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beeB, Hi Cheeky's, I would really love your opinion on something. So I recently came up with the idea of creating and only fans but completely anonymous, and I would want it to be completely anonymous because I am currently working on my doctor program and I know that there could be risk if I am on a platform like that.
And I also just became a mom year ago, and after having my baby, I felt super self conscious and I feel like creating my only Fans page can definitely help me be more confident, but I don't know if it's worth the risk I've thought about it a lot, and I really really want to do it. My husband is super supportive about it. I am thinking if I can just do it for a little bit and then stop if I think that it's not a good choice
for me. I am also in a lot of student debts and we're one household income, so that extra cash would definitely help. But I know that it could still be risky, So I just wanted to know your opinion. You're definitely in the public eye. I wanted to see your perspective. Should it be something that I just try out or should I just wait until I'm done with my program and think of a different way to embrace my artistic side.
Hello, my beautiful anonymous listener. I love your voice. You have a very pretty voice, by the way. Okay, look, that was going to be my first question. Do you have a partner? Are you married? Are they going to be okay with it? If you have the green light from your husband and you are in debt and you want to try this out, why the heck not crazy enough? I had brought this up to my husband. He's not okay with it. But I know people that have made a lot of money on OnlyFans, and I support it.
I'm like, dude, more power do you, especially if you're not hiding it from you know, your husband, and he's totally fine with it. I understand that you're in this program, but you know what, like what you do in your personal life is your business, mind you. I don't think you should put it out there or whatever. But I've always had this idea of having in OnlyFans, although I wouldn't, but I'm saying when I thought about it, of like doing like a mask type of thing. I have tattoos,
so I would cover up my tattoos. I've thought about it. I've even thought about, like, oh, what if I'm like a stripper? This is before right, but people know me. So I was like, I would have to like definitely cover up my tattoos, and I would like to wear like a mask and change my name. It's like a whole other persona. You know, like I have Cheeky's and
I have Janee. You know that you can have you, and then you can have I don't know, we'll name her diamond Girl or something, and you just put on a mask and you do your thing and no one ever has to know what you look like, and yeah, I think it'll be fun. And if it doesn't work out then okay, at least you tried it. And if it works out, then a freaking amazing for you and your husband. You know, it might make him really excited and you know, and your relationship, your marriage will benefit
from it. So I definitely say go for it again. No one needs to know. It's your own little personal thing. It's that other persona that you have and do it, girl. Yes, your child doesn't even have to know in the future. No one needs to know. This is your own little thing. You and your husband. Let me know what you decide. Okay, and good luck because there is a lot of money to be made there for sure, and you don't even have to have sex with anyone. You just got to
be sexy. Oh my gosh, girl, do it? Okay, guys, So we're gonna move on to the next question, also from an anonymous listener. Let's see, Hi.
Cheekys, I really really really love your podcast. I listen to it like every time a new episode comes out.
I just love it.
So I'm coming to you now because it's something really important and I really need your help on. So me and my boyfriend been almost together for a year, and a couple of days ago we found out we're pregnant. I don't know how many weeks I am. I just took a test and now I have to figure out how I'm gonna tell my parents. Yes, I'm old enough, I'm about to be twenty seven in a couple of weeks, and I'm just scared of how I'm ia tell my parents because years ago, my sister, my older sister, she
was a team mom and she told my parents. I guess from that moment it traumatized me because of the reaction and how my sister left the house and she was my biggest role model. Now that I'm pregnant, I guess it's the trauma that scares me of telling my parents. And is there any advice she can give me. I really do appreciate it.
I get it. I understand. I remember when my sister Jackie had to tell my mom. She was really scared. My sister was like, what nineteen twenty anyways, So just brought it took me back to that moment. You know, they might be disappointed, they might not talk to you for a little bit, but you know what, this is your life, and once they see the baby, they're going to fall in love. And how are they not going to love your baby? You know. I saw how my mother loved my niece, and you know, it's just the
joy of her life, you know. So I understand that you're scared, and just do it with fear. And I always say this because this always helps me when I'm like I don't have the courage to say things like confront something or confrontation a letter, you know, hey, and so that they have time to digest it and it's not as scary maybe writing them a letter and letting them know, but also understanding that they might be upset or disappointed or whatnot, you know, but it's okay. That's
their opinion, and they're probably very traditional. One thing I hope that they don't do, because I feel like this ruins relationships is when the parents force their children to get married. That should be your choice and your partner's choice, you know. But anyways, that's just a little side note. But do it with fear. I understand that the trauma is there. Maybe because your sister already went through it, maybe they'll like ease up a little bit. But a
baby's a blessing. A baby's a blessing, and they will love the baby with time, so I'm hoping that they take it well. And yeah, God bless your baby and your relationship for sure. Okay, guys, next question comes from another anonymous listener. All right, let's see.
Hi, cheekies.
I wanted to go ahead and keep my name anonymously, but I just wanted to start off by saying that I love you, and I love your podcast, your words, and your advice. So I was wondering if you can give me some advice. I'm currently going through a little situation. I got out of a year and a half relationship with somebody due to domestic violence. He did something that
was very unforgivable. Although he has been contacting me since the breakup about four or five times, wanting to meet up, wanting to talk, wanting to apologize for what he did, I just am confused. I don't know if I should I don't know if I shouldn't because I'm a very forgiving person and I don't want to continue to carry this pain and this resentment and this anger of that night in my heart and my soul. It's very heavy for me. So in a way. I want to meet up with him and hear him out.
I don't want to go back. I don't plan to.
I don't want to. I'm very firm on that decision, although I do want to kind of meet up just so I could heal for my own healing journey, for my own peace of mind. And yeah, that's the reason why I wouldn't want to. But then again, I feel that he doesn't deserve it, so I stuck between the two. So if you can go ahead and help me, I me know what you think, what you would do if you were in my shoes.
If I were in your shoes, I would meet it up with him. Why because I don't know how long it's been, but I would let a little bit of time go by. I think also for his healing. I think being able to apologize face to face will help him. But it will definitely help you give you closure, especially if you're telling me that you definitely don't want to go back. I would tell you if there was a chance, or you still loved him, or you felt like, oh, I might go back with him, because I don't know
what he did, but you said it's unforgivable. I think it's okay, and it's safe for you to meet up with him in a somewhat public place, give him the time, especially if this is someone that you loved, just to close that chapter in your life, to just give your heart closure, to give him closure, whether he deserves it or not, you know, but it's also through your healing journey, you're helping him heal and that's going to just help
you in your future. I'm that type of person, like I'm like, okay, I'll hear you out, and because then you're going to live with a what if I would have given him the opportunity, And I don't like to live with doubt, at least not me. So I think it's okay again semi public place where there it's not too crowded, but it's still a public place where you can have this conversation where he can apologize and make it very clear like hey, I forgive you. What you did is not okay. You need to get help or
whatever the case may be. He gets to say what he has to say, and so do you. And you just walk away and you're just like, Okay, that chapter that book in my life boom closed. I think it will definitely help you for sure, because I can still hear in your voice that it hurts you, and I'm sure he did something really, really horrible, but it seems like you're open to it. So I'm gonna go ahead and tell you it's okay, giving you the green light. Just be safe and make sure it's during the day.
That's all I'm gonna say. Okay, all right, last question, guys comes from Rosie. Hello cheekies.
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Okay. So Rosie is saying that she is married and she doesn't necessarily get along very well with her sisters in law. Sounds like there's a few a couple and you know, her husband's very close to his family, so she does her best to go to family gatherings, but they, you know, give a little face, and she feels very uncomfortable, and she just kind of wants to know what to do, like what I suggest, you know, so, I just wanted
to like translate real quick. But Rosie ab it, I don't know if your husband has had the conversation with his sisters, but I think that is important to give you your place as his woman, for him to do his part and you as a partner to do your part, absolutely, because I feel like if he's very close to his family, then you need to also cater to that and love
his family even if they don't love you back. But if they're just giving you like faces and stuff like that, like I feel like you could be like, you know, I'm just going to ignore it. I'm just going to look the other way. I'm here for my husband, because if you allow them to push you out, then that's going to be on you, you know. So, But if there's a day that you're like, you know what, I
don't feel like going no kioesta, no sino malakara. You know you're you're you're not going to be happy, and then it's just going to be an issue all over. But I think if you can kind of put that to the side, if they're not necessarily like being rude to you or belitting you, or like saying things to you. Then I think les Gadas and all that stuff, like the little faces that they make to you, like it's just kind of like, you know what, that's childish, that's
on them. I'm going to be my best self. I'm going to be the bigger person for my husband. And then with time, he'll realize that the issue is not you, it's a sisters, and hopefully he steps up and defends you and it's like, hey, you guys got to get your shit together, like this is my girl, this is the woman I love. Because that's tricky, you know, because you don't want to be that woman that separates your man from his family than vocal. You don't want to
do that. So my suggestion is hopefully having a conversation with him and he has to fix that, or also saying hey to the sisters, you guys, like we're going to be family. I'm his wife and I want to be with you guys, like let's just figure out, like let's be happy, you know, like let's find a way because if you if you don't go to the family gatherings and stuff like that, like you're letting them win, you know what I mean. So it's kind of like
just knowing like they're being immature. I'm not gonna soup down to their level. You get me. I know it's tough because just I'm not gonna say much, but I feel you. I feel you on that one. So hopefully it works out. Talk to him. Hopefully he defends you better when no. All right, guys, So that finalizes this episode of Dear Cheeky's. Thank you guys so much for your questions. I hope that I was of some type
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