strong our relationship is, and she still chose to come into the middle of it. For F's sake. Our three-year old calls her auntie, my best friend tried showing up the next day just to talk and my husband had to hold me back from beating the shit out of her and he kicked her out and told her not to come back. It's been almost a week now.
I'm nowhere close on moving on. I don't blame my husband, he's completely innocent in this and if anything he's the victim. I've been lying down on my husband's chest and just crying every night. I'm so angry and frustrated I don't know what to do. My husband has been amazing like always. He just gets it, understands I'm feeling but with flowers, blah blah blah blah. Well, firstly, when she's like, it's almost like he is the victim. If you flip that around and a
bloke did that to a female. It's. Would be a very very different. It's like. A story. Sexual assault it is. Yeah. So. But my question is like, was he giving her signals and then she just decided to act on those signals? You want to be given some pretty strong signals. I don't know, like I'm not Privy to that information, but that's pretty random for someone just to go out of the blue and kiss someone like that. Yeah, but she might have been drunk. She might have been building
this story up in her head and. Then she just don't. Get. That in the road chair, but anyway. I don't know, like if he had been flirting with her, it would have been very easy for him to roll with that. Like very easy. But knowing there was a camera there, maybe he was like fuck, I need to go with the story. But you're OK. So think about it like this. An instant response, if you had been flirting with someone wouldn't be to push them away.
And if his instant response as shown on camera was to push her away, I feel like he would have been just as shocked. Would you hear what the girl, the friend has to say or would you just cut? Her off for sure. Well, yeah, I'm for sure if like you'd probably have a few questions, but it doesn't change the fact that what she did. Was wrong. Yeah, you wouldn't be. I wouldn't be maintaining that friendship. She'd be gone. Either way, she gone.
She gone, she gone Hussey. All right, ladies and gentlemen, thank you for tuning in again this week. Remember, head over to our Instagram, ask us a few questions and share some of the reels and snippets. It helps the show grow. And what do we got coming up? We got a interesting week. I've got a very deload week so I've got 8 weeks until I run around America which is not that far away getting. Nervous or you excited?
I'm excited like I feel very yesterday I ran 40 kilometers super comfortably like feel great today. So I just want to start to get it going now. It's like 8 weeks is just like got to remain injury free and record as many podcast episodes before we go, Yeah. But it feed you something. Huh. Yeah, let's go get a pizza. All right, thanks everybody.
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