🎙️ New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed ☕ A Coffee with Gays First-Ever Author Special Yes, Blaine was starstruck. And yes, we left that in. In our first-ever author interview, we welcome novelist Robert Raasch , whose debut novel The Summer Between takes us back to 1978 — before Grindr, before DEI, before the word “community” got co-opted into a rainbow ad. Set in a pre-AIDS Greenwich Village, the book follows Andy Pollock, a closeted high school senior who finds himself (...
Jul 31, 2025•59 min•Season 4Ep. 25
🗓️ New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed Blaine opens up about a relationship that nearly cost him his life . What began with over-the-top romance — flowers, gifts (include a cadillac SUV), nonstop texts — quickly spiraled into control, isolation, and a trip to the emergency room. In this deeply personal episode, we unpack how one partner’s “love bombing” turned into fear, gaslighting, and physical violence behind closed doors. Blaine and Reed speak candidly about LGBTQ+ dom...
Jul 10, 2025•57 min•Season 4Ep. 25
🎙️ Because of Them: Pride Then, Pride Now | Pride Finale New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed This episode is a love letter to the icons who made Pride possible—and a truth check on what it means today. As Blaine and Reed wrap up the Because of Them arc, they sit down over coffee for a raw, reflective conversation about how far we’ve come as a community—and what still weighs on us. From the evolution of the Pride flag to the commercialization of queer joy, from honoring Bay...
Jun 27, 2025•1 hr 6 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Life After Coming Out at 60: Matt Starts Over (Part 2) – At 60, Matt’s life took a dramatic turn when he was outed, abruptly ending a 35-year marriage. In Part 2 of his story, Matt opens up about starting over as an openly gay man in Dallas – from finding love and community to rebuilding family relationships. This heartfelt conversation explores the challenges of dating later in life, learning self-acceptance, and the power of an affirming LGBTQ community. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Emb...
Jun 19, 2025•51 min•Season 4Ep. 22
New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed We’ve kept this conversation in the vault for nearly a year—because it’s that important. After 35 years of marriage, Matt was outed overnight. Part 1 captures the immediate shock-wave: family fallout, buried trauma, and the first steps toward rebuilding a life that was never supposed to stay hidden. This isn’t just a coming-out story. It’s about the cost of secrets, the long shadow of shame, and what it takes to start over with integrity....
Jun 13, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Season 4Ep. 21
New episodes every Thursday | Hosted by Blaine & Reed This episode kicks off our Pride Month arc with a truth bomb: Pride didn’t start with rainbow merch—it started with people who had to survive silence. We’re bringing you the raw, redemptive story of Matt, a man outed after 35 years of marriage to a woman. His journey cracks open a larger conversation about how far we’ve come—and how far we still have to go. We also dive into the hidden lives of queer Hollywood icons: Cary Grant, Rock Huds...
Jun 05, 2025•57 min
💡 Key Discussion Points: Blaine, Ryan, and Reed kick off the New Year with a candid recap of the holidays, including the ups and downs of Friendsgiving, New Year's Eve drama, and a hilarious White Elephant gift exchange. 🎁 The crew dives deep into personal resolutions for 2025, focusing on self-care, mindful drinking, and tackling big goals while staying authentic. ✨ Blaine shares his thoughts on Dry January and how mindful practices like Allan Carr's The Easy Way to Quit Smoking have shaped h...
Jan 25, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Season 4Ep. 19
Note: This episode was recorded on October 27, 2024, before the JD Vance interview with Joe Rogan. We’re intrigued to see that many topics we discussed were also covered. Share your thoughts below! We’re encouraged by a Republican Vice President candidate addressing LGBTQ+ issues, aligning with our call for organizations like Human Rights Campaign to prioritize impactful legislation like the Equality Act. This act would affect 13 million LGBTQ+ Americans, and we believe it should be the focus, r...
Nov 01, 2024•58 min•Season 4Ep. 18
ChatGPT 🌈✨ In this episode of "Coffee with Gays," Blaine, Adam, Ryan, and our special guest hottie Reed open up about our coming out journeys, emphasizing the crucial step of coming out to ourselves before friends and family. These heartfelt stories are filled with challenges, triumphs, and humor. Get ready to laugh and be inspired as we share our unique experiences. Don't miss the fun game segment and the deep reflections on what it means to come out and live authentically. 🌈✨ Show Notes with...
May 25, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Season 3Ep. 17
Description: Dive into a thought-provoking discussion on the "Peter Pan Syndrome" 🌈 that seems to pervade not just the gay community, but society at large. Join Blaine, Ryan, and Adam as they explore the allure of eternal youth, the balance between fun and responsibility, and the impact of this phenomenon on relationships and personal growth. From circuit parties to life decisions, and a candid look at their own lives, this episode of "Coffee with Gays" Season 3 Episode 16 offers a mix of humor...
Apr 11, 2024•46 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Dive deep into the wild world of gay dating with Adam, Blaine, and Ryan in Season 3, Episode 16 of "Coffee with Gays." From heartfelt breakups to the thrilling chase of new connections, this episode uncovers the raw truths of dating within the gay community. Laugh, cringe, and maybe even shed a tear with us as we share our personal dating stories, advice, and the occasional mishap. Plus, don't miss our taste test of a new caffeinated beverage that's perfect for any time of day check them out at ...
Mar 28, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Season 3Ep. 15
We chat with Ashliegh, who courageously stepped into her truth as a lesbian at 32! 🌟 After a life-changing decision to leave her heterosexual marriage of 8 years, Ashliegh's journey is a powerful testament to finding happiness at any age. 🏳️🌈💖 Join Adam, Blaine, and Ryan for an unfiltered discussion about Ashliegh's first year out, including her vibrant experiences at Pride and navigating new territories in lesbian relationships. 🎉🏳️🌈 She's learned A LOT...we even learned new things! Ex...
Dec 14, 2023•28 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Dive into a candid conversation with Adam, Blaine, and Ryan as they explore the intersection of faith and gay life. From Southern Baptist roots to Catholic conundrums, they're not holding back on their personal journeys and the challenges they've faced. 🤠🙏 Get the real scoop on Jesse Duplantis and Kenneth Copeland's extravagant lifestyles, and find out why Prestonwood Baptist Church's Christmas show stands out from the mega-church crowd. The guys share their unfiltered experiences with LGBT ac...
Dec 06, 2023•45 min•Season 2Ep. 13
Gurl, join us on 'Coffee with Gays' as we spill the tea on social media fakes! 🎉 We're dissecting FaceTune fails, influencer lies, and those 'too perfect' online lives. 🤳✨ From 'Never Have I Ever' to diversity talks, we're keeping it real and hilarious. Ready for some truth bombs? Let's go! 🌟🔍 Episode Highlights: [00:00:12] Unmasking fake social media personas. 📸🤡 [00:01:00] The craze of online feature exaggeration. 🤔💭 [00:01:26] Celebrating our diverse friend circle. 🌈👯♂️ [00:02:42] ...
Nov 15, 2023•48 min•Season 2Ep. 12
Kick-starting Season 2 of "Coffee with Gays," we've revamped our pod and we're here with a fresh look, new artwork, and a mission to break the mold of what a gay podcast can be. Diving into online deception, calling out social media giants and dating apps for spam profiles and catfishing. This season amplifies our authenticity. We'll probe tech companies' role in user safety, need for transparency in content moderation, and delve into the political landscape, focusing on Jeff Jackson, a Democrat...
Oct 11, 2023•36 min
Dive into a chilling exploration of the unsolved drownings in Austin, Texas, and the looming dangers within the world of dating apps. In this captivating episode, we attempt to unearth the truth behind the mysterious drownings the police are calling "accidental" of up to 18 fit, 30-something men in Lady Bird Lake. But how does the digital age exacerbate these fears, and is there a link between these tragedies and platforms like Grindr? 📲 From personal, spine-tingling tales from Adam, Blaine, an...
Aug 23, 2023•34 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Hey Sippers! ☕️🌈 Got your mugs ready? We're diving straight into a not-so-little confession. Yep, a certain incident in Homosassa got slightly tipsy – and it's every bit the glorious chaos you’re picturing! 😂 But we aren’t just here to spill our own beans. We're deep diving into the lively world of Gen Z, and trust us, it's a brew of admiration, confusion, and some serious head-tilts. They’re intense, they’re spirited, and boy, have we got thoughts! 🍵 From the whirlwind journey through pronou...
Aug 17, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 8
What if your family wasn't the one you were born into, but the one you chose? Dive into another steamy cup of "Coffee with Gays" as Blaine, Adam, and Ryan are back to spill the beans on the concept of 'Chosen Family' within the LGBTQ+ community. We count ourselves lucky for having supportive families, but we understand that's not everyone's reality. So, we've built our networks of love and support, our 'chosen families', and we want to share our insights with you. From heartfelt stories (yes, Ad...
Aug 10, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Buckle up, gurs! 🎢 Blaine and his guest co-host and best friend Christopher are taking you on a wild ride through their European escapades. From coining the term "Port-u-Gur" in Portugal to dealing with some less-than-friendly attitudes towards Blaine's Texan Spanish in Madrid, this episode is a linguistic rollercoaster of fun. Sip some coffee ☕ with us in Sitges, Spain 🇪🇸, and get ready for some hearty laughs, cultural conundrums, and a whole lot of tea-spilling 🍵. Let's get this Euro-trip ...
Aug 04, 2023•36 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Join us in this love-filled episode of Coffee With Gays! 🌈☕️ Our co-host Ryan and his now fiancé Bradley recount their enchanting love story that leads up to an unforgettable proposal, complete with a drone mishap! 🚁💥 We also dive into listener feedback, chat about our community's diverse spectrum, and explain the "gay handshake". 🤝 Take a virtual trip with us to the Manatee Pub and embark on our quirky quest for scallops. 📍🌊 And of course, we wrap things up by teasing some exciting weddin...
Jul 20, 2023•56 min•Season 1Ep. 5
We're challenging the status quo and daring to speak out about the journey of being "woke" in the LGBT community. Hear how our day-to-day lives are shaped by stories of mixed showers, morning routines, and Adam's vibrant revelations. Buckle up, as we serve up a fresh brew of thought-provoking discussions, heartwarming anecdotes, and our own experiences in Episode 4 of our series, Coffee With Gays. It's time to have those conversations that matter. We uncover the harsh realities of discrimination...
Jul 12, 2023•54 min•Season 1Ep. 4
Hey fabulous listeners! 🌈☕ We want to start by saying a HUGE thank you for all your amazing feedback on our first two episodes. We've taken it to heart and made some changes that we hope you'll love. No more talking over each other, Ryan's stepping up to the mic, and Blaine and Adam are toning it down (just a smidge!). We've also worked hard to bring more content and clarity to our discussions, and we've got a solid plan for each episode (check out the show notes for all the details!). Now, it'...
Jul 06, 2023•43 min•Season 1Ep. 2
