Staying In A Child's Place

You ever heard of false labor? I basically got played with by my child, like I'm being pranked by my unborn child, because it's like she want to come, but she like psych you know what I'm saying, Like playing big games with my cervix, playing big games with my uterists, playing big games with my bladder. I feel like some days she feel like she's about to just fall out of that motherfucker. And then other days I feel like she didn't like shimmied her way back up a little bit,

because some days I'm low, some days I'm hot. Y'all. This this, this is a lot, y'all, And I know that y'all know us. And I'm recording this shit on a Monday, but it came out today, So this is just two days ago. Now, I guarantee you I'm gonna probably still be pregnant Wednesday. I just stopped like playing with her at this point. Now. I posted some things like yo, what do you do? I did ask people like what do you do to like make the baby come? Now? The reason why I did this, I went in for

an appointment two weeks ago. My doctor was like, oh, she's extremely low, like I'd be surprised if you make it to next week's appointment. Then I was only thirty eight weeks. That's that's considered to be full term though, so we're past the premie stage and everything. So I was excited, like, oh shit, I'm about to have her, you know, as nervous as I am later for that nervous shit, Like this shit is not Pregnancy is not

fun anymore. It's exhausting, It's very uncomfortable in your leg like on at home stretch, and last week's your last day's is like whoa, you just want the baby out. While I'm not rushing her. I was told, you know, she might be coming, like you know, and it's looking very promising. So I was just like, okay, so what are some things. I've talked to doulas. I've talked to women who've had dulas. I've talked to older women, younger women.

You know, everybody's different, So I'm not just just gonna stop at just one person's opinion on what they think I should do. But I did see in the comments like why is she trying to rush her? Bitch, I'm not trying to rush her. She was rushing and then she played with me because I ended up making it to next week. Why did I do the cast sole shit, the castle shit I did that? I was shitty, My

buhle was raw. I'm glad I didn't go into labor because for those who don't know, when you push your baby out, you have to push like you're on the toilet taking the number two. You don't push like you're pushing them out of your vagil I. You know, you push like you're taking a shit. So I'm so glad because I would have had big hemorrhoids, you know what I'm saying. Bajo was burning big raw like it was like, okay,

so why the fuck do people take this shit? You know? Now, I wasn't aware because everybody who told me to take it did tell me it's a laxative. But I had no idea I would be shitty for that long. So I'm glad that she didn't come. That would have been

like extremely painful. Then I'm trying to do this shit without another DOORO, Like, I'm praying every day that I do have the strength to me and I know I do, but it's just like, oh my gosh, like giving birth without another door, just even thinking of what the hell that feels like is definitely intimidating to me. But I want to do it. I do want to try to birth this baby with no meads, no medicine and shit. And so after I push out, they load me up with a perk perk. But yeah, other than that, I

don't know. So I'm not rushing her her. I've seen that in a bunch of my fucking comments. I'm like, look y'all, y'all can get blocked fucking around me, fucking around with pregnantized I'm very sensitive, So don't play with me like that. I would never do that, but I

will say she is being very stubborn, very stubborn. Last appointment we went, they put the two straps like the belts around your stomach to monitor your contractions and the duration of them and how strong they are and you know the time in between them and all that type shit. And I have not one on that goddamn at that appointment on that machine. I was having contractions that day.

They were just spread out. And then I want to know, like, y'all give me feedback on this, if y'all been pregnant and like close to the time that you're having a baby and your contractions are more intense and more frequent at night and then in the morning, it's like second now, I was just playing, like what like, cause that's what's been going on with me. Like at night, I don't I have sleepless nights because I can't get comfortable. Every time I do get comfortable, ten minutes later, here here

comes the biggest contraction I've ever fucking felt. They're always worse than the one before, and shit, but only at night, and then during the day they'd be like thirty minutes apart, twenty minutes apart. I'm like, what the fuck? But at night, I don't know, I don't know. I get like shooting pain in my butt, I feel it in my vagina. Like I'm not trying to scare anybody from having a fucking baby. But listen, the older you get, the scarier

it gets. You know, Like I said, I told you all the time and time before when I was nineteen and I was pregnant. I had ashen at twenty. I pushed that little baby out in thirty minutes. I ain't give a fucking sorry, No, give me the drugs, give me the abidoro or whatever. Whatever. It was a painful needle, and I still felt the carefit of going through my pe hole and shit. But like I was young, so I was just ready to you know what I'm saying, have them, get them home, take care of them, get

back to the streets. That's my truth. Whatever. I am so scared as a thirty two year old pregnant woman, you know. And then for other people in the coms that I keep seeing and shit, So I'm confused why she ain't like she never had a baby before. How about you tried twelve years apart, bitch, how about you do that and then come back and let me know how you feel about it. Yeah, because this baby was planned.

This is what I want, and I want more after this, but I don't know so because every pregnancy is different, every woman is different, So yeah, it's gonna be like the fucking first time. I don't even remember every fucking thing because I was so fucking hired up from the epidural. So that's the thing. That's another reason why I want to do natural and then shit these days way different from shit back in the days. You know what I'm saying, Long long time AGO's days, shit was different. We are

now in this type of time. Like you know, you have to think things through. You have to just go inside of a fucking hospital and have a baby like you cannot do that. You have to plan. This is serious. You're bringing life into the world. You have to know your doctor. You have to be comfortable with your doctor and your fucking nurses because the doctor don't even get there until the baby. Damn near ray slide out. Shit, you gotta deal with nurses who don't give a fuck,

you know. If that's the case. You know what I'm saying at the end of the day, is you in your life? Oh my god, the man have a contraction right now, But it's not bad because the daytime, see what I'm saying. So this is like a play contraction. Anyway. Let me get into these stories because somebody get mad at this little girl, Oh Marley Marley. I love her name and wait to meet her and cassa ass out because you tried it. If you love me, you'll listen

to this commercial and then we'll be right back. All right, I'm just hi. I want to start by saying thank you for replying to this message if you ever open it. Okay, So, my dad is getting married and I've grown a really, really good bond with my soon to be stepmom. Her and my dad are literally the cutest thing when they're together. Before I move on with the story, could we please keep this anonymous because this is really not my place to speak on. So why the fuck is you writing me?

But I just don't know what to do. I mean, but Doug, girl, everybody's anonymous. Let me give you some more insight. My step mom is a flight ascendant, so she'd be gone days at a time. I'm only eighteen years old and I live with my mom. So when I go to visit my dad, he has a new female over there. Oh my good. Every time almost Oh my god. It's definitely your place to tell me your business.

So I'm glad you're doing this. Continuing it started to make me go over there a lot less and just look at him different, and he could tell the difference between my attitude. But he just don't care, and it feels like I should just mind my business and stay in a child's place. Me and my stepmom actually talk quite frequently, and I think she's starting to pick up

on some things because she does vent to me. But it's like I don't really know what to say without saying it, so I kind of stopped responding to her as well dying. So I feel like you're in on it. I know there are some things I could say, but I really don't want to upset anyone or make things worse. I just don't know what to do. Oh poor baby, Listen, you're eighteen. No child should be called in the middle of, you know, the drama of what their parents are going

through or what they see being willingly done. I don't know why your father would even allow such activity while you're almost grown as be over there, like you're eighteen. You're not fucking eight. You're not six, you're not five. Like you know what I'm saying. You are about to be a grown woman. You're eighteen. You know what's going on. You know you're not legally grown, but shit, you grown.

And if he knows that you have a relationship with your stepmother, I don't even understand why the hell he would allow for, you know, other women to be around you when you go over there. I don't understand it unless he, like you said, really don't give a fuck, because that's honestly, with that showing that's also a form of disrespect to you. Whether he looks at it like that or not, I don't know if you feel disrespected because you didn't say that, but that's disrespectful in any

type of way. I would definitely if my dad was getting married and I'm eighteen and he sees that I have a relationship with my step mom, which you always want to see, especially if this is the woman or the man that you're marrying and is not the other co parent of the child that you know that you have. And you know you want that, you want your kids to love your soon to be spoused, You want your kids to to you know, you want good bonds with people. You want to secure that, you want to make sure

your kids are around the right people. You want to just make sure everything is fine. And I feel like, yeah, he don't give a fuck, damn. So your advisory question is just like what to do? You don't know what to do, You don't want to be caught in the middle. You don't want to make things worse. I think you

should talk to your dad, to be honest. The reason why I'm so torn on you telling this stepmom exactly what's going on is because I can tell you haven't talked to your father yet, you know, or you that would have been something that you would have definitely included. I think you should definitely talk to your dad first, because, for one, he is your blood relative. He is your father. You know, you came out of his balls, So I would be like, look, dad, and obviously you know you're

cool with your dad. You go over there, you know, and all of that type of stuff. You live with your mom, but you know, you know, and your dad seem like y'all close for the most part as well. I think you should sit down and have a conversation with him and ask him how serious is his marriage to him? How serious is you know, his engagement to him?

Because I noticed that when I come over here, it's like a different female every week, you know, And I know that we just gonna call her Shehrry, your stepmom. I know Sherry travels. I know she's the flight attendant. I know she's not always here. You know. I know that, and I know men have needs and all that type of stuff, but it hurts me to see you with a different woman, knowing that you are engaged to Sherry, and I love Sharry. You know. This is who you

introduced me to. This is the woman you're gonna marry, This is, you know, the woman that I've been getting close with. And so I just want you to know how this makes me feel and then see what he says. You know what I'm saying that's more or less giving him your perspective on it rather than questioning his adultery

pretty much, because he's an adult. Yeah, kids just stay in a kids place or whatever, but you're eighteen and he's willingly doing it around you, unapologetically intentionally, Like these are his intentions. And I'm not saying that his intentions are bad or to even make you a cheater, because honestly, that's what he in hindsight could do as well. That

could make you shy away from marriage. Who knows why he not with your mom anymore, you know, But I'm just saying he's not really teaching you great things about fucking relationships, like and how that goes or whatever. Hold up, Hold up. I know this shit getting good, but listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. So I think you should sit down and talk to your dad, and then if you want talk to your step you know what I'm saying.

Then I keep forgetting. You're only eighteen. Like you said, you don't want to be in the middle, but you do feel some type of way, and you do feel guilty because you know some things, and your step mom is venting to you and shit like that. I mean, does she have any kids? I mean, does she have friends? Does she? I know she gets lonely as shit on

the road and things like that. But like, and the most disrespectful thing, baby girl, about all of this shit is this, nigga, your daddy is bringing these women in the house. It ain't like he getting hotel rooms. It's not like he going to their house. It's not like he taking these girls out so you're never able to see. It's like these women are in he and his fiance's house. You know what I'm saying. Even if it is his house, his fiance, that's his fiance. She lives there when she's home.

Am I right or am I wrong? I'm not sure you know what I mean? But your dad got a lot of fucking growing up to do. And it's not even about not cheating, you know what I'm saying, Like when my dad and my mom divorced and shit, it wasn't even really about like cheating. The reason, the reason why I'm saying he is a lot of fucking growing up to do is because a lot of men and a lot of women they want two things at once

that they can't have. You know, you ever heard of the saying you want your cake and eat it too? I mean, but I hate that saying because it's like, bitch, what I'm I supposed to do with cake? Sit here and look at it. I'm supposed to eat my fucking cake.

So I don't like that saying. But you can't be engaged to someone about to walk down an hour with somebody like this is pre marital, like this is, you know what I'm saying, and then showing your fucking royal oats before we even get to the out, like nigga, this is already supposed to be out of your fucking system, like you know, before you got down on one knee and proposed to me, because that's why you get That's why you proposed to somebody, right, because this is your partner,

this is your person, This is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Hopefully, you know if that's not too overrated for some years. You know what I'm saying, Like, that's what marriage is. And I think people get married for the wrong reasons these days, which I've shared with my listeners before, I've always said it. I think people have lost the meaning of marriage and they're only looking at like the wedding and looking at the positive and looking at the advantages

of being married. Nobody's really preparing for what a fucking marriage really is. You know what I'm saying, Because it ain't about you no more. But your dad is being selfish as shit because it is about him. He wanted to live like a bachelor. So I'm saying he got a lot of growing up to do because he needs to take accountability and just realize himself and be able to say it out loud. I can't be with one woman.

I can't I can't be with one woman. Well my dad figured that out, Yes, my dad, Well my dad realized I just want to be free, were his words, and that he could be comfortable in saying that and not criticized, not look down on, not be called the worst person in the world. Because my mom and my dad got married at such a young age, both straight out of high school. You know what I'm saying, they never got to live their bachelor, bachelorette life, nothing like that.

So that's what happens. You get married young and then you start cheating, you know, or you know, it just don't work. You know, it's a lot of reasons why people shouldn't get married too young. You know what I mean. That's serious. That's a serious covenant between you and a person, a commitment. That's just not like boyfriend girlfriend. It's a lot of shit you got to go through to get divorced. It's a lot of shit you should have to go through before you get married. So you know if this

is your person or not. But that's why I need you to talk to your dad first, and then if you feel like it you don't getting away with your dad, feel free to talk to your step mom. You know what I'm saying. Do you talk to your mom? I know your mind probably like shit, that's somebody else had ache now, baby, because I already went through all that shit. But sorry, didn't want to laugh there. But do you talk to your mom about it? You know, has your

mom developed a relationship with your step mom? Not to put her in the middle of it, either, but sometimes one woman needs another woman, you know. And you're a child. You're a child, but you are a young lady. You know right from wrong, and you know that your dad ain't really shit for real. I'm sorry. As a dad, I don't know how it is. But as a man, you know, in a relationship or you know, someone to take serious. Now, he ain't shit, you know. So yeah,

I'm not really coming at him as a dad. But nah, and again shit, So I think, sit down, talk to him, Like I said, get back with me. Let me know if you did, try to talk to him, and and then do what you feel at the end of the day. I don't want to be caught up in the middle. But say if that were you, you know what I'm saying. Say if you was somebody step mother and you got close to his eighteen year old daughter and you're starting to see his patterns change and all that type of shit,

blah blah blah. Would you want to put that daughter in the middle and ask her what do you know? Or would the daughter come to you? You know, would you even want the do you know? You know what I'm saying, like, I don't know. You gotta look at it from all perspectives. And I know, like I said, you're so young, you don't want to like you say, you young, you don't want to deal with it. But shit, you write me about it. I'm not gonna say it's not your business to speak on because he puts you

in the middle of it. He kind of did put you in the middle of it, or you wouldn't notice. Shit, you know what I'm saying, Like, he just sloppy. He don't even give a fuck, you know. So just get back with me, baby girl, all right, And just like that, we've come to yet the end of another Catholic, reckless episode with your girl. Just hilarious. Okay, so next week, hopefully I have this baby. Guys, next week, we just gonna keep on saying next week. By then I'll be

forty one weeks. I'm actually ten months pregnant now, so yeah, we'll see. But love you guys, and tune in next week to Carefully Reckless. Paige Can't. Fully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.