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Hello, World. Shelley Ro here and welcome to the show. Listen, I was terribly sorry about the last podcast breaking the habit of being yourself. I was in our home and, and I didn't have my proper sound set up, and I listened to it. Today noticing that with the headset I was using, there was a bit of a buffet noise, which means I had the speaker too close to my mouth. So I pal apologize eyes for that.
Lots going on. And, you know, there's just been so much on my mind lately because we've been super busy, so share a little what's going on. And the challenges that, you know, you face in life when there's change. So I just thought, okay. What I wanna talk about? I thought, okay. Do it? You do Shelly, when you want to share, but you're uncertain go to the book that you love to go to. And sure enough today's date making a fresh start.
It always just never cease it to amaze me how the universe can answer because guys, that is what I'm going through right now in my life. It's... It's everything that's going on in our lives is right now. So we went on a cruise, my girlfriend and I back in June. For my birthday to Alaska. I never been. I mean, I live here I'm a resident of British Columbia, Canada, and people broke all over the world come to see. Our amazing scenery and seeing here the history.
Our men had no interest if there wasn't a beach pool well, there was a pool, but it certainly wasn't Caribbean weather. We had a wonderful time. Just a wonderful time. And the glaciers well wonderful to see and the history was interesting, and just spend time with my girlfriend who was so easy to travel with, and we made these... We met these amazing people people, especially the couple from the New Zealand Aussie connection, that ended up sitting beside us. We've met
them out outside on the ship somewhere. And then they ended up sitting. Right beside is at dinner. So we've we spent kind of part of the cruise with them and had stayed in touch, and they were just wonderful. Such amazing people. And Sal is Italian board, Australian. And his wife is it's a kiwi. So it was... It's always interesting when people again, make fresh starts in their life, things change, you know, it's houses pass. Divorce happens, children are grown.
And then you meet a companion, and you just click, and it was just was just wonderful. We had... We had great fun, dance, eat too much food. So anyways, it came home to the chore. We've been taught contemplating for a number of months of listing our house. We have spent the last number of months, really looking at things in our lives. That's why I haven't been podcasting regularly and I apologize.
I've been going through a lot emotionally mentally and physically, something else has sort of gone wrong and, like, are you kidding me? I had my hip replaced it just over a year ago, and you know, it's, like, 6 months to heal properly, and then I was thinking, this is great. I can walk better and than the left side. I have severe stenosis in my back And I guess we've pinched a nerve with a deteriorating disk and I'm like, are you kidding me?
So after I went down through my little pity potty of back feeling sorry for myself. We had to get this house listed because we have talked about the fact that, yes. The cruise was wonderful, but I came home and had to dress for days. It was very hard on me physically.
I sure adrenaline got me through it, but then, you know, you have to recover So, Keith and I looked each other and went we need to be aware of that, like, more aware because we do want to travel here coming up, we're hoping to go to Spain in the fall. That being said, you know, we have to take into account what's going on in our lives physically. My husband is going to retire from his full time
job and work part time on contract. With the same company because he loves what he does He's a great trainer, and great with dealing with the dealers, but the day in day stress, of of that level is just... Can you do it yes? Does he want to? No? No. We're we're just we're she's now and it's like, we've had so many people have unexpected deaths or things go wrong around us. We're like, what if waiting for. I live in an
area where the housing prices went insane. So if we could cash out of this and move into the little old house sign paired it up in the in the Oak Oregon Valley. We can look quite comfortably and and just keep searching for our next house because we just haven't found what we're looking for up there. So this is really a fresh start for us, and starts and changes are never easy. It has been very stressful. We're not changing our mind. We're not questioning what we're doing.
The process of making it happen is exhausting. We had no idea how much work is involved in listing house and getting it ready to be staged. So my husband who was being, not very supportive for for a bit. They're rolling his eyes at me saying, you know, what I'm saying Honey, We... This is week get all this done. It was until the realtor kind of gave him a come to Jesus talk and said, hey, we need this this and this done, pictures are being done here. Stage arrives here Keith went. Oh,
Crap. I see what you mean? Yeah. Can we get on this now? So we packed up so much stuff. Because they want your personal life out of the house. People wanna be able to walk into something very neutral and picture themselves in your house. So it was really shocking for me because the last 2 homes we have we have done they bought or whatever sold. We're done private. We didn't use a realtor tree. It didn't have this whole do ad and it's been many, many years. So wow. Anyways, that was chili 2 weeks
and it's labor. Like, for me, it's physical. So it's it's hard on my body. Keith is few tired after work, and he's a bit stressed. But, man, he rose to the occasion. Once we realize these things have to be done, and this is what hap... We have to do moving forward, the then my husband has has his other mode as I like to call it. Then he goes into overdrive, and then When you need it, I'm greatly appreciative of it. So all of this is all about, you know,
change and start. Over, and that's what today's lesson was all I was in. Now we're changing our work life our living locate mission or home, how we're gonna see family, our financial situation because we won't have an income coming in anymore. We'll just have our, you know, retirement income, which is significantly less, but manageable. And I feel confident in that because, as some of you know, I took my insurance licensed this past year. I wanted to learn
more about things so I could manage... My own life, my own retirement, my own inheritance, my my own investments, that sort of thing. And it was it was wonderful. I I learned so much in it really changed things. And then once I became a licensed life insurance agent, things opened up on the company that I'm with on the website where I could do financial needs analysis. And it's just that. Fantastic to be able to put all your numbers
in and find out if you... You know, if you're good or if you're not and where the shortfall falls are. And so you know, when we're starting making a fresh start, I had to feel very comfortable with those numbers. And so by the time I kind of got through... That this spring. We were at the point now Where was like, yeah, We're gonna we're gonna we're gonna pull the trigger and make the change. But that's my true change. Sometimes in people's lives,
it's... Maybe you're changing your relationship. Maybe you want a new jump Maybe you need to create a whole new life because that... You just need to change the environment that you're in. And if you're not happy in your in your environment, change it. But make sure first that you've changed yourself. Because remember, wherever you go, there you are. So if you are catalyst for some of the things in your life that are working
out. No matter how many changes you make in jobs, marriage location that you live, friends, you will still carry the damage with you and we'll create the chaos everywhere you go. So the goal here was starting over is the learning process, the healing process and accepting that life is about change. So what I just mentioned about, you know, where you are where you go there you are. That's a whole another podcast. So we're I'm not gonna go into that right now.
This is just more of the fact that we have to start over, sometimes we choose like I am, and sometimes we don't. Now it's really interesting because 1 of my closest friends right now is going a huge change. And I'm gonna talk about as well, just the emotional, reaction in trauma that can happen with all of that. So my god children, they... They're Americans, but the parents are Canadians because my my friends have lived in the states pretty much their entire working life and
had their children down there. However, his company got bought out and half the people were like go, and he has kind of been forced to retire. And he's not in a position where he has any interest in getting another job they too are like us where they were prepared for retirement and they're like, you know, it's a few years early, but we can make this happen. But it also meant they had 60 days or... Yeah. To get out of
the states. Once you're not employed with your green card or whatever it's called down there, your visas, they have to leave. She has been this huge packing up queen of organization, which is her strong soup. Thank Heavens because I'm gonna need her grown children are leaving the house. He husband is retiring, and move out of the home that they have lived in the entire time they've raised their children from was 19 years, 20 years. All the friends she made down in that
area. This is especially for women, I think more. We get attached to nesting, and we're we've raised our family and where we have lived our lives, and it was really hard for her because it wasn't a choice. The change had to have to, and she had to make it happen and deal with all the emotional fallout in a really short period of time. She had 1 of the same experiences that I did. When we had to sell our a house that I built down the street 9 and a half years ago.
We are in the same neighborhood that I... That we've and now for almost 20 years. I couldn't go back to the house. I'm, my friends actually bought it people I knew, and I couldn't go down there for almost a year because I was just burst into tears that house was my dream. I planned it and built it. I didn't build it myself, but I managed the building of it. And I worked long time to have that independence and to have that home. I struggled, my husband was like, I'm happy.
And I would not believe that he took the move so easy and the same thing happened to my girlfriend. Her family is like, yes. So house we're going out, and she is dealing with her emotional trauma, but also getting no support from the family because they just really don't care. Though like, I wonder if that's a guy thing. I'm not really sure, but it is... True broad stroke, you know, when you talk about things about the difference between men and women and Mars and Venus.
Women tend to be the village. We are nest by nature. There's always the exception in the outline light liars, but by nature, in the past and threw throughout your history, women kept the home. And men went off and fought wars and hundreds for food and and managed the world. But wear nest. And her mess was being taken away. And I understand that. I was devastated when I had to leave my last home. I am not devastated leaving this home.
It has served a purpose. It was a, but it is a lot of house and a ton of land that we physically cannot keep up with anymore. We want a maintenance free yard with with parking. Because we wanna be rv on the boat or traveling, just the deal. And, you know, we we have a dog and she comes with us and and that's the life that we like now. We don't... We used to spend weekends, just managing the yards and the gardens and then friends would drop in for caught tails, will
there be a fire pit that night. Wonderful. I do not regret the last at 9 years at all. But this phase I'm done with. So for for you, if you are struggling, reach out to people that can relate. Because if you have a spouse or children or parents or anyone that's not under standing your change, get yourself a little support. So so Tracy has me and us girlfriends to kind of hold her hand on this 1 and her friends down in C were amazing.
They literally prop her up emotionally during this whole process because, you know, they lived almost 6 hours away from us. So we're on Marco polo on our phones, but we're not physically there for her. So in this particular case, errors are ending, homes or changing, but maybe you are in a position where you need to end a relationship or you need to move like us, or you need to start a new job or a new career. Now, am I gonna use my life insurance as
a career? I am not sure at this point, but I'm certainly leaving that option open Right now, our time is being absorbed with the move and the change in our lives until the end of the year. But in 20 25, it's hard to say what I might feel like doing once I'm settled, and I'm not managing 2 homes, and I'm not managing, rentals, you, I've go ahead. The students in my home for many, many years, and it's just us. You know, who knows what the future might
hold ice. And the biggest thing here is stay open and curious. I cannot stress that enough. The universe responds and the more curious you are the more questions will come up and the more you will learn, it is fascinating trek and road to be on. Sometimes we'll we're starting a new part of her life it looks so different that we don't even recognize it, and it's not even related to the life we lived before. We're new. You have the opportunity to be new every single day. Life is new.
We are starting over folks, and that is not a bad thing. Sometimes it feels like we're starting from scratch. And that is not my case right now. I don't feel I'm starting from scratch, but I had been there in my life. I have. We often feel a sense of excitement about a beginning, but also made harbor, like, my girlfriend did a lot of dread. I do not have dread about the move. Like, at all. And a lot of times maybe you've been through changes more than once and your reaction is not again, not 1
more time. I can't do it. I don't want to. If you can learn to accept because that reaction is totally understandable. But if you can accept it and move through it, you're going to become tired, frightened and uncertain And if it's gonna happen anyways, it's going to be very painful for you. If you can let go and it's a matter of really meditating and just being aware every day and just say the words out loud. I let this go and keep moving forward.
I think you will find a lot of times, the emotional and spiritual help is there. But if you get caught up in all the negative emotions, it's just make things so much harder. So honor your feelings, and all your emotions do not ignore them do not dismiss them and do not block them up, but remember the lessons and clear the weight to your heart. That's what I'm saying. Just everyday brief. Say out loud. I let this go when I'm open, and then make your decision
because it's time for a fresh start. It is for me if it is for you, I hope this helped today. Know that you're not alone, know there are better ways and easier ways to get through change. And from my heart to yours, I wish you all the success and luck in the world if you were going through a change right now. Have a great day everyone, and I'll catch you on the flip side. We really hope you enjoyed this episode of could wood, sugar.
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