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Hate Cheeky's, just make some advice in regards to relationships. Right now, I'm with a man who looked through my watch and found an old conversation between me and an ex coworker that I used to hook up with, indicating that he was going to come over but he didn't. And my current guy, he's not my boyfriend because of it. But we've been trying to work through it. I've been showing him that there was nothing there. It was simply just a moment of sure, why not mind you? The
moment that my ex coworker sent me that message. Me and this guy, we'll call him Mark, we're not together. He actually left me, and yes, I didn't tell him precisely who this person was that was going to come over, so to him, he took it as I was protecting him. But now I've just been showing him that I want to be with him, you know, just being very submissive to him, and I feel like he still has reservations. He told me that if I left my job, he
would consider the relationship again. I've left, and he's still kind of on the fence about things.
Okay, Well, usually I like to know your guys's names, but now I know why you probably didn't share your name, which I'm going to respect. I have the saying, and I'm sure you guys have heard it before. It's like a you know, I think it's like a very Mexican saying, which means if it wasn't in your year, it shouldn't affect you. And yes, you guys were together before, and it sounds like to me you guys were on a break when you were planning on messing around with your coworker.
But you guys were on a break, So I feel like if you guys are on a break, anything is game. I mean, I'm pretty sure we don't know. Maybe he was doing his thing, he just didn't get caught, you know, and you did, which is fine, okay, But I think it's fair game because you guys weren't together. Now, if
he has the reservations, I can understand that. I think if you've already apologized and you keep saying that this person is your ex co worker, which means you guys aren't working together any so it shouldn't be a problem. So I just feel like it's good that you are showing this guy that you really like him, that you love him, that you want to be with him, and it's good. It's okay to be submissive. I just want to give you some advice, as a friend, as a
big sister, as whatever you want to call me. Don't overextend yourself, Like if you've already apologized, if you've already shown and you no longer work with this person, like he has nothing to worry about. And it's concerning me a little bit because if he's prolonging this and extending it more than he needs to, it's like, okay, are you hiding something? Or are you using this as an excuse.
If you really care about this person, then fine, like keep trying, but also don't lose yourself and your self esteeming your self value in trying to prove to him who you are. He should know who you are. And again, you guys weren't together, So even if it would have happened, because you said it didn't happen, like, it's still none of his business because you guys weren't together, and that's just the truth, Like, it isn't your business what he
did while you you guys weren't together. But I'm hoping that this gives you a little bit of clarity and that you're not feeling guilty because in reality, babe, you didn't do anything wrong. You guys weren't together, you were taking a break, And I think it's just moving forward. As long as he knows who you are and that you're not going to do that while you guys are together, and neither is he, I think you guy should be fine.
So I'm really hoping it works out and he can put that to the side and continue with you because you seem like a very nice, intelligent woman. But yeah, just just be careful be careful with over extending yourself. That's all I'm saying. Okay, so thank you for your question and I'm hoping everything works out alrighty guys, Our next question comes from Jennifer Hi Cheeky's.
So my question is just like, come on, Lases, go on bravery to keep going despite the backlash from your family, Like I'm very close to my grandma, so it really would hurt me like comases, but uh, but I keep going w just with you and your siblings stios, especially in the media, like towards the media or tweets or whatever. And you know, I hate that. I hate that la
especially on Facebook or talk squad with other people. So you know, for your heart to be okayo gozes Briquet as you know, in our culture really pushes to like family bond.
Well, Jennifer, I love your question. Is the Miram's modifi. It has been very difficult, and I think it's come with maturity, with time, with healing, with therapy, with understanding that yes, because in our culture we are taught toxic loyalty, which means you have to be loyal to this person because you guys are bonded by blood and you know, blood is thicker than water and all this stuff. And yes, but also I have the choice to choose my family.
I have the choice to say I'm going to stay away from this person because they don't make me feel peace, because they make me more sad than happy, and and and that came with with time. For a long time, I thought, well, I have to be okay with my grandma, with all my family, because they're my family. So it just takes time. It takes time, erro. It does make me sad. I wish things were different, but I'm okay
with the way things are. Like I have come to terms with I possibly will never ever have another Christmas with my extended family, and I'm okay with that. My family are my siblings, and as long as they're okay, and as long as as a unit we are breaking generational curses and make sure that our children and the children of our children don't continue this cycle, I'm okay
with that. Honest. I'm very honest. Maybe if you would have asked me this, I don't know a few months ago, I would be like, Oh, I still miss them, but I've gone through so much therapy, I read so much. I like to grow and learn that. I can tell you I'm at peace, and I've gone to the point where I don't necessarily miss anybody that has hurt me.
And I don't know if it's because I've been through a lot of shit, but I'm just like I wish them well and sometimes a lot of the times, I pray for my grandma because I love my grandma and I'm so grateful with her that she taught me so many things. Ila kiro mucho I and I pray for her and I hope that she's well. But I'm not okay with certain things that she has done. And she has said about my siblings even about myself that I'm just like, well, nimooen there that that's how she is.
I have to understand that that's how she is, and that's okay, and I have the choice to excuse myself from all of that. I don't have to entertain that anymore. I don't and I'm not going to because it's not good for my heart. So it takes a while. It takes a while, but I am happy, and I think all my siblings are closer than we ever have been. It was, that's all it is. So I don't know. I think it's just a lot of prayer.
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It's a lot of prayer and understanding and letting people be who they are, and that's it. Thank you for your question, Jennifer. Okay, guys, let's hear from louis a.
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Okay, guys, So what Louis is asking is to sum it all up, is how important are your fans to you, to your career? Is it really what you show on Instagram? Because I feel it, but I really want to hear it from you. So I said yes, absolutely, Like I'm not just the type of person to just say it.
I feel it. I live it. Everyone that's around me knows how important my boss bees are to me, and they have been since I saw my mom, you know, growing her career, and they would ask for a picture and I would never get upset because I knew these people are feeding us, They're keeping a roof over our head. And that's how I feel now more than ever. It's like I will take my time, and I will never say no to a picture. I've said it once, and I'll never say it because I didn't like how it
made me feel. But I really do appreciate the time invested, the energy invested, the hugs that kisses that you guys have no idea. It's like there's a team that sustains an artists and there's also the fan base, and that's what sustains in artists. You guys are part of the foundation, and I don't take that lightly. So that's basically what Lose's question was. In my response, I just wanted to kind of clear that up. So thank you, thank you,
Thank you. The azumbis Okay, guys, so we have another question, and it's from another anonymous listener. Let's hear it. What is the secret of having a beautiful smile like yours and fresh breath all the time? Wow? Thank you anonymous listener. That's one of the things that I really like about myself. You guys, I like my smile. Okay, I'm assuming that we've been very close to each other because you have
smelled my breath. I mean, I don't know if you've gone to my meat and greets or what, but thank you. I pride myself in that. The secret to it is I brush my teeth morning at night. Sometimes I brush it like after I have too much coffee. I brush my tongue, you know. I think that's important. And I also have a toothbrush that has like a floss in it as well. But it's important you guys, to brush
your teeth. Oh, and have a good tummy health. So if you have good tummy health, you won't have bad breath. So and then well, to keep my teeth white, I use high smile And I'm not trying to promote them. It's just it's what I use. You guys, I winen them at least once a week with the strips and sometimes I like they have like this purple serum. It's
like a purple shampoo for your teeth. And I use that especially because I've been drinking like a little bit more coffee than I used to, Like years ago, I didn't drink coffee. Now like I drink a little more coffee. And you know, certain things, certain food stain our teeth. So I don't know, And I go to the dentist, you guys, every like six months. I go and get my checkups. It's important to get your deep cleaning all
that stuff. That's one thing that I take care of is my mouth because a lot of diseases start in the mouth, you guys, so take care of your mouth. If you have a little MOI last something that's hurting you, a little cavity, like, go get it fixed because that shit will turn into like a root canal. And that's just it's just a whole other thing. So anyways, your sister here Cheeks is telling you go to the dentist please every six months. It just will change your life,
all right. So oh oh, thank you, thank you so much. I have a yeah, el Johnny just reminded me I have an appointing tomorrow at twelve thirty with my dentists. So anyways, I love your guys's questions. Thank you so much for submitting them and letting me give you advice. You guys, I hope you will have an awesome week and don't forget to leave your questions for me at speakpipe dot com. Slash Cheeky's and Chill Podcastlesse. This is a production of iHeartRadio and the mic we Good Podcast Network.
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