It's Cool To Be Kind

talking about. So let me take a deep breath, y'all. I consider myself to be a pretty well now, I'm that type of person, like cool, you know, chill chigis and chill type of person. I'm happy I give people the benefit of the doubt. I wear my emotions on my sleeve and say that maybe in my past, when I was younger, I was naive, I was gullible. A lot of that has changed as I've matured, as life has happened and I've learned the hard way. I've shared

a lot of that with you guys. One thing that I've been encountering a lot lately, or maybe I've been noticing a lot more because I'm not putting up with BS because I've decided that I want for every relationship in my life to be reciprocated. I always tell you guys this.

Now I'm calling people on their shit. A lot of people don't like it. A lot of people want to say, oh, you've changed, you're different, and they want to blame the fame, and they want to say, oh, because you're doing this, because you're doing that, because you have more, has nothing to do with that. I've just gotten to a point in my life where I am tired of feeling unappreciated of if there's anything that bothers me.

I'm not feeling well. I'm very vocal about that now as to before I was. I'd try to just you know, hey, I'm just gonna suck it up. It's not happening. So anyways, My point is, every time I talk about something on the pod, you guys, it's always usually like a note to myself especially when it's just you and I, the mic and I and I'm talking to you guys directly.

It's because I'm experienced something or I just recently experienced something, and I don't know if I want to get into detail, just because I don't want to make the situation worse and because the person's not here to defend themselves.

with that right now. I'm just gonna let it go. And I know better than to let that happen. But this person continued to do thing after thing after thing because I wasn't speaking up because I was being nice because I'm busy or whatever. You want to call it, or I was playing dumb. I guess whatever. Even if I'm playing dumb, you're not dumb. So don't try to act as if what you're doing isn't right, because if it were the other way around, you wouldn't be okay

with it, right. So I think that's what triggered this whole conversation, and I said it in something that I wrote, this person, don't take my kindness for weakness, you know, just because I am choosing to be a good person and choose sing maybe not to ruffle any feathers or open up a can of worms, like, don't take advantage of that. And that's why I was like, I'm going to talk about this on the pod because I think it happens, and.

someone's kindness for weakness. You know, Oh, I have a perfect example. It just came up my mom, for instance. My mom trusted me with her credit cards and with her finances, and I made sure that all the bills were paid okay, all the time the bills were taking care of. Everything in the house was paid on time.

Everything was fine. But if I would go and you know, shop for her because I was her personal shopper at one point, i'd buy her clothes, I would buy myself something as well, and I would just And I've told you guys this before. You know, I'm not ashamed of it, because I'm ashamed of my behavior. But I'm not ashamed of what happened because it helped me learn how to value money and now I know what it is to work for my own But that was me taking my

mom's kindness for weakness. She was trusting me with something and instead of me going to the store and just buying what she needed. There was no need in the world for me to say, I'm gonna buy myself some fifteen hundred dollars shoes.

the situation. And from that and from many other things in my life, I have learned that, you know, I need to treat people the way I want to be treated, going back to this whole don't take.

open up a can of worms. I need to be true to myself. I need to speak up and stand up for myself, because who is if I don't.

And not to say that this person is a bad person, because I love this person and this person is still in my life. But it was just a situation that I was just letting go and letting go and letting go, and it was just causing me a lot of it was starting to cause me resentment. And I'm not a person that I don't like to hold that in my heart. I've told you, guys this, It's just not how healthy. Resentment causes so much bitterness, you know, and even disease eventually.

So I was like, something's happening, something's changing. I need to speak about it. And I did, and I'm glad I did. And I just want to remind you, guys. And I don't want to make this longer than it needs to be, but I just want to remind you, guys, that don't let life, don't let certain people change who you truly are at your core, the person that you want to be, because you feel that down because you feel like, you know, the nice guy finishes last, the

nice woman finishes last. Especially as women, we feel like we need to show up in a world that is the man's world. It's really a woman's world, but but we feel like we need to put up this like front, like there's nothing wrong with being a wrong, vulnerable woman, being true to yourself if that's what you are, and you're just a tough bitch, and do you as long

as you're being true to yourself, your authentic self. But the point is, and this is a note to myself as well, don't change the way you do certain things or the way you move in life because of other people's actions and because they didn't value or appreciate what you were doing in their life. Continue to be that person.

I promise you it will pay off. It will pay off, It you will get You will reap what you sew eventually, maybe not right now, maybe not with that person or the next person, but eventually you will reap what you sow, for good or for bad. So this is why I always say, guys, the best way to live is living with good intentions, walking with your head held high, treating people nicely, doesn't matter who they are, what they do, what they have, or what they don't have. Treat people

like human beings. And you're going to bump into people that are mean, that are disrespectful, but it's all in how you react to it. And we can't let people push us around, even if we are nice. We have to stand up for ourselves and we have to speak our truth and stand for what we believe in. And

as basically what this episode is all about. And now that we're on this subject, someone asked me once, how are you happy with the rate the speed that things are going and have gone in your career, and it's all because you know, I.

but I highly doubt it. And anyways, and they were asking because there are certain artists that feel that they need to have this persona of I'm a badass, don't look at me when I walk in the room, don't talk to me. I didn't think that that really existed. I heard these crazy ass stories of people wanting certain things in their green rooms, and you know, only this type of whatever. You know, I heard something about some red Eminem's once all this stuff is. It's real, guys,

it does exist. I was even surprised. I'm not necessarily like that. I think sometimes I'm a little too cool. My manager things that I'm a little like too lenient. I guess that I don't ask for more. I'm just I don't ask for a lot, guys to be happy, you know. And maybe I said maybe when they asked me this question, maybe I would have been more successful a lot quicker or selling out stadiums. Now, I don't know.

I am very happy with how things are going in my career and how they've gone little by little, step by step. I prefer it that way. But then I think of people like Carol g for instance, that is a mega superstar, and she is such a nice person that I see her and I'm like, this is why she's doing so well because she's a good person at heart. She has great parents, a great family. She treats everyone very nicely, very respectful. Every time I've seen her like she is the sweetest And I get so happy to

see her selling out stadiums. And you may think, oh, it happened quick for her. She's been doing it. She's been in this game, guys for more than ten years. I've heard stories of her in Miami going to bars and wouldn't even sell it out, but.

I see it in her eyes. I know it, I feel it, and it just you can't fake that, you know what I mean, Like, you just can't. And I love that, and that inspires me to say, I'm going to continue even if I keep getting screwed over by people and it takes me a little longer, I know that I'm going to get to where I'm meant to get to. I don't have to be a person that treats people a certain way because it makes me look better, or treat people as less then because it makes me

look better and feel better. Like I just it's just not in me. It's not who I am, and I'm not even if I continue to get disappointed by many people. And because someone told me the other day that I was too nice because there was this person and again I can't say names because I just can't. But there was this person that has been very mean to me, a complete asshole, okay, has done a lot of things to hurt me, not only me, but people that I love.

And we were in a certain setting and I was making myself a coffee and he was gonna make himself a coffee, but I was in the way, so I took it upon myself. After I made my coffee, I began to brew his coffee. I felt it in my heart. It was just who I even though this person.

out of my heart. I'm not gonna stop that person and their actions and what they've done stop me from being who I am. I'm gonna continue to do what feels good in my heart. Even if that person doesn't appreciate it, that's their problem. I'm still gonna be me no matter what, no matter who, I'm still gonna be me because I owe a higher power a lot more.

don't see it happening. But if it happens, and I just want to be a a diva one day that only wants water that comes from the highest mountain in the world. I don't know. I'll let you guys know, but for now, I'm going to be me, and I like being me. And I suggest that you guys, are you. If you want to be mean and that's who you are, then do that, I guess, but that's kind of sad.

I mean, it's better and it takes a lot less energy to just smile and be a nice person even if the person that you're opening the door for doesn't say thank you, because you even if it's a stranger. This happened to me a lot, guys. I open up a door and I let people go and they won't even say thank you, And I'm.

if others don't appreciate it anyhow. I hope that you guys enjoyed this episode and that you have learned a thing or two, and hopefully I'm able to remind you always that you can be both kind and strong. There's a beautiful thing in that. And please, please don't let anyone change your essence.