Sure woo. What's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama's favorite Baby Mama, Stormy p. And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective. Damn Son, back at it again, Boom, back at it again. And this episode is brought to you by Hose Without Hoodies. It's a very special organization to me because I just decided I want to start it. That's right. I'm sorry. My own organization is going to be called Hose Without Hoodies, you know, because the humanitarian
spirit in me. Okay. It continued to hear stories of these unfortunate women like myself who are single and have to go through another lonely cold season without hoodies, and I say, you know what, I gotta do something about this. Okay. I have to be the change, all right. Michael Jackson said, take a look at yourself and make the change, all right. So yeah, I'm starting a new organization. It's called Hose Without Hoodies, okay, And I actually am accepting donations. Fellas. Please let me
know if you're in the Philadelphia area. I do do pickups or someone from the organization will pick it up. And ladies, if you would like to apply to said organization. Please send me an email inquiries at stormypea dot com. We will help you. Okay, I think that excuse me, it always excuse me so choked up? Oh my god. I think that this is a very serious situation affecting our community. Okay, and I have chosen to do something about it. So yeah, holds about hoodies, I care
listen, man, all that foolishness aside. I got a few things I want to talk to you all about today, and it's certain things I feel like we just need to put to a stop and be real with ourselves. Okay. I know the lulu is the sululu, but at some point, ladies and gentlemen, we gotta be real with ourselves, be fucking for real. Okay, First, ladies, don't kill me, because I know you'all not gonna want to hear a lot of this next segment, but you need
to hear it. Okay, Ladies, we gotta stop saying, you know, the dating pool is trash. You know, we want a man who makes six figures. We want a man who drives this type of car, has this type of house. Well, you know what, Those type of men usually aren't found in the hole in the wall bars that you like to go to every weekend. Yeah, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know. If that's the man you're looking for, I don't think he's gonna be found in a hole in the wall bar every
weekend. And if that's what you like to do, I think we need to be fucking for real, Like, like, hey, the places you like to go, do they sell crab lags? Because those type of men usually don't go to those type of places. Those type of men usually don't go to those type of places. And I'm talking to majorities here. I know sometimes they might want to hang out with the guys, try something different, but I'm talking majorities here, they usually don't. Like, at what
point do we be real with ourselves? And then another thing we have to consider is does your esthetic match that type of man the type of man that you're describing right, Like you know, mister him himself, mister him himself, the type of man that you're describing, right. Are they usually seen with women who have green hair? Are they usually seen with women who have chest tattoos? Are they usually seen with women who have dark skin with blue
eyed contact and listen, hold on real fast though. This isn't me telling you to change your image, to change for a man. I would never tell you to change for a man. That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm telling you to be fucking for real. I'm telling you to make sure you are putting out what you're trying to attract. You're telling me that I keep running to the same type of man. They broke, they bummed, they don't got nothing going for themselves. You dress like you want that
type of man. Like. I feel like the saying is always like, you know, dressed for the job you want, right, And I feel like I'm not saying it correctly because I definitely don't want to put the saying or the phrase out there, or the note out there that you have to change for a man. That's not it. I swear I'm not telling you to change for a man. All I'm saying is to dress and present for
what you want to attract. Girl, like, if you want mister I've been to seventeen countries, dress and carry yourself like you're ready for mister I've been to seventeen countries. Because when you got fingernails all the way down here, HM, hmm. All I'm saying is the men that you be talking about when you see them out in public, or when you see a man like that out in public, who do you usually see them with? Who do you usually see on their arm? You better not say a white woman.
I beat your ass if you say a white woman, That's not what I mean. Damn. What I mean is, technically, even if you do see him with a white woman, sins don't have claws nine inches, okay, cinths don't have purple hair all right. So not even trying to be smart, but that goes across the board. Are you presenting for the type of man that you want? Yes or no? Yes or no? Are you going places that he's going to be at, Like, are you able to even meet the dress code for the type of places that he's going
to be at? Just think about it. And that's not me saying that I'm for everybody, because I know I'm not right. Not everybody likes natural women. Not everybody likes you know, women who wear their natural hair, women who you know, minimum makeup, women who are comfortable with their natural body and don't want to bbl. Everybody's not for everybody, And I understand
that all I'm saying is broaden your horizons. If you want to attract more things, If you feel like you're consistently getting the same type of man, you need to reevaluate and look at yourself and say, why do these type of men feel so comfortable playing in my face? Why do these type of men feel so comfortable approaching me? Why do they feel like I'm a good match for them? Let's start there, all right. Accountability is very important,
ladies and gentlemen. Accountability is very important. Seven. What's wrong baby? What you do? Why he crying? Yeah? Man, accountability is very important. And because accountability is very important, there's some things that I want to discuss as well. I'm not perfect. Nobody walking this world is right, and I'm strong enough and I'm mature enough to admit my faults. One of them. Man, when we stop talking, I will delete every one of your news, but you ain't getting these hoodies back. And I
would say it again, Okay, I would say it again. When we stop talking, I'll delete every one of your news, but baby, you ain't getting these hoodies back. That's it up, Okay, smell the smoke you're burnt. Okay, smell the smoke. You're burnt baby, Baby, and all of them ain't gonna make it to the holes without hoodies organization.
I'ma be really shit if I like them. I'm keeping them, Okay, I want you to know, Okay, And I think that's honestly, when I think about it, that's very noble of for me, okay, because I could keep those videos are you walking around on soft? But no, I'm gonna be a grown up. I'm gonna be mature. I'm gonna be an adult. I'm gonna delete all that. Baby. I would never embarrass you like that. But the cost, because there's a cost, the price. The price is gonna beat them hoodies, baby, And and it don't
stop at the hoodies. The price is gonna beat them hoodies, them T shirts, them boxers, them socks, all at all, at all of that all that is mine now, respectfully, right, And I'm gonna be real with you, and I'm gonna wear them around my new nigga. I don't wear around my new nigga, right, And it's dope because it's gonna be like both of y'all hooking me at the same time. It's gonna be
like both of y'all hugging me at the same time. Listen, Okay, if you don't want to deal with that, then do what you got to do. Make sure you stick around. Because with that sentiment, if your nigga found out that that was your that was your extrass hootie. And since you feel like it's two niggas hugging at the same time, and he told you not to worry anymore, I'll respect what you saw. You know what, that's a very good point based off of how you feel, based how
off of how I feel about two niggas hugging at the same time. Now, y'all know I enjoyed a feeling the two niggas hugging me at the same time. Right, Well, No, that came out crazy. Wow, No I don't. That came out crazy. No, I don't. But I will say to my future by if you don't want me to wear that old niggas stuff, give me some of your new stuff. If you don't, to my future, if you don't want me wearing his stuff, all you gotta do is give me some of your stuff and I throw it away.
You gotta replace it. Give me some of your stuff. Replace it. Bab if you replace it, I won't wear it no more. That's it. I'm putting all of it in the donation. Then I'm not giving it back to him because yeah, regardless it's a dub, he's not giving it back like he's not getting anything back. But you know, yeah, I think that's reasonable. What do you think, Shad? Yeah? Good, Yeah, but we have to lose something for your past relationship. But well, I would, I would, I would. I wouldn't say it
was losing Okay, it's giving something a new home. It is it because it was for you to fully move on from a nigga, I have to give you down my ship. Oh, I'm sorry. This has nothing to do with that nigga. Oh you think I'm keep him stuff because I said, well, that's not it. That's not it. I like comfy clothes and that was a thought on That's not it. Just like yeah, I
just like comfy gold. It's like in case you know once again in future bad If you thought I was keeping his stuff because I still want him, that's not it. I just like comfy clothes. So yeah, that's it. I mean, like I said, I still think that's me being very noble. And if we're talking about replacing. If I'm throwing away three hoodies, baby, you gotta give me three hoodies. I'm throwing away two shirts,
you gotta even me two shirts. If I'm throwing away four pairs of boxers, I need those who in my period or and they comfy, they feel good. You need to give me to it. You have to rent it, rent it. I mean like, I'm like reasonable, you want me to write you an invoice list so that you know you know what you need to be replacing, or like what I'm down for whatever. But yeah, long story short, whatever i'm throwing away, I'm gonna need you to get it back paid, get it back plus one plus two. No,
not plus one or plus two. I'll be reasonable, Just just replace the same monetary amount. I don't know, but then you know, was swear to me. Men have this weird thing where they like to be pleasantly oblivious. Right, So when I said you know, oh, it's like y'are both holding me at the same time. Or when I said, oh, I'm gonna wear my old nigga stuff around my new nigga, right, a lot of the guys was like, oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, Right, But I know for a fact you've been around females who
have on oversized male clothes. Baby, where you think they get those from? But where do you think they get those from? She ain't got no brothers, sweetie. She she ain't seen her dad in five years. Baby, she don't be with her boy cousins like that. Will you think she getting these clothes from? She don't got no fat friends. Where you think she getting these clothes from? State? Stop playing? Stop playing? Stay where you think she getting them from? I think that, baby, we
don't want to know if we could be like our lives. And that's why I said pleasantly oblivious, don't y'all like not knowing it? But it don't stop at the close though, y'all like not knowing when women are talking to other people. Y'all like not knowing when women are going on other dates. Like y'all like being pleasantly oblivious. Right, So one time, I remember, uh, I was talking to this guy, but we're like off and
oning and we're not consistent at all. Right, So at the time, you know, we like weren't having sex though, So we go out to eat and you know, like I said, I'm a gentleman. I pay from time to time. So I open my purse to pay and a condom falls out, and he gets an attitude, and I'm like, well, why do you have an attitude? He was like, because it's fine when I think you're not having sex, but when I see a condom in your
purse, I know there's a possibility of you having sex. And I'm like, okay, well, you know I can have sex without condoms, right, or you know he can bring a condom, right. He's like, yeah, I know, but it's just now that I've seen it, I know it. And I'm like, first of all, I keep a condom all of my persons because safety is very important. Like you ain't gonna hit me with the you got a baby, I do, don't worry about it. Okay, So that's first thing. But the second thing is I'm still
actively not having sex. It's just in case. And I would think that you would be happy that I would be prepared for just in case, but like, no, no, even shy and saying no, no, I understand your I understand your point, but we don't. We don't think things like that. Don't you get you having sex? With up. Yes, y'all, just like being pleasantly oblivious. See what niggas get emotional? You see what they do right active? You see what we turn into active?
Yeah? You see the type of nonsense niggas doing. Yes, Yes, you understand why we don't want to know. It's easy. It don't make sense to me. I don't get it. I don't get it out of one bit. Not to me. Too much information turns the nigga into a bitch. Who y'all? Now, I would like to get into, uh,
this week's do Better Okay? And I feel like this is a new segment that I just made up this week, and this is just where I want to give y'all a few little tips tricks so where you guys can do better okay, not just men, not just females, both of us, where we y'all can do better, right, But for this week's purposes, this week's do Better first goes out to the men, right, And this one, y'all, I feel like I've really been struggling with and I don't
know if it's because I have been being so purposeful with my intentions, with my time and honestly, what my pusky I don't know if it's because I've been so purposeful that this has been getting under my skin so much. But for the love of cheese and crackers, for the love of everything good, okay, for the love of tyrone big ums. All right, don't say anything sexual to me until I say something sexual to you. I know, I know, I know, all right, I know how that sounds.
Listen Kell, Yeah, pro tip. Don't say anything sexual to me until I say something sexual to you. All right. I don't care how fine you are. I don't care what you got going on, bebby. I don't want to hear it, all right. It makes me feel so uncomfortable, and I think it's because I'm very clear with what I'm looking for when I first started dating anyone were when I first started talking, Like, yo,
what you're looking for? This is what I got going on? Right, Bro, When you say something sexual to me, it automatically gives me the ick. All right. It's like, bro, do you know how many people trying to have sex with me? Be different? Try to be my friend, nigga? Like, do you even know that I can do a car? Will? Do you even care? Like? Bro, do you know I love Wales? Talk to me about Wales, like you talking to me about an Orca increases your chances of getting Kouci way more than you
giving me a sexual in you window. I don't care, Like or my mom, you talking to me about orcas increases your chances of being sexual with me than any sexual in the window that you're gonna try to like create in your mind right now. It's not gonna work. It's not gonna work. I don't care. From the bottom of my heart, I don't care, all right, y'all ever seen like all them reals going around like what's your
favorite color red? What's the color you nipples? Like, that's really what they be doing out here, That's really what they be doing out here, like I And you know what's crazy. It's hard because I keep circling back to I can't blame the guys because they're only doing what has worked for them. Ladies. We gotta do better, ladies, we gotta do better. We gotta start checking this at the door, because it has become so calm that it's like, yeah, they just right at your neck with it.
And I also want to say, ladies, I know some of y'all have been so insensitive that y'all have these men thinking, Oh, well, last girl I did that with she told me I was gay. The last girl I didn't, you know, I waited till she said something, she told me I was since Stop that. Stop that. You stop that right now. It's giving trauma. It's giving trauma, okay, and you stop spilling
that trauma on the other people. All right. If you think that any man who doesn't approach you in a sexual manner is you need to go talk to the lady. You messing it up all us out here, all right, you need to go talk to the lady. That's not okay, and it's not cool for me. For me, y'all, now that's just me. I'm gonna say it again. This is just for me. Please don't say nothing. Please don't say nothing sexual to me until I say something sexual
to you. Okay, all these niggas out here trying to fuck me, be different. Be different. That's it that, there's there's no there's nothing else. Just be different. I don't I don't. I don't wanna hear that. Like, bro, ask me how many grapes I can eat in one setting? Okay? The whole bad don't let it beat them cotton candy jawins. I'm on it right, Like, be different, Okay, talk to me about something that doesn't lead to you mentioning your weakness, how large
it is, how many bagshood the broke? Oh, what you do on the weekend. It's like, bro that's crazy. That's it, that's all you got. That's the best conversation you're able to give me, right now. That's the best conversation you're able to give me right now. Ugh? Ugh, gross what knew? It unlocked? New? It unlocked? Gross right now. But as I I want, y'all think I'm beating up on y'all too much, But but I gotta someone on the life said she's right,
everybody is extra freaky, but no freaky qualifications. Baby, baby, you cooking with grease. Now you cook him with grease. Now you're talking to me. You're talking to my spirit and my soul, because that is the one everybody want to talk about how freaky they are, and start all this fly ship what you want? Never mind, never mind, never mind, Because I definitely was about to go. I definitely was about to go on a tangent long story short play with somebody else that's how we're gonna in
that playing somebody else. All right? Oh man, y'all that made me sweat a little bit. I'm a neck, a little moist que q. Yeah, so tell us. I don't want your to think I'm coming down to our on y'all. But I got another one for y'all. I got another, got another place for y'all to do better right now. The first one I was little on the fence about. I might have been by myself. But this, Joe, right here, I think every woman who you're
casually dating feels the same way. I'm not talking about nobody you in a relationship with. I'm talking about just someone you are dating. Every woman you are dating feels the same way about what I'm about to say. Every woman you are dating feels the same way. Baby. Please don't tell me you can't feel nothing with the kind of one. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Okay, I don't care if it's true. Don't tell us. Do not tell a woman you can't feel nothing with the
kindom one. We don't want to hear it. We don't want to hear it. I don't care if it's true. We don't want to hear it, because now in our minds it's like, damn, how many other girls he told us too? Damn when the last time you've been tested? Oh, he's just out here, rolled dog and everybody. It never ends well, it never ends well if we're not locked in. Don't tell me.
Don't tell me you can't feel nothing with the condom one, because guess what, you're really about to not feel nothing because you ain't getting no koochie, and look at you just mess it up for yourself, all right. I do not know not one world where women hear that and be like, oh my god, moist, Oh my god, splash water falls. Never. Never. I do not know one universe in which you tell it to a woman and she's like, oh my god, splash water falls. Never.
We don't want to hear that. Like if you tell me, oh, I can't feel nothing with the condom on, in my mind, I'm like, how many women did this work on previously? How many women did you tell this too? Because your sound is so comfortable to me. You didn't you didn't, you didn't stutter, you didn't quiver in your voice. Cadence didn't change. You said that with your test, big dog? How many women you done said this too? And then and then it's like when you
tell me that, what do you expect me to say? What do you? What do you expect us? You know what? Damn? I ain't know that. Go ahead and take that off. I don't even know why I was shipping, big dog. I don't even know. I don't even know why I was. Don't even take that off. I don't about it. Like, what do y'all want us to say when you say that? Right now? Once again? Am I sitting here saying that the sensation that you have when you're wearing protection and when you aren't in the same No,
I'm not a fool. I know it's different. But I also know that if we're just dating, we're just linking, we're hooking up, and we're already raw dogging. What's left when we get in a relationship. I don't say antal dog, I guess that's it. But stuff, don't don't do
it, don't do it, please don't, please don't. But I'm saying, like this microwave society that we live in, where we don't want to wait for nothing and we just want everything right out the gate, like this is a part of what's ruining us because now we're in this relationship and it's like, where do we go from here adding another person what we might have already done now while we was dating, Like we can't let everything be accessible
to us right away because we have nothing to look for to talk in stage and trying to take your time in the actual stage that matters is yeah, yeah, yeah, I have like a preconceived notion of that person now that you can't get out of your head because it's exactly and you know what's crazy. I really think that's the hardest part for me dating right now. We're living in a society where everything is so instant. I only have to take you on one or two dates before we have sex, and some men don't
even have to take women on dates. I can meet you at a happy hour and we're doing it later on that night, And it's hard for women like myself, who's like, You're like no, like I want a date, I want to be courted, like I want to talk, I want to get to know you, because most of these men out here, it's like yo, I don't gotta do that for these other bitches. So like I gotta do it for you, you know what I mean. I really
think that is the hardest part about dating. And people always be like, oh, you be talking all let's cap on the internet while you still single, because niggas don't usually have to wait. So it's like, why would I wait for you? You know, I don't have to wait, you know, to talk to you a few times on the phone before we go out for a date. Girl, you want to see me tonight or not? No, I don't what the fuck I'm good, you know what I
mean? Like, I don't know, I don't know. It's like I said, I really think, I really think that's the hardest part about dating. Right now. I really can't wait until we get out of this microwave society, the sense of entitlement, the sense of it, you know what, ladies. Now I'm gonna have to get y'all ass real quick. This is where I'm gonna have to come down on y'all, ladies, because these
men are only doing what works for them, right. So at some point we gotta acknowledge, I hate to say it, we are the problem. I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know, I know. I'm not gonna lie. A little bit of throw up came up in the back, like when I said it, I don't think it's a collaborative problem. I'm gonna say. I'm gonna tell you why. Men are only doing what we allow. Men are only doing what is working for them. So if they don't have to show us respect to
get sex, guess who's not gonna show respect to get sex. If they don't have to take us on fancy dates to get sex, or if they don't have to invest in communicating, or if they don't have to apply pressure, why would they do it? No, think about it. I would't y'all to really think about it. If you are a person who doesn't have to go the extra mile, how many of them do you know are actually
going to go three? But that's the thing I'm talking about, like the simple fact that doing that type of stuff is wrong, and you know it's wrong. Like regardless of if women give us sex, because we're doing the wrong thing, the fact that we're still doing wrong things. So if I'm going to a girl and purposely going to her after sex when I know that
she wants a relationship, I'm still wrong. It's just simple fact that you're now enabling enabling my wrong behavior, which I'm fully aware of that is wrong. Like niggas can't say that when you cheat on your girlfriend that you don't know what's wrong. You know it's wrong. So at the end of the day, because she takes you back or nothing, it doesn't negate the fact that you're wrong. Yeah, another nigga in the fact that we're still men and we still have a you have to hit the mark. We hit the
mark. That's what men do. But then of the day, if you're wrong, nigga, you wrong. So, like I said, that's why I think it's a collaborative effort because it's like, if you niggas know that it's wrong, and we know that women are going to are weak for the words that we're going to say, and we're still getting them draws, then it makes me even worse that you're doing it. I think that when I was growing up, my mom always told me you can't control how other people
treat you. You can only control what you allow here. So I think that if we set the bar of this is what it takes to get our body, this is what it takes to get a child out of us. This is what it takes to get a home, a wife, whatever out of us, things will start changing. And like if on a grand scale we're all like, yo, we're not taking that functionit no more. And honestly fellas the same token for y'all. If y'all be like, yo,
we're not taking that function no more. We're not taking y'allut there no more? Guess who going? You know, stop getting saved in her phone as food date. I think all of us really need to take a little bit of accountability. That's a lot, girl, I know, I know, I know. I want us all to be I want us all to be better. I want us all to be better. Shut up, shot, you get on my nerves. All that aside, I really want to focus on what I don't think we should bring into twenty twenty four. We're entering
the last quarter. I feel like we really need to wrap a lot of this shit up. Okay, a lot of it is really getting under my skin. I'm sick of hearing about it. I've given up all right now. For the record, is Sunday, October twenty second, seven o four. So I don't know what might happen by the time this drop Okay, I would hope nothing. So everything is still you know, makes sense. But things I don't want to bring into twenty twenty four. Hell, I
don't even want to bring them into the last quarter. But we're already here, okay, number one, y'all. I don't want to hear no more about Willing Jada. I don't I do want here no more about Will and Jada. I've had enough, all right, I'm getting off this train, and mostly because I don't like what y'all doing the uncle will Okay, keep my uncle name out your fucking mouth. Okay, I've had enough. I
really don't like how you're trying to tarnish my man's saga. Okay, this man is a national hero, all right, vigoratively and literally, y'all. Niggas ain't never seen it, dependentation, y'all don't remember how he put his life on the line to get on that alien ship and travel to the motherboard and save us. Okay, not only did he punch Chris Rock, he also punched the alien. All right, When are we gonna put some respect
on my uncle's name? All tree of y'all? Okay, I hate it here now I can't really Jux aside, though, jokes aside, Right, I hear you yelling at him, and the mic jokes aside, Right, sorry, y'all seven is not behaving, so you probably hear shod yelling at him, whatever the case may be. Jokes aside, Right, A few
hot takes on this whole Will and Jada think O number one. I feel like all this juicy stuff that she dropping from her book, I feel like this is all going to total up to about six pages of her a thousand page book. Like, I think she's just dropping all this stuff to get us interested in the book so that we'll buy it. Kudos to her publicist team, Like whoever her publicist is, they've been working over time. It's like, Yo, drop everything that people will wanna hear, right cause I
ain't gonna hold you. Will Smith came out with a book in twenty twenty one. He had none of this shit in here, Okay, none of it? Right? So I also feel like it's it's funny to go back and look at the thing she says in her book versus the way they like unraveled in real life, for example, like the Oscar slab. Right, when you go back and look at the footage of the slab. She does like roll her eyes and it's visibly irritated when Will Smith calls her his wife,
So like the whole narrative that they've been separated since twenty seventeen. It's kind of giving, it's kind of making sense, right, I don't know. I also think it's funny that on her book tour, now I don't know if this is real. This is just what I saw and like something somebody posted online on her book tour, I didn't see Philadelphia as a stop. I think that's funny. Hell yeah, like you know, uncle Will Cousins from West Philly, Finna roll up and be like, what's up?
What's good? Yeah, Like Philadelphia is a major market. Any major tour that does a nationwide tour, they have to stop in Philadelphia, Like it has to be a stop. The fact that you're not coming. It's given very much, you know better. And I hate that with Jada. You know, I loved everything she was doing with Red Table Talk, and I really I think we all fell in love with this Will and Jada fantasy and
above everything. My only takeaway is that since all this hands dropped, they've been very clear on we're working in our marriage, and I think that's where we just need to leave it a and lead them in twenty twenty three. I don't want to take them into twenty twenty four. All right. Another thing that I don't want to take into twenty twenty four, Dog, I have never not wanted to be in a threesome so bad. I don't care about Blueface, Krishan and Jaden. I don't care, all right, and
I'm not gonna hold you. I just learned Jayden's name today. I've been calling her Stewie because she looks like Stee Griffan. Jayden, that's his first baby mine. See, you didn't know it either. So they had a threesome. Sean, what what I'll be doing? Like stuff? I'll be living Blueface Krashan in his first rade. Mom. They've been in this honestly,
to me, feels like an entanglement with all three of them. They just been swapping juices and swapping profanities and swapping insults and swapping hands, and I'm just sick of it. I want to get off this train. Like right before we started recording, I saw that blue Face proposed to Jaydon, and it's like dog. I don't care how many rings you give this woman. I don't care how big of a ring this you give this woman. Can't nobody tell me you don't love Krashan, You'll be acting the fuck out.
You act like a toddler. You throw tantrums like a toddler when it comes to Krishan not giving you attention and honestly to jayden right and this is like woman and woman like, if you really think that man loves you, you need to go talk to the lady. You really need to go talk to the lady seriously, because a man that loves you wouldn't treat you like
that. You ain't see him in Kashan Bead a few days ago, sis like, and I don't even try to keep up with this shit like it is forced upon me, like between Will and Jada, Blue Face and Krashan, like it is forced upon me, you know what I mean? And the only thing I really got from this is men being your kids' lives, all right, Men being your kids' lives. I won't say especially your daughters, because the way all three of them is acting, it's given very much.
I ain't had no dad growing up, Blue Face especially Okay, it's given very much. I ain't had no daddy around when I was growing up. That's why Wold and out give. It's giving, it's given right, it's given. It's giving very much. I ain't had no daddy around when I was growing up. Like, I am done. I want to get
off this train. Like Fellas, please be in your kids' lives. I've seen daddy issues produce savages and simps, and this has never been a more clear example like being your kids' lives just to do God damn, like y'all be draining me, draining me. I mean, I feel for all the kids involved. I really hope that they get the attention that they need from quote unquote the parents that they have. But yeah, that's just another thing that I don't when to bring into twenty and twenty four. So yeah,
never gonna get to the edible portion of the show. So the edible portion is when I read questions, comments, stories that you got send in. I usually put a prompt up on the day that we record, but if the prompt is too short, or if you have something you want to tell me and I didn't put the prompt up that day, all you have to do is DM me or you can email it to inquiries at stormy p ea dot com. All right, so let's get to some of today's questions.
But first time we get a little dranky drink. Oh shut up, shot, it's hot and I feel like my hair is trying to freeze up on me. I feel like this whole episode. If you're watching on YouTube, you like DM girls stopped touching it here I can't. Okay, So the first question, what is the hardest lesson you had to learn? I don't know if you meant like this year or whatever, but the hardest lesson I had to learn is that these men aren't wasting my time. I am,
and I'm gonna say it again. The hardest lesson I had to learn is that these men didn't waste my time. I did. And the reason I say that is because when I look back, any person who I ever felt like wasted my time, I already knew from the beginning that they weren't my person. Like, if that makes sense, like I already knew or they already told me. I don't want a relationship, I don't want more kids.
My work ethic is trash. Okay, I don't take care of my kids, Like I already knew that these people didn't possess the qualities that my husband was going to So it's like, instead of listening to that, I just want to give them another chance. And I play it myself. I wasted my own time. I kept conversing with them, I kept giving them access to me. Sometimes I even gave them my body. And it's like,
Yo, these people didn't waste my time. I did. And once you start enforcing your standards, your boundaries, and you really pay attention to stuff, pay attention to red flags, like you'll realize like, yo, these people aren't wasting my time. I am like, I will never look at a I don't think I'll ever look at a situation like somebody wasting my time again, because it's the accountability baby, Like that's the I even like
looking back on people who I thought wasting my time. It's not one person who I can point out and be like, damn, if it was a snake, it would have bit me. No, I can point out each time when I saw that they weren't the one for me, and whether it be loneliness, whether it be desperation, whether it be boredness, like I still chose to give them play. Somebody told me that the people that I had in my life died particularly didn't want is a reflection of myself to mouth.
Yeah, and in some shape or form, is a reflection of a bad habit, the way I feel about myself. How much respect I have for myself? Would I think I'm worth? Yeah? I agree. Man, if you keep running the people that are wasting your time, at some point you have to look at it like it's a reflection on yourself. Like should I said, Like what are you doing? The life says appreciate that accountability. Most people know it's a waste. You do like you know it's
a waste, but you you feel like you you know. I think that we have these people who waste our time, or these seat fillers seat fillers as I like to call them. We do this because we're bored. We don't want to be by ourselves. Now, I'm not telling you it's gonna be easy. I'm not telling you it's gonna be fun. But I am gonna tell you're gonna protect your peace, and if that's what you want, you gotta stop wasting your time. That's it. That's it. The next
one, What is your biggest flex. I think my biggest flex is that I have daddy issues, but my son doesn't. Like I think that's one of the things I'm really fucking proud of. Yeah, generational curses broke in my nigga, like because I'm not gonna hold you. Even My mom had daddy issues, and she had a very involved father, but he was one of those strong and silent types, which is very damaging. Okay, But I really like the fact that when I was growing up, I couldn't call
my dad at the drop of a dime. I couldn't count on my dad for shit. He wasn't at any of my major accomplishments, Like I could not rely on him. But my son, my son has Probably I may be a little biased, but he got like the best dad in the world. And I'm not even with this man, and I have no desires to be with this man. Like I just know I let the right one. All I'm saying is, lit's say, if you haven't dad problems, I feel bad for you, son. I got ninety nine problems, but a
baby daddy ain't one. What's up? Like, I I don't know. Like I love the fact that he's a great father, he's a great partner, and we both were able to put ourselves on our feelings and our feelings for each other to the side and be like, yo, he's the most important. Like I really do think that is my biggest flex. You can say whatever you want about me, but you never gonna be able to say anything about my son in the way he is with his father, And I
really do think that's my biggest flex. Like, that's the one thing that I am most proud of, like that I've accomplished thus far. And I don't even know if that would be considered an accomplishment. I just know that is like what I'm definitely most proud of. I don't care how many awards I win. I don't care how many you know, mhmm, yeah, I don't care how many awards I win. I don't care how much money I make. Like, my son is always gonna be good, and I
love that for him. I love that he's going to be able to experience things that I never could. I really do love that for him. So yeah, that's it. This one, isn't it edible? We gonna switch gears real fast. That's enough of that. Simply shit, somebody send us to my baby father so I don't gotta buy him nothing for Power's Day. So this wasn't edible. But this is a question that I had for y'all, and I want y'all to think about it. Right, What would you
do if you had a game night and your girlfriend couldn't read? No? Seriously, like, what would you do if you had a game night and the person you can read? Like and all your friends are there, everybody been drinking, we all live. What would you do if you had a game night and the person you couldn't read? I'm talking about like full finger under all the words, right, I'm talking about like they picked a card up and they sound like old boy from South Park. What would you do?
Baby? What would you do? What would you do? You sound like old boy from traffic Thunder? You made me? What do you gotta do? I'm not gonna hold you all. I would feel betrayed. The whole night is over. The whole night is over, because how did I know this that you could read before we got here? Once again, I'm missing red flags. I missed some major red flags. Okay, Damn, I ain't never noticed that he used to talk to text all the time. Shit shit, all right. I never noticed that my man always want to
use voice notes. I never noticed, like, what would you do? I'm not gonna lie. I'd be like Dave Chappelle, I just flip all the shit over, run scatter. I don't know. I don't know. What would you do? Live says, act like they had too much to drink and send him to the corner to sleep it off. No, because what if they're like, I'm not sleepy. I don't want to sleep. No, they don't say I'm not sleepy. They say I'm good. But I'm good. I'm not even drunk. I ain't even drunk. I'm not
drunk. I ain't even drunk drunken. But what if they're not drunk though? What if they are like barely buzzed and they can't read. You can't even be like, yo, bro, go sleep it off, Yo, bro, go sleep it off. I'm not drunk. What happens. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not. I don't feel bad. I wouldn't feel bad for them not knowing how to read out loud. I would feel bad
for them because my friends about to grind them up. Okay, my friends are about to eat you alive in person, and then they're gonna try around to eat me alive in the groove chats group chat. Worse because it got gifts. I know my friends. My friends wouldn't say nothing. You just hear all of our phones going off ding ding ding ding p ding ding ding ding, and it's all just different gifts of real bad, real bad, real bad. So yeah, that's that's something I want you to think about.
Listen, man, so quick recrap, quick recap. Uh uh, I don't even jock a quick recap Number one. Make sure you guys support my new organization, Hose Without Hoodies. Okay, ladies. If you would like to join our list, please email inquiries at stormypea dot com. Fellas, if you would like to donate, please let me know. I can give you the po box. Please spread it with a little bit of cologne. Make it fancy all right, sleeping in a day or two, make
us feel loved all right. Holds without Hoodies, let's get it next. If you're saying to yourself, you can't find a good man who makes six figures and drives this type of car and lives in this type of house, also act yourself. Do you think that type of man would be at the hole in the wall bar that you go to every weekend? No, well, then change your attitude, change your atmosphere. Okay, And you also have to ask yourself, like, Yo, if I was this man's mom,
would I want him dating a girl like you? Think about it? Think about it, not even net. If you were this man's mom, would you want him dating a girl like you? Like? Would you yes? Or no? Think about it? Next when we break up, I will delete all your nudes, but you ain't getting these clothes back. Next thing, Please stop telling women you can't feel anything with the condom on. It's a non starter. It's going to do you more harm than good.
Please don't say anything sexual to me until I say something sexual to you. Things I don't want to bring into twenty twenty four Will and Jada, Blue Face, Krashan and Jayden. I don't want to do any of it. What would you do if you had a game night and your partner couldn't read out loud? Just let that maridate follow me on the gram at Stormy p p e A at Chocolate Chip and sip and yeah, man, if you don't remember anything, else Remember it's holes out there without hoodies. I love
you, guys, and I see you next week. Piece U