In this Part Two episode of Coming Out Late & Scared to Date, Robin picks up the conversation where she left off last week. Last week Robin initiated an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, Robin asks her guests fou...
Sep 05, 2022•52 min•Season 1Ep. 49
In this episode, Robin ventures into new territory and initiates an impromptu group discussion recorded in Zoom, around a topic that seems to be on everybody’s mind lately - navigating dating after coming out late. Whether you are newly out and have never dated a woman, or have had your share of dating experiences, this two-part series titled, “Coming Out Late & Scared to Date”, addresses four basic foundational questions we ALL should be asking ourselves, as well as a whole range of topics,...
Aug 29, 2022•40 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In this episode, Robin reads from a particularly heartwarming AND painful social media post that covers one woman’s first-time love, (and catalyst), with a woman. Jennifer’s social media post is raw, real and relatable on so many levels. And her vulnerable, courageous and inspirational share is met with an outpouring of love, support, and shared emotions and experiences. In this episode, you will learn… That by sharing our stories and sharing our experiences - that even the painful ones - in fac...
Aug 22, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In this episode, Robin interviews Dr. Cecily D. Havert, M.D., who is a big LGBTQ+ ally and physician at Northern Virginia Family Practice Associates (NVFP), a family medicine practice that offers full-service concierge health care in the Northern Virginia area. Dr. Havert specializes in women’s health with an emphasis on the LGBTQ+ community. Robin and Dr. Havert discuss the reasons why you should ‘come out’ to your healthcare provider and what the benefits of doing-so are. In this episode, you ...
Aug 15, 2022•51 min•Ep. 46
In this episode, Robin reads a post written by a member of her “Coming Out Late” community about feeling stuck and sad while in the beginning stage of the messy middle. Robin also shares with us the outpouring of beautiful and practical support and encouragement - something we all need at some point along this turbulent and unpredictable journey of coming out late in life. Grab your pen and paper because you are going to want to write down some of the really useful suggestions, as well as some o...
Aug 08, 2022•26 min•Ep. 45
In this episode, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to her Show. Samantha is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist AND Lesbian Curiosity Coach. Today, they talk about the dynamic flow of our sexual attraction and desires…and SO much more! In this episode, you will learn… What IS “dynamic flow”? How does dynamic flow affect my sexual attraction and desires? What is YOUR sexual energy? And why is sexual energy important? What is a stone-top? A stone-bottom? A switchy? And why is it important to ...
Aug 01, 2022•59 min•Ep. 44
In this episode, Robin selects a social media thread from one of her favorite Facebook Groups - “Late Bloomer Lesbians + Support Group”. One of the Admins., Cariann Moore, starts what turns out to be, one of the most meaningful and “therapeutic” threads that overwhelmingly aligns with Robin’s core Coming Out Late values and opinions that she simply HAD to share it. Robin strongly believes that the initial post, and the thread of comments and solicited advice that follows, could be used as a Comi...
Jul 25, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 43
In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and conside...
Jul 18, 2022•46 min•Season 1Ep. 42
In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relatio...
Jul 11, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 41
In this episode, Robin shares with us a hybrid of stories coming from women who are ‘stuck’ and/or in limbo in the infamous “Messy Middle”. She talks about what that can feel like, being stuck in the limbo space of the messy middle. Robin also shares with her formula of “ABC’s” to help us all navigate through those disorienting and confusing days of the Messy Middle. This process is not for the faint of heart, and it IS very much a marathon, not a sprint - but Robin outlines ways in which we can...
Jul 04, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 40
In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions *may* be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right? Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say i...
Jun 27, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 39
In this episode, Robin reads to us from a three-part social media post, whereby the author introduces herself as a 35-year old cis woman married to a man for 13 years. Together, they have five children, (under the age of 12). She describes her STBX-husband as pretty conservative and considers the process of her coming out to him as an act of cheating on him. In this episode, you will learn… Navigating a rocky coming-out when the husband is pretty conservative and making things really difficult f...
Jun 20, 2022•20 min•Season 1Ep. 38
In this episode, Robin celebrates PRIDE month by showcasing a very special group of young people from a Los Angeles-based non-profit organization called RAINBOW LABS. Rainbow Labs creates a series of after-school programming (both in-person and online), seeking to mentor and support underserved Queer and Gender Non-Conforming (QGNC) youth ages 12-18. The idea of Rainbow Labs, launched in 2020, was to address the unique challenges faced by queer and gender nonconforming youth. The content of the ...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In this episode, Robin announces her latest collaboration with Women OUT West Tours whereby Robin will lead and facilitate in-person “Firefly” Retreats in Escalante, UT. The inaugural Firefly retreat is October 9-13, 2022. But that won’t be the last, so if you cannot make it on October 9, there will be plenty more to sign-up for. What an opportunity to be out in nature and have deep, meaning facilitated, and non-facilitated conversations with other women who ‘get you’! In this episode, Robin als...
Jun 06, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In this episode, Robin sits down with not one, but two late-in-lifer’s. She invites recent podcast guest Lori back for a chat about “relationships” with Robin’s friend and repeat podcast guest - Samantha Fox. Samantha is a lesbian curiosity and sexuality coach and a licensed family and marriage therapist in New York who also happens to be a late bloomer herself. Today, Samantha, Lori & Robin take a deep dive into some specific relationship issues that come up for late bloomers once you’ve st...
May 30, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this episode, Robin sits down with fellow firefly late bloomer, Lori, to talk about her long journey from being in the closet, to a 5-year lesbian relationship at 17 years old, (that lasted FIVE years!), to going back in the closet for 30+ more years. Lori was married to a man for 27-years and is blessed with one daughter. Along the journey, Lori manages to ‘find herself’ and walk through the open doors that people invited her to walk though. Through the conversation, Robin & Lori talk ab...
May 23, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 34
In this episode, Robin reminds us of the significance and importance of us not only hearing other women’s coming out stories, but also telling our own. We grow, we learn and we heal every time we share or hear coming out late stories. Robin reads to us the story of one particular woman who can recall always being attracted to women for as long as she could remember - but knew she had to suppress those thoughts and feelings. (Thank you social norms and comphet!) After being married to a man, and ...
May 16, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Robin addresses two important topics that arise from our Coming Out Late journey: first, navigating our first, or first couple-of queer relationships. After the trauma has subsided, what can we do to ensure our next relationship will be 10x better than the last? And, second, Robin shares with us some examples of responses the husbands, partners or significant others say to us when we come ‘out’ to them for the first time. Some are simply unbelievable, while others are unthinkable and unacceptabl...
May 09, 2022•42 min•Ep. 32
Robin addresses a recent post written by a woman coming out later in life - in fact - she just came out at the age of 57! Robin highlights the small-, medium- and large-hurdles that we, at ANY age are likely to face during our coming out late journey. In addition to reading and sharing this very vulnerable and relatable post, Robin also shares the compassionate and encouraging responses the author of the post received. In this episode, you will learn… This Coming Out Late stuff is TOUGH! It is N...
May 02, 2022•53 min•Ep. 31
Robin shares a beautiful reminder that good things are possible and your life will work out no matter when you decide to come out… In this episode, you will learn… Reflecting on three years post coming out, post moving out, post freaking out Encouragement to feel all your feelings and do the work vs. push emotions down Understanding it all works out and that how it works out looks different for everyone Details about Julia Ruiz Hoffman’s Bloomer’s Society and coaching services Links to resources...
Apr 25, 2022•20 min•Ep. 30
Robin addresses a recent post about fears surrounding being married and questioning your sexuality and why open lines of communication, honesty, and courage are key to exploring who you are… In this episode, you will learn… Coming out doesn’t mean everything about your life must change instantly Remember you can be courageous or you can be comfortable—you can’t be both Fear is a killer: Ask for time, communication, and soul searching Don’t stay for the wrong reasons and don’t leave for the wrong...
Apr 18, 2022•32 min•Ep. 29
Robin explores the idea of change and what change means for us on our coming out journey. She talks about social conditioning as it relates to how we formed our roles in life and how we have lived our whole lives under social conditioning. Robin asks the question — how do we go about living our lives now, and how do we embrace change? She also shares some quotes about change, growth, life, and strength. In this episode, you will learn… About the value of joining Robin's Women Loving Women and Wo...
Apr 11, 2022•31 min•Ep. 28
Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first. In this episode, you will learn… Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgender The importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender children Being in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gen...
Apr 04, 2022•1 hr 42 min•Ep. 27
Robin addresses the common confusion many feel after coming out late and reminds us why it’s never too late to live a life full of love, authenticity, and support… In this episode, you will learn… Encouragement to attend the Women Loving Women weekly meetings and upcoming Speaker Summit on March 30th Coming out late doesn’t negate your previous heteronormative life or relationships Recognizing what it’s like having a supportive spouse you don’t want to hurt We’re not on this earth to be mediocre...
Mar 28, 2022•28 min•Ep. 26
Sexuality Coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Samantha Fox speaks with Robin about her coming out late journey, helpful advice for managing family challenges after coming out, and why it’s okay to be curious about your sexuality. In this episode, you will learn… Samantha’s experience of coming out late at the age of 32 in 2002 How 9/11 prepared Samantha for her coming out late catalyst Being in the best place you can ever be while being in the worst place you can be Advice for manag...
Mar 21, 2022•52 min•Ep. 25
Life coach Sarah Ott joins Robin to shed light on her own coming out late experience and why she believes in the power of authenticity and being the best version of yourself. In this episode, you will learn… How Sarah grew up feeling like she just always felt different Following the path she thought she should but still feeling unfulfilled Deconstructing her religious programming and connecting the dots about her sexuality Shifting from couples therapy to individual therapy to coming out Why it’...
Mar 14, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 25
Happy Birthday to Women Loving Women! Robin shares exciting news about the upcoming Speaker Summit, opportunities to be a guest on the Coming Out Late podcast, and helpful advice for online dating and long distance relationships. In this episode, you will learn… Happy 1 Year to Women Loving Women! Top 3% news and request for podcast sponsors, logos, and branding ideas Details about the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit Addressing internalized homophobia and how it impacted Robin’s life Upcoming ...
Mar 07, 2022•49 min•Ep. 23
Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy. In this episode, you will learn… How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from wo...
Feb 28, 2022•53 min•Ep. 22
Robin welcomes late bloomer Kristie Brassard to share her exploration of being gay, coming out late, and living a life of authentic love. In this episode, you will learn… Kristie’s experience of growing up with a lack of representation Recognizing the complicated programming of what we think we should want in life Kristie’s research phase of being gay and coming out to her therapist Acknowledging the support and guilt Kristie felt during her separation Mental gymnastics of coming out and why you...
Feb 21, 2022•45 min•Ep. 21
Late bloomer Kathy Kiger joins Robin and shares her incredible story of coming out late, how her family reacted, and what her life is like one year later. In this episode, you will learn… Kathy’s religious upbringing and when the gay started to creep up Avoiding her inner voice and what it was like raising 4 kids after divorce How her business mentorship led to a beautiful revelation Acknowledging the mental gymnastics of internalized homophobia and trying to Christian harder The incredible expe...
Feb 14, 2022•45 min•Ep. 20
