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So, I need some advice on how to stop talking myself out of doing things, because I could talk myself out of doing almost anything I don't want to do, and that stops me from creating opportunities for myself. And I understand that now, but I just don't know how to get over that anxiety or that nervousness that you get when you know you want to speak up or you want to talk to someone, just because like, I just don't know where to start, and I figured i'd
ask you, so any advice will be hopeful. Thank you, I.
So, lex I first of all want you to know that you feeling nervous or any type of like butterflies or all that is is fine. I think I like feeling those feelings because I like to feel. I like to feel things, and it makes me when I feel those butterflies or I feel nervous to even still go on stage. I feel like, Oh, it's because I'm passionate, because I care. So just know that it's because of that. And I think maybe what stops you is you think of what is the other person going to think of me?
Or am I capable to do this one thing? Those are all human ex experiences. That is all normal. We all go through it. But it is absolutely normal. So just know that. And I think the first step is literally just doing it. The more you do it, the better you'll feel. Of course, the first I want to say, the first year two years of my career as a singer, every time I got on stage, I was like, Okay, I don't want to do this, I'm not going to get on and I would just like, okay, fine, I'm
going to do it. Fit even if people don't like the way I sound. I have to tune those people out and just do it. And the more I did it, and the more I did it, the better I felt and I got better at it. And it's just literally taking that leap of faith and doing it, facing fear in the face and saying I'm going to do this.
I'm going to conquer this. And the more you do it, and the first time that you do it, whatever it may be, either like you said, talking to someone, approaching someone, or saying hello to a stranger, or starting a new job, whatever it may be, it's just literally just telling yourself I could do this. I'm going to take this leep of I'm going to look at fear in the eyes because it's not going to conquer I can do this.
It will not defeat me. So I know it sounds maybe a little silly, but the more you practice it, the better it'll get. And just take deep breaths three DP breaths. It really relaxes you and you just do it. And again, the more you do it, the better it will be. Practice makes perfect. That is my advice and I hope it helps and I hope that made sense. But yeah, Alex, thank you for your question. I appreciate you Okay, So our next question comes from Ari.
I Cheekyes, So my question for you is, when you were my age, which is twenty two, what did you do for fun? Like I did the math and you were twenty two and like two thousand and seven and eight, So like, what did you do for fun? What where did you go? Like what music did you listen to? Like what was like a day in your life? I'm asking because I'm just so obsessed with the early two thousands. It just seemed like such a fun time to be twenty two. That's my question. Like, I hope you have
a good day though, and stay blessed. Ari.
You are a vibe. You are a vibe. I love your question. You guys. See, this is what dear Chee is all about. Like, I get so many different questions. I love this, not Ari putting my age on blast. But it's all good. We love you, just kidding. I'm I feel very comfortable with my age now. But okay, Ari, twenty two, Okay, it's been a little bit, a little bit okay, So yes, twenty two thousand and six, two thousand and seven, amazing, it was I feel like very different. Obviously,
my mom was here, so many like amazing things. I listened to like so much. R and B so much. No doubt, No, No doubt was on my playlist. Destiny's Child was on my playlist. Oh my gosh, justin Timberlake probably was in sync at that time. But music, I feel like, Oh my gosh. Yes, the thousands were amazing. Whe early two thousands, guys. So what I was doing for fun during that time was I was very involved with my siblings, very involved with taking care of them
and taking care of my mother's businesses. I was doing Esthetician school as well. During that time, I would go to boxing. That's when I fell in love with boxing. Like it was ugh, it was, it was awesome. I just felt like I could let out a lot of tension and I would take Johnny and my little brother with me to go boxing. We lived in Corona during that time, so it was just it was cute. I had a little buggy. It was convertible. It was convertible. Oh my god, Oh she just made me reminisce. I
love it down. I was twenty two, geez, Yeah, what else was I doing? I think that's also when I kind of started tapping into my spirituality as well. In two thousand and six, two thousand and seven, where I was like, Okay, I kind of like, you know, like this like yoga stuff and what is this? You know, it's very new, and I was kind of shy because it was like I was like, Okay, I don't know if it's a cool thing because it wasn't cool yet.
So that's kind of like when I started like looking into like spirituality and things like that and stepping out of like my religion a little bit. And yeah, I just grew from there. But yeah, I mean that's all I can really think about right now, to be honest. But that's a really good question, Mari. I appreciate that. That's really really cute. Live your life, girl. You can live in the two thousand, early thousands if you want. It's all in your mind, it's all in your heart. You do it.
I love that for you.
Okay, guys, last question comes from Melissa Hi.
They are beautiful. I'm not even sure how to work this question, but from Northeast Ohio. I guess my question is how do you separate your professional life from your personal life? Because I imagine with as busy as you are an entrepreneur, singer, and all the things that you do. But I just wonder, how do you separate it so that you can still remain simply Jnay.
Melissa, I like it, okay, Well, it's an everyday thing. Okay. Some days it's easier, some days it's harder. I do my best to at least have one day off during the week, like one at least where I could just do whatever it is that I want. Sometimes I just choose to lay in bed. Sometimes I choose to just hang out with my husband and go down to Santa Monica and do all the things, visit his family, the things that make me happy, or hang out with my siblings.
It is so important and essential for me to have one day of rest, to be connected to my home. That's one thing that kind of like helps me a lot. I think it's more than anything being intentional, intentional in making that space and making the time to obviously make time for my career, because my career is my livelihood. It's what like pays the bills, but also Janee, my heart, my spirituality, all of that plays a huge part in it, because if Jane's not okay, then I can't tend to
Cheeky's you know, so definitely, it's really being intentional. I do a lot I do, and I think that in some ways I have spread myself too thin. But now I know that, and now I'm going to pick and choose and be better with that because I still love doing everything that I do. I just really have to get my priorities straight and yeah, and make more time for my personal life the things that make me happy. You know, I'm still working at it. I'm still working
at it. So it's something I think because life changes so much, going to change and I'm going to change, so so yeah, Okay, guys, that's the end of this episode. Thank you guys so much for listening to Dear Cheeky's and if you have a question, please leave your question at speakpipe dot com, slash Cheekys and Chill podcast. I'll see you guys later. This is a production of iHeartRadio
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