Dear Chiquis: Letting Go, Should We Forgive Cheaters?

and Chill Podcast. Okay, so now that you know what to expect on this show, let's press play and get into the first question. Hi, good morning, cheek Ees. My name is Antonio, one of your boss fees from Orange County. My question for you is what are your thoughts surrounding the process of letting someone go, someone that doesn't serve your higher purpose, some one that is not implementing anything positive into your life. I'm the type of person that's

very sensitive to energies. I like being around like minded individuals who bring positive vibes and who elevate my life and complement it. Oftentimes I find myself giving people more than one chance, giving them the benefit of the doubt I'm a cancer, so um I can resonate with you in that sense. But for me, I feel that some people should just you know, know right from wrong, and you know, they should take accountability for their actions, and

they should apologize and come forth and make amends. What are your thoughts about that cheek ease? And more specifically, what I'm trying to ask is do those people always deserve an explanation prior to you cutting them off? Or would you just cut them off even without explaining anything. Wow, Antonio, very very nice question. Thank you so much for being one of my boss bes. Look, I was just actually

giving someone advice on this yesterday. I think throughout the years, and as I've gotten older and more mature, I've learned to let go of people that don't serve my higher good.

If they're not giving me what I'm giving them and they're only taking up space and making me sad and causing me pain, then that's an indication for me to just say, let me love this person from afar, even if it's a family member a friend, especially if it's someone that you're in a relationship with, because you are constantly connecting and exchanging energies with the person you're significant other, so it's very difficult. It's a lot easier said than done.

I do feel that you should give the person somewhat of an explanation if they deserve it, even if you send a voice note. Sometimes I've sent voice notes to people where I'm like, Hey, I don't need you to respond, I'm just letting you know that I am no longer going to contact you. I don't want you to contact me. You did X, Y and Z, and because of that, I am ex naming you out of my life. And I blocked them and I don't ask or wonder if

they responded or anything. And there have been people that I've just cut off because they know they've done something that they weren't supposed to do, and I feel like

they don't need an explanation. But it always makes me feel better to say, hey, I am pushing you out of my life because of this reason, so that they're aware of it and they have the opportunity of changing or not, you know, because sometimes if you don't let the person know what it is that they're doing and how they are affecting you, then they're never going to

learn it all just depends in the situation. But I do feel that it's okay to love people from Afar and wish them well from Afar doesn't matter who they are, you know. And then there are other people like my siblings that I'm like, it doesn't matter what it is that they do, I will speak to them. For me, it's like important to have certain relationship with certain people. But I have let go of the closest people in my life because they affect me in a negative way.

So there's no shame in that. And just answer your question. Yes, I do feel that it would be good for you to just say, hey, this is my reason, whether it be a text, whether it be a letter, whether it be an email, a voice note, and just let them know it's okay and it's important to love yourself and Antonio. I hope that my advice helped And if you have any other questions, I'm here to answer them. Now let's go into the second question. Hey, Jeekie, is Jackie from Jersey?

Would you forgive a cheater? Hi? Jackie from Jersey thought me into the Jersey. Thank you for your question. Look, I have forgiven a cheater before I have. If you can forgive someone and try to forget, then go ahead. It's important for you to forgive with the clean heart. And if you're going to be in a relationship with that person and try to move forward, you cannot keep bringing it up like you have to really forgive and let it go, because if not, you're going to ruin

the relationship. If you feel I'm always going to think about it over and over. It's going to be in the back of my mind. How did he kiss the girl? How did they have sex? Did he like her more than me? That is all going to torment your mind. So I would say, forgive him or forgive her. If it's a boy or girl, doesn't matter. Forgive the cheater and let them go and just say thank you for the experience. But I can't move forward with you. But if you can forgive and try to forget, pussy, I

think it's a beautiful thing to forgive. It gives you the wings of liberty. So that's my advice on that gamin thing. Then go for it, Mama. Okay. I hope that I was able to help in some way. Okay, let's get into the next question. This one is from Nellie Hey chick eas I just wanted to say that I absolutely love and adore you for everything that you

have overcome and everything that you're currently still doing. I was a huge fan of your mom when I was a kid, and I still am, and I'm a huge fan of you and your music, So keep up the good work. I just wanted to get your advice and a little something. I started to talk to this guy last year, literally January first. Who started to talk. But we're getting to know each other for about a good six or seven months, but then we ended up losing contact and you know, we ended up seeing other people

during that time. He ended up getting into relationship with someone else. We recently reconnected about four or five months ago, and ever since then, we have been talking all day every day. We both work a lot, so we don't see each other, but when we do, our chemistry and saying it's always good bye. We laugh and talk about everything and anything for hours. We have not had sex. We don't talk about sex at all. Um, we never even kissed. That most we have done is give each

other a hug. Um. We both know what's wrong because he's still currently in a relationship. But he did tell me he wants to see where this goes with me. So I want to know, should I just see where it goes with him, because like I started, chemistry is insane? Or should I just you know, let him continue to be with his girlfriend and fix that relationship or whatever they want to do, because like I said, I feel horrible. I know what I feels like to be cheated on.

And we both know what's horrible. We both know what's wrong that we that we like each other, but I just don't know what to do. I'm stuck, Nellie. Okay, Well, first of all, thank you, Mama, thank you for for the love and support. Like maybe I'm I'm gonna be a hunter with you right now. I think you're too much of a great person and woman and you should give yourself that place. And if I know that just

by hearing you, you should know that. So if he's in a relationship, Mama, you have to respect at You wouldn't want him to do the same thing to you. And if he's doing it to her, he will most likely do it to you because he's gonna know that you're okay with that, you know what I mean, Like you're already starting off on the wrong foot, so I think the best advice that I can give you is

you need to cut that off. If he really likes you and he really wants to be with you, then he's going to leave that relationship and then start something with you. But at this point, I don't know if he's a person that you can trust. Because it's good that you guys haven't had sex or kiss or anything like that. But I think it's not fair for you that he's one ft in, one foot out in that relationship and trying to figure out, Okay, well is it better over here with Nelly or should I continue with

my with my girlfriend. You know, that's what he's doing. He's getting his cake and eating it too, and that's not cool. And you should also as a woman, we all have to respect other women, and if he's in a relationship, I would recommend for you to respect that other woman because I'm sure she wouldn't be okay with it. And if you do decide to end things with him,

I think that you should send him a message. I don't even think it should be in person, to be honest, because you don't want to have that opportunity of him trying to sway you. I think that you should just send him a nice either email or text message explaining, Hey, I've come to the realization that this isn't good for me or for you, and it's not fair to your girlfriend. And I want to put good energy out there and I wish you the best, but I have to end

this because this is not okay. It's not going to be easy. I know you like this guy, but go mo list and let it go and if it comes back, then it's meant for you. But then you also have to sit and say, Okay, do I really want that type of guy? Like what if you guys are together, Yeah, he leaves his girlfriend and then comes with you, and then you guys are happy for a year and he's still like you don't even like what if the cycle repeats? Is what I'm saying. Give yourself your place so that

he can give you your place. If that makes sense. That's my advice to you, Nelly. I'm sending you a big hug. Girl. I know it's easier said than done, but love yourself, Mama, love yourself more m Thank you all for submitting your questions, and just a friendly reminder to speak to a therapist if you're struggling with an issue or hardship. I've said this many times, but I'm

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