Hi, I'm Amy Shepherd. I'm looking through it and although we have different last names, we're married. Now we've been told the secret to a successful marriage is communication. So we're going to talk it out every week. Share our challenges, and pet peeves. Then we're setting each other. Some goals, some couple goals, couple goals. The podcast is for those who might be looking to life their way through challenging scenarios that all couples.
Go through occasionally. We might even get some other couples to join in. Yeah, you'd like that. Hit, subscribe and tune in. Every week to hear our weekly couple goals. Episode 20. The big 200? No, I don't remember my 20th birthday. How old are you? 21. Yeah, nice. Well, we're trying a new podcast set up again. So for those who have been with us since day one all those days ago. Yeah. All those days ago we've been here for a long time pretty much veterans which only half a year right?
Technically. Yeah well it's still here. It's time flies but obviously you know we had a few episodes without video. Then we had somewhere to camera angles were just on point and then we're doing a lot of reals. Life's been very busy for us in this. Hasn't the content side of it hasn't been a priority and engagement somebody. We've just spoken about it breakfast what we're going to commit to something that is actually manageable regardless of how busy we get.
So we can connect with you guys more and have a bit of a laugh. Always always. Yes. But we're filming this so you can be watching this on YouTube which would be easy. But a quick win from the week actually, before we go. To the quick win for the week. I was setting up the tripod to put the camera on and aim is like, where's my headset? I said, I'll get it for you and then I thought, no delegation key. Let's get Amy to learn how to plug it because it would have
taken us a little bit longer. Anyway, I pointed to wear the headset was the, the spare headset that Amy users, she went down and got it and we've just done our clap intro. So we know we can sync up the audio and I've looked over. And her headset is not plugged in, you said get the headset, you can say, plug it in, I know. But that's what I'm learning. Communication is key and a step-by-step process on how to correct really do. That is going to come in handy
for you. So and I don't want to do it wrong because, you know, does it every time. But okay, so I'm number one naturally. Yes, actually, and number two is you okay so 2 into underneath? Yes, boom, boom. There you go. Sort of that. We've got it. Sort of finesse time, anyway. So Up his last week. Obviously, mine was not to leave my hairs in the sink and have I done, we haven't shaved. I know. You turn very well. Do you want to avoid a problem?
No. Yeah. If you want to avoid a problem, avoid the task that causes it. So I haven't shaved. If you look at me, I'm a little bit rough where and I'm gray and I am going. Very gray. Yeah. Well, that's what happens. I'm sitting on video calls with 3000 that into the book birthday boy in the house. Yeah, birthday week. Yeah, it's like he's birthday week. He's turning 30. 20, my goodness, what's it? Like your 3221 sliced? Some I'm 32 honestly I love my third.
TS. I feel like it's getting better and better. Yeah, honestly, I really really love Bank in my 30s because he's still young enough to like do fun shit. We have no kid. It's funny but it's also like we've got some money now or establish. We've got each other and things are good. We were just coming back from the butcher because we're having a date night tonight.
We can probably talk about that shortly little date night and there was this old couple did you notice something, you know, when I brought it up I was like, it's quite nice when you actually see all the couples being Public. Yes, that joint. This this lady was nestling into
this dude's. She wanted a kiss on the forehead and I was like, it makes me so happy when you see all the couples expressing love to each other because you don't see very often normally buy them where bitter and resentful and fucking despise each other. It's like not kissing your forehead again after so horrible. But that's, that's the way. I'm glad you got a good outlook on our relations. No, I don't want to be like that, but That's why when I see people I saw that couple there
today I was like, that's cool. It's still possible. Yeah, some people got it. Keeping the romance alive, the spice. The forehead kisses, has been like a sausage roll. He was carrying the grocery bags and she sees this stuff in a sausage, in his mouth. Normally the other way around this, but that brings me just quickly before we talk about your pet peeves. Sorry, you How I did with your bloody makeup is our Loop. Swoop is a, it's coming through. You can see it a little bit of
sound. Yeah yeah. Coming through the Bluetooth talk Valentine's Day. Let's talk Valentine's Day. So I'm just going to mute this but according to work so whoop sir, Sports tracking device or it just tracks General anyway. You can look it up, Google it but I wear one might actually broke. I'm disappointed, but whoop posted the other day after Valentine's Day. T statistic so you can track
literally everything. So you can start piecing together, what has a positive impact on your life on the right track from a health? Yeah, I don't care as long as I've got the data anyway. I like there's some things that I like to track, just let Amy know and the sexiest day of the
year Valentine's day. Turns out Valentine's Day is good for your heart and your recovery from expressing gratitude to sexual activity today is full of behaviors that can possibly Positively impact your HIV, which is heart rate, variability. I'm not going to talk about that, not the place. But anyway, so the well I've never seen you so excited about Valentine's Day looking but data
Dolly, no, here we go 66%. My flowers got lost in of members recorded more sex than average 66 percent yeah sorry I 66% increase of sex on that day so we need more days like Valentine's Day because It's obviously it's marketed as the day of love. You know why people got a date night. Yeah you go on a date night girls, get flowers or whatever you're just girls. Yes. But we did say I did say no flowers. This yeah.
So to pay for. Yeah. And I listen to you, I'm a, I'm a be Tiant, it's nice to see flowers on the like random occasions. And it's nicer received sex randomly multiple times a week. However, flowers because we're kind of in between moving house. I was just like, no fast. Yeah, yeah, we went on a date night which was nice. We went to the Emporium Hotel. Tell ya. Had a bit of a steak with a City View that was quite nice. It's lovely. In a cocktail and Vino Vino Vino, how important a date
nights for you very important. Well, I think it's nice to do something other than like because otherwise we work by you'd work pretty late. And then we just it's just breaking routine, isn't just be like, what do you like about it? What do you enjoy most about our date nights? Besides spending extra time with you. I like one that was not the response. I was looking for like everyone can. Yeah, that's like paired with it but for you, it's like yeah.
You only want to date night for that about what for you from our relationship point of view. This, this podcast is about relationships. Not why I think when were on a date night, we're just like more engaged in conversation with each other. Whereas out, when we're at home, it's probably like we're watching TV or, I don't know. Mmm, it's just like, it's lovely. We love being home. But no, it's just special. What do you like out of a daytime? I think. I like the fact that it's yeah.
Generally won't have our phones out. Yeah. It's like dedicated time us. Yeah, and you can do it at home. It's just, there's nice to not have to cook. Yes, clean. All that crap. Yeah, so, every night every night, I agree followed by the 66%, increase is a good winner. So that's an interesting stat for everyone out there. So think about This if you want more of these things, this is where you get the data. Think about what you do in the
lead-up to achieve that do more. Nice things you get luckier that tip is for free. It's alright for free. Maybe she'd done the flowers. I still scored. That's not what she did. I don't know. I can't remember Ashley, what's not kiss? And tell. Anyway, now let's pretend I didn't and I can score today maybe after the podcast. So obviously your makeup, you actually pretty good this week. Yeah, I just tried to be a little bit quicker.
You did have a bad night on Tuesday night, way to face know what Monday night before we recorded the last podcast. Because I was wearing makeup. Yes. Like if I've already had a shower before dinner, I just had to brush my teeth. You know what I mean? Yeah, so I would prefer you to shower before dinner just because you don't smell as well. It depends what I'm doing. It's all about you. You know, you know, and know there are a few steps to looking this. Great. Oh yeah, right.
Give us your playbook. Yeah, I did obviously. Did well with my try to get the shower and For dinner for was that show you met were watching last night? That's shows a meal. See, so it's on binge watch out. What's PST tight loose cannons, it's an American Channel.
I don't know. It sounds for typically The Lunatic, it's got all the reality, the Dum Dum, Dum, reality shows, like I don't know, you know that, ya know, I don't strange addiction and What are the other ones like me and my 12 billion kids that kind of stuff and listen to It's like a Lifestyle Channel and then anyway it's on bench and one of the show's is called what's that. There's this the realize I still haven't done a buzzer so I was looking for a whole and sound that one.
Anyway, this one's called so freaking cheap. Yeah and it's about really, really stingy families. Oh my God. It's like this Frugal which is you know, you can respect it when people like a really careful with them. I don't waste money. These people a ridiculous. It would honestly, take more effort to be as Frugal as they're being than to actually try and earn more money. Yeah, and it's also like what about your time that you're wasting now?
That's what I mean. It's a this dude's counting out coins. One cent to cent coins in America to equal a dollar to pay for fuel and he owns a Mercedes is like but it took me four years to save up for this one. Like I respect that. But it took you 20 minutes to pay for your fuel. You've just lost 20 minutes of your time and if you earn $20 an hour there goes 10 dollars, it's taken you ten dollars to pay the $10 pay for fuel their first 20
so true but it is a good watch. What do you what do you like about it? Then this is funny and it's dumb like you don't have to think about it, you know. I don't know. It's just mind-numbing TV really. I did feel like I was getting like I don't usually like Like mind-numbing TV like I don't watch maths or Bachelorette and all that crap, but this is different laughs. Oh my God, I know very shy.
Don't actually watch any of it. So I can't like I just I have a feeling that it's shit TV but I can't even make a joke about it because I haven't watched it before. Yes, I do respect. Sometimes you just need like, you don't want to concentrate on anything. That's what I watched reckful. Yeah. That's this is like Shrek Shrek. Quality. How many times can you possibly watch it? Look, he's got a Shrek Obsession everyone, Shrek Obsession.
That's a nice Boulder Creek and we could literally talk the such a good film that like, it is really. It is one of the best. That's why it's still number one here. Yep. Yep. I can't where we should actually go see Puss in Boots. A new one. Is there anyone? Yeah. It's on the side of a bus. I saw it. I do that. Yeah. It's date night. Hmm. Well I think date night, Sarah. A very important.
Yeah, they are anyway, let's let's move on topic was going to be. Should you Mary would you marry would you marry someone for money? Hmm. Big topic. Big large? Yeah. I had I don't know how much I should talk about this but know you hear about it. You see it all the time. Yeah. And I heard about this lady who is a she's an escort was an escort and was paid to sleep with this man. An older man, much older than her and like how much are we talking?
Like she was like 25 and he was 60 or so it's not Leonardo DiCaprio tonight. Let's talk about this guy and she. So she was having this paid affair with this dude and then he actually left his wife and married her. Wow, yeah, and now she's just like yeah, and really open about. She did it for money and can you say that is? I don't know how but I just heard about it. Yeah, right. And has well she's like I love
my life. Yeah well I think and she's fully open a bit of Hartley. She's just like oh yeah, you know, get my got my money. The easy way, which occurs? Yeah. She's just like well. No shame in it. Like okay. I think before we share our thoughts and opinions. It's probably important to note that whatever floats your boat. If that works for you fucking game on that wouldn't work for me, I think, I think about it more.
The more I see my parents age or our parents aging, and he think about like, Spending so long working to realize that we're all going to fucking die. Like money can obviously enhance experiences 1000%. Yeah, but I also think about how much I work to earn money and to grow money. Yeah, it's and I like, it's a big sacrifice to work 12 plus our days. So consistently.
Yeah, and it's not linear. It's like, you might say Plateau or even retraced with your income and then jump a few and you like The Next Step Up, but you're missing out on so much and their relationships. And I think In that process, you can lose a relationship but I couldn't just marry for money because I know you can create your own money. I'd rather do that because it's more enjoyable and fulfilling than just like, if I married you for money yeah fuck like what do
we do when we're here? It's like right now. It's like we wouldn't have or potentially like some relationships might have the money and they love each other, but if you're not marrying, just for money, I know I couldn't is there a connection and why is the other person that like the person who's already got the money? You marrying, a you just marrying kill it for looks, or if you're marrying, a, someone who is much younger than you, and then the whole relationships just based on.
Yeah, it's a transaction. That's all it is. It's like generally like an escort like you want to route from a good-looking person? Yeah. Sweet. And they want money. That's transactional thing is. You've got to spend all your time with this person. Yeah. It's like you go to bed with this person. Like anyone who's had a one-night stand. Sometimes they're awkward, especially when you wake up the next day delay. I wouldn't know how do I get this person out of here without being rude.
But like, this is uncomfortable, you know what? My time or my space and it would be like that forever because also like is this person going to leave me at some point or do they want more money or maybe so many things that for me, personally would be going through my head that I just would feel stressed all the time. Yeah, I would rather just not have but also in saying that I think This might be controversial by marrying. Someone who hasn't zero money, like you, when you first got
with me, that's tough. Because there's a lot of other stresses that go with that and someone who is absolutely negligent with money. Yeah, I just no ambition, but just stupid with money. Like spend it on the wrong things. Tim never help you pay your bills and stuff like someone like that as well. I would be like, fuck off. So there's got to be like this fine line with us. People like have they're
billionaires, they don't care. No, of course but I'm just saying, would you marry for money? But you know how like one side we've got which you marry for money and then the flip side is just marry for love. It's like I think you got to be in the middle. Like I wouldn't marry like if you were sitting here an absolute bum right in a hash and bag smelling like you've just come from Middle Earth, and you didn't know how to save a dollar. And when you dig At a dollar.
You'd spend it on something. That wouldn't move our life Ford. Yeah, that for me no matter how much I loved you as a person, I'd be late. Yeah, because you kind of want different things towards something together so I think like Yeah, come on, come on. Girls is from my our point of view. Well, that's still it. Yeah.
Well yeah, worse is a common goal there, but I think it's like you were 65. And I was a 23 year old Victoria Secret model but wasted old like, I wasted money and didn't want to whoop didn't want to work towards anything. You just want to spend your money, but looked really good know because I've had plenty of like that sounds bad, but I've had plenty of Victoria's Secret now. Like I mean like I've had Empty sex before and that's all it is.
It's like then the next day light, Bored with this. Yeah, it's like you're bored with that, so I wouldn't want to, then be have to pay for it. I'd rather have like a fulfilling relationship is I agree. Because what's that Bob Marley quotes? Like some people are so poor, all they have is money. That is crazy. Yeah, yeah, and it's like, you get bored eventually. Yeah. It's like, oh yeah, another handbag. Oh yeah, another hand job. I would never get bored of him shopping. Good night.
You would yeah well lucky I work for lunch. Lucky has so many Greco. Lunches you can have I don't like that or like how many people are on the same level as you where you can just go to a really expensive restaurant on a Tuesday afternoon because you're bored like Well, I know quite a few maybe is a good luck. Yeah.
Look I'm leaving you yeah but no but yeah I think if it works for you awesome, like if it takes your needs and you feel good about it, I personally don't think I would feel good at like I couldn't be with her Airhead just for money. Like if it was a role, if there was a billionaire shit like Swifty. So let's say, for example, Taylor Swift, and I'm just giving her character traits. I've never met her in or Or do I assume since like this.
But let's assume she's nearly a billionaire or could a shin, right? Nearly billionaires or are billionaires. Have no common interests at all. I wouldn't marry them just for their money, right? Definitely be like a Because I sweeten the deal. Of course, it would sweeten, the deal. But I don't like the whole net like the whole pretentious parties, like, that's not my feel like that's not my space so I think if you enjoyed that, it'd be awesome.
But I hate kissing ass and trying to be seen as someone. Like, I'd much rather just have a simple life we could Sheila And like good like money as well. Just so you could do what you wanted when. Yeah. Yeah. But like, for me, it's as long as wouldn't suck 65 year old dick for money. Look, I'd probably do it for free. Victoria. Secret model. Look Yeah, we look at if I had a daughter, I would hope that she aspires to fulfill her own Ambitions and dreams in her things.
And hopefully that's not sucking dick for money. Now that, you know, once again, that's your thing awesome. But I would hope that, you know, we instill, some different values in her where she doesn't want to suck. Dick, cock for cash. And she's like, Got her own thing and then finds a great person. Great partner. That would be awesome. Changing there, isn't it? Like the whole It's for people who come out around sex workers, of course as well.
I don't think I'm not saying that in a bad way. Ya know what I mean? But I just, I don't know, just finding the way that I put it for you in that position for cash of caught like whatever floats your boat. But it's really interesting. Like there are some people making a lots, so much money on only fans 100%, And then you start to realize maybe I'm the idiot. Well, if that's once again, if you're trying to set yourself up, Financially and you can make 5 10, 15 grand a month.
Yeah, showing your vagina or fucking rubbing one out or so this is, but you know what I mean, like doing whatever you want to do, and your goal is to set yourself up financially, and that's what you do for three to five years. Is that the end of that is that much stuff on the internet? People will forget about you anyway. Yeah, and then but behind that, you realize there is ambition and drive hundreds and it's lamb. Seeing an opportunity and solving a need.
So, yeah, I think so. I just think personally with the values. The marrying some? Yeah. And like, getting into that just because they have money. Yeah. And I think what I value. money is important, but Some other things are more important but once again we're not in a position where we are financially stressed that may be that may if I was still what I 32 this week and had no money and was stressed, maybe I would be gone. Let's find me an old cougar from the whatever that Crew Bar.
Head down a crew bar and try and pick me up an old shag and get myself a handbag. I don't know, I just think. Yeah, where my life is, that's my perspective and opinion. I think what you hit the nail on the head. It's like depends on your values. What You value, most in life. Like that you value relationships, are you looking for a real partnership? Genuine, yeah, we work in Grown together like, and yeah, or are you looking for handbags? Yeah. Anyway, that was interesting conversation.
Yeah, try going to a pet peeves. Yes, let's do it. Let's see if this. So I've got a horn sound here on the phone. Is it playlist? Called womb. Sounds Yeah, that's fucking weird. They white noise. So should women moaning in the background? Wow! A Spiritual Awakening. 10 years play a bloody. So this does. All right Pepe, he's lucky. He's finally worked out how to put his pepys and he still hasn't chosen, haven't recorded.
I just literally Googled horn sounds weeks and weeks and weeks but we've made it. Okay. Can you save it? What's the sound several? I'll actually get a proper one. Now that I know how to do it. So I'm going to do that, that'll be done after this. Anyway, I've got to get to a suit fitting shortly. So let's get into the pet peeves. Hit me. I'm really excited for what you've got. For me God, I forgot my pet peeves. Not just with you.
It's with it's my pet peeve is when I am trying to show a song to somebody. Whether it's my song, somebody else's song, it's not a musician. People just talk through a song, I like that bit and all that lyric and then you On about a story, you not listening to the other lyrics and that yes I did that to yesterday like nothing else I and people always do it. You like you're not even listen to the song. So why am I playing?
I think. Can I give a like I get so excited about the songs that I want to tell you how good yeah how good it is because otherwise if I listen I've forgotten I know but then you miss all the I know. So it's sort of it sort of the artwork, I know. So it's almost like A way we could work on that together could be when you're going to show me a new song you say. Okay. The first round through just listen, shut up. And listen.
Yeah, I've got to say that the second round through you talk to me. Yeah. Give me a feedback because I just feel like I just want to tell you how good it is. Yeah, that's why I think it's good. It's my biggest pet peeve is anybody even like, we're listening to some artists EP recently and it was like that me? Yes. Yeah. Because Look through it. You like you just missed the whole point of it. Anyway. Okay but it's also annoying because I'm trying to listen.
Yeah the thing and I agree I can appreciate that. I'll stop doing that. I think I talk because It's like when you're listening to music, it's art, but it's also an expression of thought from someone. And so when you connect with it you want to add to it or thought but yeah, it's thought-provoking. So you want to talk about it? Yeah, for me anyway, that's why. Anyway, all right, well, that's nice, that's it. I can, I can appreciate that. I will most certainly stop.
Listening to your music. Amy gets really upset because she didn't make my top 5 Spotify artists. So rude. What the hell? This thing is so Amy's. Got a heap of songs banked up and I'm very fortunate, being the husband. I get them on Dropbox. And I just give them an absolute spanking on Dropbox. So, by the time, they're actually out for you guys to hear, I've heard them sick of them. I like, I'm not sick of them, I've just listened to them a lot even today.
Driving here, I listen to it a few times. Yeah. So I don't need to search you on Spotify because of the most, I get paid. I know. But I'm also getting, you know, for example, in the Dropbox, you'll add a new one in every couple of weeks. So if I open the Dropbox, then I'll listen to, you know, battle all the other songs. As well, like want their rather gone, click the add. Let's actually go to her Spotify. I just don't think to do that, which is ruining.
My, the demo is no, but don't do that. I think you should definitely keep on with that. Anyway, I don't want to make this too long. How long have you known for 27 minutes? Wrap it under 30. Let's go, my pet peeve, a lot of you can definitely relate to this. You rather guilty of it yourself or your partner does it, guaranteed these mobile phones. We all know and love them. They can be cheeky little distractions. Now some people may take them to the bathroom with them.
Not looking at anyone. But if I was to look to my right, I'm looking at someone you could only assume who that lady is. Anyway what happens occasionally? This is what this podcast is about. There's no secrets from everyone. What happens is, Amy will go missing for literally 40 minutes and I am sitting there going. She cannot be doing the world's largest number two, could you?
And obviously, I don't want to About Amy doing that some not so then all like sort of me and a past, the bathroom like a freak and they're not checking. Yeah. But then I'll hear like but that all hear stuff like on Tick-Tock I'll hear laughing or Amy's laughing watching stuff and I might Amy, get off the toilet it's his I'm not on the tour I'm
just watching. Tic toc I'm like whoa do you You have to sit on the throne and watch Tick-Tock no. So my pet peeve is get off the toilet, just go to the toilet. You do it as well. Yeah but I don't see there for 40 minutes like, oh, I'll do my thing. It's not very high genic, I know, but it's also just like you want to sit in your own smell and like, you know, it's not like you said, I've just gone for a week and I get lost in the yeah. Yeah, I mean Tick Tock is
dangerous. Then you get numb legs on the events in there for so long. So my pet peeve is when you go to the toilet, just go to the toilet and jump off anything about that. Would, you know, Tick-Tock can open your phone and they're watching you. Unlike will they stay with me that it'd be like, a double chin. We go. I always laugh about that Mike fine-looking my camera. Or you gonna see the double chin? I don't want to hear your noises and what not? Like, he's supposed to be a goddess.
You bought it up. Yeah. But you didn't have to finish on that note. I've got the horn noise, much a bum noise. I'm so sorry you all had to listen to that and forgive me, forgive me. It's like he's perfect. He doesn't pay off art. Sit on the toilet was phone. No. Never. Anyway, so we've given you some interesting stuff today. Whoop stat marrying, someone for money definitely wouldn't do, but as it is a little sweetener. Pet peeves.
So your goal this week is to not sit on the toilet with your phone for longer than 10 minutes. Done done. And mine is don't talk to themselves during songs, any songs. Okay, I'm happy to do that. Well, that is us for another week. I've got my birthday next week so make sure you guys reach out on Instagram and wish me a happy birthday. I see the day. This goes out is my birthday. It's my birthday today.
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