Welcome back to conversations with my nightbrain. I'm your host, Chris Enns. This is another solo episode of just riffing off the top of my brain. I just wanted to record something as a message to me of, whatever, 10 years ago, as well as me, maybe tomorrow or a week or two months from now, or whatever. I just got off a call with a client slash friends prpspective client, I guess.
Without going into too many details, the conversation with him was great because it was motivated from his side by the desire to work with me and figure out a project to work with me on which is a place and a situation to be in that's, I feel immensely privileged to be that way just because of who this person is, and the kind of work that they do, and the quality that they want to aspire to, that they would then entrust that with me and want to work with me on that idea.
And more importantly, just for me of, again, like I said, past, present, future, me, that gets down in the, in the dark valleys of nobody wants to work with me, nobody wants to be my friend, nobody, whatever. They're going to all figure out, you know, the imposter syndrome stuff. It's important to, for myself, first of all, that's why I'm doing this here in a very public way I guess on this podcast that I haven't told anybody about yet, to remind myself. Hey, this is happening.
This has happened. Even if, even if this is the only time you ever hear those words out loud, it has happened. So you can't tell yourself people don't want to work with you. That's why I guess my recommendation to you, the listener, is to remember those moments when that does happen. Journal it, write it down, record a video for yourself or an audio for yourself or whatever so that you remember those moments.
And even for the fact that other people in your circle might listen to that thing or watch that thing and then be able to remind you when your own brain, your night brain, as it were, betrays you and tells you, no, nobody wants to work with you. Nobody likes you. They've all figured out you're the fraud that you think you are, et cetera.
And so if nothing else, maybe I just need to send a weekly reminder to listen to this episode of my own podcast and play it back to myself in my brain so that, or read it or whatever, just so that I'm reminded of this.
It's funny because like the TikTok algorithm, just a little tangent for a moment, the TikTok algorithm is so crazy sometimes how it absolutely nails you to the wall with some random video that you've never seen before, you've never seen the account before, you've never seen that style of video before, but just last night I was watching and I need to verify this obviously as to whether it's true or not, but like I was watching, scrolling through, swiping through, whatever.
And then this person who's obviously some sort of, therapist or thought leader therapist wannabe, who knows I don't even remember their name or their account to go find the video again, but it was talking about high functioning depression and five signs that you might be a high functioning depressionist. That doesn't sound right.
Anyways, and I don't even remember the five things right now because I didn't, it was just in passing, but all five nailed me perfectly in terms of what I am living like in the things I struggle with and things like that. And so is that actually me? Is it true? What kind of things could I do to help become less of that or deal with that in a real way, rather than just like waking up and seeing what my brain decides to tell me that day. Tangent aside, this is for.
Chris, but also anybody, I don't know who needs to hear this listening, you matter, people want to work with you, give it time. It might not be today and it might not be tomorrow, but give it time. Try to consistently put out good work, do your best work, communicate well, and people will pick up a notice eventually, even if it takes years. This is like me 15 years ago saying, what am I doing?
Nobody's going to want me to work on their website or edit their podcast or whatever it was at the time. And it does take time. Put in the work, do it well, over communicate. And most of all, be kind. That's the biggest thing. Celebrate the victories, journal them, make a note in Notion, have a Reminders list somewhere on your computer, and just journal those little victories as they come up along the way. That's going to help you.
And it definitely helps me in those moments where I'm thinking this sucks. Okay. Thanks for listening. Have a great day. Bye.