003: Why do I always attract mates who are bad for me?

The most important thing that one can know about building a healthy primary relationship is to realize that the person that is called in is there to help you grow. Usually that person will be a conduit to helping you to see aspects of your personality that could use a bit of improvement. With this in mind, some areas of discomfort and irritation are going to be a natural part of any deep relationship. However, there is a difference between helping each other to grow and creating emotional and physical harm inside a relationship.