In this raw and vulnerable episode (my first time actually crying on the podcast), I open up about my recent experience with depression and feeling discomfort with slowness and spaciousness in my life, which was triggering fears around losing my sense of purpose and self-worth if I'm "not doing anything.” Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again! Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy 👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIP As a Co...
Aug 28, 2024•47 min•Season 3Ep. 18
In this 1:1 session I sit with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership . Lena was struggling with codependency, insecurity, and fears around her partner leaving her or cheating which was triggering past traumas. Her goals were to build self-acceptance, heal from past hurts, and develop the ability to set compassionate boundaries in her relationship. 👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Mastermind waitlist 👉🏾 Save 10% on The Membership 👉🏾 Watch the masterclass on Boundaries This is a p...
Aug 21, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Season 3Ep. 17
Here’s the thing that we need to really start understanding: we have spent countless days, months, and years over-identifying and picking apart our mind’s stories, beliefs, and thoughts. In doing so, we have completely neglected our bodies stories which hold the keys to our deepest forms of healing and transformation. In today’s episode I guide the women on the call through a somatic practice where you will take away information and an experience that will illuminate how your body is physically ...
Aug 14, 2024•49 min•Season 3Ep. 16
I recently did a free 3-day immersion where I walked those who signed up through a masterclass on Identifying Codependency, using shadow work and a somatic practice to explore in community. The next two episodes are from this masterclass, and I hope you enjoy the conversations we had as much as I did! What we cover in today’s episode: * What is the mother wound? * What is codependency? * Reflection on close relationships to see where codependency shows up in your life * How to do shadow work for...
Aug 07, 2024•52 min•Season 3Ep. 15
In today’s episode Crystal asks for support on what to do when conflict comes up in her relationships, how self-sabotage has started to show up, and fears around her partner leaving and finding someone better. Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5 👉🏾 Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access t...
Jul 31, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 3Ep. 14
This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses an...
Jul 24, 2024•29 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary. Resources: THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5 👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram 👉🏾 Codependency Alchemy: The Membership...
Jul 17, 2024•53 min•Season 3Ep. 12
In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound. When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and the mother wound within us. I’ll be reading from my book “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Ear...
Jul 10, 2024•28 min•Season 3Ep. 11
In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate! Shadow Work Prompt * “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?) * “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?) Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5 👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram 👉🏾 Codepend...
Jul 03, 2024•44 min•Season 3Ep. 10
Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. * The Codependency Quiz : 9 question...
Jun 26, 2024•36 min•Season 3Ep. 9
I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together. Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5 👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership 👉🏾Join the Codependen...
Jun 19, 2024•29 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship. Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually) Resources: IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾 https://stan.store/alyss...
Jun 12, 2024•46 min•Season 3Ep. 7
This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationship. 👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership Codependency Alchemy Immersio...
Jun 05, 2024•37 min•Season 3Ep. 6
If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership . Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Members...
May 29, 2024•39 min•Season 3Ep. 5
I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden. I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in today’s podcast episode, Marcee was experiencing something very similar. Please keep in mind when liste...
May 22, 2024•46 min•Season 3Ep. 4
For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us. Resources: * Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram * Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to ...
May 15, 2024•40 min•Season 3Ep. 3
When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future? Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode: “If I trust (this person/the good things that are happening), then…?” (what are you afraid will happen?) This is a public episode. If you'd like...
May 08, 2024•46 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of. What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣 Resources: * Join the Codependency ...
May 01, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Season 3Ep. 1
I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2! This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned. Resources: Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prom...
Apr 03, 2024•30 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior. Resources: Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on ...
Mar 27, 2024•31 min•Season 2Ep. 32
What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support? This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency Alchemy Broadc...
Mar 20, 2024•37 min•Season 2Ep. 31
When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. Resources: CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : Subscribe on Substack for we...
Mar 13, 2024•38 min•Season 2Ep. 30
I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today. Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast epis...
Mar 06, 2024•42 min•Season 2Ep. 29
I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love. Resources: Listen to Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy Codependency Alchemy: The Membership : Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episode...
Feb 28, 2024•39 min•Season 2Ep. 29
This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or revi...
Feb 21, 2024•36 min•Season 2Ep. 27
In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life experi...
Feb 14, 2024•34 min•Season 2Ep. 26
In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth. Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger strong reactions. Discover how asking why certain aspects of your personality make you uncomfortable can ...
Feb 07, 2024•14 min•Season 2Ep. 25
In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety. Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety. Self-Regulation and C...
Jan 31, 2024•15 min•Season 2Ep. 24
In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love. Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma. Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly for those who have expe...
Jan 24, 2024•32 min•Season 2Ep. 23
In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck. Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings within challenging experiences. Illuminate the traits you are being invited to embody during moments ...
Jan 17, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 22
