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As always, thank you so much for joining me. I'm your host Cheeky's and today is going to be a pretty exciting episode. That's because today's guest is a cast member from the popular Netflix reality show Love Is Blind. Guys, I've watched the entire show and I've enjoyed every single minute of it. I'm not even joking. So I'm super excited to talk to today's guest about a bunch of different topics. So let's get right into it. This is

cheek Ease and Chill. Alright, So it's promised. I'm sitting here with the one and only sell the Door Perez. You know him as Seal, and as I mentioned earlier, he is a start on the reality show Love Is Blind season two. If you guys haven't seen it yet, you guys can binge the entire season on Netflix now, and I'm telling you it's a must watch. So sal welcome to the show. How are you? Thank you? I am really there. You know, it's been a little bit

different since the show ended. But I'm great, I'm great, and I yeah, I'm excited to be here. Thank you so much. I'm so excited to talk to you. And okay, now let let me let's just get right into it. You said that it's been a little different since, like the show ended. Why in what way? Well, just for off the bat, I'm such a private person, like to begin with, so just seeing people like giving me such so much support and being stopped like in random situations

in my life has been an adjustment. But you know, people are so nice here and they're so considerate. They're like, is this okay? Can I can I talk to you a little man? How cute? Where do you live? I live in a wicker Park in Chicago, Illinois. Oh nice, Okay, I heard somewhere. You're from El Paso? Is that correct? Yes, that's always home for me. El Paso, Texas. I was not born there, but I was raised there so since I was two years old, and then eventually made them

move over to Chicago. Okay, so let's get into love is Blind. So you say that you're a very you know, a reserved or private person. What made you say yes to the show, to this experiment? Because you're you're in your early thirties, right, So what made you feel like, Okay, I'm gonna take the sleep of faith? You know, originally I I thought it would be really fun to try it. To be completely honest, I was tired of the apps.

I had no real luck there. I feel like I got a lot of judgment on those apps when I was on there. And you know, it's so easy to swipe on somebody if if whatever, if they have just not the right picture or something like that, then it's easy to just like, all right, next person, you know what I mean. So when I stumbled upon this opportunity, I was like, okay, I mean, this is something where they're filtering out so many people. This is such an

intense process. It's backed by research, it's backed by people who are like, this is supposed to work. I don't know how much I could say, but there were so many questions I had to answer before actually being accepted into this. So just right off the bat, I was like, all right, if all of these people are going through this, I want to see if this actually works. So I was like, I'm going to step out of my comfort

zone a little bit. And you know, even though I am more of a private person, I was just like, I want to put it out there. Let's see this could be an opportunity for growth. Then maybe I end up marrying at the end of it. Well that's good though. You're open. You're open to the idea. And did you really feel like, okay, if I meet that girl, like I'm ready to get married, like you're ready to take that step. I definitely felt like I was ready to

find my person absolutely, yeah. Yeah, But it was I had to go into it with an open mind and open heart and be just very open to the experience. You know, I knew that going I was just like, I'm just gonna go hard, I'm gonna be emotional, I'm gonna be vulnerable, I'm gonna be open with these people and just put my heart on the line. And that's exactly what I did, so you did, and I loved you. I was like, well, I'm like, honestly, I watched it, like I got stuck on the show, and you really

stood out to me because of that. I was like, he looks like a genuine person, Like he is in touch with his emotions, he's very honest, he knows what he wants because you're very young, and usually men like aren't ready you know, quote unquote, like until they're like their mid thirties, late thirties. But like, I think because of your family, and I'm telling I feel like I know you right, but I feel like I met your

sisters on the show. And then I'm like, he comes from a good traditional family, it looks like, and he has a good head on his shoulders. So I was like, dude, if this girl gets your ship together, Mallory, okay, this is my show, obviously, whatever I want, guys, Okay. So I was like, if she gets her ship together, she's gonna take a really good man. And then we'll talk about that a little later. But that's just my take

from the show. So I admire that that you took that leap of faith and you were open to that experience and that experiment because I'm sure it was scary. I'm pretty sure it was, but I think it's so badass because I was very interested. I'm like, yeah, like this is another way, a more genuine fear way to meet someone. Yeah, and it thinks I feel like there you get frozen into indecision when you have too many choices, and I feel like that's what these apps today are

geared towards. It's just giving you so many you know, and you never take the time to get to know somebody sincerely, you know. And then so this experience was so intense, cheeky, like it was just that was our job seven. You know. It's just like finding the person that you connect with that you want to spend the rest of your life with. And when you put that much pressure on one task, like you could really get far in that in that goal, you know, you could

really just because that's your main focus. Yeah. Yeah, And it was was it for two weeks that you guys were in the pods? Um, technically it was like ten days of pod dating. The whole experience I think took about three weeks, just because we would take breaks or

we weren't like going into the pods every day. Yeah, I kind of figured and that was like one of my questions because I mean, I come from like reality TV, so I just know that even when they would do like the edits or like they would cut certain things, I'm like, oh my god, they're just creating drama. Then you watch it and then you're like, Okay, it wasn't that bad, you know, But because I know how it works,

I was a wondering. I'm like, I wonder if they were there straight for two weeks or did they take like you said, breaks in between. Um, you know, it's television, guys,

it's television. Certain magic has to happen dates. But don't get me wrong, Like some days it was harder to go on those dates because sometimes like my longest date was maybe two and a half hours, three hours inside of a pod with oh yeah, and you you just sit there and it's okay to be bored with your person, you know, Like, but we would just sitting there and talk, we just hang out. And sometimes these didn't make it on there. Like on some other dates, I would pass

out a little bit. I was gonna ask, I think, did you ever take naps? Dude? Yeah? They give you really comfortable love his blind blankets, and so I was nice. Well I remember one time, but I won't say who I was on the date with, but yeah, I came a little bit. And then you wake up and you're like, oh, Dane, yeah, yeah, you're so respectful. That's so nice of you not to say who it was, because you've had two connections, right too, strong connections, am I am? I correct? You know for me,

I had I had three. There were actually deep to and I really did connect pretty closely towards the end of it, but then we fizzled out at the end when we were like top three people, Um, we have pettled out by then. But towards the end, I was pretty set on Mallory, like it was just like Mallory or nobody. And the other two people that were in my top three understood that. I think they felt it was just like people talk, you know. I was talking to the guys and the girls were talking to the girls,

you know, and so we kind of get around. Yeah, and it got around, and and we never Mallory and I were never territorial about each other. It was just kind of like we understood that, hey, we have a strong connection here. And we're having fun with each other and that's it, you know, like there was no real poeticition for that, you know. So yeah, another one of

my favorites is Deep Deep. I felt like she was just a very genuine, great person and I was so proud of her decision to be honest, I was like, oh my god, I was so happy at her, Natalie, honestly because I just felt like, sorry, guys, spoiler alert here if you guys haven't watched the show, but go watch it. You'll see what I'm talking about. But Natalie, I love. She's such a genuine person too, I feel, I mean, from what I could see. But yeah, Deep

D was awesome. And now that we're talking about Mallory, so let me take a deep breath, guys, she really upset me at the end. Okay, I'm not I'm not talking crap about nobody. It's just once you see the show, it just but you know what, I respect your decision like lack in, but I just felt like you guys did have a connection in the pod. You guys were like vibing and you could tell like how her eyes would just light up when you know, you guys would talk and then I don't know what the heck happened.

What do you think happened? Honestly, He's like, there was stuff that did happen off camera. We we we were just not seeing eye together. And I take very seriously, like when somebody hears hears me out well, and when I do want us to listen to you and to repeat what you are saying to me so that you know that I am listening to You're good guy. Sorry, okay, sorry. Communication is so important to me. That's how I'm like,

it's true to everybody. It should be that it's the kindest and most considerate thing you could do for somebody is sincerely listened to them actively and show them that you are with your body with everything you know. And uh, I looked out for that, I really do. And I felt that when we were having discussions and arguments, I found that we would have to have them multiple times, and I would start getting frustrated and unheard and I would just be like, are you I would tell her, like,

are you seriously asking me this again? Do you want me to explain myself again and discuss what I just explained like two minutes ago? Like it was just it was frustrating and yeah, because sometimes I think what we tend to do and I've learned this the hard way in relationships is we listen to react and not listen to understand. And when you're in a relationship trying to make something work, you need to really give that person your undivided attention and really show them I'm getting it,

and if I don't understand, I'm gonna ask you. But sometimes it's like I want to listen to just like bark back at you, you know what I mean, And well, yeah, that's what I was gonna ask you, because I'm sure a lot of things did happen off camera that we weren't able to see, because you were pretty firm in your decision, Like I felt like it was like, from one moment to another, like you were really into it.

And then I was like, something must have happened behind the cameras because you just completely were like I'm not feeling this at all anymore. And I was really surprised at the altar with your with your response, but I was also very proud. I was also very happy because I just felt like, as a woman, you're watching and I'm like, I don't think she's the one I didn't feel it. I was like, I don't think she's ready.

I think she wants to be ready and she's in love with the idea of being in love, but I don't know if she's absolutely ready. That's just my personal opinion. Guys, everyone that's listening, like, I'm not talking bad about Mary. I think we all have our process and we have to respect that. But from what I got, I was like, I don't know if they're on the same frequency, you know what I mean? Yeah, No, I totally understand and

hear what you're saying. And there were things that continue to happen off of the actual our actual storyline where I was just like, I wanted to be sincere to the experience case. I'm gonna be completely up with you. I wanted to still give it a shot because I'm like, you know what, maybe I could have a change of heart, Maybe I'll feel differently when I'm there at the altar. And that's why I didn't want to decide until I was there, Like I made a decision, I promised myself.

I was like, for this last week, I don't want anybody to know my decision because I haven't made it, yet I want to decide it there at the altar, and so I stuck to that. I didn't even tell my family. My family was worried. They were just like, what is he gonna say on the day of the wedding? No way, that was my question, like I did. So no one knew, You're not even your sisters, no one knew. Yeah, and they even on the day of like you'll see

it if you watch it. My all of my siblings were holding hands like at the at my wedding because they just had no idea if I was actually going to say yes or if I was gonna say no. You know, but man, but regardless, like they were just being very supportive of me. And Malory was not my person. No, she wasn't, and she lost a good guy in my personal opinion, you know me and my opinions. But okay, so do you feel comfortable talking about why when you got to the altar you said no, like besides the

communication stuff or you just weren't. You don't have to give us details, but just you know, I'm wondering there was one moment that I knew, like, okay, as far as I'm concerned right now, this is what my answer is going to be. But I'm going to continue going on this journey with you. But this is what I already know. I'm gonna say, this is what I feel I'm leaning towards already, but I'm gonna still give us a shot. I don't know if I can say what happened,

because that's going to come out later. Oh I see, Okay, Yeah, I don't know, don't worry. Probably wouldn't like that. You're gonna give me an exclusive out here, so they're gonna be I'll be watching that. It revolved around just like this is what happens in relationships. I feel like it's nobody's fault. I feel like at the end of the day, we're just trying to make it work between us. We're trying to see if we can have a good relationship between two people, and it takes two to do that.

I'm sure that I had some things that maybe about Mallory was looking for that I didn't provide for her. But I'm just voicing the things that I felt weren't there for me, And a lot of that was just the repetitive arguments that we kept having um and just like the lack of communication and connection that we kept feeling and it was just we all have our work to do ticks, like we all have our trounic that we have to go through that we have to process.

I it didn't work, and it didn't work for us, and there was there was things that got in the way, both on both sides that we just I can't blame her for it because I've also been through stuff like that before. You know, like I have gotten an upset about things, and I'm talking about like previous relationships too, Like I've messed up. I know what it is to gas light people, and I've done that before to my girlfriends.

I'll be very sincere about that because I was I used to be insecure about myself and I used to have work that I needed to do. But I I went to therapy and I did my work. I became more aware of like the emotions I was feeling because I knew that I couldn't love somebody. I couldn't love somebody because I didn't love myself. See, and that's when you know that you have healed that or you're on that path of healing. Because I think it's it's a lifetime thing, you know what I mean, like re evolved

and we grow and we change. But the fact that you can sit here and admit, hey, I used to do this. These were my toxic traits. And I feel like you're supposed to learn from every relationship and grow from it and say, Okay, what am I going to do different in my next relationship? Not just blame the other person all the time, but also say hey, yes, I can also do certain things differently. So that's that's awesome of you. Before we move on, I'm very curious, what is your sign? Yes? Yes, I uh? I am

in ferries with a Leo rising ana Taurus moon. Okay, perfect, Okay, Well, my brother Johnny is really good at like all the chart stuff. The thing is is that you're super connected with your feelings and I like that. I think that that was awesome because you were on television and you didn't care. You're like, You're like, I'm here to experience this and I'm not gonna put up a front like, um, homeboy, did what deep? This guy? What's his name? Don't even Oh my god, shape yes do shake. I could not

with with my life with him. I'm just like shake, just chill out like I think he kind of tried, but it's just there's no way. But you, on the other hand, we're very connected to like your emotions, and you had no problem with shedding a tear two if need be. And that's not something that we see a lot, especially in our culture, you know. I I wish that it wasn't such a rare thing. I wish that it was just a human thing for for men to accept

because we wear so much armor around that. And I get emotional talking about this because even after the show, one of my cousins that we don't really spend a lot of time together, we didn't really get to know each other a lot, but he reached out to me after the show and he was like, cousin, like, I don't I never met you man, Like, I never felt like I got to know you that way. But just seeing you and seeing you get emotional like that on screen and not carrying like it was it was very gosh,

I'm so sorry. No, you're fine, or those you're ex hitting you up? Have your ex growfriend hit you up? You know they probably did. Uh, I've got a few more messages than usual. I bet you've got a lot of girls sliding your d ms. Boy, they're all beautiful and I'll eventually get positive messages. That's all. That's all good, good, But no, Yeah, it just just knowing that I reached at least one man or a few men that that felt like they couldn't express that side of themselves, then

mission accomplished. Honestly, chickies, But I really feel like that needs to be more of a more normalized and it shouldn't be a rare thing. And I think that men's specifically need to be the ones to show that we've heard it enough from everyone else. I feel like men need to step up and and show that vulnerability on screen. Men who have platforms me to show that because because guys are depressed, men are depressed, and it's a there's

a lot of suicide with with with men. You like that that they feel lonely, they feel lost, and it's because if you don't have that sensitivity and you don't take off that armor, you lack all connections with people. Yeah, for sure, and you build up this tension you know what I mean, within you and you're not releasing. You need to release, like I always say, like I'll cry, like I'm a crier, and I just feel like it just cleanses my soul and I feel so much better afterwards.

Imagine men in our culture that we're like and you're not supposed to cry, and you've gotta be a macho and this and that. It's like, dude, like, do you understand what you're doing to these to these men, like you're not allowing them to express themselves, and what happens

It turns into depression, anxiety, anger. And this is why I think it was great that you, being like the age that you are, being Latino, being on this on this very famous show, Love his Mind, that you were able to just say, hey, like I'm connected with my Like, there's nothing wrong with that. Like I just like if anything that made you sexier, that made you like more attractive. I feel for women, I think that that's like I'm like, damn, Like that's beautiful. I'm sure a lot of women feel

like that. So that's why I wanted to ask you, because I'm like, I'm glad that you're saying it. I think it should be more normalized for sure. So all guys, you heard it here first. Crying, Yes, crying is sexy, Okay, it makes a girl horny and I'm just skardy. Sorry sorry, okay, So anyway, but to kind of wrap that whole thing up, though, like I just want to say, like I even heard, because I like, I love listening to podcasts that talk about that too, and I'm so glad that you're this

up to Chicky's. There's a really good one, um, I followed Justin Baldoni, the one from Jane the Virgin, and he talks about literal tears like they're stress hormone in your tears when you ride. There are literally stress hormones in your tears. There it is. That's freaking awesome. I'm gonna listen to it because I've always felt that. I'm like, it's a way of releasing toxins from your body, like

you haven't built up in your chest. And for so long I would have just hold it in, and I was in a really bad relationship and I hold it in. I'm like, I don't want to cry. I don't know because then he doesn't, like, you know, whatever, it made the case maybe, but then I would just go outside and just yell and cry, and I feel like, oh I feel better now, And then now I know it's like it's releasing hormones. That's crazy, that's awesome, that is so cool. Thank you for sharing that. See I was right.

I was right. So tell me do you feel that love is Blind taught you or made you really realize what you want and don't want in your wife? You know?

I do feel very lucky to have been a part of such an experience because if you're looking at it from a numbers perspective, like there's only been the thirty of us that went through it of this season and then the thirty others that went through it on the first season, and to just think about it in that way, like and going through the process because there was the pods. I think the pods were really the place where I felt that I grew and I I had never gone so in depth as far as like what's the want

for me and what's the need in my partner? You know, like what is important to me? What do I need to talk about as far as finances goes as kids go? Um, what are we going to teach our kids? You know? Like do I want kids? You know? And so I gave so much thought to all of this throughout the whole process that now I just feel like dating is so much easier because I'm so much more open and ready to ask those questions. It was kind of like

a no bullshit, a no bullshit experience. It It taught you had to spot all of it and just rip all of that out and just get down to the nitty gritty, you know what I mean for sure? I mean I really believe like I was, like, if I were single and if I could be on a show like that, I probably would because I think, like you said, like You're going to learn so much about yourself during

this time and about just humans in general. And I was very curious too, because I know you had that collection with Mallory with mel But did you did you when you saw her? Like did you really you were in those pots thinking I don't care what this person looks like, I really don't care, Like you were just completely engrossed in getting to know that person from her heart, like in her mind, and when you saw her in person, did you did it change? Like did you feel like,

oh she's beautiful? Or did you did anything change? No? When I saw her in person, you know, well, leading up to the whole thing, like I I was not worried at all. In fact, I wanted to stay true to the experience. There were some other people that were like kind of getting hints about how the person looked, but I didn't want any of that at all. I just I was I just wanted to be surprised. So when I first saw her, there was so much that

I had to process. I feel like my body was reacting to to Mallory too, and I was just like, oh my god, I'm trying to soak this person up and and try to put it was so interesting to see her mouth and move and hear her voice come out of her, and I was just like it was like shock, nerves, excitement, you know. And I'm sure that she was going through the same thing. But it was just kind of like, Okay, now let's build up our

physical relationship. It was like another step. Yeah, And but she's she's extremely beautiful, and I was super excited to get to know her, and and I knew that no, no matter what, that we were just gonna that it was just the next step. Like you said, like the physical was just going to be the next step. So yeah, that little like like a level of like to add to the excitement, you know, what I mean because yeah, I think she's beautiful. I think she's very attractive, very

attractive girl. I love the way she dresses her hair and everything. Somebody won't eat that. Um. And you know at the reunion, I wat your reunion, right, I'm a fan, guys. I was your reunion and I was very freaking like I was like like this, literally, I was sitting on the couch and I started like clapping when you when you came out, and you just were very straightforward because you're very like respectful type of guy and you were very respectful. But like I was like, damn, he has

like a backbone. He is not here to funk around. He's here to get answers. And I thought that was really like it puts you like on another level again because I'm like, dude, he's a sensitive guy. He's in tune with his emotions, but then he can also like stand his own. So I wanted to like tell you that because I thought that was a really beautiful moment and how you connected with deep T and you were just defended her there. I was like, oh heck, yeah.

I was like that's amazing, Oh my gosh, And like they I probably shouldn't say this, but they did make Shake look better her than than what what he actually was. No way I was going to ask. Yeah, he was a total douche. Dude, he was a douche. And I because I love Deep t I truly do. She's she's

such a good person inside and out. I feel. I even told her after everything was over, I'm like, Deep, you are literally going to be the queen of everything when you when all of this ends, because of how bad this person was too and because you're such a good person, the fact that he was so bad to you is just gonna you're your Yeah, definitely. And she sat there so poised and just wasn't she just like, I'm going to sit here in my dress and look cute and go ahead, you look like an idiot. So

I just loved it to the to the end. She just kept her class, and I'm like, she's going to get a good man out of this. I hope she does, because I kill I know he needs some serious I don't know what, but so sal tell us what comes after love is blind? After love is blind? I just I'm thinking to myself, I want a date. I wanna open up that door and and and no longer do apps. I feel like it's important for me maybe to set up a date or two whatever, um, but it's more

authentic to me to meet somebody in personnel. That's how I am going into this. And honestly, like when I when I did go on dates after the show, it was more so with like better questions. I just I was so interested in the person because it was just like, hey, let's let's figure this out. Let's see if we actually

want this. It was so much more easier for me to build rapport with somebody because I so like I was just a d pent in as far as like, let's figure this out, let's day, let's have fun, you know, let's let's ask the meaningful questions if that's where we want to want this to go and just be revolve around honesty, you know, and and good communication and if it's if it's casual with somebody, like it's whatever, it's casually, you know, but you community had it and you can

well and it's all consensual. And I feel and I feel like, there's, uh, it's really important to have that. I guess if I could summarize it at all, what I learned the most coming out of this experience is how to create a safe space for the women in my life. Guys. Oh my gosh, dude, that's awesome. I'm your fan, Dude, I'm fed. I want all the guys that to listen to this, and it's probably like mainly women, but they're probably gonna be like trying to find you.

But dude, like, yes, yes, you remind me a lot of my boyfriend. The way that you speak and the way that you express yourself and you're connected, like he goes to therapy, Like he's all about making me feel safe and I never had that and he's twenty nine, okay, so like I know that there are good guys out there and he's just it's like when you're ready and you know what you want in life and you've gone through things and you do what you gotta do, like therapy, life, coaching, mentorship,

whatever it is, it really does help you, guys. It helps the healing process and like sell, So that's awesome and the bar is so low for men. It really is like if you go to therapy, like they will make a parade for you, like good for you, the

word you know, and it's it's interesting. I feel also coming out of this is just understanding like the fact that you can only only love somebody as much as you love yourself, and I feel like that became more evident to me too, and just letting someone in that deeply is hard if you if you haven't done that work for yourself, you know, that's where insecurities come in, because you just haven't done that work. Definitely, you just haven't done it, and no one can do it for you.

No one can. That's a choice that you have to make. And whether it's for the person that's in your life now or the person that's going to come, it's like, if you don't do that work, they're just those things are just going to come back and hunt you in every single relationships. It's like it's an your choice. You gotta really get in there and do the work. Guys.

I mean we all have them. I have, you know what you call those those demons from my past from my childhood that I have to constantly go to therapy and make sure I keep them in place and I keep them suppressed and I just keep growing mentally, emotionally and in every way. So it's it's not like, oh, you go to therapy. I'm bad, I need help. I'm broken. No, like I think we all are kind of a little bit broken. We need to be kind of like put

back together. It's life. It brings us closer together. And when you when you understand that that we're all going through something. But yes, like you said, it's so good to see that you're not jaded. You know what I mean. You're still open, you're still willing, You're still like you know, because but you were there for all the right reasons. So I think that's why you have, like I said earlier, very good head on your shoulders. I can tell from

the like since I watched the show. So it's so nice to be able to speak to you and you know, talk about all these things. Now that we're kind of like talking, what about we do some singing? Won't you sing for us? Was not ready for it, Like I wasn't prepared for this. I don't even know what I would begin to sing. I am saying just anything anything like a little maybe you even sing on the on the show. Oh you know, let me see what a terrible Joe. You're so cute. Thank you so much, Yeah,

thank you, thank you sleeper doing that. Okay, So how about now we move on to like a Q and name? Are you game for that or what I'm getting? Yeah? Like little fire questions will some some So here we go. Who is your favorite cast member on the show? My favorite cast member on the show is, honestly, I have

to say Danielle. Yeah, she's a sweetheart. Danielle is such a sweetheart, I even all off camera and everything, Like, I know she's gone through a lot, and I know that she she got some heat for being like, um so vulnerable on camera, you know, but I feel like I feel like inside she she's she's very real and she's solid. Yeah, she's she's a great and her and deep tea. Yes. Okay, So who is your least favorite

cast member? Do I even have to say? I know, shake fucking yeah, you know, like and look, I'm not going to talk bad, but I feel like this goes for everybody like you. You have to you have to develop your empathy. You have to develop your empathy for people and know that what you say have consequences. That's That's all I'm gonna say. What's one thing you think the show got wrong about you? Um? I don't sing

all the time. I think for myself a little bit, you know, but I think that's one thing they got wrong about me. But you know, I pulled out my youth once and after that it was just like forget it, like we need more youth, we need more youth. That was production how they're like, do it more and more. I know how reality is, so it's probably yeah, I get it. Okay, So how has the show changed your

perception on dating? You know, if I could summarize it like we were saying earlier, chicky, is they really helped me just check on the women in my life and going in with that same energy, checking in the women in my life, making sure that they feel safe around me, and going into days in that same way, you know, and above everything, make friends first. Be friends with these girls, like, show a genuine interest in them. That's what I got out of it the most. I want to be a

friend to women in my life first. It's not about it's not all physical, it's not about all about attraction absolutely, Okay. Um, have there been any cons to being on the show. It's kind of it's kind of hard to put yourself out there. It's not really a con though, it's just kind of you if it could be if you let

it get to you, you know. But I feel like if you lean into yourself and realize that that's your only way to get through this is just to rely on yourself and be sure of everything about that is you, then then you'll you'll be fine. But it's being a private, private person like I am. It was hard for me to do that, so um, but not exactly a con Okay, So here's an interesting question. So do you think you're still ready for marriage? M m oh man. You know,

I don't think I am. I was so mentally prepared in that experience, and it was just like alright, go go, go, go, go, like yes, proposal, yes, all right, let's go, let's make this work. And it wasn't. There wasn't enough time for me to just kind of pause and think. And I feel like what really influenced that too, was the fact that we can't talk to our families when we're in these pods, you know, so bounce these ideas off of anybody.

It's just you. So it's like, which is fine, Like it's all you need, you know, at the end of the day. But it was but you're not scared of marriage, right, Yeah, I'm not of like companionship, being with somebody and putting in the work, you know, and being committed in monogamous and all that stuff. Yeah, yeah, being committed monogamous is I think if you're with the right person, can be

very very rewarding. For sure, it comes easy. I feel like when you're with that person and you you have like a friendship with them as well, it just comes easy. It's like, I love this person, I care about this person so much. It's like you don't even think about other people, about cheating, you know what I mean? Yeah,

you kind of. I mean, don't get me wrong. Your your partner will notice another person, you know, like you will notice people you know, but at the same time, like you know that you're in this together and you know what the consequences would be if you did go with someone else. And at the end of the day, it's just poor communication, Like you're not feeling somebody like tell them, even if it doesn't mean a breakup. Yeah, it's better to be honest, you know, A the truth

goes a long way. So moving on to foods a little bit, you know, water burger or in and out in out. Yeah right, I want something and out so bad. I love water Burger because they have like a lot of options. But then again, like I don't really like options I like, but just the taste. I would go within an out. So I agree with you on that one. I was just gonna say that I like water Burger. The fries are are what's the word over over overrated, overrated, overrated.

As far as drinks go, tequila or vodka? Oh, tequila? Right? Okay? Tequila or beer? Tequila? Okay? Nice? Yeah, I like tequila neat just like you know, throw it back lime, a little salt perfected on the rocks or blended on the rocks. Yeah right, I think it's yeah, the rocks is nice. Okay, okay, so alrighty okay. So would you ever go on a show like Love Is Blind Again? I think I would. I yeah, I would go on a show like Love Is Blind Again. It was Ah, it's uncomfortable, but I

feel like you grow in those uncomfortable situations. So for that reason alone, hell yeah, I would do it again. That's awesome. I love that. I love that. So what's next? Um, I just got a new job and I'm working remotely so I'm focused on that, and I'm focused on my my platform and understanding the responsibility that comes with that, you know. And I want to spread some awareness for men who might feel alone or who feel like they can't open up their heart and feel those emotions. You know.

So I just sorry, that's my dryer. It's okay, it's okay, you wash this us two guys or lady? Should I say? That's awesome? But yeah, that's next for me, just making sure that my platform is a safe space for everybody on there and that they could take something and learn something from the from there, you know. And I want to focus on providing resources for good resources that have helped me in my past, like whether it's platforms, podcasts,

and yeah, that's really what I'm focused on next. And just staying positive and and making people in my life are prioritized and safe. That's awesome. And you know what, I can see you doing that. I can see you doing a podcast and talking about everything that we've talked

about here. I've learned so much and it's just so like like I said, it's a it's a breath of fresh air to see that there are good men out there and smart men that do their own laundry, you guys, that's awesome and drink tequila and seeing damn it do well. Thank you so much. Honestly, sal I am. I'm excited. You are for sure one of my favorites on the show, and I really connected with you, and thank you. I'm so glad that you took the time to talk to

me and come on my podcast. Thank you, thank you, thank you much, and I wish you the best, and thank you for talking about these topics. It's so important. Absolutely, we've got to spread awareness and knowledge to our people, you know. So that's why I decided to have my own podcast, and it's it's great to have people like you on and share your your your socials. Please for everyone that's listening. Oh sure, you can find me on Instagram at Salvadior zero eight and you could find me

on TikTok under that same user name. Um. What other social do I have? Do you have? Twitter? Facebook? My Space? My Space? What does my space? You got my Space? No? I don't have. I don't think I have anything else can yet? When no worries, you guys can find them there these and gentlemen, men that want some advice, okay that are ready to step up their game, and ladies, um if you just want to tell him nice things

and stuff, you know. And as for me, as usual, you guys, I always leave you with a motivational quote, and I have one for you. Let me go ahead and read it listens a little longer. But love is such a powerful force. It's there for everyone to embrace, that kind of unconditional love for all of humankind. That is the kind of love that impels people to go into the community and try to change conditions, for others to take risks for what they believe in. That's one.

And then love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, only with what you are expecting to give, which is everything. Hopefully those quotes get to your guys heart again. I hope you learned a little bit about love and men and women and just offen experiences and experiments and all that great stuff. I love you by. This is a production of I Heart Radio

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