On this episode called "Dangerous Liaisons: When Cheating Leads to Tragic Ends," powerhouse attorney Marilyn B. Chinitz, a partner at Blank Rome joins me to discuss several of her most shocking cases where infidelity led to: exposing the abuses of a morally depraved mother, unmasking a serial pedophile, and solving a brutal murder. Chinitz shares the stories behind these high profile cases as we explore how infidelity can escalate to unthinkable ends. Chinitz and I discuss the extent of emotiona...
Jan 03, 2023•43 min
On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist. See Privacy Policy at https://a...
Dec 27, 2022•49 min
Do any of these seem like credible reasons for cheating on someone? (1)You want to cheat first before they cheat on you. (2) Cheating will make them hate you, then leave you, which is great because you don’t want them anymore. (3) Some people aren’t worthy of fidelity, so just go ahead and cheat on ‘em. My guest today is the incredible singer, songwriter, producer and engineer, Killboy. Her vocals are passionate. Her lyrics rip into your soul, and her heart is pure gold. She and I discuss why so...
Dec 20, 2022•39 min
We all know this type of guy, the classic philanderer. He's a married, good looking, successful man with swagger. He has a coterie of hot honeys, both married and single women he claims as lovers. His philandering style is so typical it rings like a cliché. Instead of making assumptions about this classic playboy archetype, I wanted to get into his mind. What drives him to pursue, woo, and ultimately sleep with multiple single and married women: all from the same community, his own community, al...
Dec 13, 2022•40 min
What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you're convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse's secret lover is your best frien...
Dec 06, 2022•40 min
When I was growing up a “hall pass” was the thing you needed in middle school in order to leave class and go to the bathroom. That’s not what a “hall pass” is anymore. Today’s definition is a lot sexier. According to my guest, a “hall pass” let’s you cheat without begin called a cheater. Lets you explore without having to explain. Lets you have sex with someone else without exiting your relationship. It’s time to get schooled on the “hall pass”with my guest relationship coach and top selling aut...
Nov 29, 2022•42 min
On this episode I meet one of the Internet’s most successful and sought after cheating consultants. Yes, a cheating consultant - as in someone who will teach you how to cheat most effectively. Dark Horse, is what he calls himself and his blog https://cheatershandbook.com/ is the go to spot for advice on how to cheat, and how not to get caught. But don’t contact Dark Horse to find out how to have your first affair because he’ll caution you not to start cheating. Then he’ll block your emails to ma...
Nov 22, 2022•46 min
Your relative tells you they have proof your spouse is cheating on you, which eliminates all speculation as to whether or not cheating rumors swirling around are true. On this episode we learn how a betrayed wife blamed the messenger for exposing the details of her cheating husband’s escapades. If only the messenger had kept his mouth shut, the marriage could have hummed along as a surreptitiously unfaithful and seemingly happy union: at least that was the wife’s point of view. Was the messenger...
Nov 15, 2022•33 min
Is cheating ever justified or perhaps your only way out? This episode's guest, (we'll call her Bethany) suffered for years in a highly toxic home and relationship. It wasn't until Bethany's abusive partner discovered that she was having an affair that Bethany was immediately forced to flee her primary relationship and find solace in her forbidden lover's arms. Is there ever a world in which cheating is not only right, but the only way to right a wrong? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/pri...
Nov 08, 2022•52 min
Is it love, or an obsession? What is it when you give and give to someone who not only takes and takes, but abuses your kindness then intentionally seeks to hurt you. I rarely use the word narcissist on Cheating: When Love Lies, but the man that my guest Diane (not her real name) fell in love with and helped get a green card, seems to fit the definition of a narcissist to a tee. This person Diane describes is so incredibly mean and cold hearted. What's particularly heartbreaking is how long Dian...
Nov 01, 2022•1 hr
Listeners may remember a past episode called “I Am A Christian Conservative Leader Having An Affair.” It was about a young woman who espoused the tenets of her religion, namely fidelity and honesty, despite her having a lesbian affair with her partner who is married to a man. Christine is back because although her affair has now been exposed, Christine’s affair partner is still unable (or unwilling) to leave her marriage and commit to her relationship with Christine. Christine lives in a constan...
Oct 25, 2022•43 min
If you suspect your partner is cheating, do you seek out tangible proof, or do you just trust your gut feeling? Suppose you trust your gut, but your spouse or partner swears to you, promises you, “there’s nothing going on.” Do you suppress your instincts and convince yourself that covert operations to discover the truth aren’t necessary? My guest today relied first on her gut, and second on her fact-finding skills to try and nab her husband in what she believed were two different affairs. Was sh...
Oct 18, 2022•39 min
My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks about his guilt and deep self loathing for having this 16 year affair, an...
Oct 11, 2022•57 min
Can being cheated on be the best thing that ever happens to you? Brendan Fitzgibbons, comedian and host of the podcast "Spiritual Asshole," joins me to talk about his transition from needy, codependent, boyfriend to self confident, single guy. With a mix of humor, vulnerability and common sense thinking, Brendan explains how being cheated on took him on a journey that changed his life from sad and directionless to purposeful and full of joy. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Ca...
Oct 06, 2022•45 min
A 2 minute loyalty test-Yup! Boyfriends and girlfriends can find out in just minutes if their partner is faithful or a cheater. My guest Ayrel, better known as IknowAyrel, has developed a huge following to the tune of 91M likes, 3.9M followers on Tik Tok, and almost 300,00 Instagram followers, by conducting his signature loyalty tests on college campuses and in public venues. On this episode we find out what Ayrel’s loyalty test is, and how he does it. Ayrel and I also discuss what he’s learned ...
Sep 27, 2022•16 min
How many wives would choose to meet their husband’s lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let’s call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his lover and her husband. But when Tiffany told me how her husband’s young lover described their affair,...
Sep 20, 2022•26 min
Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know if it was happening to you? Gaslighting is when an abuser manipulates you and tries to create doubt and confusion around something you know to be true. The abuser will deny what they said or did ever happened, which in turn makes you question yourself, your observations, and your sanity. My guest today whom we’ll call Wende, was was gaslighted throughout her nine year relationship, so she never really knew if her partner cheated on her. I h...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 8 min
Her recent Spectator article called “I Regret My Promiscuity” and the intense social media interest it sparked, reminded me just how provocative writer, comedian, and podcast host Bridget Phetasy truly is. https://spectatorworld.com/topic/regret-casual-sex-promiscuity-slut/ When a woman tells me “Big dicked womanizers were my kyptonite … I loved them” I stop and listen. Only a woman as funny, vulnerable and authentic as my guest Bridget Phetasy could get away with statements like this. On this e...
Aug 30, 2022•57 min
You’re married and you’ve been cheated on. You end your marriage because you feel that the trust and integrity of your relationship is gone forever, and you’ve lost all hope that the life you dreamed of - with your spouse by your side- can ever be achieved. You’re devastated, and the demise of your relationship is about to be compounded by shame. Your community is about to shame you and shun you because you chose to divorce your cheating spouse. It seems inconceivable, but it’s exactly what happ...
Aug 23, 2022•29 min
You’re in a bad relationship. You’ve tried to make it work, but you’re still very unhappy. You’re easily tempted to have an affair with someone who love bombs you: that’s someone who showers you with attention, gifts and promises for the future. This love bomber appears to be in love with you, and you get completely swept up. In some cases you agree to marry, live with, or even have children with your suitor because isn’t this what love is meant to feel like? Um….? Fast forward and you discover ...
Aug 16, 2022•41 min
It’s still vacation time so this week we’re featuring another one of our favorite episodes “from the vault.” Listeners loved this short fictional story about affairs, and the panel discussion about infidelity that followed. Stay tuned - fresh new episodes of Cheating: When Love Lies are coming soon! What if you’re married but secretly sending DMs and sexy pictures to someone you're attracted to. What if you’re in a long term relationship, but once or twice a year you give yourself permission to ...
Aug 09, 2022•53 min
Summer is here. It’s vacation time — so we are taking some of our fav episodes from the vault while everyone here at “Cheating: When Love Lies” gets some well deserved R+R. This episode features a panel discussion about infidelity. 3 diverse people all comment on a story (based on true life events) about an affair. This crew of panelists is opinionated, raw, diverse, unapologetic and a hell of a lotta fun! The Cheating Story: A husband is suspected of having an affair with not just 1, but 4 diff...
Aug 02, 2022•41 min
Your wife has been sleeping with her assistant. Your partner has been doing the naughty-nasty in the park with the dog walker. Your boyfriend decided to go to his college reunion alone and ran into his ex: the ex he once called the “love of my life.” Uh oh. What if when you find out you’ve been cheated on, you refuse to become the devastated, dejected partner who feels cast aside, and instead you immediately start a new, passionate relationship with someone else. Conventional wisdom says take ti...
Jul 26, 2022•32 min
My guest Lishone is a true provocateur. Her forceful criticism of men’s behavior as juvenile and lacking self control has caused an uproar on social media. An opinionated writer, some of Lishone’s recent titles implore women to “Stop Begging Men,” and remind women that “Accountability Is Not Hate.” Lishone’s position on Black men versus Black women is particularly divisive: she declares that Black men “are beneath” Black women, and this is one explanation for why Black men cheat on and mistreat ...
Jul 18, 2022•32 min
A mature married man who’s been with his wife for 20 odd years decides to go off and have an affair with a hot young 20 or 30- year-old. Nothing newsworthy there. In fact, some more cynical types might say it’s commonplace. But what about a mature married woman in her 40s or 50s having an affair with a married 20 or 30 something? It feels like she’d be tarred and feathered on Twitter. There’s a double standard for women. On this episode we’re going to talk to a mature married woman (we’ll call L...
Jul 12, 2022•35 min
For the July 4th holiday, we relaunch one of our most popular episodes. A married woman is tortured by the chaos and ever-changing dynamic of her affair with a married man. The woman's lover claims his wife is mean and neglectful and makes his home life miserable. These two married cheaters have a deeply emotional affair peppered with intimacy and fantasies, yet soured by episodes of his ghosting, lies and manipulation. The story is a journey from the day they meet through the months of passion ...
Jul 05, 2022•1 hr 6 min
About 20 years into your marriage, you find out that your husband has been cheating on you with your neighbor. You and he go to therapy to try and fix the marriage. While you’re devastated, you remain hopeful because you believe that therapy is going to help your communication, right the wrongs, and ultimately heal the marriage. Fast forward, and you find out the reason he wanted to go to therapy was to break up with you, ask you for a divorce, and leave you and your three children behind. Shoul...
Jun 28, 2022•34 min
You’re a wife. You’re fed up. You’re tired. You’ve talked yourself silly trying to be heard, recognized and appreciated by your husband (or partner). When your husband barely responds or is dismissive, you stop trying to communicate with him, and you start seeing your marriage as unsalvageable. This is when a wife can develop walk away wife syndrome. But does walk away wife syndrome literally mean a wife packs her bags and leaves, or is it something even more menacing? How many walk away wives a...
Jun 21, 2022•31 min
You’re a devoted husband with a loving, committed and intelligent wife. You want to family; a traditional American dream with a wife, kids, and a cozy home. But secretly you’re in love with another man. You and he have an emotional, passionate and sexy love affair that you can’t seem to put aside. For my guests today, Mark and David (not their real names or voices) this was their life, until more than a decade after they met, their lives were changed forever. See Privacy Policy at https://art19....
Jun 14, 2022•40 min
You’ve cheated. You’ve done the deed. Whether that’s sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you’ve done it: you’ve created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you’ve got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at all costs? On this episode I welcome Marie Murphy who is a relationship coach with a PhD in the soci...
Jun 07, 2022•45 min
