Embarassing Encore

Woo. What's up, beautiful people? Is your baby mama favorite baby Mama story? P And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective. Damn Son, back at it again, back at it again. Okay, listen. So first I just wanted to tell you this real funny story about what happened on Halloween. So I did end up dressing up oddly enough going out whatever. But the story one to tell y'all is,

y'all bitch just like my son. I know, I know, I know, I didn't know we were there yet, but like girls like my son. And it's important to say girls like my son because he's not into girls or boys yet. And I say that because you know, I'm politically correct. He has spaces to be who he wants to be. But my son is eleven, and we got trigger treating because you know, he's very sheltered. He still plays with toys. We've talked about this before whatever.

So we go out trigger treating and and it's like three little white girls because we go to your retreating in my neighborhood because they got the best candy did. So, like he's walking up the pathway and three little white girls are walking down and the one in the middle stops and goes, ooh right, So now they all start gigging, like hey, right, this nigga zooms by them, and Russia is up the steps to get candy because you know, he got his mind on right, that's what we're focusing on this tunnel

vision out here. Baby. But yeah, it stressed me out because they were like giggling, and I vividly remember giggling with my girlfriends about boys like around that age. And they looked a little bit older than him too. They look like fourteen, So I'm like, but y'all know he tall, So I was just like, ugh, I just couldn't believe that girls like my son. That's weird to me. It's a lot to stick in. So if anybody needs me, I'll be crying in the car. I'll be

stressing about that for a bit. But the story I really want to tell y'all this week, y'all, I'm about to get real vulnerable. I need y'all to make sure this is a safe space because I'm about to tell y'all how I play myself. Right. Long story short, lucky day made me text my ex. Okay, Lucky Day made me text my ex. Okay, So Lucky Day came out with the song this past week. It's called That's You. It's co written by Bruno Mars and a bunch of other phenomenal

people, and it was amazing. Melody is on point, lyrics on point. It had me in my fields, y'all. So basically the song is about him saying, like, you know, he got everything you want in the world right now except for his ex, except for the girl. Right, So I ain't gonna lie did you drop them? Like? Y'all not making it up noise about this fucking song, right, y'all. I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed because, like you know, I'm a thug.

Right, long story short, was like really kidding me? Right? My man said it was just one part. He's like, I've been buying up the world just to make it feel like a home. But I've been numb, so numb, spending every dime, nigga everything I want, but there's only one thing missing in life, and it's you. Right. I know, good good, I know, I know I know. But then he'd be like yo, like and I can't stop reminiscing when we were reliving the moment when you are men fooling me, and some of mine said,

text that nigga, and that's when things went left. Okay. That's that, right there is when things went left. Okay. So long story short, Lucky Day made me text my ex. Okay. So for those of you who don't know, I've been single for about like three years now, like right before the pandemic, like three or four years. Right. So, and this person who I was in a relationship with, we had put some time in, we had known each other for a long time. We

was living together. My son was putting this nigga name on his school work, like this nigga carried my grandfather's casket at his funeral. We went rain shopping like I knew. I knew we were gonna be together forever. Like that's him. I found him, right. But this was before I want to go talk to the lady, okay. And that's really where the problems came in at because when I say this is before I want to go talk to the lady, I was still toxic a shit, y'all. Now,

this is not me saying that he didn't do anything wrong. In this situation and that I fucked everything up. It was some shit he could have changed too. But were talking about accountability. We just told about me right now, Okay. So I may or may not him been a little bit talks together time. Right. I may have told him that I wanted to break up, but I then got angry when he packed a shit up and left to sec toxic. Okay, but this is growth, this is accountability.

This is me saying I'm toxic. Right. Long story short, Let's get back to the present. Let's get back to a lucky day making me text my goddamn X. Right. So I'm on to eat with my son and I'm like, Yo, I gotta tell this ni i' want my family back. I gotta tell this nigga. I gotta tell this nigga, I want my family back. Right. So I texted him. I'm like, hey, can I ask you a quock question? He responds right away, Yeah,

short, what's up? Now? Here's the part that be getting me every time I text this man or every time I send him something on Instagram he responds right away, right, So be supporting my delusion, y'all. So text him like, hey, can ask a cook? Question. He says, yeah, Hey, what's up right? Y'all went off so bad? I went off so bad. I went off so bad. I sent him a picture of Nelly and Ashanti saying can this ever be us or no?

I sent him a picture. I sent him a picture a Nelly and a shanty smelling air of the air, like, Yo, can this ever be us or no? And? If so, what I gotta do to get us there? Oh? I'm so bad. I went out so bad, y'all. The doug and me just died. Yo, Yo, y'all, don't talk about me on a live y'all. Don't do that. Don't do that, don't do that, don't do that. And Trey Focus says, come on man, yo, mister Nursey Jo says yo. Young ste

says you're still in love and it's okay girl yo. Nine seven Vultures says he must be cuffed, right, mister, give your fitness and a bunch of laughing emojis. Eighty says that was thorough fucking Aaron Nash says you shot from half court so Calm Bark says that was cute. King Stu says life too short to be thugging through his feelings be clever. Corey says, Nelly

and a Shanty got people wanted to spend the block. Come on, it's not just Nelly in a Shanti, it's Birdman and Tony Braxton, Summer Walker and Meach. That's not really good on We're gonna take I'm not there actually, but does it spend a block season? Lucky Day released this song Nelly in a Shanty on the Internet, smiling ear to ear, y'all, I gotta I gotta shoot my shot right, I'm not gonna lie Lucky Day.

Lucky Days so fucking toxic Loki because he makes music for bitches who are in this fucking situation right here, like this new song over Deserve, Like he got a bunch of songs that make you want to text your eggs. He got a bunch of songs that make you want to shoot. Lucky Day got a bunch of songs that make you want to shoot. Okay, all right, y'all listen. So I sent him the text, I send him the picture Nelly and a shaky I'm like, Yo, can this ever be us?

And if so, what I gotta do to get us there? Did y'all hear that? Part. Did y'all hear that part? What I gotta do to get us there? Come on accountability? Like, hey, I know that I'm not even the one who sucked all this up. Really, Sean said that was a nigga line. That's a nigga line. That's a nigga line. King Steve says, spinning the block after therapy and healing, hit different. Thank you, hey ft Denny Love from Trinidad and Tobago. Hey hey hey. Leo Fleck says Curry short time. Text says nigga,

I for sure, what's up Troy? All right, y'all? So I send a text right this nigga. This had to be the longest two minutes of my life. This had to be the longest two minutes of my life. He sends back. I'm crying. How long did they wait? Ask me again? In seven years, y'all? It says, I think they went at ten. Right now, I'm human. Smoke is coming out of my ears right because now this nigga trying to play with me. Now you're trying to play with me. You ain't gonna get my time served, bro,

You ain't gonna get my time served. You gonna tell me I gotta wait ten years. You're not gonna give me my time served my cheek, right, Like, y'all, I'm not even gonna parole out here. I gotta start my bid all the way back over. What the fuck? So I'm like, yes, it was ten years, but I really put my four years in. I want my time served, nigga. Right, So this is now the longest five minutes in my life. He says, you got at least four more bucco, yo, yo, yo yo, you

gotta The bucko is really with Sydney. The bucko is with Sydney. Right, So I'm like, all right, man, it's a bunch of laugh any moodies it here. So I'm like, all right, man, listen on a serious tip. I'm like, on a serious tip. I just realized you've never given me a clear no, and for whatever reason, my hopeless romantic ass just be holding on, like fighting a good fight. So like, what's up? This nigga says, I'll see you in twenty twenty seven, mamas, bit a fuck the fuck? This nigga says, I'll

see you in twenty twenty seven, Mamas? Why are you playing with me? Why are you playing with me? You know, I got a gun, right, and I'm just OK. So I put that shit, y'all, y'all, y'all. Right, So now this, some of you might think I went out bad before, But this right here, this is where I went out bad. This next thing right here, this is when I went out bad. Right. This is where I crashed and burned. This is where I crashed and burned. This is where I crashed and burned.

I sent him a screenshot of a text he sent me while we were still together. I sent him a screenshot of a text he sent me while we still was together, and it says, y'all from fuck No, this from actually twenty eighteen. We broke up in twenty nineteen, but we were together before this. So this is a text from twenty eighteen, still in my phone right. It says, this is what he said to me. This is what he said to me, y'all. This is what he said to

me. He said, I love you wholeheartedly and genuinely. We've been around each other for almost a year, and I've never once wanted to be anywhere but by your side. You're an incredible baby. Now where's my fucking son, where's my fucking son, That's what he said to me. Right. So I sit on the screenshot and I'm like, Yo, this could be you. But you want to wait till twenty twenty seven? Fine, fuck you. I'm in the middle finger emoji. Now I'm crashing. I'm crashing

and burning calling MS. It's going down. It's going bad, y'all, y'all. This nigga responds, I'm so proud of you and your growth. Y'all, y'all. Let me hopping alive and see what y'all got to say. All right, Trey Focus says, lol, damn it man, all right, strive. The villain says, not you sent the but you told me you loved me. I did. I did. You said you wanted to get married. You said you wanted me to take out in shuttle ballacy on you. You said I did. I said that, you said I

did? I did? Right? So dark Man seventeen says, I would let you spend the block on me. Honey, see tell that nigga. Uh strength, The villain says, Oh, you was down and out real bad. I thought this was a safe space. I thought this was me being safe and transparent. Clever Corey said, you still have receipts. You know what's crazy, y'all. And this is why I think that this whole situation we playing tricks from my mind. I deleted all this nigga pictures,

I deleted this nigga number. I deleted everything, and for whatever reason, they keep popping back up in my phone. Like I went to my albums, clicked on his space and deleted everything fucking in there, and then like six months later I went back and still was there. This is not the universe giving me claric. This is the universe player on my fucking mind, making me think I need to go talk to the lady again. Like what the fuck? Striped Villain says it is not a safe space. I am

rolling yo yo yo. Trey Focus says, loo oh, this was supposed to be a safe space. Sorry, I'm new here, y'all. Don't gotta do me like that. Okay, so now let's discuss. Okay, long story short. Fuck Lucky day, Okay, Lucky day. If you're watching this, send me some free merch, a T shirt, give me some free tickets to a fucking album release party, a concert or something.

Because you have caused me emotional damage. You have caused me stress, Okay, you have added to my delusion, and yeah, that's the first thing. Second thing, I think the part that was like so confusing for me is because after this we went on texting for another like day and a half, and it wasn't all this like diluted open ended questions. Like at some points he was very clearly like, yo, ha, this is funny. This is how it used to be. I'm like, yo, can I

get some hoodies? He says, yes, what are you willing to trade for it? Like we're having conversations, we're flirting to a sense. So

I'm not like completely in la la land and out here by myself. I know that, right, But I do want to say when I get in situations with this man in particular, it's hard because I be fighting myself, right because it be the girl who still loves him, and then it be me as a healed individual, and nimbitches be in there, like if you book, like they be fighting hardest fuck right, And I'm gonna tell you why at the end of the day, Like, yeah, we're gonna have

a few lasts, were gonna tell a few cool stories, but at the end of the day, that's docksic all right, because if I asked you clearly, hey, I just wanted to know where you're still interested or not and you're not adult enough to say no, or you're not adult enough to say yes. But I don't feel safe enough to continue with you. This is what I need from you. This is where I am in life, This is what I have going on, This is what I'm talking to.

Fuck that nigga, like respectfully, fuck that nigga, right, And I know that I know that the healed me knows that right. And this is where the fight comes in because the girl who's still in love with him is like, okay, bitch, but he didn't say no, okay, hold on go wait wait wait wait, wait, wait wait wait holada wait wait wait, let me dip that real fast. But he didn't say no. He didn't say no, okay, hold on. But remember when he laughed at our joke and made his own jokes. Oh, but remember when he

didn't say stop fucking texting me? Remember when he liked But he's still texting us for like two days in a row after this, So like, bitch, be almost there. And these two, these two, these two, they with my ass they be with my whole ass. But in all actuality, I just would like to circle back to say, at the end of the day, if you asks a person for clarity and they do not provide

clarity, that is your answer. It's a no. It's a fucking no. It's always gonna be a no. And don't let them tell you anything

different. And the crazy part is, I know that sucks. I know it's hard when you still love somebody or you still have feelings for somebody and don't let you like fucking went to therapy and worked on yourself and you actually can visibly see the difference, and people can tell you that they see the difference, because in my mind, a part of me is like, Yo, if our relationship was that good and I was a toxic ass individual, imagine what it can be like when we're better. If I'm better, Imagine

what it can be like if I'm better. Oh my god, we're taking the world over. It's a done, it's a rap. But in all actuality, that's not real. That's not real because the illusions and the love that you have for this person are never going to be obtainable again because you're not that person anymore. And guess what, neither is your partner. I'm not that person and he's not that person anymore. So for all this, I want to say, just like y'all know, tis the season to spend

the block, and y'all not out here by yourself. Okay, Lucky Day had me texting my ex too, all right, and and listen, if you fucked up and you sent your ex attacks or you called your ex, or you did some down bad shit, I want you to know you're welcome over here. Okay, sliding my dms, tell me your stories, tell me what happened this this, this is a safe space, so let's let's

haul it alive. OC two tactical says he may have been trying to protect you from the truth of how he feels because he's because he still cares about you. May not be loved, but reno minutes of friendship may be there. I disagree, because if you were actually my friend, you would know how I feel about you, so you would be adult enough to say, hey, thanks for reaching out. I really enjoyed the time we spent together. For the space I am in my life, I don't see that happening

because guess what when niggas hit me up trying to spend the block. Guess what I say, Hey, thanks for reaching out. I hope you're and your family is doing well. Unfortunately I don't share those feelings. I wish you the best luck on your journey. It's all love, no beef. If you ever need anything, I'm here for you. It's that simple.

It's a part of being a fucking adult, like, and I feel like we need to pay attention to that's a little bit fucking toxic in itself, Like, you don't want to lose access to me, so you don't straight up tell me now, or you're telling me you don't want to hurt my feelings. But in all actuality, if you tell me no, you know what's a fucking dub And I'm never gonna say anything to you again. That's selfish, y'all. Don't think that's selfish a little bit. You don't think

like that's selfish a little bit. And even if that's I'm not saying that's the case here. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying is it costs zero dollars to keep it real. It costs zero dollars to spare someone's feelings and I understand what you're saying that very well, ca and be sure when he's like, yo, I just I fuck with you, so don't wan't hurt your feelings. But you think you leading me on is not hurting my feelings. You think you're not straight up telling me no is

not? Like I'm like, oh yeah, like great great, Like what if I had nothing to work with myself and I was sitting here, What if I started a fucking calendar to count down until twenty twenty seven, because that's what he said, He said he'll send me in twenty twenty seven, remember, Like, what if I really started? But here's the thing. There are women and there are men, and there are people out here who are so delusional they will take that and save it and hold on to it.

And that's how you get stalkers. That's how you get people who are obsessed. That's how you get people who are fucking deranged. When it all letchu oley, it takes two seconds to say, hey, I respect you when I care about you. But it's a no, It's a fucking no. You know what I mean? Trait focus said, I'll slide on your DMS in the Field Ah, y'all get on my nerves. Hold on, let me slide out some um. Clever Corey says, yeah, that's selfish.

Good point comes. Dude says, sounds like you need to listen to the stormy in your head. Bend their homegirl, Rollo Legacy says, oof, heavy shit in here. Jelovi as Jay says, spinning the block with a spear tire, Shut the fuck up. Trey Focus says that's a great response. Aaron Now says, law abiding citizen stuff exactly. Chef Lots of Dell says, man, I can't hear anything you're saying because I'm meseris.

Bye, beauty, Thank you, sweetie, thank you. Trey Focus says, facts, fact, straightforward, mature, respectful communication is the hot, healthiest approach. Well, thank you guys, thanks for providing a safe space. Long story short, Like I said, if you ask somebody for clarity and they don't give it to you, take that as the clarity. Move the fuck on. And I know it's hard, and I know the delusions that you have within your head are one place, but I'm telling you you

need to be another. And yeah, learn from my lessons and don't let lucky. They make you spend a block all that aside on a high note, on the plus side, on a good note, right, y'all, And my husband is on the way. And I know y'all like, well, hold on, bitch, how we how did we get here? Like? Yeah, first you tell us about from bay to block. Yes, it's a love story. But now I'm telling you about my next one. Right. I know I feel it in my chest, in my heart.

Right, I know my husband is on the way because I'm finally at a point where I'm cool being by myself, like I'm at peace being by myself. I know my future husband is on the way because I'm at peace being by myself. And niggas love to fuck up your peace, okay they do and till so yeah, So long story short. I went out for a solo date this past week and usually after my seven you good, don't come over here, okay, come on, come on, come on, come say hi to the people, come on, come on up, Paul,

Well, then get out. If you're not gonna play, get out. See see niggas love disturbing your peace. Just like you said, niggas love disturbing your peace. Striven, move get your big ass go yo, seven yo, let's go. Yes, okay, baby here here Okay, why you do that? Okay, now go see now he leaving, Go ahead, let's go. Come on, seven out niggas love disturbing your piece Like I said, so I just be my point or whatever? What was I talking about? Okay? Yeah, anyway, So here's what happened. I

go off to eat this past week on one of my solo dates. Right now, usually after my solo dates, I've been feeling what a fucking waste of liquor? Right I'm going home all sauceduff. Okay, I didn't preheat the oven for nothing. I preheate the oven for nothing. Okay. I go home and I be all sad, and I'm thinking to myself like, oh my god, so waste the liquor and uh And now you know,

it's fucking holiday season. Depression is real, all right. So like now it's like really a time where I'm like, oh my god, oh what is me? All right? So I go out to eat this particular time. I'm fine, Like I'm walking to my fucking car and shit like a member of the Lollipop gang, and I'm good, like I'm having a good time. Like I was like, oh my god, oysters were good. I'm so happy. Andrew was at the barn and this is one bar I go to a happy hour all the time. And this guy named Andrew.

He be on an ox court and he's white but has a chef's kiss taste of music, like amazing, right, So I was like, oh my god, so happy Andrew was there. He played some of my you know, favorite gems. He played Sam Cook, he played ericap. I do like it's variety and it's a vibe. So I'm like, yo, I'm having a really good time. And I was like, damn, this is cool. This is cool. Seven, stop blacking your nuts. And I want to say, like, why not be having these conversations? When have

you having these conversations? Right? And I'm like talking about being single. I don't like how y'all always think just because a woman is single, it's because you know, she can't get a man. Like, for the record, if it wanted a man, I can make a phone call right now and be in a relationship. That's that's that's not that's easy. But I

think it's important. And I commend all the women, right, I commend all the women who are standing on business and saying like, Yo, this is what I required in a relationship, and I don't mind being single until I get it, and I feel like you should too, like and at the end of the day, most of y'all who'll be commenting and saying little shit like that, if I gave you a chance, you drink my bad

order. So then suck a deck, sucker dick, sucker dck. And I know you do it because I see what y'all be putting in my DMS. So sucker dack sublates like please you know, huh huh huh. So yeah, ma'am. Long story short, shout out to all the women and men who are maintained in the brown streets, standing on business and long story short, I got a ball out this year because next year I'm getting engaged in having a baby. So yeah, that's it. That's it. That

was my story. And yeah, Key to the City says, pause, we think you want to be single to feel empowered. Ew, that's not it at all. The buck Rod the King says, what bar be playing that Neil soul sound like a vibe. I don't want to tell you because I I wanta try to blow my spot up. But I can say go go go down, like Shot said, No, don't tell y'all. Shot, you don't even know where I be going. Oh yeah, shoe, the Negroes haven't found it yet, so I I really, Shot said,

I can't tell Shot, you're not even on a mic. I don't care. Oh my god, Yo, it's crazy. Everybody's like, what bar is it? Alright, We're gonna go to the next topic. Crazy, he said. He says it was a joke, but take your time. It's ugly out there. I know, I know. Oh, C two tactical says, I agree, don't say clever. Corey says, is he d one? Baby? Official? Oh my few your husband? Yeah,

like my future husband. Let me tell about my future husband. Let me talk about him real fans, right, my MEI and me and MI me and my men. Right. So a he want to get married? B Uh. He's intelligent, Uh, maybe even a nerd or loves to learn, right, And I feel like all those aren't the same thing. But you have to be at least one of those things, right, anybody asking

you to be in mensa. But I mean, like nigga, if you is right, you have to like to travel, right, you have to know how to communicate or be emotionally intelligent enough at least be emotionally intelligent enough to tell me when you're not happy or when you would like me to change something within the relationship, because a lot of times people don't say nothing, and then it's just harbor that shit and then it turned into like a pressure

cooker and it ended up with you exploding on me because I fucking left my makeup on a bathroom counter. Like no, no, no, you're actually mad because you know, if something else you just don't feel comfortable telling me, you know. So I want someone who's emotionally intelligent enough to like tell me that, right. I also want someone who's family oriented, but like our family, because like I want like four more kids, and you know, I want to be brady beunching it and shit, mm mm hmmm.

I want someone who is successful or has a planned out career path, right, and yeah, those are my most important things. Yeah, and funny or you'd like to have fun or our views of fun aligned rather, And

I'll say that because we might not think the same shit is funny. But you gotta be under you gotta be able to understand that when I get drunk, I'm gonna knock these doors down and do park or like you gotta you gotta work with me here, but like, yeah, you gotta understand if I get past this level of tipsy, we're going to have a cart real contest. Like ah ah, is that something you can deal with? Is it something you can deal with when sixty years old? Like these are things

that we have to pay attention to. You know what I'm gonna do, this is completely unrelated. When I get home today, I'm gonna write down everything, and I want my partner, and I want you to be a good leader or able to be a good leader. I want you to be a good leader. I want you to be a good leader. I'm not gonna say able. I feel like I have these different lines in the sand for all my other qualifications, don't this one. I wouldn't be able to

trust you to lead because I'm tired. I'm sick of being a fucking boss. I'm gonna be the boss more. Yeah, yeah, like what the fuck? And yeah, I think that's it. And you have to be willing to help me take pictures and record my stuff for content because that's it, that's it. Neil Maya says, Kurt will at sixty is crazy. Uh. Level Short Junior says, your desires are healthy. Sounds like you want a good man at his core, praying he founds you soon, DM

me or address I'm with to sing your T shirt. Joe Starr JC says, Uh, you're not doing crowds like sixty? Yes, I am kung Stu says the key is to be nerdy but still know how to dress like an adult and not like you and Gene unit Yo. You pulling up with a g and a wife beater is crazy. I don't want that. You were absolutely right, You're absolutely right. Listen, and they had the skinny johns. They were showing off the traps. I call trap muscles the fifty

cent muscles because he was the first person I've seen with it. Yeah. P Doula says, can you be what you're asking for? No, because I don't fucking want me like respectfully, Like I don't. I guess I'm assuming you're talking about when it comes to like being emotionally intelligent and being able to communicate and providing a safe space. Yeah, fuck it. I don't

have a problem doing all that. But the problem that I get frequently is that, Okay, men don't often have safe spaces, right, it's not a men out there who ever even had a safe space, Like, men don't have a lot of safe spaces, so especially when it comes to relationships. So the problem that I have is when I'm taking men seriously, a lot of them don't know how to communicate because when they have in the past,

a woman has told them, oh, it's not that deep. I mean, it's given bitch, But okay, like you know what I mean. So I'll be having a hard time because I really have to start over and break down walls that I didn't even build. And when I say I want a man who's able to communicate or have the emotional intelligence to tell me when he's not happy, I really mean that because I'm willing to take the

time to fix it. But I know that a lot of men have gone through things where they haven't had that space, so they don't know it exists. And it's hard. Like I get that, but I also need y'all understand it's even harder for me to find someone who's comfortable doing that. Makes sense, no uh oc two Tactical says, why not Goku or Fajeta they trapped to be trapping? Shut up? Pe Doula says yes, okay. Lavelle Short says I heard someone say recently, write what it is that you

want on a list and then become the list. How much of a list are you right now? Well, I think it's different because the things that I want on my list I don't want to be like or I don't I'm like, for example, travel, Yeah, my list ain't your list because my list ain't. If I put everything that I am on the list, I can figure pop myself for the rest of my life and be happy. Okay, I can masterbate if I was gonna put me on the list. Like. I understand the sentiment, but what I want in a man is

not me. Like I want a man to compliment me. I don't want a man to to be me. That's just not what I want from our relationship. I'm not knocking the people who do yeah, like, I'm not saying I'm not knocking anybody who do that or who wants that. I'm just saying for me. Kung Stu says, add one more thing he has talked to the lady you're fucking right. Okay. Another thing I want to add to that list is I want to make sure we have the same parenting views,

like respectfully, respectfully to us and to our community. Right, ain't gonna be no stop crying before I give you some to cry for. I don't believe in that. I don't believe in it. That's not my parenting style. That's not my parenting style. My parenting style is what's bothering you? Like when I grow up, you know, someone asks you what's going on? It's such and such getting on my nerves and whatever. The adult figure around was was real quick to tell you you don't have no nerves.

First of all, bitch, yes I do. I mean human being. I got plenty of fucking nerves. Okay. So my parents style isn't stop crying. I'm giving semon cry for Okay. My parenting style is do what I say because I said so right. That doesn't work for me because at the end of the day, I'm smart as fuck and I'm inquisitive as fuck. So you know what, my son is smart as fuck and inquisitive as

fuck. And a lot of times I realized our parents was saying, you know, because I said so, because they actually didn't know it was to them. To them, it was a respect thing like because I'm because I'm the boss. They don't. They didn't really have a reason exactly. So for me, that ship just doesn't align with my parenting style. So I can't be with a nigga who're like, yo, do what I'm telling me to do because I said do it, or I'm a beach of ass. Not for me. It's just not for me, you know. And wow,

that's so crazy, cold summer hot. When said this is why you're still single. Wow, that's crazy. I don't know at which way you meant that, but in all actuality it could be. And that's fine. And if that's the reason, that's fine. King Payne says, you have kids. I have one child. He's eleven, right, but the same

things apply. He has a safe space if he wants to vent about something like right now, my man will come home from school and be like, hey, Mommy, today I didn't have a good day because here's why. And I'll sit and I'll let him get all that shit out because the kids who don't have that outlet, they tear your fucking house up for no reason. Okay, they go to school the next day and they're bullying other kids

because they don't know how to express their emotions. Okay, they are fucking mean to the bus drivers, all right, they fucking trip the crossing guards. Okay. When you don't provide your kids and outlet for their emotions, their emotions come out sideways, and sometimes it comes out upside another kid here, Okay, maybe even a teacher. All right. So for me, that's just how I move. I'm not saying it has to be for everyone.

I'm not saying it works for everyone. I'm just saying that's how I moved, that's how many Yeah. Yeah, Like, I'm not saying, you know, like I'm one of those moms who are like, oh, I'm my mom, I'm my kid's friend, I'm a kid's friend. I'm not saying that that's not what it is at all. There's very much still a line of authority between us. But my man has a safe space. Like the other day, my man came home complaining that, you know,

him and his friends weren't gonna be friends again forever. They're broken up, not gonna lie. I feel good about it. My man came home and he wanted to tell me, fuck y'all, I don't care. My man was going through something emotionally and he felt safe enough to come home and tell me it's mammy. Okay. How how many rod the king says my man

come home from school? You consider him the man of the house. So I'm want to say, respectfully, I can tell you're new here, okay, because one of the main points that I drive home is that I don't believe in calling your son your king or whatever. Right when I say my man, that's like me saying my nigga. Okay. But I can tell you're new here, so I don't I don't take that against you. I'm not one of those moms. My son is not the king of the house. My son is my son. I am the queen. He is the

prince. That man number is saved on my phone's sweet Prince, because that's exactly what it is. I'm giving him space to have his childhood. I don't treat my son like he's my best friend. I don't treat my son like he's my man. That's not it. I'm not coming at you, and I'm not saying no with disrespect. I'm just saying I can tell you're new here because you don't know, and it's okay, that's fine. Hopefully you'll feel comfortable here and decide to stick around and pick up on some more

things. Okay, huh no, No, I'm just saying like I feel it, trust me, King Cressay, she's saying my man as in my man's niggas beware No, no, no, not like that, like not not in the Rogers. I'm sorry. How much time we gotta laugh? Yeses alright, So I just wanna get this one little point off before we go to the segment three, right, I've shot shut the fuck up. So I know. I know it's Spend the Block season. I know matching with jama season is coming up. I know we're all in our fields,

right. I hate this for us, We're all in our fields. Right, But I wanna say one thing right, stop going to the internet with all your problems. Right. A therapist is very b official. Okay, Get you a close circle, all right, Get you a therapist. Get you someone you can talk too safely. Right with the unbiased opinion, because when y'all pop up on the internet with do men still? Do women still? Yes? They don't like you. Okay, Yes, that person just

doesn't like you. Stop it. This has to stop, all right, I can't all right. The Internet is supposed to be for fun when y'all be on here telling us about how the person you're dating ain't ship, ain't doing shit for you, got you out here looking stupid, cheating on you, got a baby on the way. She don't come, no doubt, no, please please, Okay, we've had enough. We've had enough. I don't want, I don't, I don't, I don't hired. Are y'all tired? Are y'all tired because I'm tired, Like I don't know.

Like the next time you find yourself wanting to put on al Gore's Internet, do men still or do women still? I want you to think Stormy told me, yes, I'm not gonna put that. She told me, yes, I'm not gonna put that. She told me, yes, they do. And that should be my indication that this person doesn't like me or I'm not gonna say this person is like you. That should be your indication that this isn't your person. Yeah, because if it was, you wouldn't be

asking these questions, you know what I mean? Just go where you're celebrated, not tolerated, right, because like a lot of times, we be entertaining people who view us as an option but not the only option. I'm hopeless romantic. I can't break that shit. So regardless how I feel, Like dre P said, Stormy taping a trip Fontaine live, this niggas hilarious. I can't wait to see if it's still a going on. What I'm done here? I uh, where are you living at? I uh,

I don't know. Long story short, just huh king Stu says, that's it. All those lists and all that are from people who refuse to take accountability. I agree, I'm not mad at it. I'm not mad at it man. Long Yeah, Like I said, I just wanna circle back to go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated. And that's it, all right, guys, All that aside, let's get into the edible portion

of the show. So the edible portion is when I read questions and stories that you guys sin in, and on the day that we record, I always put up a prompt and if whatever you have to sen in is too long to fit in the prompt, you could always d M me or you can email me at inquiries at stormy Pea dot pa. All Right, so y'all, can I just say when y'all be like putting questions in? Right, y'all know what's other questions other than like are you single? When can

I take you out? Are you single? When can I take you out? And it's that thing, bald my worn of mic shot on a mic like asking me stuff like if I put your left toe in my mouth, will the right one wiggle? Asking like asking me stuff like you know, is it really pink? Though? Like are you single? I just want to throw back to are you single? Because that's right. I just want

y'all know what's other questions? I respect it, but it's hard for me to answer the ones that don't require answer, especially if I've answered them multiple times, not like about is it bald? I'm not talking about that part. I'm talking about like am I single? Like really? I post the promp on my solo Instagram, my podcast instagram, my solo Facebook, and then my podcast Facebook, right, and I really get seventy percent? Are

you single? Seventy percent? Like seriously, ax Shot. I went through the answers that y'all gave me today with him, and he was like, what the fuck is wrong with people? I don't know? I don't know. I don't know right, and I would really love to know. Like when y'all ask are you single for? What? What the fuck are is this? You shooting your shot? Are you shooting your shot? Like?

What happens after this? What happens after this? Now I'm wrong if I say no, me and your mother in a committed relationship, Now I'm a bad guy? How how so? Yeah, just just want to say, you know, for next week and the weeks afterwards, please come with something other than are you single? Right? Okay? So first question, Good

guys and nine to five guys, why do we finish last? And I wanta trying to tap in on a live you know, maybe you maybe you can help someone, maybe you can save a soul today, provide some type of insight. I don't know it all. I don't pretend to know it all. I'm just giving you you know how I feel, what I've learned along this journey we've called life. So I want to ask again, it says, Good guys and nine to five guys, why do we finish last? Good guys and nine to five Guys, why do we finish last?

I'm you're real with y'all because y'all going after girls that are out of your league. Okay, no, no, I take that back, not out of your league, girls whose values don't align with yours, right, because

I I think it's a difference. It's definitely a difference. Because if you're going after a woman whose values are vain, meaning what you look like, how much you have, what you can provide, you know where you are in life on the Social Total poll, they don't give a fuck you a good guy, right, Like, they don't care you got a good heart, my nigga. If you're going after a woman whose main goal in life is to be a basketball wife, they don't give a fuck that you donate

to charity, my nigga. They don't care that you work or nine to five of your respectable man. It's nothing wrong with that. It's commendable. I love it. And there are plenty of the women out here who you who will who are searching for you. But if your hell bent on finding a baddy with nine inch long fingernails, maybe you're not gonna be happy, cause nine times out of ten, they aren't looking for a guy with a good heart, who's working at nine to five respectfully, Respectfully, this is

no shade towards the baddies. This is no shades towards the good guys. I'm just saying, may it make sense? Right? Like? Can we be fucking for real? Is that a situation where we can say be fucking for real? Because if you're going after women who are solely looking for a man who drives this type of car, lives in this type of house, has this type of credit score, and can do this type of beneficial things for her sins don't give a fuck that you go to church on Sunday.

She don't care that you are a good person with a good heart and you're working nine to five and you take care of your grandmam. She don't care about that. That doesn't align with her values. And that's not to say she's wrong or you're wrong. All I'm saying is you're finishing last because you're going after people that don't have the same values. ISS, So let's step in with a live king. Stu says, if she got her ass out in every ig pick for validation. E Trey Focus says, gotta know and

understand who you're shooting at. I agree. You gotta know and understand who you're shooting at. You gotta know and understand who you're shooting at. I agree. Uh big Harv eight O two three says most women care too much about looks and money, so not too many good women out there. I don't agree. I don't agree. It's plenty of good women out there.

You just gotta pay attention to who you going after. Like, if you're going after someone who is clearly into her, who's clear into her appearance, she's very vain, maybe even shallow, nine times out of ten, she's also looking for somebody who is attractive and shallow, or somebody who has a lot of money. So you and you're nine five and gonna cut it,

you know what I mean. If you're going after someone who's very into her appearance and who's a baddy, who's a social media batty, nine times out of ten, she ain't looking for somebody who's working at nine to five with a good heart. She's worried about somebody who can do for her, who can provide for her. And it's not to say you don't deserve that, That's not what I'm saying. At all. There are some non there are some social media baddies who are looking for a nice man like you. The

numbers are significantly lower, but they do exist. They exist, They exist for sure for sure. Hold on, I'm trying to swipe dout my bag, y'all comes do? Said? Is she arguing in the shade room comments? Ah ah, TI's true, tis true? Clever Corey says Stormy out hear her feelings and crushing dreams today. No, I'm not. I'm saying, be fucking for real, Okay, be fucking for real. King Chris says, Well, first off, you can work a nine to five and

not be a good guy. This is very true, right. I don't want y'all to think that just because you work a nine to five and you don't cheat on your girlfriend, if you have a girlfriend, that you're a good person. That's not it. That's not it. Because you're also mean it spuck to a waiter whenever we go out. Okay, you also don't know how to handle your liquor. As soon as you have a few SIPs

of hiney, you're asking what nigga's looking at all? Right, just because you're working nine to five does not mean you're a good guy, my guy, Okay, Like it's other things that go into that, like you talking about all are working nine to five. I'm a good person. Yeah, but you also don't have a PCP. You haven't had a checkup, and I don't know how long you just wait till the girl come back and tell you where her results are and you just take that as your results. I

know, I know. Just because you're working nine of five, that doesn't mean you're a good guy. Not saying this is to you who asks this question. I'm not saying that at all. I'm not saying that to the person who asks this question. I'm just saying, doesn't mean you're a good guy. That's it. That's it, that's it. Kung Stu says, I'll take the regular cute girl that is funny as shit over a main chick any day. Amen. Amen, any don't start with me? Okay,

don't you do it? Don't you do it? All right? Any you got a cursing out coming to you anyway? He No, I love any guys. I'm joking. I'm joking. Lavelle Short says, good guys sometimes show up good, but don't remain the way they started. So it's not that they finished last. They started first and couldn't sustain O. This nig good is sitting because sometimes y'all be faking. Sometimes y'all be faking. Sometimes y'all be faking. This is a safe space, and I can say sometimes

y'all be faking. Like y'all don't really care about the things y'all say. Y'all be carried about like you don't really want to go pick some flowers with me on a Sunday afternoon. You don't really want to sit through first and second service for church with me. You don't really want to do these things. You're only doing it to move up to them. Pool. I'm not love, I'm not dumb, You're not low. I know, right, Okay, so hold on, I'm trying to swipe down um. Okay,

next question, Oh y'all, this one spin me for a loop. Why old pussy egg brand new when it's been a minute, Like I got a re audition for the part I already had. I'm gonna read it. I'm gonna read it again. Y'all please step in on a live because I'm so curious to hear what y'all have to say, this person says, why old pussy egg brand new when it's been a minute, like I got a re audition for the part I already had. Yes, the fuck you do? Okay, I don't know who is there of this, but yes, the

fuck you. You don't get grandfather, then okay, you don't get time served, No you don't. You gotta start over, okay, Yeah, whoa, whoa, whoa. That was a different situation. That was a different situation. That sitution. When I was talking about me, I was talking about being in love, okay, right now, he talking about just a chick. He was hitting. Okay for me, if you're yo shit, I said, what's love got to do with it? Why he eat

me up like that? Y'all? What I'm saying is for me, if you're just a spot on the roster, like we're not dating with the intentions, we're just hooking up from time to time. If you're just a spot on the roster, and you dip on me for a good six months before that six months that you dipped on me, Jamal been playing in his park. He been consistent. He'd been taking me out on dates. We've been hanging out, like he been making me feel appreciated. You think you just

gonna come back in six months later and hop him fun of Jamal. That's not fair to Jamal. Who's speaking up for Jamal? Okay, all I'm saying is that's not fair to Jamal? Like am I tripping? Big Harv eight O two three says, my stroke is still stroking like it was, So I get the part automatically. No, you don't king. Stu says, pussy might have upgrades, might have bluetooth. What I'm hollering, I'm hollering. Dre B says that means you ain't doing it like you think you

are. Ooh, Trey Focus says, wait ask it again. Clever Corey says, who'll be asking these questions? Yo? These are real questions. And if you don't believe me, act shot because I just showed shot the questions be sending it. Okay, I don't read all of them, but I read the ones that I think are funny. Here that are interesting, Big Harve two three, No, I read that one already. Hit my bad. I'm scrolling back down, y'all, d ride through and before it

says the irony of it all? Get that re edition? Ready, Bee Now, for the record, I just wanted to let me just okay, I'm gonna stick a pen of this and I'm gon sit back around. Hold one second, let me just let me just take my little piece cause y'all trying to eat me up right. So, for the record, when I sent that nigga, that picture of Nelly and Ashanti, and I said, could this ever be us? Again? When I sent that picture, I immediately added after and if so, what I gotta do to get there?

Okay, which means I wasn't expecting to come back in and be grandfather. And I'm trying to earn my spot. I'm trying to knock Jamal off the list. Not Jamal, that's crazy. I'm trying to. I'm trying to. I'm trying to. I'm trying to not Jazzmin off the list. I'm trying to take Jasmine spot, if that makes sense. So even I am willing to say, like, yo, what I gotta do to get back there? You who taking a six month sabbatical if he was dating anybody,

Yo, that's crazy, that's crazy. If you want a live Shad just said you took three year sabbatical. Did you ask that man? If he was dating anybody, y'all. I just realized I didn't ask him if he was dating anybody. I didn't ask him if he was dating anybody. What if he got a girlfriend? What if he got a girlfriend. If you're just now tapping into the live, I was talking about how at the beginning of the show, I was saying, how I spent the block on my ex, and I did not ask, at not one point, if he

had a girlfriend. But no, fuck that because he should have said respectfully, no, since I got a girlfriend, yes or no, yes or no. I feel like if he does have it, if he is dating somebody, if it is a jasmine, if it is a top three, top one, you're taking real serious. When I said, could this ever be els? What I gotta do to get there, you should have said, no, I'm seeing somebody that's respectful, which means he's a toxic one a game like I said, seven seven, stop looking at nuts. I

can hear you. Yeah, so that's it. Uh. Trey Focus says, subconsciously, you said fuck that bitch. Big harv A O two three says yeah, a girlfriend will blocking shot strife. The villain says, it ain't your business. True true. King Cres says, what nigga gonna say that one who has respect? I would hope, I would hope. King Stu says exactly, he definitely got a girl. He just went through the door and left it open. Kamar eighty two says, what did I miss?

You gotta catch the whole show in the morning. I'm not fucking I'm not going through all of it again. Dre B says, Nah, you can't hellosault trying to spend the block out. Faz you'r. D Rop three one four says Draft Class twenty twenty seven. It's saw you y'all don't love me? And I thought this was the same space, but it's not. Y'all don't love me twenty twenty seven. One y'all see me pop up with

this ring. Don't say nothing, just fucking donate to the calls. LaBelle Short Junior says, but most men have to ask if you are dating before they can ask if they can come back. Isn't that kind of a double standard. It's not a double standard because I said, can this be us? And if so, tell me how if it can't, just say no, one can't be us. If you're dating someone seriously say no, one

can't be us like I don't think. Hmmm, big harv a' two three says you might have you might make him lead the one he with and start a new relationship with you. I'm gonna block you. I'm about the block you were going to the next question. We went to the next question cause y'all, I thought I thought this was the same space, and every day you'll remind me it's not. So the next one a short guy with money or tall guy with no personality? And I'm gonna read it again, ladies.

I don't know if a I don't know if a lot of ladies in here. But my next question, phyllis if you're in a live I'll ask you a question. Uh you know a short girl? Well, I know that doesn't imply now I feel like it's just a girl question. I'm sorry, sorry, So, short guy with money or tall guy with personality? Hm? Hmmm, ladies, what should think a short guy with money or tall guy with personality? Well, spoiler alert, most tall guys don't have

personality. Okay, hey, okay, no, no, no, hold on, hear me out though, hear me out there, hear me hear me out hear me out, y'all ain't never seen that video. When a girl be like, oh my god, what do you like to do? And it guy'll be like, I'm six two. You'll never saw that video, and it gotta be like six feet Oh my god, what do you like to do on the weekends? Six two? Oh? Okay? Well do you like to play basketball? I'm six two? Okay? What's your

favorite food? Six too? Like for some tall men, that is their personality. Being tall is their personality, like, oh my god, it's it's it's so nice outside. What did you do today? Six too? Nigga? What what? Oh? Okay, that's dope. What was your major in school? Six too? What the fuck? Hello? Is this thing on? Like I don't I don't know, I don't know if you fellas if you don't believe me, asks a woman and she'll tell you. Some tall men, being tall is their personality like that said, like,

oh my god, you watch Frick and Morty six too, nigga? What the is going on here? Okay? Like? How how? How? How? How long? Story short? The answer is neither for four hundred allots next one uh m hmm. You can travel anywhere through time and space. So where would you go? Take some time think about it at yourself. You can travel anywhere through time and space, So where would you go?

You know what's crazy? I would want to go back in time, but all the places I want to go got slavery, Like I just would have a good time. Like I want to go back in time, but I wouldn't have fun because I'm black, y'all, God like yo, I want to go to the Sailing witch Trials, but I fucking be on trial with Tabitha and shit, if you're in the Sailing witch trous that makes it. If not, you have no what idea And I'm like, w that's that's right, right, or like I'm not gonna lie. I would want

to go back to like Monticello, Thomas Jefferson plantation. I want to see Sally Ymmon's like I want to see if she really was a bad bitch. I want to see. I want to see Aye. I want to see, But I can't go without ending up as one of Sally Yumman's bad bitches working in the house. Uh. It depends what type of here it is. If my tennis a little darker, I might be in the field, you know, but in a way like I i'd probably or maybe a breeder. I could be a breeder. I would be I could be a breeder.

Like, Okay, this is gonna sound really fucked up, and I know it is. But I think that during slavery, my hey seven, I think that during slavery, my family was probably like wet nurses because we were all breastfeed for a really long times, like literally I could produce breastmoke till my son was like eight. I think we were all wet nurses. Like I shouldn't have grabbed my boobs like that, Okay, yeah, or like I don't know, like all the police I want to go, would

it be sucked because I'm black? Like or I want to go to Egypt like yo, yeah, niggas really been in these feel man, it's like what's going on? Like I want to see what's going on. But because I'm black, I would not have a good time. I wouldn't because they like get your ass a line and I'm like, oh, Pharaoh, like yeah bad join. So yeah, I don't know. I don't think I would. I would want to, but I wouldn't. I wouldn't for sure.

Okay, So this next one is a story and it's a little bit longer, but fellas, pay attention because I really want to hear your input on what I'm about to say, right because I feel like women have their own inputs, but men can sometimes add an insight that I may not be privy to. So hear me, hear me out, shut up Clinton? Okay, So it says, uh, thirty nine recently single mail, What the fuck let me start of? It says thirty nine recently single male,

two children, a good career and a hallmarner. I'm in the process of attempting to date with a true purpose. I want a relationship to work and hopefully last. The issue I have at the moment is that the mother of my children currently lives with me. Things truly ended over a year ago, and there is a timetable slash set date for her to move out the summer

of twenty twenty four. The biggest challenge I face is when dating, and I've explained this to women that I'm very interested in and that they do not believe me, which I get. The problem comes when I invite them over and see that her and I are strictly co parenting. They ask her if we are really not together, and she says yes and proceed to make friends with her, and she's so nice and sweet they don't want to hurt her

feelings. I feel as though I'm being super transparent and honest with the added bonus of having the kid's mother confirmed. But I want my potential person to be comfortable with me and always, but it bites me in the ass every time. Then I get friend zone and waiting for the right person to come along and understand is tired a far fetched narrative. I'm not the biggest fan of waiting until she leaves as well, because I like to have something established

by that time. Help me, how do I get past this without being a manipulative fuck boy? I want to go on dates, be happy, and maybe live happily ever after signed mister hollis romantic m How we feeling? Where reat with it? We're react with it? Where we at with it? Y'all? If you're listening on audio and watching on visual, please hit me up and tell me how y'all feel about this situation. Flawless Buddy eighty seven said she gotta go now, Okay, So I'm gonna say right off

top first of all. Clint Coley says, bro, you watch him. Probably you're lying, Chief, I'm not gonna lie. He is watching. I saw him. I saw him. I saw his name Papa, so I know he is watching right right. I saw it. Kung Stu says, show her the door expeditiously, My nigga, you're bugging. Why are y'all like this? Clever Corey says, wonder how he reacts if she brought a guy over. Ooh, ooh, this is getting Jill say d Rob three fourteen says, class of twenty twenty four saw him? Why are y'all

like this today? I she said, He said that she's leaving the King Chris said, show yourself. So for the record, he said, she's leaving in the summer of twenty twenty four, right now, if we're being honest, and this is a safe space. But to be clear, y'all didn't make it seem like it was a safe space earlier. But because I fuck with y'all and gonna keep moving like it's a safe space. Right.

So, when I was still living with my child's baby father, with my child's father, I was openly dating and like maybe a month before I moved out I had a boyfriend. Now, like I said this before I went to talk to the lady. So my boyfriend didn't know I was living with my child's father. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. Wait wait, So I don't remember what exactly I told him, right, but

I do know that I told him that my child's father was involved. And also, to be clear, it's not the last boyfriend that we were talking about at the top of the episode. This is a different boyfriend, different boyfriend. But I know that I told him that my child's father was involved. But yeah, like my man will like pick me up from the house and like you know, drop me off. And it was it was a bad jong. Wasn't the best storm. I'm not scared to say it.

Fuck y'all, this is the safe place. Like I said it was. I'm not scared to say it. Whatever. Kung Stu says, you was wild and big storm, Big Storm dog is crazy. King Crest says, yo, you ain't shit. Uh. Trey Focus says purest savagery right here. Uh. Jared mcgruth said, no, we just need a short film series now. King Crest says, you ain't shit. Somebody to ask somebody and said, watch this, it's funny. Thank you. I appreciate that Trey Focus has laughed my ass off. Oh this is too good, y'all.

Come on, we have to be. We gotta be. This is safe space. Remember we're providing a safe space. Like, yeah, I rob at on one says, yeah, you was playing a dangerous game. Now here's my whole thing, right, Not to take away from this man's story, Me and my child's father word broke up. Like we weren't sleeping together. We weren't, you know, working on our relationship, like we were going about our business, like we acknowledged that this was a dub.

Like so me dating someone else wasn't, you know, unheard of. I'm sure he was dating other people too. Uh, you know, keep it cute, don't bring it back to the house. I never brought it in the house. But I remember when my boyfriend at the town went to go like look at a apartments for me. And when I moved out, I asked my baby if father to help me. He was so mad, he like punched a hole in the wall. He's a good man, Savannah, I know he was a good man. I fucked up. I don't know

that was wrong. I'm acknowledging that it is wrong. I'm taking account of belief for that was wrong. But back to this being here, right, the way women work is not the way that men work. Right. So first I want to say I commend you for letting the women know that you know your child's parent, your co parent, is still living in the house, because I would have told him that was fucking nanny. I would told him I get money and that's a living nanny. But I love this for

you. I love that you're being mature. I love your being an adult. Okay, I see you in alive here. I love your being an adult. Right. I also want to say so sometimes women will make up

stories in their head that they believe. Right, So you guess, say you and your child's mother aren't together and y'all not sleeping together, and she will come in and she will smile in your child's mother face and have great conversations and be fine and go home and get in that group chat and tell everyone how you think she is stupid bitch because you're still fucking your baby mom. Okay, like we will project that onto you, We absolutely will.

I'm not gonna lie. I think that there might be an issue of boundaries here, Like if she comes over and you're telling her y'all not together, but y'all watching movies in the living room with your baby mom, or like y'all in the kitchen having a conversation and your baby mom just walks through with

some booty shorts on. It's like, what are we doing here? Not even with the booty shorts on, and your baby mom just walks through the kitchen period, Like Ah, I know you live here and you have a right to be comfortable too, but sometimes you gotta treat her like a dog and put her up when you got company. My nigga, Like, no, no disrespect, no disrespect. I'm not calling your baby mom a bitch,

a dog, no, none of that. I'm just saying, like, you have to create these boundaries in order to make your new potential partner feel safe, Like she has to believe she don't even have access to you in the way that she actually does because she lives with you. I'm also not against just waiting til the class of twenty twenty four, like they say it in Alive, But that's just me. If y'all got any uh advice for my man, please type it in. I'm about to read in a

few as soon as I finish getting this off my chest. Yeah cause, I cause I know you're here alright, Yeah man, I don't know shod do you have anything? No, I don't think it's impossible. And this is coming from somebody who's done it. I don't think it's impossible. That might be a little bit biased, but I don't think it's impossible. But that's not fair to tell me as to set out a season because of somebody else, because he chooses to be a good person. I'm not gonna lie.

I don't know what your work schedule is, but is there a realm in which you can just take full custody of your children and tell your maybe mom to go live in a shelter or something? I don't know, I don't know, maybe not a shelter, Maybe not a shelter, Maybe not a shelter. Why she can't go stay with her mom? Her mom's still alive, Her mom's still alive, Like it's nobody else she can stay with? And then I know y'all were recently broken up, but were y'all recently

divorced? Like where y'all divorced, like, what was the what was the you know, severity of y'all relationship? I know you can't answer. Damn sit, everybody gonna see it. Okay, well you know what, it don't matter. It don't matter. Let's go back to the live. I rob Ada one says, you a homeboy to take a year off, Ain't no way. Nia Maya says, my man just might as well wait till she slide out. Ain't no way, y'all say, it ain't no way, it's crazy. Kung Stu said, it's a season. It ain't forever.

Get that ironed out and come back outside. Kung Stu says, just be actually single, bro, it ain't that scary. King Crust says, i'm'a be very honest. If my being was living with me, I probably still hitting from time to time, So I can understand someone not believe in that. Lavelle Short Junior says that's why it's just safer for all parties involved to just wait it out for God. Kruflow dot KK says, put that bitch in the doghouse. What is wrong? Jarreed McGrath says, yeah,

the lady definitely earning her check with some of these stories. Yo, come on, y'all, don't don't be like that. I thought it was in a safe space. Conk Stu says the fact he said he wants something before she leaves, the crazy part de rop through and four says she ruined it for you, fam, she gotta get out on date night. Uh. None of these definitely, so I've been missing this. None of these. Just you have a really long SCREENA and I can't read that. I'm sorry,

I'm sorry, I love you. I'm sorry. Clever Corey says they probably cook for each other too. YEA long story short. I don't know. And then, ladies, would you be mad if a man didn't tell you those things? But I feel like right now it is November? Right

she getting off the summer A twenty twenty four. Technically you can court a woman properly and not automatically invite her back to your house, and if you do, make sure you clean up and put your girl your baby mom away when your girl come over or when the shit you dating, when the chick you dating come over. I don't know. I just think you need to create better boundaries, because I'm all for having a conversation of here's what baby

mom. She could tell you we're not really fucking no more, okay cool, and then she need to go on her room. Yeah it's kind. Yeah yeah, they don't need to be friends. That that's another thing like I I you said here, like yeah you s you you say here? Like they asks her if we really not together? She says yes, and then proceed to make friends that don't need to take place. If you feel like a conversation is necessary because you've feeling her enough to be like, yo,

you wanta sen to my baby mom? Need to tell her we're not really fucking cool. She can get a vibe at how y'all body language and interactions are fine that she takes her ass back in that room. She don't need to come out or come in y'all room, asks if y'all want something to eat, make no food, nom nothing nothing. You have to create

that clear boundary to make that woman feel safe. Let's go to the live one more time, King crest Man man, I bem trying to come stay with me right now, and she has lost all fragments of her mind thinking that's the thing I rob at on one says, But it's not just her that's gotta go in the room. There's a kid there too. That's why uh Jax Anthony says he can get her a shit in the backyard. She can sleep it, okay, now, oh Waler, all right, Oh,

I definitely gotta make this shit a clip. I can't wait to hear what y'all are saying. So listen, man. We talked about a lot of good things this week. Long story short lucky day made me text my ex and it didn't go well. Basically from Beta black a love story and I know my husband random transitions. We're gonna run through things real fast. I know my husband is on the way because I went out on a solo

date and I had a lot of peace afterwards. You know, niggas love to fuck up your peace, so I assume that means my man is on the way. Stop asking yourself. Do men still or do women still? Yes? They do. That person just doesn't like you. We talked about good guys are not of five guys. They finished last because they're going after

women who don't have the same values as them. If you have not been talking to me for six plus months, yes, you do have to re audition for the pussy you do not get grandfather in a short guy with money or a tall guy with personality. Trick question. There are very few tall guys with personalities. And yeah, we gave someone advice on a man who was living with his baby mom and Danny isn't going well because of him living

with his baby mom. My advice was basically, you need to step better brown Trees and yeah, or just sit out a season and try again. Summer's only twenty four when she moves out. I had so much fun with you today. Follow me on a gram at Stormy p p ea at chocolate Chip and said, and if you don't remember anything else, please remember if you listen to a lucky Day, that's you. Be prepared to text your X I love you guys on I see you next week. Peace