Episode 151 Q&A Session: Are They Actually Too Good for You is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode we’re discussing the question, “What can lead someone to say to you that you are too good for them? Trauma, lack of self worth, etc.?” We’re getting into: The question of, “Wouldn’t they want to rise to the occasion if they really wanted to be in relationship with you?” and the possibility that somebody would use this as a way...
Apr 21, 2023•31 min•Ep. 237
Connor Beaton is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization dedicated to the professional and personal growth in men. He is an entrepreneur, writer, keynote speaker, and facilitator dedicated to building a better society of men. Connor has spoken to large corporate brands, nonprofits, schools, and international organizations such as the United Nations, Microsoft, Johnson & Johnson, Apple, TED, and Entrepreneurs’ Organization. 🌟 Some Takeaways from this Episode: Men Need Communit...
Apr 19, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 150
Q&A Session: Acts of Service vs Micromanaging is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode we’re answering a question regarding how to manage over-functioning when your love language is acts of service. What do you do when you want to make your partner’s life easier, but end up micromanaging? We’re discussing: Getting honest with your motivation to determine if you’re operating from a true desire to show them they’re loved, or if...
Apr 14, 2023•26 min•Ep. 149
Dr. Candice is an award winning Psychologist, Sexologist, and Professor of counseling psychology and researcher of sexual wellness and liberation, host of two dope ass podcasts “Fuck the System” and “How to Love a Human.” She has also been published over 50 times. Some Big Takeaways from Our Conversation with Dr. Candice: Racial Discrepancies in Sexuality: The differences between growing up and experimenting with your relationship to sexuality as young Black woman vs a young white woman Socioeco...
Apr 12, 2023•58 min•Ep. 148
This is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In today’s episode, we’re helping two listeners with questions that arise around potentially ending a long term relationship. We’re discussing: Recognizing cyclical patterns in relationships and the difficulty we often have interrupting our patterns unless something comes into play that forces us to address it Falling in love with potential instead of paying attention to what the dynamic feels like in o...
Apr 07, 2023•21 min•Ep. 147
Vicky Vox is a profound healer, a performer, spiritual empowermentor, a psychic medium, and a sorceress. She has spent a lifetime inspiring others through her work in the arts, standing unapologetically in the truth of her gifts, and raising the vibrational frequency to one of love and acceptance in every single space she enters. We sat down to talk with Vicky about: 1. Navigating a world that feels against you when your spiritual and physical bodies don’t align with the conditioned limitations ...
Apr 05, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 146
This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: How do you avoid resentment? We’re discussing: The role of personal accountability in avoiding resentment How resentment relates in situations where abuse or intentional harm was present The ways peeling back layers of anger and grief to face your wounded inner child can help you to reclaim your power If you have a question or topic you’d like us to address, we would love to...
Mar 31, 2023•29 min•Ep. 145
Traver Boehm is the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, author of Today I Rise, Man UNcivilized, and a two-time TEDx speaker, men’s coach and podcaster. Traver draws upon an eclectic background ranging from work as a professional bodyguard, Mixed Martial Artist, and utilizing his Master’s Degree in Traditional Chinese MEdicine and Meditation. Traver counsels men, women, and couples on how to better understand men’s health and relationship difficulties. We sat down to talk with Traver abou...
Mar 29, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 144
This episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. Today’s question is: Why is it such a bad thing for your partner to need you and not just choose you? We’re discussing: 1. Turning the question on yourself - why do you want to be needed? 2. The idea that the feeling of being needed, in any chosen relationship, gives us a sense of purpose and/or false sense of identity 3. How to reclaim your ability to be okay with the unknown and the possibilit...
Mar 24, 2023•25 min•Ep. 143
We had an opportunity to do an Instagram Live with Dr. Shefali, three time New York Times best-sellers author, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. We sat down to talk about her most recent book, The Parenting Map, and: 1. The importance of raising our children to be sovereign beings, rather than a possession that fit into our idealized parenting fantasies 2. Shifting our parenting paradigms from being in control to being in charge, and what that tangibl...
Mar 22, 2023•29 min•Ep. 142
Trauma Bonds and Addiction is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. In this episode, we’re discussing: 1. The longstanding concept that drugs, alcohol, and other types of addictions can be a way to feel more in touch with Self/Source and numb the feelings of inadequacy 2. How safety in chosen relationships can initially come from a place of societal conditioning of needing/longing to be accepted and fit in, and how we can dig deeper to examine how ...
Mar 18, 2023•34 min•Ep. 141
Jeremie Lotemo is a Transformation Coach who supports both men and women with cultivating tools to create radical, lasting changes in their lives and relationships. We are thrilled to have Jeremie joining us for a second time after the incredible response we had to our first conversation with him (ep. 118). We sat down to talk about: 1. The insights he gained after making the conscious decision to be celibate for over a year 2. The ancestral trauma that is often being perpetuated in the unconsci...
Mar 15, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 140
In this solo episode, we take a look at a Buzzfeed opinion article that examines the idea that kissing and cuddling can feel like a contract for sex. In this episode we discuss: 1. The unspoken expectations for sexual intimacy that, many women feel come with any physical contact from our partners 2. The common differences in how men and women get to a place where they feel emotionally safe enough to express themselves sexually 3. How to find an integrated balance between our inner masculine and ...
Mar 10, 2023•41 min•Ep. 139
Jeff Guenther, (also known as Therapy Jeff) is a licensed professional counselor from Portland, Oregon who has created a huge social media following by offering relationship advice, tips, pep talks, and other resources to maximize your mental health. We sat down with Jeff to discuss: 1. working to be realistic about who people are, and the capacity they have to show up in certain ways 2. the challenges that come to the surface when we look for our partner to do our reparenting work for us 3. the...
Mar 08, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 138
This week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by you, our listeners. In this Cheaper than Therapy conversation, we get into the nitty gritty realness of motherhood and the societal shortcomings to support moms. If you have a question you’d like us to discuss, click here . 🌟 What You’ll Gain From this Episode: Accepting the Twists: The journey of accepting the ebb and flow of motherhood, after an initial resistance to having children, is a moment-by-m...
Mar 03, 2023•25 min•Ep. 137
In this live coaching session, we sat down with Jane to talk about some struggles she’s been having with infidelity in relationships and her own self-trust. We explore: 1. How to create safety within ourselves and what that looks like, so that we are able to recognize safety, or lack thereof in relation to others 2. The opportunity to love ourselves so fully that we won’t allow anyone in our sphere who doesn’t mirror that same love back to us 3. What happens when we remove our negative self-talk...
Mar 01, 2023•37 min•Ep. 136
Imani Tutt is a Marriage and Family Therapist, an Intuitive, a Content Creator, and an incredibly powerful conduit in supporting those she works with in tapping into their innate wisdom and power. Imani specializes in working with those who are committed to exploring their journey through the process of self examination. She believes that everyone has the power to change when they give themselves the opportunity. We sat down with Imani to talk about: 1. How her experience of the differentiation ...
Feb 22, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 135
This week’s episode is part of a series where we discuss topics and/or questions submitted by our listeners. This week we’re discussing: 1. What it means to self-sabotage and the different ways this can show up in our lives and relationships. 2. How we can challenge ourselves to confront our shadow-self in order to pinpoint triggers and self-limiting beliefs and behaviors so that we can practice new patterns, even in a society that conditions us to quiet our self-love. 3. The freedom that can co...
Feb 15, 2023•23 min•Ep. 134
Kelsey Grant is a teacher, writer, musician, wisdom keeper, and creatrix who loves the magic of love and believes in the power of cultivating a sense of healing through fulfilling relational experiences. We sat down talk with Kelsey to talk about: 1. The importance of being honest with ourselves as we attempt to construct the relationships we most desire 2. How shadow work can serve as a tool to work with the activation our relationships inevitable bring up for us 3. How relational dramas often ...
Feb 08, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 133
Preston Smiles is a teacher, a transformational thought leader, a conscious content creator, and a man on a mission to empower others by amplifying a multi-generational movement of radical love on the planet. We sat down talk with Preston about: 1. The unspoken war of the sexes and the challenges that arise for couples during the early stages of parenthood 2. Some of the blind spots that we’ve held as women around the felt experiences of men 3. How our relationship dynamics instantly shift when ...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 132
Kelli Moore is the co-founder and CEO of Soulfire™ Productions: the premiere podcast network for thought leaders, free thinkers, and visionaries. She’s been the host of two top-rated podcasts, The Kelli Show and OK, Babe., and is deeply passionate about helping people see themselves more clearly. Kelli believes in setting ourselves free from expectations, people pleasing, and the stories that hold us, hostage, in our own lives. Kelli is also an Emmy Award Winning former Sports TV Host with an ey...
Jan 25, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 131
In this solo episode, Vanessa and Dené passed a miniature microphone back and forth in the car to record a conversation they were having on the way to their New Year's retreat. They talked about: 1. How their perspective on interdependence differs from the ways others describe it in several personal development and psychology spaces. 2. How a woman’s experience of safety in a relationship can have a lot to do with the emotional load she is carrying. 3. Why most of us are actually taking on way m...
Jan 18, 2023•58 min•Ep. 130
This episode is part of a series where we coach one of our listeners through a topic or question. In this coaching session, we sat down with “Anne” to talk about the internal struggle that comes from the societal norm to feel incomplete without a partnership. If you’re interested in joining us for a coaching session, click here . Some Takeaways from this Episode: Differentiating Between Comfort vs Ease: There’s comfort in choosing the societal norm to be in partnership, but ease can be found whe...
Jan 11, 2023•38 min•Ep. 129
Flynn Skidmore is a therapist, content creator, and business mentor who specializes in helping people create lasting change in their lives, faster. Through Flynn’s courses, community driven content, and work with individuals he finds that clients deepen their self-acceptance and start taking tangible action steps toward getting unstuck. We sat down with Flynn to talk about: 1. Figuring out what it is we actually desire to feel in relationships so that we can come up with the best strategy for ac...
Jan 04, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 128
In this live coaching session, we sat down with May to talk about some struggles she’s been having with codependent tendencies. We explore: 1. how to know the difference between looking out for someone because you care about them and controlling them 2. the opportunities for building resilience that are lost when we protect those we love from difficulty 3. how important it is to hold ourselves with compassion in the moments that we’re being controlling, understanding that the need to control is ...
Dec 28, 2022•26 min•Ep. 127
Yasmine Cheyenne is a writer, speaker, and self-healing advocate, born and raised in Brooklyn, NY. She helps people create and strengthen their individual self-care practices by teaching them the tools that empower lasting positive changes in their lives. An Air Force Veteran, Yasmine now focuses on her self-healing workshops as well as her writing. Her book, The Sugar Jar: Create Boundaries, Embrace Self-Healing, and Enjoy the Sweet things in Life, is available for preorder and releases on Dece...
Dec 21, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 126
In this live coaching session, Dené and Vanessa sat down with Pam to talk about her experience of anxiety within a new relationship after a prolonged period of singlehood. They explore: 1. How to cultivate a toolkit for self-soothing some of the inevitable discomforts that comes to the surface when we’re opening ourselves up to love. 2. Sitting with the difficult truth that we cannot experience love without vulnerability 3. Why the skills Pam cultivated while she was ‘Single on Purpose’ are stil...
Dec 14, 2022•26 min•Ep. 125
Quentin de Camp is a relationship coach, a therapist, and a healing teacher who’s spent the last decade searching, analysing, learning, and modeling the most efficient techniques and tools for self-development and human psychology. and communication, key success factors and more recently neurosciences, well being in workplace, trauma informed and leadership. He supports others in removing what is holding them back, so they can thrive in what they want to achieve in their lives. We sat down with ...
Dec 07, 2022•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 124
Taune Lyons is an integrative therapist, writer, and coach in the San Francisco, Bay Area. She specializes in understanding our attachment sounding, intentional relating, sexuality, unraveling our conditioning, and the integration of our painful experiences. We sat down with Taune for an IG LIVE to talk about: 1. straddling the line between the “disconnection dance” in relationships and acknowledging the inevitable ways our actions end up impacting those around us 2. how we can reframe our relat...
Nov 30, 2022•59 min•Ep. 123
Ep.122 How we process pain In this solo episode, we sat down to unpack some of the feedback we got on one of our recent episodes. We discuss: 1. The differentiation between allowing ourselves time to fully feel the most challenging moments in our lives vs letting those moments define us. 2. How what we’re grappling with on an individual level is so often mirrored by what we struggle with as a collective 3. Our perspectives on how therapy is currently being utilized and how self-help can sometime...
Nov 23, 2022•41 min•Ep. 122
