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transparent enough to let y'all know that. I was very nervous. But when I got there and like the just to see how the crowd embraced me, yo, it was amazing. I had so much fun. We had Porscha Williams, Robin Dixon, Giselle Bryant, Michelle Williams, Mandy and Weezy. What the fuck? Listen? Listen, y'all. I got the footage, some footage coming. Make sure you visit the Can'tfully Reckless page. The girls from Horrible Decisions They had my ass up there, walking them like dogs.

Mandy and licked my damn shoe. They's some freaky holes, okay, theys, some freaky bitches I lovem'na have to go. I'm gonna have to go on horrible decisions. I'm gonna have to you it may be a good decision for me to go on horrible decisions. I ain't gonna lie. I like them girls, Man, Tam, Bam, and aj. It was so many black creators up in the house. Shout out to Black Effect y'all. That is not the only festival. We're coming back doing this shit yearly. And yes, your girl

Just Hilarious will be hosting next year too. I mean they don't know yet, but y'all gotta put y'all bidding. Y'all gotta let them know. Just Larious needs to host every Black Effect podcast festivals. And just like that, we're back on the air. Might check once you want two A real bitch spent the black. What is you gonna do? You're gonna listen, Ain't you're gonna listen because we're back with Just Fix My Mess. Another catholic, reckless episode coming

to you right now. We're gonna jump straight in and this episode we got people writing me. God damn it, y'all don't want to send in y'all voices. Now listen, Like last season, I said, I'm gonna keep on saying it. I will read, Yes, I will read it. Ain't like I don't want to. I will read as long as y'all sound smart enough, as long as y'all writing this shit smart, okay, because I don't want to sound a literate when I'm trying to help y'all fix y'all mess shit.

A lot of y'all need to get hooked throwing motherfucking phonics before y'all try to send me some goddamn mess all these long run on essay sentences. How's somebody gonna write me a whole fucking Oh this this shit is juicy, but it ain't not one punctuation mark in this motherfucker Jesus Aret. Hey, Jess, I've been dealing with this situation where my family has been treating my as a toddler. Okay, she must admit herself. My family has been treating me

as a toddler, and I honestly can't stand it. I may only be eighteen. Oh yeah, she was definitely talking about herself. I may only be eighteen, but I don't even get treated like an eighteen year old. Keep in mind, I'm not even the youngest child. There are many kids born after me. My family keeps talking about marriage, and my ex's mom is convinced that I could possibly be pregnant.

But I'm going through college and I would like to form my life in a way where if I were to get pregnant, it would be at a time where I could give my child everything or she needs as a mother and be different. Girl. I don't want to give up on my family, and I really value you and your opinion. But how do I get my family to stop treating me like I'm still in eighth grade and trust me enough to make decisions for myself that require simple common sense. I've prayed about it, but I

feel like I need another woman's perspective. I may not be grown, but I deserve my credit where it's due. I'm not still messing with my ex. I have value. I know that's right, Boogie. I have moved on, but I'm gonna have to break up with his mom at this point. Ooh, okay, so you're still close with his mom. Okay. First of all, I love that you reached out to me. Being as young as you are, I know y'all can have a lot of pride oh my god, and y'all

don't want nobody in y'all business. Although y'all put it all a little Instagram and shit, I'm not putting you with them. I'm just saying, y'all because you is one of them, all right. But I absolutely love how you are mature enough to reach out to me on this platform and that you don't mind sharing your story because there are other teenagers that I'm pretty sure feel this way and get treated like a baby, and you know, they actually want to grow up. I have one of

my friends. Her daughter is nineteen, and she will not let this little girl grow up. She will not the girl to my baby girl to moved out. Well that's her baby girl too, but she's my baby girl too. She has moved out of her mom's house and everything, you know, and the mom just still comes over her house. And this is one of my friends. So I try to talk to her all the time, like, yo, let that girl grow up. Let her grow up. She has a job, she's making her own money, she got her

own car, she's working. He's not in college, but she is an entrepreneur. She has her own business. And these are all qualities that her mom instilled in her, but she's just not ready to see her grow up. Also, I'm gonna give you this advice coming from a mother to someone that's not a mother yet. I have an eleven year old, okay, and I know it's gonna be hard for me to just see him leave the nest. He's my only child, and you know, I'm a boy mom, and he is a mama's boy. You know what I'm saying.

And it's hard. It's hard. My dad babied me until I was until I got pregnant with my son. That's when I officially was not a baby in my dad's eyes anymore. And that was at twenty years old. I got pregnant at twenty. You know, my dad did not want me to move out. My dad actually got upset with my mom because she let me move out. She didn't fight me on it. Look, that's enough about my father child, because I can go all day on being a daddy's girl and just you know, growing up like that.

Back to you, now, you're not gonna like this pool. But you are only eighteen. No, you're not legally grown. You are a young lady, but you're not a I can't even say you're not a one. I want to say that you're not a woman yet, babe, You're not not just yet. I would say twenty one, twenty one, You got another three years until you can go buy some drinks. You got another three years until you can

even get in a goddamn club. Girl. You got three years, three years until your parents are gonna say that you word grown, okay, And I want to say this, Hey, at least you still got your parents. You know, a lot of eighteen year olds are out here having to fend for themselves and are wishing to have parents that could still treat them like a baby. You know, I

love that, the fact that you're being nurtured. It's a lot of shit going on out in this world, sex trafficking, young women and children are being targeted by older men, you know what I'm saying, and out the country both it used to be outside the country more. But what social media has done, which can sometimes be a gift in the curse that social media, it has opened up our eyes to see what is more publicized now, and that is crime, a lot of fucking crime. You gotta

be careful. These men are praying on y'all. Young girls, on these dating apps and on social media, and they're watching what y'all post, y'all revealing y'all body parts, and like not saying you, but I'm saying y'all because you are eighteen, so you're a part of the you know, the younger generation, you know, the millennials. I'd say, but I want you to be more grateful for that than upset about it, because there will be one day that you look back and you're gonna be like, it wasn't

so bad. It wasn't so bad. They've done well with you to this point. You know, they have done well with you. You seem to be a great young lady, and I'm gonna give that credit to your parents, you know, and then just you growing up figuring out who you are. You know, you got three more years for that. You got well the rest of your life for that. But you got three more years until you'll be on your

own for everything, with everything. So I don't have advice on how you can be growner or show that you are so grown that you don't need them to be on your back all the time. No, I say I love it. I say I love it. H And if you value me in my opinion, then you would love what I just said to you. Okay, baby girl, Now what's all this about this ex mama who thinks that you are pregnant and all of that shit? What the hell's going on with that? I need to see what's

going on. And then that also tells me. If the mom thinks that you're pregnant, then you two are having sex? Is what that means? And that also promised me to ask you, is that why you think you so damn grown and that they shouldn't baby you all the time? It's because you out here having sex? Is that? Why

does that have anything to do with it? And then that much to have come from her son, your ex boyfriend if she thinks it, unless you done gave her some type of little inkling to think that you're pregnant, she ain't gonna thank you pregnant for no reason pool mm hm. So you need to figure that out, and I need to know if you are as well, because that also is gonna be a reason that that also could be a reason why you don't want nobody to baby you because you got a little baby in you

and you bet not. Okay, you got college and some good things and some businesses to run and some shit to do before you need to sit down and have a baby. Okay, And I know I'm not the only one that has told you this. Okay, Actually that ex'es mom need to be telling you this. I don't know if she's one of them that's trying to be your fucking friend or what you know, and trying to be so cool with your little ass that she don't want to tell you that this is wrong. And look at

the bigger picture. I want to also know how old her ass is and did you did y'all have sex in her house? And uh uh huh, because it don't seem like you could be having sex and you are not with your parents ban all over your back, which is a good thing and my opinion, So check back in with me. I love you, I love you. I love you. This is not me coming down hard on you. This is not me trying to sound like everybody else.

This is just the truth and cold hard facts. Be careful out here, Do not try to grow up too fast. Be careful, Be careful for as long as you can hold up. Hold up. I noticed shit getting good. But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Moving on, guys, Hey, Jess, my bestie of over a decade became friends with this girl that really hurt me and bullied me for years. This girl, let's call her Shila, has even snaked my

best friend let's call her Mira as well. Mira and I had a falling out and recently picked up where we left off, and she told me that her sisters is friends with Shila, but she is not. Mia posted on her ig both of them going out to eat. I texted her a long paragraph telling her that I love her, but I cannot continue to be friends with someone that is friends with Sheila. Mara texted back, ensuring me that she has no problem cutting her off for me because she is loyal to me. I said, okay, cool.

She started making me feel weird and made it seem like I forced her to cut her off and I did not. All I said was I do not want to be associated with someone that is comfortable being friends with someone that hurt me, and she's the one that decided to cut her off and keep me as her friend. Mara doesn't have me on Snapchat anymore since we fell out last time, but I still remember her snap name. I had a weird feeling one day I looked up her name and saw that she posted up at Shyla's house. Dumb.

I screenshot at the snaps and texted her that I am not interested in being friends with her anymore and broke down in tears because I felt that in my soul that our friendship was really done this time. I'm so sad, but I also feel like I'm starting to have standards for myself, and I'm a little proud of myself for deciding to no longer deal with fake friends. My question is am I wrong in this situation. I've never had real friends before because I used to be

the type of person to be friends with anyone. Now that I'm twenty seven, I'm finally figuring out what type of people I want in my circle, and be that as it may. You are right, Okay, No, you are not wrong in this situation, baby girl. First of all, thank you for sending in your story. You're twenty seven. Yes, you're still young. You know you're not a teenager, but you are a young woman, and I think this is

the good time. What better time. It's a perfect time to be growing in to the woman that you want to become, you know, because you got three more years until thirty. And they say, you know, and based off of my own experience around that time at twenty seven, twenty eight, twenty nine, thirty, I started losing friends. I started losing you know. I was what they call a

hopeless romantic in relationships and friendships as well. I would give anybody a chance to be my friend, backstab me, do this, do that, and you know, fuck around with people who I You know, I've been in your situation before around that same age. And so you're doing everything that you can do possibly right to set standards for yourself. That's good. You're figuring out who you are, like you said, and everybody can't come with you. People outgrow people. I

just got finished telling a friend this the other day. Yes, people do outgrow each other. You know. That goes for relationships, that goes for family members, that goes for friendships. You know, everybody's not going to be on your level, whether you're higher or lower, whether you're the one taking forever to evolve or whether they're the ones that's taking forever to evolve. Everybody can't stay glued together, you know, because people have to go separate ways to grow and then you come back.

You can revisit a friendship. But sometimes it's not meant for you guys to stay as close or to be as close as you guys once were. Sometimes you have to be friends from a distance. You don't have to be. But that can be that homegirl that you call every now and then to check on, and it's like no bad blood, but no harm done, no harm, no foul, no love lost. You know, you could be the homegirl that she calls every now and then. I'm just calling to check on you, see where you are in your life.

If you need anything, love your girl, talk to you soon. It could be that it doesn't have to be a beef, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a best friendship either. Also in her defense, in Mira's defense, I can understand if she's the type of female that feels like this she hurt you, she didn't hurt me. We were all friends at one point, and this girl hurt you, she didn't hurt me. I can tell her about herself all

goddamn day. I can tell her my opinion on how she did you as my friend and how she did our friend. That was fucked up, that was wrong. Maybe she realized that it was wrong. But you didn't want to be Shayla's friend anymore because of how badly she treated you as a friend once before, bullied you and all that. She could have grown out of that, but you don't want. You don't have no words for her because you can't forgive that and be that as it may.

Maybe you can't forgive that. But if Mia and Sheila were friends before, they could still have a friendship, and Marra could still be loyal to you as long as Sheila don't talk shit about you to Mirah. I think they're good, you know, I think I think that's how Mara feels. And I think Mara just was caught in a situation where she didn't want you to be mad at her, because you obviously are one of her good friends, and she's obviously one of your good friends too, you know,

or was one of your good friends. You know. She just was caught in the middle, and she didn't want to choose, so she was sneaking going to hang with Sheila. Her and Sheila could have a bond, They could do something for each other. She could be a good that that confidant for Sheila. She Shyla could be that for her, you know, you know, I think that you kind of made it about her being friends with Sheila instead of making it about the loyalty and the friendship in the

bond that you and Mirah made. Because nothing can break that, not even a bitch that don't like you, not even a bitch you don't like. It's supposed to be able to come in between you and your good friend, you know. And do you feel that they talk about you? Do you feel shayless still? You know, talks about you to Mirah. Do you feel like they set up and key key about you and shit like that. If that's the case, then know you're not wrong in this situation. And then

you just need to leave both of them alone. You know, you need to leave Miraa alone. But y'all don't have to beef. Y'all could just be long distance homegirls, you know, homegirls from a distance associates if you will, you know, but check back in, let me know, let me know. I am all for you growing into the woman that you want to become, and I'm all for you setting these standards because at some point in our lives. We all have to do that. Okay, I love your girl.

Check back in with me. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back and the last story moving on. This is a quick one. Hey, Jazz, I'm just going to get straight into it. I need you to fix my mess. I've been dealing with this guy for six years. Damn, you just been dealing with him for six years? What the fuck? And we made it official two years ago. I just found out that he was married. So now I literally don't know what

to do. After six years of knowing him and growing to be in love with him, two years of being official, it's just hard to walk away. Uh well, bitch, throw on some skates and roll the fuck on out. What the hell is going on? What do you mean? You found out he was married, so you've been a mistress. You've unknowingly been a mistress for six years, and you didn't know how to fuck You ain't know what the fuck his wife is a What the fuck? What is she?

A deaf mute? How to fuck you that live in Antarctica? How the fuck you don't know? Oh my god, I need to talk to him. Now, how to fuck you to the hats? What you done? Hit somebody for six years? You hit two women for six years? Unless the wife knew about you? How the hell did he hide the wife from you for six years and hid you from the wife for six years? What the fuck? Girl? Just leave? I don't have no advice for that other than leave, girl,

fucking leave, leave, leave, leave, leave leave. I got so many questions. Did you meet the wife yet? How did you find out about the wife? Does he live with her? What the hell is happening? How old are you? Shit? How old is he? We all live? What y'all be doing? God? Damn, girl, you don't got much fucking but did he? Oh my god? Does he have kids with the wife? Do y'all have children? What? Girl? You're gonna send me four sentences and say help me? What the fuck? And just like that we come to

the end of another girl. I gotta get out of here. I gotta get out of here this shit. Just tune in next week. I hope this bitch come back with something. Shit next week, y'all, next week? Out of here? Peace can't fully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.