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worry about yourself? Okay, I hope you did not have to endure any of that torture this year. Listen, because that's what it is, all right, shout with your mic. You ain't even on the mic, thank you. So all that aside. Uh, your girl has been working on herself, okay, and not like my usual work on myself where I go to therapy once a week and I forget everything my therapist say when I leave. Okay, I mean like actually working on herself, setting better boundaries, Okay, coming to

new realizations, y'all. I started manifesting, eh, jeez, toxic. I started manifesting. I started this new workbook called Manifesting your Husband. Okay, but to be clear, I am aware that Massion Pajamas ain't looking too good this year. But that's okay. That's okay because if I have to wait to be in Masson pajamas with my forever person and just have to skip another season, then that's okay. That's okay. Can't nobody

hear you? Shot? Thank you? So with all that being said, I've come to a few realizations, a few questions that I've had to ask myself. I wanted short input on as well, because I'm thinking I almost got this shit figured out, y'all. Almost not quite, not all of it, but I almost got the shit figure out. And one of the first things that I really had to ask myself was does the dating pool half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? And I'm gonna say that again.

Like I said, I think I got this shit figured out, y'all, because I was thinking, what's one thing that everybody is complaining about, whether you're male or female. It seems like it always comes down to the same thing. Does the dating pool really half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? Right? And the reason I say that is because we're not talking about individuals I ain't talking about you and the people you go to church with. I ain't talking about

you and the guys you were in balld with. Okay, I ain't talking about you and the girls your group chat. I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about you individually as a person. I'm talking about as a whole. Right, what do we hear people mostly complaining about the guys are going to be saying? Oh, well, you know, she wanted me to pay her rent after three weeks. She wanted me to buy her bag after two text messages. Okay, entitlement, she feels entitled to his money. Right, ladies, what are

you saying all the time? Oh well, he wanted to come over and catch your VAUNI after one date. He wanted me to send him beauty cheeks after three good morning texts. Right, entitlement. You feel entitled to some ass because you took me on a date. Okay, So hear me out. Does the dating pool half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? I think that if we really locked in and got these two things squared away, Like, yo,

it doesn't matter what you buy for a woman. You are not entitled to Cucci ladies, I don't care how nice that man is. If your rent is doing the first, it's gonna be doing the first with or without him. Don't tell him you need to borrow something. Don't do that. Don't do that. So I'm just asking, is it piss in the dating pool or is it entitlement? Right now? If you heard all of that and you still standing ten toes down on nod storming, the dating pool got

pissing it. These niggas ain't shit, these bitches, ain't that a da da da. I feel like we talked about this a few episodes ago, right, And if you still heard all that and you feel like the dating pool still got pissing it, stop going the community pools. Okay, we talked about this. If you think the dating pool has pissed in it, stop going to community pools. Okay, there's there's there's there's nothing. Really, It's not really a lot of conversation we need to have on that, right

And you know, you you know the community pools. I'm talking about the ones that let everybody in the guys being there with socks on in the pool, you know, you know, Okay, the lady behead ladies, ladies be having tracks band aids floating all over the place. It's gross. It's fucking gross. All right, stop going to community pools, people. You need to start going to those gated pools. Okay, the ones you need a wristband to get into. Okay, yeah,

the wristband. They got different color wristbands still, all right, they got a red the red wristband. That mean you got a primary care physician. Okay, you got a mind chart on standby, ready to show if need be. Okay, yes, yes, those are the ones you want to look for your spouse in, look for your serious relationships, and those are the ones that are gonna have the good quality people

in it. All right. They got a yellow ristpan, yellow ristpand okay, those are the ones that come with a therapists. I require a yellow ristpan. Okay, we need all of that. Okay, Blue wristbands. Emotional intelligence very important, very important, very fucking important. Green wrist bands. Okay, that means finances, right, Okay, you got disposable income. All right, these are the restipands that we need. People. Okay, stop going to them community pools.

We need to be at the ones that have a few more guidelines, a few more guidelines, okay, Because you keep going to the pool in the middle of the hood and don't understand why you keep leaving a little bit of hepatitis every time you go. That's why, that's why, that's why every time you go to that pool you leave a little bit of pink eye. It's because it's trash, trash, trash. Okay. And once we decide that we're going to start visiting

better pools, we will have better outcomes. Now. Am I promising you're gonna automatically find your person when you start having better boundaries and going to different pools. No, but at least you'll have more fun swimming. I mean shit, And that's the least, the least we can ask for. Okay,

the least. But I really wanted to get back into this whole entitlement thing, right because I really do feel like that's a large part of what's really messing with the dating pool right now, right And it's like, I think it's two sides of it, right, So like it don't you can you can say and do all the right things, and that person could still not like you. Okay. I feel like a lot of times we had these conversations of oh but I showed up with flowers, I

treated her like a gentleman. Yeah, and she still just don't fucking like you. Bro, It's okay, it's okay, ladies. Oh when I gave him kilchie, Oh but I sucked the deck and he still don't like you. That's your fault. That's your fault. Like, Bro, nobody is entitled to give you anything for anything like are you dumb? Are you okay?

Are you okay? Like? There is no rule bit, no rule book or set of plays that you can say and do and guarantee defining your person like, we also have to factor in chemistry, We have to factor in attraction, We have to factor in I just don't fucking like you, right, And I feel like, for whatever reason, people be trying to shame folks for having their own preferences. Right. I

didn't say prejudice. I said preferences, Okay, because there's a difference, all right, some of y'all be trying to pass all prejudices preferences, and I don't like that. I don't fucking like that. Okay, you No, I'm not even gonna go down the rabbit hole. Okay, you know who you are. I ain't even gonna go down there with y'all, but yeah, man, I just think that these are things that we need to pay attention to. And once we start saying and

standing on these things, what have better outcomes? And all that aside. Even though you're lonely, even though you may be bored, though you're six sitting in the house, want to try these new restaurants, just want some companionship. You still gotta date people you like. I know, I know, yeah, we still got to date people we like. I know. The holiday season is coming up, Auntie hat thanksgiving God to you, didn't she? I know? I know you sort of mentioning pajama picks on black Love Feed and it

got to you, didn't it. I know? I know, I know. But I feel like we still have to have these boundaries of dating, entertaining and giving our time to people that we actually like, because when we don't, we end up hurting people that have done nothing wrong and who are genuinely good people. This is actually how villains stories are made, Okay, Like when you continually entertain people you don't like and they don't understand why they're doing the

right things and just getting these harsh outcomes. This is how you create the fuck boys. This is how you cannot tell me any different. Every fuck boy is actually a hurt boy. Okay, every whole ass fuck girl is actually a hurt girl. Okay. So I feel like we just need to pay attention to those things. M hold on, wait, let me scroll back up, scroll back up, Hold on, one second, one second, one second? Who's that? Workman? Nine zero one zero says, yup, uh, deuce clubs and not

a little bit of hepatitis. Mayam Bird seventeen on one says, hey, Stormy, are you gonna see Wicked? I did today. It was phenomenal. I heard amazing things about Wicked. I did not go see it. I did not have an interesting one to go see it. I know, I know, I know, I know, Miss musical thearter girl doesn't want to see Wicked. No, and I'm probably gonna see it, yeah, but maybe when it like, come on Disney Plus, ain't that a the C movie? Yes? Okay, well I'll see it, but yeah,

that's it. Were you saying ten minutes left or we're ten minutes in? No, it's not so we recorded ten minutes. Oh but I didn't know should I get some money in nurse because you don't never do ten minutes, you don't never do timiduts. Okay, okay, scrap the film. Grow says, I really agree with your fuck boy and girl analogy. They are hurt and unhealed. Hay relationship talk with G's MK Designs one hundred. I love your videos. Thank you so much. I really just be on here saying that

my head, but thank you. I appreciate it. But yeah, a lot of times people be moving in like these asso bitch and top tier nigga energies, but a lot of it really be hurt. A lot of hurt. You can always tell because something just peeks through and just like like, okay, who hurts? You don't start shot said like the white baby mama, And I'm not gonna get into it. Okay, hear me when I say fuck it. Yeah, I'm just gonna say that's one thing. I just say it's one thing, and that's it right now, shout out,

want to fucking grab his mic. I'm just gonna say this one thing and that's it. Just do your research on people, okay, I always say, coming from someone who is actively giving relationship advice on the internet. Don't listen to everyone who gives relationship advice. That's all I'm gonna say. Like me personally, I come on here and we had these conversations. I say, Yo, this is what talking to the lady taught me. Okay, this is what I've reflected

about this week. This is what I've worked on myself on. This is what I've experienced. Right when you start listening to people who don't have that precursor in their message and their hell bent on putting a certain type of man or female down, nine times out of ten they're full of shit. Okay, s I said, nine times out of ten, they got white baby moms. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna do that. All I'm gonna say is sometimes shit be

a little food gayzy. That's saying. That's all saying. That's all. That's all I'm gonna say. I don't know that, man, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, No shade to people with white baby moms who are a little food gayzy. All I'm gonna say is, you know, listen with a grain of salt. Yeah. If it don't apply, I let a fly. But when you hear these people and they do not give the precursor of hey, this is what I worked on myself on, or hey this is what I've talked to my therapist about, or this

is what I've learned through my life coach. And they're just actively spewing, spewing, spewing, hating on a certain type of person. Ticket stop shot Shot. They can't hear you. So yeah, that's that's all I'm gonna say. I hate shot. Blird seventeen on one says, do you think it's too much when you are on a date and someone asks you what are you looking for and you honestly say you are intentionally dating? Because I've gotten pushback on that.

Oh my fucking god. Yes, Okay, hold on this. This is a very important thing, right, and I get this so much it frustrates me. Okay, when I say I am intentionally dating, it does not mean I want to get married tomorrow. Men, why do y'all think that when women say we are intentionally dating, it's like, yo, bro, jot the fuck up, shut up? Okay, why do y'all think when women say we are intentionally dating, we have already put a deposit down on a wedding dress. Okay,

tomorrow we have an appointment at the courthouse. That's not what that means. Intentionally dating means that I'm only giving and partaking in activities, events peoples who align with my goal and are going to get me closer to my goal. So at the end of the day, no, I don't want to come to your house at three am and catch a vibe. Why because I know where that leads pound down. Okay, I'm trying to go to matching pajama

season and wedding menus in town doesn't interest me. So when I say I'm intentionally dating and you're actively giving up events, ideas, dates that show me that you're not really interested in a relationship marriage forever, I'm not interested. Okay, And I don't know why. Y'all really love to spin it like, well, how can we get there if we don't get to know each other. I know that, I

fucking know that. Okay, I understand that. But what I'm saying is, I'm only interested in getting to know people who are going to get me closer to my goal. So if you tell me, I'm saying like I'm just trying to see like, would it be like we can catch Bob, we can hang out for real, for real. I ain't really trying and get too serious, cause you know, like it be sticky out here boy, fuck you, Okay, fuck you. It could be sticky out here for you, But what I'm saying is it's not sticky for me. Right.

The next a woman tells you she is intentionally dating, understand that she's only partiking in people, events, places, and things that get her closer to her goal. Ain't nobody trying to get married tomorrow? Shut up? Shut the fuck up? Okay? Third seventeen on one says yes, stormy scrap the film Groove says, because there is a new catchphrase every month, so we confuse the spuck on the churney phrases of the month. Listen, if intentionally dating is one of them,

don't look at it as a catchy phrase. Look at it as women are actually starting to have better standards and make better decisions. And if that makes it a catchy phrase, good, This is the catchy phrase we need, my guy. Okay, hold on, wait, I'm scrolling, y'all scrolling. Hold on. Studying Improvement eight says, what's your ring? Side. I'm trying to see something. It's a size eight, okay, preferably princess cut invisible setting a double halo. I'm also open to like a pair of shape if that's cool

with you. But yeah, that's it, thank you. In case a marriage minded nigga, I wanted to know, like, shut up, hold on, yo, I'm trying to scroll back down. Wait a second, Wait a second, wait a second. Apollo ten seventeen says, what's your goal story? I'm somebody, fine ass, fit ass wife, Okay, I just ain't found them yet. So like, if it's not getting me closer to that, it's probably not for me. And I'm okay with that. Like that's another thing you have to accept when you're

intentionally dating. Everybody isn't going to be for you, and you have to really be okay with that. Like, yo, I understand the goals and the aspirations we have for our life right now might not fit. That doesn't mean you're a bad person, doesn't mean I'm a bad person. It just means we're not a good fit for one another. And I don't even trip on it no more because I don't expect people to understand my vision if God

didn't give it to him. Okay, So it's like, if we aren't meant to be, we aren't meant to be. You're just not where I am right now, and I'm fine with that. Like I've made peace with that for real, real m. Thank you, Gordon H two two bord to bed, Thank you, Happy Thanksgiving, Gordon H. Deuce club says sound good, but women also misconstrue what that means. If I'm on a date with you, that is my intention to get

to know you and identify more. Okay, So two things can be true, right, So a man can say, yeah, if I'm on a date with you, my intention is to get to know you. Cool, But what's your intention after we get to know each other? Right, Because my intention after we get to know each other is to see if we're a good fit to be in a

relationship and eventually get married. If your intention is just to get to know me to see what I look like when the lights go off, okay, and honestly, I've been in the gym, so when the lights is on for real, for real, right, Like, if your intentions are not for a forever, we're still not a good fit, respectfully, Like I'm just not that's not my goal, you know what I'm saying. So it's like two things can be true.

Like I said, your intention can be to get to know me, But what happens, what's the intention after we get to know each other. That's what has to align, honestly, Mister Ready said, go bord a badge, Thank you so much, baby, thank you, thank you, thank you, go hand two one two six, or a badge? Thank you, freckles. Deuce club said, have you on the fine and fit go hand brought another badge? Thank you, freckles. My future wife right here? Well,

thank you? Which choice? Thank you? Thank you, thank you. So yeah, those are things that, uh, we need to get to a better understanding about. Right, So all that aside, how do we get here? How do we make sure we're pouring into and our intentions are aligning with the right person? Right? I think that every person in this world has a good understanding and knows how to display discernment. But we like to act like we don't. We like to act like we don't. Every person on the world

has a great understanding of discernment. We just like to pretend we don't. And it's fine, but I want you to be real with me, and I'm gonna be real with you when I say, yo, sometimes we like to play stupid. We do. Sometimes we just like to play stupid, right. And the reason I say that is because the same way you can't eat at everybody's house is the same way you can't date and give your time and attention

to everybody. Okay, now, now hear me out when I say this, the same way you don't eat at everybody's house is the same way you can't give your time and attention to everybody. Okay, you understand, and you have discernment. You just becking jews when you want to use it, and it's the same space. So it's cool. I'm guilty of it. You guilty of it. We all knowhing before. It's fine, it's fine, it's a safe space. We're gonna

be cool here. We're gonna be honest. We want to tap in and say yeah, sometimes we like to play stupid, right. And the reason I say that is because you know, you can't eat at everybody's house. Okay. Some people be letting a cat on the kitchen counter, Okay, some people watch their greens in the bathtub, Okay, some people got roaches rowchuys. Okay, you already know you can't eat at everybody's house, So stop acting like you can date everybody. Stop acting like everybody you run into is gonna be

the person for you. You have discernment, Stop acting like you don't. Okay, you know how to make good choices. I know you know how to make good choices. Honestly, when y'all have a pot luck at work, you already know you ain't He and Susan food anybody that got up my kids have palls or any type of shit like that, or they work station cubicle. I'm not eating from your house. I'm not I'm not eating from your house, okay, because I already know you let your kids in the kitchen. Okay,

I can't eat that. I don't want that. I don't want that. I don't want that and don't Okay, So I feel like the ac likeness says greens in the bathtub is crazy. And you know what, in the year twenty twenty four of our Love, in the year twenty twenty four of our Lord, some people are still washing their greens in the bathtub. Okay, slavery is over. Okay, you have to realize you can't wash all the greens at once. Okay, break them apart, and you better have

a separate tub in that sink. Don't just wash them in the sink either, Okay, working apart, wash them separately. And if you don't have the patience to do that, I don't have the patiences to eat at your house. That's it. That's it, that's it. Deuce clubs say, ain't no way I need to see pictures of food being prepared. Ain't nobody's stopping to take pictures of their food. Okay,

you just know some people got it and some people don't. Okay, my bugs Men five says, if you're the one with roaches or the bathtubs, then you can eat at everybody's house. Oh shit, hold on, hold on. You might be onto something. You might be onto something. If you're comfortable eating at everybody's house, you probably have roaches. Or you wash greens in the bathtub, or you let your cat on the counter, you let your dog in the kitchen getting up on

the countertops. You do you do? That makes sense? That would make sense. Why you're okay with it? You might be on something. Hold on, hold on, Rolling Saint Clauds said, my kid, have pause. You know what I'm talking about. The ac lightness, says Greens in the bathtub is crazy, I rob ad on one, says roach Azz. Yeah, man, I think that we like to pretend that we don't have discernment when we really do. And depending on the situation, our discernment is immaculate, okay, top tier, Okay, we are

better than rain Man when making decisions. Okay, depending on the situation, your discernment will change, right, And I'm telling you to apply that same discernment when you're eating at people house to when you're dating. I guarantee you have a better outcome. Guarantee it, Guarantee it. I want to say, like I said, the key is to apply that discernment to all of your life, not just when you're trying to decide if you want to eat at Miss Lorraine house. Okay,

apply that discernment to your whole your whole life. But of that aside. Another part of having discernment. It's also realizing what triggers you, what works for you, and what doesn't, and being okay with that. Right. So, the more time that goes on, I told you I've been doing my

manifesture husband booklet. Okay, you know it's gonna be so crazy if, like, you know, a year from now, like I got my husband and I'm like, yo, I told you I was made in messing my husband, like and if it don't guess what that's okay, and the kids to have both those perspectives, Okay, thank you and thank you? Right yeah, Like I said, it's important to realize what triggers you and things to look out for, right, And I realize certain phrases really get under my skin, like

is it one thing that somebody says to you? And like, ah, fucking bitch, right, hold on because my piece of hair is sticking out, let me put it back in. Okay, great, there is there one phrase that really triggers the fuck out of you because it is for me. And honestly, I feel like maybe it's just me when I say this, but let me know if it's you too. Nobody wants to hear. I can have anybody, but I chose you. Okay, but why waiting' jue bruh. I swear nothing triggers the

shit out of me more than I can show. I could have had anybody, but I choose you, and you up here yelling and blah blah blah blah blah, and you worried about so and so. I could have had anybody, but I chose you, uh by waiting you first of all. Like, I'm confused. Maybe I missed a part of this conversation, but I'm confused. Number one, why wouldn't you you like it here? Right? I thought you trust me because you like it here. I'm confused. If you don't, why the

fuck are you here? What's happening? What's happening? What's fucking happening? Right? A nigga? Tell me I could have had anybody, but I choose you, Like, oh now I'm going to jail Like ah uh Blird seventeen on one says, typically those who say that actually could not have had anyone, but

they want to boost their own ego. I agree. Like most of the times when people say that they actually can't have anyone, they want to It's like, ah, you're right where you're supposed to be, but go off, sis, let me know what you're mad about today, Like ah, like, huh, throw off, I'm gonna let you have your moment. But typically when people say that, they actually can't have who they want to. But I'm gonna let you have your moment. Right, you're right where you want it to be. But I'm

gonna let you have your moment. Go off, go off. I'm here for it. I'm here for it. I'm here for it. Right. That's the first thing. First thing, first thing that automatically comes to my mind is okay, but why wouldn't you? But okay, go off, let's not have you a moment? Right. Secondly is nine times out oftend you're saying that because I have voiced my concerns or something. Right, nine times out oftend you're saying that because I voiced

my concerns on something. And it's like, bro, don't tell me. You can have anybody, but you chose me. Show me, like show me all that means nothing to me. If I'm telling you and voicing my concerns on something, let me know my concerns are valid. Don't automatically shoot down with I can't have anybody, but I chose you. Okay, And Nigga, I'm telling you what I have a problem with. I'm asking how can we compromise to get to a situation where we're both comfortable and your first thought is

I can have anybody, but I chose you. Same nigga the fuck Like I am confused, Like I hate when people try to be little your port of view or make it feel like your concerns aren't valid, Like I brought this to you because I'm trying to work through it. I didn't give you an ultimatum. I voiced my opinion. I voiced my concerns. Like as my partner, your duty, your job, your obligation number one is to make me feel like my concerns are valid. My concerns are heard. Baby,

we really just want to be heard for real. And I don't care how minuscule, how minute, how unimportant it may seem. If I had the courage to bring it to you, it's bothering me address that shit. Like what what Like I am? I am confusus Like me bringing this to you is because I want you to put my spirit at ease. It doesn't matter that you feel

like it's not important to you. I am your partner, like we supposed to have a companionship, a partnership, and it's not feeling like it, my guy, you know what I mean. So it's like don't make me question the position I'm play in your life by downplaying my concerns. Don't like that. Don't like that at all. Right, It's like, yo, if I tell you I'm bothered out, something like made me you feel important. Now on the same token, I'm not gonna go od and be like, yo, unfollow that bitch. Now,

those aren't the type of concerns that I'm bringing. Unless it's somebody used to deal with and she leaving wild shitowing your post. That's a little different. But it's like, yo, nine times out of ten, I'm telling you something that I feel like it's really getting under my skin, and I'm not giving you a ultimatum with it. I'm just saying, like, hey, real fast, I just want to happen because this is bothering me. Is there any way we can get to some type of compromise, like how can we move forward

from this? But like you saying like, oh, BITCHA, ain't that deep. I can have anybody, but I showed you and now you have no one. That's it. That's it. Um hold on, let me scroll back up. Um oh, Roland Saint Cloud said, trying to shame you into submission, trying to shame me into submission. Crazy crazy. Oh no, I cooked the wrong button. Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, guys. My Booksman says, I think that phrase says that in your head, you think you settled for me. I agree,

I agree, I agree one thousand percent. I think if you tell me, if you tell me like I can have anybody, but I chose you, you feel like you settled for me. Is that what it is, because that's what it's giving. I agree one thousand percent, one thousand percent. Hold on, y'all. Sorry, I'm trying to catch up my bad Everybody loves Mouth says, let me have you. Uh g Wegg says you're what I missed everything you late.

Bru Nia Maya says he chose you like ud Yo Workman nine zero one zero says sounds like a narcissist. No other anthony says discernment exists within the capacity of one's own morality. This motherfucker spitting yes. Deuce Club said that's a wild statement, especially as a response it's given. I don't have to address your petty concerns. I agree, like not only is about titty Swington. Hold on, I put lotion on my chest. Shaw that's where I fucked

up today. But no, I agree though, I feel like if you give me that response, it's kind of given, like it's not worth my attention. I don't have to address your pretty concerns like peon, like you know what I mean. I feel. I feel that I feel that legacy Magic says, not the city sweating, I put lotion on my chest show. That's where I fucked up at

I'll be trying to be hydrated. She don't call me and she and sometimes I'll be overdoing it because I like to be like, if you're listening to audio, you probably didn't see what I did, but I'm gonna do it again, right and yeah, that's it. Blurred. Seventeen o one says, how have you been with going outside? So happy that you ask? I haven't next question? All right, guys, So now we're going to get into the edible portion of the show. So the edible portion is where I

read questions and comments that you guys send in. And usually on the day we record, I put a prompt up saying ask me anything. But if you have a question or a story to share or tell on a day that I don't put the prompt up. You can always email me at inquiries at stormypea dot com. And I'm not gonna lie I fucked up, y'all. I forgot

to put the prompt up today. So if you're on the live, feel free to type a question down into the chat or click the question mark right there and put your question in there and we will get into it all right. So, yeah, nobody asked this, But what's on my Christmas list? You say, I gotta get people in a lot of time to type questions. So my Christmas list this year, I just started making it. It is as follows. Number one, I want a fire pit. Okay. I recently bought some porch furniture and I feel like

the best thing to have is a fire pit. So fire pit. A cast iron skillet fourteen inch so I can make that good corn bread. Okay. Yeah, some of y'all don't make your corn bread and any cast iron skillet, so you don't get what I'm saying. But yeah, that honey corn bread, the good kind. Okay, I need a new cast iron skillet. I have one, but I feel like it's too small. So yeah, I put a fourteen inch on my Christmas list this year, and I feel like I need some new gym headphones. Like right now,

I'm using my aarpods and we be having issues. Like the left one right now currently is going out. Yeah, how many of y'all? Left AirPod just currently just dies whenever it wants to, Like you put both of them indicids, but the left one just isn't charging you know what I'm talking about yet? So maybe like some beats or like some over the head airphones headphones, you know, So that will be on my Christmas list. Maybe like a size four day trip to Seashells. Okay, that would definitely

be on my Christmas list. If you haven't heard of Seashells, y'all, let me tell you. This is off the coast of Madagascar. It is so fucking pretty. Like this is definitely one of those things that I randomly stumbled upon on the internet and I want to go so bad, like it is so so so so so so so so beautiful. So yeah, a four day trip to Seahells is definitely on my list. And I'm not gonna lie something is wrong with me because I really just want to go and see the people, like I want to see the skin.

I want to smell them like I want to experience these people. Okay, I know it's weird. Okay, I thought this was a safe space. First of all. Fuck y'all. Okay, I thought this was a safe space. But yeah, I really really really want to go to sea shells. Not lie if you've ever been to seashells automatically gained like four points in my book. All right, so let's uh go back up into some questions. Okay, first one, what

are your thoughts on the friends to lovers trope? So this can be taking a few work a few different ways. So are you saying like people who are put in the friend zone who then become lovers or are you saying like people are platonic friends who eventually become lovers. Either way, I know me personally, all of my platonic friends of the opposite sex are platonic friends because they're fucking trash or they think I'm trash. Like all of my platonic friends that are all of the opposite sex.

We automatically decided, yeah, I don't think this is gonna work. So like we can be friends because I'm not interested in you or you're not interested in me, Like my platonic friends that are male, My male platonic friends. I have seen the way they interacted with women. Maybe I would never. I would fucking never. Okay, So yeah, it

depends on what you're talking about. But for me personally, I definitely think that men and women can be platonic friends because nine times out of ten, one of them is figured out that the other one is trash or not what they're looking for in a partner. So yeah, I think it's a thing. Can we switch into relationships after being Oh my god, do you hear Shot? I'm

so happy. I'm so happy that Shot does not have a mic because his opinion is not valid in this one moment, because the fuck the fuck the fuck the fuck Shot? It's like, Wow, I'm a good dah. Hold on, let me go down to the next one. Uh, next one. Maulbe Lyons said, I seen that Tommy White Ranger swore for you. Oh yeah, baby, But did you get it though? Did you fucking get it right? You saw that Saba, You saw that Saba for me and you thought of the kid. Did you get it for me? Yes? Or no? Like?

What next one? What are your goals or expectations for the New Year, y'all listen, I actually got some fireshit plan for the new year. Twenty twenty five. I'm gonna get heavier into my acting bag. Okay, I've been doing the lightsaber training. I want to give y'all more videos and more content on that. I also started combat training, like I want to take this shit to the next level.

My whole thing is I've always tried to be ahead of what everyone else is doing and just doing what everyone else is doing, and because of my actual interests in the things that I like to do, it just worked out that way. So twenty twenty five, y'all gonna see more fight videos. You're gonna see more fight choreo, You're gonna see more acting. It's gonna be lit. It's up. And yeah, I also want to do more Date outside

the Plate. So I'm not sure if y'all have tapped in or not, but on YouTube, I have a series called Date Outside the Plate. I also have an Instagram page called Date Outside the Plate where I give you date ideas that don't involve food. Now, don't get me wrong, baby, were gonna eat. Okay, we don't eat, but that's not

gonna be the main center of the actual date. So so far, we've done like you know, Longwood Gardens, Eastern State Penitentiary, of Franklin's Mad Scientists Museum, of We've done walking Avan, Franklin, Bridget's Exotic Plant Farm, like a bunch of different like date ideas, and it's not just in Philly, like they're across the country. So yeah, you know, that's definitely something else I want to tap into more for

twenty twenty five. Uh hold on, uh my Bugsman says, what's an acceptable Oh god, what's an acceptable budget for a first date? Social media? It has me feeling like I'm stingy less than two hundred and fifty dollars, baby, baby, baby. Okay, Now, everything ain't for everybody, but for me, I personally don't want you spending more than fifty dollars on our first date. Oh my god, jesz, I fucking pick me? I know, I know, I know, right, I'm actually not a pick me.

I'm just courteous. Okay. My whole thing is if I want you to spend over two hundred and fifty dollars on my first date, that means I expect you to spend it on every woman that you fall or every woman that you encounter, right and realistically, in today's society and market, that's not feasible. Okay. I personally don't want a man who's willing to spend over two hundred and fifty dollars on every first date because in today's market, it's not feasible. Okay, unless you're talking about the top

one percent of men. And I don't care who you are, A majority of your dating history cannot be the top one percent of man, right, Like, it doesn't exist, right. And this is coming from someone who dates the average man, right, And it's like, oh, you don't know because you settle for less and blah blah blah, girl, fuck you. Okay. I feel like, for me personally, I don't want you to spending more than fifty dollars on our first date simply because a it shows me you have discernment and

good investing skills. Also, I don't want you to spend too much on me and feel like you're entitled to anything more than just a first date. I don't want you to spending more than fifty dollars. Let's get some coffee, Let's get some ice cream. Honestly, we only at twenty five for real, for real, I'd rather do that because I don't want you feeling like I owe you a second date, a text back, any fucking thing. If I decide this isn't the move for me, we're good and

we can split admicably right. I don't want you to spend half your rent money on me. I don't want you to feel like you got to show up with a bag take me to a five star thing. Because now it's like, Bro, do I like you? Or do I like the things you're able to expose me to? Do I like you? Or do I like the gifts you bring me? Do I like you? Or do I like the spaces you're able to accompany in? Like? Nah? I want you to know I like you for you stink like. I like your company, I like your time,

I like your conversation. I'm invested on the potential of what we can become. We can go to fancy dates anytime, we can go to a fancy dinner anytime. We'll go on a trip anytime. Maybe you don't even got to pay all the time. What I'm saying is I want to make sure I like you for you, so you spending over fifty dollars on me isn't necessary. And that's no shade to the girls who feel like it is. I'm just saying for me, as a woman who comes with her own I just want to like you, and

that's it. That's it. Hold on, y'all, I'm trying to scroll up. Y'all was fucking go on a hand. Let me give me a second, Give me a second. The Godfather one six ' eight says, well, we all need to go shopping from Maagine Pj's and get some popcorns so we can watch these holiday movies and I can cook. So yeah, we're gonna eat the ac Likeness says thank you. Social media got people's expectations messed up. Deuce Club says

Snap Snap Snap, preach. What's up, Chizzo? The Godfather one six eight says, And we're gonna go to the range and shoot and go to movies combat classes. Uh Exchen Hassani says this. Michael Jayden says, that's dope. J Mo Jam seven three zero says agreed, and going back to these rangers classes. Right. The crazy part is if we're in a first date, we're getting to know each other, we're trying to see if we vibe. We're trying to

see if we want to take this further. Right, the things that you would do that or get to know that person in that aspect, In you don't really need money for a walk along a pond or a lake or a river, right the gym ice cream, like, bro, I can tell a lot about what you get on your Sunday, My nigga, you're getting Jimmy's or all you call them jimmies or sprinkles, like, It's so many things

that go into this, right. So it's like, you don't need to spend a whole bunch of money to figure out if somebody likes you, because if they like you, you don't need a whole bunch of money, right. And I know that certain people are going to tell you like, oh well, I got my own standards and I got my own boundaries. Cool, that's on you. What I'm saying is for me, I want to make sure I like the partner and I don't like the things that they are able to bring, because if I can't provide that

lifestyle of myself, I don't want it. Like it's a difference between having a lifestyle that the both of us, can you know, come together and create? And then there's a difference between the lifestyle that I'm genuinely happy with that I provide on my own. So it's like, at this point, I just need you come into my life and making that much greater by being you. I just need you to be you, Like your money is cool, but I just need you to be you. Like are

you funny? Can you handle my family roasting and shit out you because they all think they're comedians, right? Like? Are you able to put in and partake all these things? Like these are things that are important to me. Mike x Ford says, you're not lying. Deuce Club says, what is it? Jimmy the fuck? You don't know what Jimmy's are? Rainbow or chocolate? My nigga, you don't know what Jimmy's are.

What y'all don't Okay, okay, Sophy, y'all who don't know? Right, when you get ice cream, preferably at the ice cream truck or like an ice cream stand, right, they have sprinkles and Jimmy's they are the same thing. Sprinkles and Jimmy's. Do you want rainbow sprinkles? Do you want chocolate? Sprinkles, or do you want rainbow jimmies? Or do you want rainbow or chocolate jimmies? Like jimmies, I call them Jimmy's what you call them? Shy Jimmy? Yeah? The fuck exactly?

Oh almost nder the live my bad y'all. Deuce Club says, got to ensure the basics are actually liking the person is a basic as it gets, but people skip this step all the time. Deuice Club says, I'm in the Midwest, No Jimmy's here our fast what's up, you lay dog? What's up? The fuck? I know? Right, we gotta start saying out of his name like Mustard our fans. This is why I miss Low, This is why I miss Tower Records, the Wall Sam Goodie Music Store days. Ice

learned a fuck ton about the lady. I agree in Outfits. The next time you come over here a fucking hour into the segment, we're gonna beat your ass. Okay, whose side are you on? Shot? The fact that you are on out there side and not mine, that's good crazy. I hate it here, outfit said, niggas don't do prose no more? You know. Once again, I just want to say,

this is now the questions portion of the show. If you have a question, please type it in the chat or click the question box and type it in the chat. Thank you. Outfit says that part hold on, let me go to the questions. What year did cash money Records take over? What is for the nine nine to two thousand? Alex, Yo, I'm not gonna lie. I really do think I can go on Jeopardy, Like this is probably one of my

secret talents. I do think I can go on Jeopardy, And I think that if I'm not first, I'll definitely be second. I'm not coming in third. Do think I can go on Jeopardy. What is your take on dating multiple people at once or you give time and attention to one person at a time. If more than one, what's one thing that differentiates for you? Okay, So me personally, I don't have a problem of dating more than one person at a time. It's not for me, but I'm

not against it. My only recommendation or suggestion is make sure you can handle dating more than one person at a time. Like sometimes you gotta sit back and check yourself, like, Yo, I can only text two bitches at once. Ladies, Sometimes you have to say to yourself, Like, yo, I can only tell two niggas how my day went every day consistently, so they feel like we're locked in. Like I'm not against dating multiple people at once, but you gotta know

your limits. You have to know your limits. Like you're not able to give time and attention to everyone, baby, this ain't the life for you. And I'm also not against double texting. Okay, I'm gonna copy and paste the same text message and send it to two different niggas, Okay, I'm not against that. I'm not against that. Now. Once again, this isn't the life for me, but I'm not against it, okay, because as long as you're able to give everybody the same time and attention, I don't see a problem. Now,

some people are not good at multitasking. The ADHD gene didn't bless them, so they don't have the qualifications to be able to multitask like that. And if that's not trum ministry, that's okay. Okay, just learn you need to scale back a bit because everything ain't for everybody, right, how long do you eat leftovers? I'm meil prep so a week. I can eat it for a week, all right. I'm not the one to ask that question too, because I'm mail prep if need be, I'm going to eat

leftovers for a long ass time. What color are your tools right now? They're the soft pink that are on my nails. It's very odd question, but okay, here we are. We're getting the questions done. We're getting the questions done. Make sure you guys click the question box, click the question box, put your questions, and I'm reading the questions that are in the questions box right now. Baked mac and cheese or stovetop. I didn't even know Stovetop made

bake maga cheese. I thought they only made stuffing. But if your question was stuffing or baked mac and cheese, I don't know. I ain't supposed to be eating either one of these. Really, it's cut in seasons, so I don't really fucking know. I'm not the right person to access What do I enjoy making? More? Though, I'd rather make stuffing. Stuffing is like I think me and my grandma used to make, So stuffing is definitely like something i'd rather make because it's like sentimental vibes. Right, says

shout out to the feet gang. You can go, you can you can apology. Somebody just called me, but you can go. You can fucking go. I am Sarah l Rac says, I had a question for you like two weeks ago, but I forgot it. Boy. If you know Lulu nine by four said that what color your tools was too freaking turn your hardy down right? A Malbee Lion says, we're gonna have to break all that food off Friday. Who is we? Because I'm cooking. I'm cooking for the family, right but I also have my meal

that I am going to eat. So like, I wasn't joking when I said cutting season starting today. So your girls one sixty five and I'm trying to get down to like a one sixty one fifty five, one hundred fty five pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal. Okay, So yeah, I'm cutting right now. I ain't finna pick out tomorrow. M hmmm, Cubag said, girl, don't you gotta go cook? First of all, I started before I came here. I ain't dumb, Okay, Like I said before, we're recording

this before Thanksgiving, but it's gonna release after Thanksgiving. But I already got my potato salad done, Okay. I already got my greens cut. Okay, you just want a potato salad. First of all, potato salad was the only thing that's done. Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh my god. Outfits as double texting equals energy conservation, thank you? I agree, I agree? Hold we outfits is. I ain't supposed to eat these things anymore? Big Vic got the

Bruce Lee back. Now you think you better than us, shut the fuck up and do yeah. Man, all right, So what do we learn today, y'all? What do we learn? What do we discuss? Uh, let's tap in and recap. Okay, first, I don't think the dating pool has pissing it. I think it has entitlement. And once we get passed that, we're able to move on to bigger and better things. Okay, one of them being we have to acknowledge that it's not the peed that be getting us, it's the pool

that be getting this. A lot of us be swimming in these community pools, and we gotta stop that. Okay, the pools that let the niggas wear socks. Okay, let the bitches have their tracks and band aids s floating all on the top of the pool. Service we got to stop it. We got to stop it. We need to start swimming in pools that have better standards, better boundaries, better qualifications. Go to the pools that have a risk band. Okay, do you go to a therapist? Ristband? Do you have

a primary care physician? Ristband? Are you financially stable? Rispand these are the things we need to give our attention to. And back to this entitlement thing. You know, it doesn't matter if you do all the right things, say all the right things, purchase the right things, give the right amount of kucie. You are not entitled to anybody or anything, or anyone's wallet for that matter. Okay, as long as we understand that, we will have a better time dating. Okay.

A lot of this has to do with discernment, and we all have discernment, no matter what we try to convince ourselves. We all possess a certain level of discernment. And the biggest example of that is, you know, you can't eat at everybody's house. Why because some people watch their greens in the tub. Some people let their cats on the kitchen counter. Okay, some people let their dogs lick the spoon. You know that, you know that you

know you can't eat at everybody house. The same way you can't eat at everybody house is the same way you can't date everybody and give everyone your time and attention. Okay, And the next point I want to make is that don't you ever in your fucking life say I could have anybody, but I choose you. Why wouldn't you, bitch? Okay, let's start there. Why whatens you? Right? But that that phrase never really sits well with me because it's like it's given. You think you settle for me. I hate

that for you. I hate that for you. It's given. You're not aware of all the blessings that I have and I'm able to give, and you're trying to downplay my concerns as if my emotions aren't valid. This is the partnership, baby. Let me know that I care and I matter. Don't tell me you gave anybody but you chose me. Show me, show me that's what I want and that's what I need. The last thing we talked about was, you know, my Christmas is I really want

this fourteen inch cast iron skillet. I'm gonna start an Amazon wishless y'all. Y're gonna give me this cast stron skill it please, thank you and thank you. I also put a fire pit on there and a four nature and C shells. Y'all, it's s E Y C H E L L E S okay. And I'm only saying this because it's actually a really beautiful place. And I probably shouldn't tell y'all because like y'all like to burn it shit out. But it's okay. This is safe place

and we're family. We're gonna share, all right. It's really a dope destination, okay. I also wanted to say this episode is going to drop after Thanksgiving, but I was on Live trying to swap my turkey wings for someone's fried turkey because I never had it before. So next week I'll let you know if I actually got it, and yet i's it. My message is always going to

be the same. Follow me on the gram at Stormy p p e A at chocolate Chip and sip and if you don't remember anything else, please remember my toes are soft pink. I love you, guys, and I see you guys next week.