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Hello Cheekyes, Oh my god, I love you so much girl. I met you in your Los Angeles concert. I remember askaying on top of you.
Girl.
Oh my god, I'm sorry. You've been an inspiration for me for years now and I'm in the process of doing music as well. Funny enough, you inspired the name of my new album. I'm gonna name it King B And I just want to know how is it for you doing Abjarna? How is it like you know, the process, the ideas, How did it all come together?
Ooh Alexis Well, thank you for going to my concert. First of all, I don't remember you being on top of me or anyone. I don't know, but either way, I'm sure we had a good time, and I hope you had a great time in my concert. I love the name for your album, King B. Love that for you, So you know what, I am very traditional. We live in a world that everything is like single, single singles. I like to complete things, which is why it's so
important for me to have a complete album. And what I do usually is I think of a concept and now you have your concept. You have King B. So what does that mean to you? Right? Like? What does that name do to your heart until your soul every time you say it out loud. That's what I did with Aberherna. It wasn't a thing for me. It like, okay, I'm a freaking queen f everybody. No, it was like, how can I inspire people through my story through my music?
And I want to tell a story, which is why I have an intro in the album, and I have interludes and I have an outro because that's what's gonna complete it. I love just completing things, so there has to be a beginning and end in the middle. So that's why that album is so like that. And I feel like every album here on out is going to be like that. And that's what I would just suggest, like, Okay, asking yourself, Okay, how do I feel? What makes me feel like a king be? What is a king be?
How can I inspire other people through this name?
You know?
It's like having a mission behind everything you do is so important, not just doing it to do it, Like, yeah, you like music and great, but why are you gonna record the songs that you're recording? Can you defend them? Have you live that? Do you feel it? Can you make other people feel it? You know what I mean?
Like all that is so important, Like I just don't sing songs to sing songs even like certain words that don't make me feel comfortable and have more of like a negative connotation, I remove it and I change it for something positive. I'm just very I believe in the power of tongue, and like what I say and what I speak and what I sing, I feel like I'm
manifesting at the same time. So just keep all that in mind and just know what is the core value in this album when you're doing it and when you do that and you do it from a place of love and comes from the heart. It reaches the heart. So I hope that helps. I cannot wait to hear it, to hear your album. Go on, King B do your thang, Do your thang. Alrighty guys. Our next question comes from Alexandra.
Hey, Cheeky's just needed some maybe encouragement or words that can help me help my son just cope with the morning of his father that passed away about two years ago. But had times, you know, he said, he.
Feels very angry, upset, and sometimes I'm just last in words of what to tell him, what to say to encourage him, and you know, keep on going through.
The right chat because he's a great kid.
Oh, Alexandra, I'm so sorry. Oh it's so tough, especially on boys when they lose their dad. Is just I saw it with Johnny, my brother, when he lost his dad, and you know, a boy needs his dad, you know, and especially if they lose them to a passing Hugh. So I totally get it, and I think you know me, I am all about therapy and the five stages of grief are very real. It takes some of us a
little longer. And even though it's been two years. It's just even my mom passed away, what almost eleven years ago, and still still there are days when I am like, what the f is happening? Like how did this happen? How is this my life? But what has helped me so much is understanding those five stages of grief, and I think maybe buying him a book. I don't know how old he is, but buying him a book on that so he doesn't feel that he's all alone, you
know what I mean? In this pain. It's gonna take some time and prayer, and I think just for him to know that he has you and that he has your support will definitely help. And if you can some therapy, therapy is just wonderful, some counseling, some life coaching, something to just help him gets this, get to just release all these feelings and these thoughts that he has so that it doesn't become resentment to life, to just everything that happened.
You know.
I am definitely praying for both of you, And just tell him he probably I don't know if he knows who I am, but just tell him I know what he's feeling. I understand, and I'm sending him a big hug, and he's not alone in this pain. So ugh, I just I wish I could hug him like seriously and just tell him everything is gonna be okay, but it's gonna take some time. Just be patient and remind him how much he's loved and that he has you, and that God is on his side, and that his dad
is an angel watching over him. And to have peace because he's no longer suffering. That is what gives me peace, that my mom is in a better place, she's not suffering here in this world. De mando unavrasta. I send you, guys, lots of love, light and love. So thank you, Alexandra. I hope that helps. Okay, guys, So we have another question and it comes from an anonymous listener. Okay, let's see, Hello, chickies, I just wanted to know what's your thought are on couple's therapy?
Do you think it.
Works, like even if you're not married?
Like, what is your thought on couple's therapy?
Ooh?
I love therapy. I love therapy. I wish I knew your name, but it's okay. Don't worry you guys. If you can say your name, please say your name, if you want to just keep it a secret, I get it. But anyways, I love therapy, huge advocate always in forever. I've been doing therapy since I was twelve years old.
It's been the best thing in my life. I go on and off, but anyways, couples therapy, whether you're married or you're not, if this is a person you want to be with, you want a future with, I highly
recommend it. I feel we all need therapy, and I think sometimes we need a middle person in a relationship that's gonna help us see things in a different way, because I feel like when we're arguing with our partner, you sometimes don't want to agree with them, Like it's just like, no, I'm gonna go against you because I just don't want to agree with you. But when someone else is in the middle and is mediating and is telling you, hey, try seeing it this way, it just
changes your perspective. And it just helps to have someone to say hey, even to your partner, like if they're not doing something right, it'say, wait, try listening to her, to him, this is what they're trying to say. Hearing it from someone else always helps. So I think we all, all of us need therapy individually and as couples and even friends. I just think it's the best thing, and it's a good way of just releasing, you know, releasing emotions and thoughts and the whole thing. So that is
my take on a couple's therapy. I say go for it, try it, and it'll probably take a little bit to find the person that you, guys feel comfortable with. And sometimes men don't want women therapists, so you got to kind of figure that out too, you know. That's another thing. It'll take a little bit of time to find the perfect match, so be patient, or maybe you'll just find the perfect match right away. I don't know, but thank you for your question, and I hope you try it
if that's what you're thinking. Okay, okay, guys, So our last question comes from aj Dear cheekies.
I'm going through a process of chemotherapy. I got diagnosed with cancer. Lef home my cancer, and I find it difficult to get back to life and start all over again. What's your best advice?
Hi, Aj, I am so sorry. First of all, I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now, but I do appreciate you taking the time and having that will to live and to feel better because you're asking me a question and you want to know, and I'm going to give you the best advice I possibly can. First of all, I love that you said dear cheekies. I thought was so cute're like dear cheekies. I love it so thank you. But look, God has you here
for a reason, bottom line. And I don't know if you believe in God or if you believe in a higher power or whatever. I'm a woman of faith and I'm not trying to put my faith on you or anything like that, but a higher power definitely has you here. And yes, something is happening in your body, something is invading it. But God has you here for a reason. And I think holding onto that thought and saying, Okay, I'm going to live in the best way I possibly can.
For as many days as the world as the universe is going to have me here, I'm going to live it in the best way I can. I'm gonna love, I'm gonna do my best to give back. I think when you find that purpose of yes, you're going through something difficult, but also like stepping out of yourself and saying how can I help someone else, It just makes you feel better. How can I make someone else smile? And that's the advice I can give you. Like, I'm pretty sure your body's going through pain and and I
wish I could take it all the way. I really do. But I also know the power in making others feel good, and I think that maybe that will give you the will to keep living and to live the best life that you possibly can while you're here, and just be at peace with that, like knowing that I did all of this or you know what, look miracles. I believe in miracles, I really do, And something could just happen and you can heal your body and I don't know
I wanna send you. I'm sending you, like right now, a big hug filled with energy and healing energy and love and peace and joy, and may you have the will to live the best life that you possibly can because you deserve it. You deserve it. And AJ thank you for your question and I want to hear from you again, Okay, I really do. I hope that that that helped. Okay, well, guys, this does it for this week's episode of Dear Cheeky. Please thank you so so
so much for your questions. If you need help sorting through any issue, I'd love to hear about it. Leave your questions at speakpipe dot com, slash Cheeky's and Chill podcast, and be sure to come back next Wednesday for another episode and for more advice. Okay, liso much. This is
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