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beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships. I am going into my late thirties and I actually don't really have a lot of women friends at all, and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships and keep them for years. I kind of find myself befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months, it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how. I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman,
and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted to let you know that I do love all of your music, all of your work. I love your mom, your family. I am just so proud of you and everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre.
You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that. I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and thank you for your question. I do have very few friends now. I think once we get older, I really do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think that's normal, at least for me. I do have a friend that is, you know, a little older than me, and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly. I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I
have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I think you might be the type of woman that gets along more with meles and that's okay. You are married, so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean, why not, you know, but it might also be that you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands. I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no, my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend
right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know. That's actually a great question. You got me on this one. But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on their own? I think it's I need to have a little more information. But I don't think you should be so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a
lot of noise as well. So again, you have to protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time. I don't know. Church is a great place to find new friends. Do you go to church or are your
kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another way as well, But that I think is just a thing of the people that they are, or if they're on the same page. If that makes sense, and you know what create. I also think it's important to equally put in the effort. What I love about my friendships right now is that I don't have to speak to my friends every single day, like we just pick up
wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love, I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any room at this stage in our lives to be too sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's
very honest about it. So I think if you have that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you to call me and you to respond to me like, it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl, I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I will do my part in calling you more, because she's more of pick up the phone and call me instead of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes, and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship,
so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to try calling at least once a week or once a month, and she's happy with that because she sees my effort. I think she appreciates it because the other day she told me she says that as long as I see your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something you're not used to, it makes me love you more. So I do want you to keep that in mind. And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out, I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always
say this. People need to talk about things, which means if you talk, you will understand the other person. So I think it's just having that open communication and honesty and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me? I want to make sure that I make time for it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice. So I think just keeping that in mind and not being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's
another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending you a big hug creat thank you so much. I hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move on to.
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of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone through so many things, but is just very very special to me because my boss Bees gave me that name Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which is Arena, and it talks about my siblings, it talks about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about and what I've had to live. And I don't know, I mean, I wrote it, you know, so I love it.
It comes from my heart. So yeah, if you haven't heard it, you guys, you guys should listen to it. Betrouena it's better. Okay ta mando. Okay. We are going with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello.
First of all, before I want to go and asking my question is, I just want to let you know that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning, and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your business about the shape?
Where?
Like what happened to it the other day I was trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh, I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us some update update on that, like I need to find I need to know.
Well.
I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a blessed day.
Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well, shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try to just close it. Not because it didn't do well, because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was
not the right fit. And I am a person that does her best to stay true to myself and not do things for dollar signs, because when you do that, that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil. I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and
it just was not working. So I thought the best thing to do was to just part ways, as hard as it was, because again it was a very successful business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything, but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache. So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details, but thank you so much for your question, and I'm so sorry.
Guys.
I know a lot of you love the shape Our and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans, to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time. It means so much to me. And if you have
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