One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do’s and don’ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it. Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality. Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante Website: drcamden.com Instagram: @drcamden Book: Recovering From Purity Cultur...
Mar 10, 2025•43 min
If questions about sex lead to questions about God, it’s important that we know and follow Jesus as He really is. Rick Lawrence, author of “Editing Jesus”, joins Juli to discuss how many American Christians make Jesus into an image other than Himself. Guest: Rick Lawrence Rick’s Website: ricklawrence.com Book: Editing Jesus: Confronting the Distorted Faith of the American Church by Rick Lawrence Join our email list! Guide: “3 Reasons Questions About Sex Lead to Questions about God” Timestamps 00...
Mar 03, 2025•41 min
In this special Q&A episode, Juli answers your questions about sex and marriage. You’ll hear answers to questions like, why did God make us sexual when it causes so much pain? Does sex matter in marriage? And, is it possible to be too focused on sex in marriage? Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz Blog: Overcoming Sexual Shame and Fear in Marriage Blog: He...
Feb 24, 2025•40 min
How can women overcome fear and shame around their bodies and embrace the beauty of God’s design for sex? Whether from purity culture, other messages, or poor experiences, many women don’t see their bodies and sex as good or beautiful. Francie Winslow, host of the podcast “Heaven in Your Home” went through her own struggle with this, and joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design. Guest: Francie Winslow Website: franciewinslow.com Instagram: @franciewinslow...
Feb 17, 2025•46 min
When a marriage is in crisis, it can be hard to know what the next step should be. Is divorce the only option? Are there other steps available that couples often miss? Dr. Greg Smalley, Vice President of Marriage and Family Formation at Focus on the Family, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore. Guest: Dr. Greg Smalley Focus on the Family Website Java with Juli: #489 Thinking About Divorce? You Might Want to Listen to This First Java with Juli: #519 Why we Need to be B...
Feb 10, 2025•40 min
It’s reported that 20-30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife and lower-desire husband. This means that while many women may wish their husbands requested less sex, there are also many women who experience the opposite. For the woman who wants her husband to want sex a little more, Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement. Guest: Sheri Mueller, LCPC Sheri’s Website: marriagetrac.com Sheri’s Instagram: @growthtrac Book: I W...
Feb 03, 2025•33 min
What secret are you keeping? Many of us keep secrets to protect ourselves. But secrets also hide us from others. They can prevent us from being fully known and fully loved. Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it’s worth us living in the light. Guest: Jason VanRuler Website: jasonvr.com Instagram: @jason.vanruler Book: Get Past Your Past by Jason VanRuler Java with Juli: #539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It Java with J...
Jan 27, 2025•42 min
Sexual pain makes sex challenging, stressful, and a source of tension rather than a source of pleasure. Sadly, it’s a very present reality for many couples, and one that can quickly erode sexual intimacy for years or even decades. Many women are told to ‘watch porn’, ‘drink wine’, or ‘relax’, with no clear diagnosis found and no real solution given. Today’s guest, Jess Setiz, knows this reality all too well. Now a trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner, Jess struggled through painful sex for...
Jan 20, 2025•39 min
How many men and women consume porn on a regular basis? How common is porn use within the church? How is porn affecting us? Nick Stumbo, Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, unpacks the surprising results of a recent study conducted by Barna on pornography use, and shares potential solutions. Guest: Nick Stumbo, Pure Desire Ministries Website: puredesire.org Instagram: @puredesirepdmi Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Report Java with Juli: #542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church R...
Jan 13, 2025•42 min
What does it take to have good friendships, healthy family relationships, or a strong marriage? John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, has some strong and well-researched ideas about what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever. Guest: Dr. John Van Epp John’s Website: lovethinks.com Book: Endgame: The Church's Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America by John Van Epp and J.P. De Gance Book: Becoming Better Together by John Van Epp Website: ramseries.com Java ...
Jan 06, 2025•1 hr
Talking about sex and sexual issues with your spouse can be intimidating. Dr Corey Allan breaks down why discussing sex can be challenging for married couples, and what husbands and wives can do about it. Corey’s Website: smr.fm Corey’s Instagram: @sexymarriageradio Explore more resources on sex in marriage! Java with Juli: #528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing Java with Juli: #534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive Blog: How To Talk to Your Spouse About Sex Java with...
Dec 30, 2024•48 min
Juli and Hannah answer your questions about sex and singleness in this week’s special Java with Juli episode. Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz Explore resources on Singleness and Dating Check out our online book studies! Partner with Authentic Intimacy— donate today! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness....
Dec 23, 2024•43 min
Raising your kids to love and know Jesus has never been easy, and in a culture saturated with messages about human sexuality, it can feel next to impossible to raise your kids with biblical values and a Christian sexual ethic. How do we effectively disciple our kids? Dr. George Barna, founder of the Barna Group and America’s foremost faith and culture researcher, joins Juli to talk about his new book, “Raising Spiritual Champions”, and what parents can do to equip their kids with a robust faith....
Dec 16, 2024•49 min
How do you know you’ve started menopause? Can you get pregnant during menopause? What happens to your sex drive during menopause? Experts Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS, join Juli to share some crucial information about menopause, options for easing symptoms, and how husbands can be sympathetic supporters at this pivotal moment in a woman’s life. Guests: Dr. Debra Taylor, LMFT and Dr. Michael Sytsma, CST, CPS Debra’s Website: debraltaylortherapy.com Mike’s Website: intim...
Dec 09, 2024•49 min
Was the God of the Old Testament less benevolent than the God of the New Testament? Or are too many of us missing the greater truths and narratives woven into a beautiful, historic text? Dr. Sandra Richter, author of The Epic of Eden, joins Juli to bring a rich and refreshing perspective to women, God, and the Old Testament. Guest: Dr. Sandra Richter Sandra’s Website: linktr.ee/sandralynrichter Sandra’s Instagram: @sandralynrichter Book: The Epic of Eden: A Christian Entry into the Old Testament...
Dec 02, 2024•42 min
What should a pastor with a porn problem do? How should his church respond? Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded to his sin. Garrett’s Instagram: @j.garrett.kell Book: Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God by J. Garrett Kell Donate to Authentic Intimacy on Giving Tuesday! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness....
Nov 25, 2024•44 min
Purity culture taught a lot of unhelpful things and left a lot of questions unanswered for believers. While it’s clear a new approach is needed, it’s challenging to know how to leave legalism behind and teach a true-to-scripture vision of sexuality. Noah Filipiak, the author of Beyond the Battle, joins Juli to share where he sees a need to educate today’s youth, and why he wrote his new book, “Needed Navigation”. Guest: Noah Filipiak Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak Book: Needed Navigati...
Nov 18, 2024•56 min
Knowing what God’s word says about a topic and walking that out in a way that honors Him and dignifies others are two very different things. So how do we move in love and integrity towards friends and loved ones struggling with gender dysphoria? Pastor Sam Ferguson joins Juli to get practical about loving the hearts of hurting people while staying rooted in God’s Word. Guest: Sam Ferguson Book: Does God Care About Gender Identity? By Sam Ferguson SUBMIT A QUESTION FOR THE SHOW! Java with Juli wi...
Nov 11, 2024•45 min
We all experience shame, and for many of us that shame is deeply connected to our sexuality. “Why am I drawn to sinful things?” “Will I ever overcome my addictions?” When it comes to addressing shame, few of us know how to address it effectively, so Curt Thompson, MD, author of “The Soul of Shame”, joins Juli to help explain what it is, where it comes from, and what to do with it. Guest: Curt Thompson, MD Curt’s website: curtthompsonmd.com Curt’s Instagram: @curtthompsonmd Book: The Soul of Sham...
Nov 04, 2024•45 min
buse so often warps our sense of self and our sense of who God is. How do you lose the lies and rediscover your faith? Author and adventurer Ryan George joins Juli to talk about how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past and discovered who God really is. Guest: Ryan George Ryan’s Website: explorience.org Ryan’s Instagram: @ryplane Book: Hurt and Healed by the Church by Ryan George Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness....
Oct 28, 2024•44 min
Why did God design our bodies the way He did? Is our gender more than our bodies? What does it look like to live out our male and femaleness? Dr. Abigail Favale, author of “The Genesis of Gender”, joins Juli to talk about why our bodies matter and how to cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender. Guest: Dr. Abigail Favale Abigail’s website: abigailfavale.wixsite.com/home Book: The Genesis of Gender by Dr. Abigail Favale Learn more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member! Java ...
Oct 21, 2024•44 min
When we struggle with sexual sin, what is God’s ultimate hope for us? Is it that we stop our sexual sin? Or does it go beyond that to addressing our sinful nature and hearts, bringing us to a place of submission and surrender? Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle. Guest: Jackie Hill Perry Book: Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry REGISTER FOR RECLAIM: SURRENDERED SEXUALITY! Learn more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member! Java...
Oct 14, 2024•44 min
How do we root our identities in Christ and help our children do the same? Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director at Fieldstone Counseling, shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same. Guest: Jonathan Holmes Jonathan’s Instagram: @akjonathanholmes Book: Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan Holmes Get more info about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, S...
Oct 07, 2024•49 min
Many men and women experiencing same-sex attraction struggle to imagine they can be loved by God and live a life of real freedom. Is there a future where you can be free and fulfilled? Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, joins Juli to share what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction. Guest: Laurence Koo authenticintimacy.com/reclaim2024 Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness....
Sep 30, 2024•44 min
The vast majority of men didn’t get a sufficient sex education. Besides a handful of condoms and advice to not get girls pregnant, wasn’t there more they needed to know about women, sex, and romance? Sam Jolman, LPC, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up. Guest: Sam Jolman, LPC Sam’s Website: samjolman.com Sam’s Instagram: @samjolman Java with Juli: #275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires Blog: Purity Culture Failed Men To...
Sep 23, 2024•45 min
Female sexuality is complex, with numerous factors weighing into how a woman may feel about sex at any given time. Obstacles run the gamut, from parenting young kids, to demanding jobs, and sexual pain. What about the lesser-explored reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband? Dr. Jennifer Degler joins Juli to share her thoughts and observations. Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com Jennifer on Instagram: @drjenniferdegler Blog:...
Sep 16, 2024•43 min
