Hi, I'm Amy Shepherd. I'm looking through it and although we have different last names, we're married. Now we've been told the secret to a successful marriage is communication. So we're going to talk it out every week. Share our challenges, and pet peeves. Then we're setting each other. Some goals, some couple goals, couple goals. The podcast is for those who might be looking to life their way through challenging scenarios that all couples.
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out a home. Everyone knows that right? Episode 25, we've moved out of home and at the moment, we're in a temporary Studio. And it's quite a pain in the ass, to keep setting up and packing up the podcast gear. Yeah. So so hopefully this works out really is of Amazon and there I don't even know what brand they are. But anyway, I Googled Wireless the little baby wireless microphones. You can hold between your finger and your thumb and they do they
are lapel mics they do clip-on. But yeah there's just a bit, they work better but yeah, when you just hold them plus you look cooler. Do you? I think it. Will you with your turtle had on? You look pretty gnarly. Yeah, I've got hat hair to do like full-on Incognito today. Well, I had to go into the city. I would trap side and the city
today. So I put black hat because my brother is getting married to Kathleen and The Big Wedding is in a couple of weeks and my mum didn't have an outfit if she was trying to stress and I said, look, I've got it. Day off today, I'll come with you chopping. And we spent all day looking for an outfit for her and then we just went upstairs. So your home at like 5:30 June buy anything. Then we went upstairs and she got all her outfits, what you're kidding.
So that my friends is why I don't go shopping. That's it. Dumb. Do you know what? I'm just realizing. I really enjoy having the microphones on it. Feels like you're actually in application here. Yeah, you can hear it so much better. Where is that? The moment it's like, Well, that's why radio people where headsets? Yeah. Well I feel like in the pot. Yeah. You're in like it blocks it. Whereas right now I feel like we're just talkin to ya to each
other. Yeah. Just what we always do. But it just feels like as if going to trial and error. Also how these go? Maybe that's a relationship hack. If you want to give your partner undivided attention, you should have the microphones on and like that. Headsets Good work. I think I really do. I'm currently not enjoying doing it this way, so far, which is weird, right? So what have we been up to since last episode we had bucks parties and hens parties?
I've been in Port Douglas which was just magical. How was it magical? Why did we do too? Because the first one was like one one day one night and we just had like we put on a lunch, it was kind of an axe accident because Kathleen's got two sisters, and that's George, Don't say Kathleen. She has two sisters and they don't live in Brisbane, one lives in Canada, and one lives in Melbourne, and she's the one who Melbourne couldn't fly down, make it for the, the lunch that we planned.
So we were like, we just decided we do a bridesmaid things separately close to the wedding. So that's what we did. So, we've already had the hectic crazy, hens, which was the lunch into partying, but Port. Douglas was just the Bridesmaids. There's four of us. So Emma, myself and Kathleen's to see, Sisters. And we stayed at this just awesome. Villa in Port Douglas, which is north of Cairns for anyone listening overseas. It's at the very top far, North Queensland, North North Queensland.
Great Barrier. Reef is and it's Heavenly. It's I just live for that kind of whether it's like 100% humidity. It's just warm, but it's just was like a warm hug all the time. It's not like a dry heat. I get, I don't like dry hit at all. Yeah, and so we just we didn't even have a big night on any other nights. We just yeah, I was really surprised by that because we fuckin sent it. I think we all just really needed a break. Like I'm your partner's just
from life in general. It's been so busy and her sisters, like one's a doctor one's a lawyer, and then Kathleen's a Physio and Emma, and I are in the band. So we've all just been excellent. So the first I like arrived revived be like, we had a really nice dinner and then the first morning we all like slipped in and poor Rosie. Who's the doctor? She slept until like 11, she just hasn't had a break this whole year. Wow. And then that day we literally just sit by the pool and did
nothing. We just ordered a couple of cocktails. It was, it was just the best. I'm done that a long time so. Well, you know, sometimes you go on a holiday and you're running everywhere Here There and Everywhere. It's actually not that relaxing. No, you're right. Yeah. Then we also obviously hit the Great Barrier Reef on one of the days which was so fun. Really recommend if anyone hasn't done that, it's just one of my favorite things to do as well. History, snorkeling.
Hang out at them tropical island. Pretend you're a mermaid. Yeah, hmm. We saw totals like he's the turtles up close, they then I'm scared. They just come right up for are like right next to you. I would have been gulping for air around you. Thank you sharks. There are no, it was great right there. Yeah, back to reality. Now, here we are. And your back into it, back into the studio, doing episode, 25. What have you got up on your phone?
Have you got Amy's little Reddit yesterday, I read them. Read it. Let's go there, ready? That's actually how is the box? It was fantastic. You know we don't fucking tell very different to is very different. Yes, almost Polar Opposites. I feel like every photo is or because we're glamorous and we were just getting more disgusting. I think that's really just sums up how I feel right now. I feel naked. No sympathy from me. The hell I don't. Expect it.
No. I I'm not proud of myself, but anyway, let me out last parties sucked post. Anyway, the front of the time go crackling. Let's do it. So this is the headline that I read on read it to, I don't even and I haven't heard the I never actually hit it. So I'm pretty excited to hear this. I accidentally cheated on my girlfriend of two years with her identical twin sister. How do we take that happen as a twin sister? Well The Story Goes. Imagine if not maybe I'll throw
that out there. But the two days ago I went to a bar with my girlfriend whose sister and assortment mix of both front, my friends and her friends. Anyway they got wasted and I'm just quite a long. I'm just kind of paraphrase it. Yeah, okay. I got so wasted and he like went to the bathroom, he was feeling a bit sick and I just trying to sober up and then when he got back, Like, I don't know if you people had gone and he was with
the girl. He just spent time with this girl who he thought was his girlfriend for the rest of the night. So he couldn't tell them apart. No currently. Not that she didn't. He's like they already dressed similarly. Similarly and Anyway, he said, he was so wasted as well. Like they're all really, really drunk, and he was paralytic, and then he actually doesn't even remember. But when he woke up, He don't know what happened but he kind of realized he'd had sex with their own sister know.
He saw his phone and he had a text from his girlfriend saying that she had left already. So, when he went to, but huh. No, she had. She had gone home said, I just got in a cab with so and so she was really drunk. I took her home and so that was the time that he was like in the bathroom and so he put two and two together that he had just slept with the wrong girl. But how did this sister? He messaged you. Yeah. I think he had done and he was like, oh my God, and she He was
like what happened. She has we slept together, like you would, I thought you were into me, and I've been really into you this whole time. Please don't tell my sister. How crazy is that? What would you don't even know it? I don't know if I believe his story. How can you not tell your girlfriend and especially when you went to the party in? You saw what they were wearing? Yeah, I think that is complete bullshit or, but if it was true and if it was genuine, what
would you do? I'm fucking high five myself. Lucky. No, I would just be shocked. I wouldn't know what to do. Like would you tell her you have 20? Situation. Because if you tell her then you yeah. Well you gonna throw in the sister relationship as well as your relationship like you you really fucked. Well actually the sister should have known better if she's she said you were into it. Yeah. Like that's a bit odd. She obviously doesn't care about her sister. Sure.
So don't tell her. You would. Yeah, because you have evidence from your sister. Don't tell my sister is a small dick shit. Sister. Who does, how would you break it? They would you be like watching a film together and go so about Johnny has smells is Willie? Yeah, you break it. How do you reckon you? Do it. If you had to tell say, for example, you had sex with my brother. How would you break it to make? Would never, I know. But let's just, let's just play this scenario out.
I don't know. Then your text. Wow, no. I would just be like, I think we're gonna break up and you be like, that's why? And then also What a messed up situation? I'm glad that's not my. What are you reading on Reddit? Because both your relationships have been about weird sex stuff. Yeah, I always obviously try and pick a story that shocked me and to share with you. What do you search? How can we find out what you're saying, right? Amy Shepherd, kink. That's what I'm picking up from
that. Well that was a good story. Yeah, I Hard to believe it is like, you'd have to be dealing with a special kind of person to make that happen. Hey, I've never been that drunk or I don't know what I'm doing, so I have, but even when I have he still have little split moments ago. Yeah, but you know, sort of like just too drunk to care. Hmm, I think that's the main thing. See you, just hit the nail on the head. You're too drunk to care.
Just wants to my plow one when they compared to that's gross. No, I'm not on board with that. I'm just saying that. That's maybe what he thought. Hmm, anyway, back to me. So we put up the anonymous questions. Yes, we did. Yes, we did and I'm some people going on about like, red flags. What else did I? What I said to you. I said Building a life together. Biggest red flags, biggest insecurity, so I want to know. Amy, what is your biggest insecurity? Hmm. Probably my weight.
What are you insecure about your wife? I kept in a little obviously done a little work around that now. So I'm feeling. Have you been waiting? I think it's just something. I'm going to deal with the rest of my life. You know, insecurities about my weight empty? What does it look like for you? What is that? Yeah, I love you ask. But what's it like for people who are listening? I always like this because we're going deep but like when you feel insecure about it what
specifically is it? No, just I think growing up as a girl, you this condition to you want to have a nice societies, expectation of you. And It's hard to live in a world where that's so prevalent and being skinny, is thin is in and being skinny. And it's so annoying that it's back in again because for a little while, like, Kirby was kind of cool. I like heavy, I'm just happy, I can't help that. And I'm not willing to live my life on a diet because I've done that.
It's not. You just become like a shit personally. Become angry angry boring, no, angry and boring. You heard it here first, ladies and gentlemen. Yeah. So probably that but, you know, I've done a lot of work around my body image and I just have to work through those bad boy image days. Yeah, I like it. It's probably my biggest insecurity. Yeah, my well but I like it Sighs and the thighs butt and thighs. What's that old ad where they'd be sweating remember? Such a fun.
Remember that idea? But I saw today Are you two even? And you thought I was like yeah and bums Chief green. Yeah, I wish I need the lyrics. But anyway funny. Yeah. Because you can grow up when you watch Disney movies. It's like the villains are always like that. Me. No sir. II, like maybe I have, but I also haven't, it's just so like condition that, that like fat is bad. Yeah, you're bad person. If you're fat. And anyway, I could go on and on about well let's not let's carry
on red flags. Red flags. What are some red flags in a relationship? I got up a little late registration, a relationship. Biggest insecurity, my biggest insecurity. Physical or mental. Hmm. Even think about mental. Well, I think body image is both mental and physical, mostly mostly mental. Yeah. Okay, so when I say so physical, I mean like an appearance thing, but from a mental it's like not being good enough or something. I've got lots of, let me know yours. Not been successful.
Hmm, you got okay. Like you're insecure about not being successful and secure that. You might not be successful because I think it was successful now. Yeah, but the idea of success is like a never ever growing But ever-changing goal post. So once you achieve one thing that you once wanted to send that's now not good enough and say don't stop. And fun really bad either. Is there going to be lazy? Yeah, you got always going to be growing I guess.
And physically physically. I used to care a lot about looks like when I was in school but I literally don't Yeah. Yeah I think as you get older you get I feel like I'm the most simple fuck of all time I could there would choose it probably Like I'm going bald and had a mean cat, you know, it's good. I just don't care about really That's good. I'm not trying to make you have. Not it really have any physical insecurities because I've sort of just like a married.
Someone giving it away. Yeah, I'm done. That's good comfort and all right. So a red flags in relationships couple therapists share common examples and what they mean, but let's see if any of these are serious red flags. Let's just give the definition quickly. Red flags are warning signs that there may be unhealthy patterns or behaviors between you and your partner. Frequent lying.
Number one constant, put Downs. Number two, And unwillingness to compromise number three, mmm a tendency to run away from difficult discussions. Hmm controlling behavior and excessive jealousy. A lack of healthy open communication. They don't have any friends. Because they can we can weird and controlling and whatnot. I don't show support for you or for the relationship. I'd say we're date. I know if I would have, I think the biggest red flag is like narcissistic behaviors.
Yeah. Come on. Who's selfish? Manipulative you down in a Without You realizing it is nagging. Yeah. I mean like, grinds down your confidence that they can see the superior. Yeah. And then you feel like so amazing that you can't do life without them even though they're treated like shit. Yeah, you're funny car the other day. Who's like narcissist Eli. We're talking away from the, my friend. This is you re not Nation. I can't remember the quote. Now. Dammit, bummer.
We've got two, guests episodes booked in this week. I know badass. I am excited for that. Yeah, not really dig in these mice are thinking we can go back next week. We'll be back. But what's your pet peeve? I just found the car. Hit it because narcissist alike. Yeah I hurt you but now you hate me so I am the true victim. That's funny. Yeah that's good. I like that pet. Peeve happy What's your pet? Peeve you go first my pet. Peeve currently is your traveling so much.
I fucking them off it. Yep, I'm off it to for all the people that do fly-in fly-out. I got a lot of respect for how you make that work. I'm off it. Well, it's nice. We've spoken about it is nice to have time apart. But when there's a heap of time apart, you just say it's just like every I'm flying like twice a week. Yeah. Literally appointment three points would be cool. Doing great. Yeah. But a relationship that's full of a cliff.
Oh my God is not that dramatic. You heard it here first. Add email, I don't know if I have a pet peeve this week. They wouldn't be one because I'm kind of Yeah. What have you done? That's annoying. Nothing. I've done everything right. You have? You can cook dinner last week which I was really, really impressed about bangers and mash all by yourself. Yeah. Okay. But okay. No, you can't criticize my deal. That's the other thing I've got.
The, the master was actually shocked, you didn't cook, you were impatient, because that's one of your negative qualities and you didn't cook the potatoes. Long enough said they were a little, Mash was a bit chunky wasn't. Okay. So where does negative qualities chat come from? That was not part of this discussion whatsoever. What is, what is my -? What else? Where am I - qualities? Let's go where it live on air. I want to hear what my negative qualities are just being Patient. Yeah.
What else? Why do you feel? I'm impatient because tell me I think. Yeah. See quick, tell me yeah, quick quick, because you're a busy man and you're used to filling your day up. So then when you have to wait for something, you're not used to it, my puppy. Now you have to pet peeves. Well that was yeah the reason why it was lumpy potatoes because you didn't Them long enough? No. Because you don't have a good Masher here. It's not every cook that was soggy.
Well, that's my pet peeves. All right. Well, good news is like, not really much you can do about, okay, well I reckon we leave the building a life together conversation for another time. Yeah, did you discuss that? We really expect. Discussed we put yeah Wednesday and Thursday. Exciting baby. Boom, boom, boom. I'm excited. Yeah, I'm pretty pumped. Oh we didn't talk about Luke Combs album. Coming out.
We need to discuss it. We don't need to discuss it, but I actually sat right where we are filming with a bottle of scotch and listen to it from someone to song. Number 18, let me tell you I haven't listened to such a beautiful. I've heard a few of the songs. It's it's close. The debate for me personally Morgan. Wyland's awesome. But Luke's lyrics You relate to them. I love them. Yes. And that's it for episode 25 because I know Amy will get up me for talking about Luke too much.
So haruki's, that's my pet. Peeve lucky, you're more obsessed than like homes in me. Hey, hey, hey. Hey, hey, hey.