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to the world because they need praise every day. I want to touch on something different this week because I wanted to give it time. But the more time that I gave this ship, the worst things got. Okay, So nobody is a stranger to the fact that Kevin Samuels died. We just lost Kevin Samuel's almost two weeks ago. I'm a little upset about it because this man is down gone.

He's not here anymore. He is now deceased, and this should happened so abruptly, and it was honestly out of nowhere, you know what I mean, Like we actually saw him post a video a day before he was just live, a day or two before he was pronounced dead. And the fact that no one actually gives a funk about him dying is what really baffles me. How super insensitive

this world has become now. Last season of Carefully Reckless, I spoke about how we've all been desensitized and how death is just like not even as important or not even as shocking as it used to be to us, because it happens more often, and people will care one minute and one minute they won't if someone dies on a Monday. The grieving of it is short lived. Morning is short lived, you know what I mean, especially nowadays. You know, unless it's like a big, huge star that

everyone loved or whatever. But if you were known for doing anything wrong or bad in your life these days, when you die, you will be talked about for that ship they didn't like you for. For those who are not familiar with Kevin Samuel's Kevin Samuels, he was an image consultant. He started his YouTube channel back in and he basically like gave advice to men about women, and and then he later started giving advice to women you know about men. Back in he kind of went viral.

He had did a video explaining fifteen things that men should have, which included tailor suits in a sense of humor, and you know, all those type of things. You know, he actually gave pretty good advice to men, in my opinion. I watched a few of his lives, a few of his videos and stuff. He rose to popularity in following several viral moments capturing segments from his online show in which he would offer dating consultations that would often turn

into brating lectures. You know, and a lot of people more often than not, just agreed with his tactics in a way that he talked to women. You know, he came off a lot of times misogynistic and narcissistic and very manipulative and all those types of things that would easily classify him as a broken male. And some even thought that he was gay. You know, he don't like women and he must be hurting this, that and the other.

How I looked at Kevin Samuel's was just how I look at a lot of these females, one being myself. I used to do this a lot. We constantly bitch about men. Yeah, we bitch. We bitch about what men don't do, what men do do with men don't do enough, and how we don't like Brooke niggas and how you know, and not speaking for every woman, not even speaking for myself. I'm just being the voice of women out there. You

know a lot of y'all out there. I don't want to know Brooke, Niggers and Union got your ship together? You know, I don't want to, you know. So he was that same person in male form speaking about women. He didn't like broke bitches obviously, you know, he had a problem with women having all these fucking demands and and we ain't even got our lives right, but we can make those demands for men. Men gotta have their

ship together, and vice versa. I just felt as if a lot of people came down on him for doing the same ship that us women do two men. Like everybody has a voice of somebody, everybody has somebody that they look up to. There's all types of people out there, like Meg the Stallion, maybe the voice for the women who don't want to funk with broke guys and ship and who don't want to date, you know, a nine

five man or whatever what have you. Whatever her preferences are, she puts it through our music and she makes these songs that women deem as their anthems, like the whole fucking Summer Walker Album's an anthem. Right now, I can relate to her album still over it, that album, that last album that she dropped, still resonates with me. And

that's a no skip album. You can literally play that whole fucking album without skipping a song and you will feel each and every song because you've been through this ship. If you're not going through it now, you've been through to it. So she is the voice for a lot of women. Kevin Samuels was the voice for like your futures, your bow wows, your gunners, your your young thugs, your different men who have these issues with women, and rightfully so they have a voice as well, and something has

to be causing this fucking behavior. Everybody can't be a Russell Wilson. Kevin Samuel's wouldn't be the voice for Russell Wilson. Maybe if Steve Harvey would be a voice for a Russell wasn't. Everybody has their mentors and their role models and the people that they look up to you and ship like that. Kevin Samuels was an image consultant. He was a life coach for a lot of men, you know what I mean. And that's fine, that's fine, it's okay. And that's why a lot of women hated him because

he told them bitches about themselves. Now, mind you, he never shoved this ship down your throat. A lot of these women would go to his lives knowing what the fuck he's capable of saying, knowing what his tactics are, knowing this ship, and still would proceed to ask him for advice. People would get mad at the advice that he gives them, come back the next weekend, come on the fucking show again, and then y'all bad moutham even in his death. First of all, I didn't even really

believe that it was true. Blogs didn't even want to post it until about two days later that this man had died. The first blog I saw it on was the Jazzmine Brand. Shout out to the jazz and Brand. They are a very positive blog, one of the very few positive blogs on social media right now. But that's why I saw it first. I'm like, damn, I didn't even believe it because they were the only blog that had it up for like a day before anyone else

said grabbed it and posted it. And then I go to his page, I see that he was just on live and just said, I'm like, damn, how then this man died like he was healthy as an ox, he worked out, he you know what I'm saying, Like I found out a lot about him and ship like he was very healthy. It turns out he died on top of a woman. He died having sex. I mean, so we know the nickame gay. You know, No, he wasn't getting and ship. Like I said, I've never even thought

he was gay. I just thought that, you know, maybe he was hurting his past and you know, he just got off on talent bitches about theirself, you know. But he died on top of a woman. Now this woman is actually one of the women that was on his show before. He and the woman had probably been intimate before or whatever, and um, he just died on top of you. There is something for she going on. I do believe that she had something to do with this man's death. This is carefully reckless and I'm gonna say,

what the funk I feel. I feel like she had everything to do with this man dying. I don't know exactly what she did, but just like the cliche thing that we always say, what happens in the dark will come to the light. She probably didn't even really mean for the nigger to die, but she had got into it with him a few days prior on his show. And then you go and meet up with him, and now he's dead, like y'all were seeing beefing and ship the ship is crazy. Hold up, hold up, I know

the ship getting good. But listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. It doesn't matter how much bad advice y'all feel that he gave these women, and how much of a monster y'all felt that he was too women and all of that ship. The man lost his life, he died, His life was taken matter of fact, I'm not gonna say he lost his life. He obviously was murdered, but his life was taken away from him. He is dead now.

And then you got like celebrities coming forward saying bad ship, adding insult to injury. You got preachers, matter of fact, a Baltimore preacher, Jamal Bryant gets his ass in the pulpit and preach to his church bad things about the dead. Is that not a sin? Are you fucking crazy? You fucking hypocrite? Like that ship pissed me off, your fucking mutt, How dare you? That's what I'm saying. You're a lot of these fellowships, a lot of these churches, a lot

of these congregations. I'm telling you, these people are going to leave a lot of their people to hell. It's so many things that can be said about Jamal Bryant's ass, and he's gonna get up in a pulpit and speak bad on a dead man. This man has a family. Just because a lot of people didn't love him and he was, you know, well hated online, does not mean he didn't have people that loved him. He has family, yes, parents. I don't know if he got kids, but I know

he aunt's, uncle's, cousins and ship. Just because everybody online hated him does not mean his family did. He had friends. You everybody got somebody that loved them. And for you to sit up in a pulpit and lead your people in this manner and his members are just cheering them on and yes, yes, yes, bitch who sound because it's I wouldn't even have felt right? How can you even feel right? Doing that ship? That ship pissed me off

so bad? Like uh. And then I'm going through comments when all the blogs finally did posts that he had passed, and you know, I'm going through comments and these people are just being so insensitive. Like I've seen a comment that said, oh now my boyfriend can't send me his toxic as videos no more. What this man is dead, He's gone, He's not even coming back, And that's what you have to say. Seriously. You know, I've seen another comment that said, rest in peace. But what child? We

needed this one? What? What the fuck? This man had feelings. This man had a life. He was in three failed marriages. But I mean, I know his ex wives are feeling some type of pain. He was still a person. He was fifty six years old, and it was said that he had died from cardiac arrest. I believe that that lady probably fucking poison this man. Just something you know, I don't know, but something happened and it wasn't right.

And for Vivica A. Fox to call his death karma like, bit you're fucked up in your head, like and look, I got the utmost respect for my elders, for the people before me, for you know, whether you're celebrity or not. From my elder. That lady, she's grown and she is a legend. And I get it, but bitch, you are fucked up in your head to say some ship like that, somebody's death is karma. Who the funk did he killed?

I mean, that would be the only way I would deem it necessary to be talking about his death was karma if he killed someone like God, damn, yo, I'm telling you that ship just don't even sit right with me. How to fucking somebody even say some ship like that. She goes on her show, cocktails were queens, you know, shout out the fox soul. It's a it's a very nice show, and she says that ship. She also says

I didn't find anything about him to be healing. He insulted African American women on a consistent basis and so forth, that he deserved to die. She said, this man was a hypocrite. In my honest opinion, he really was. I get it, but God, damn, baby, people are just so evil. People are so insensitive, you know what I'm saying. And that also plays a part in today's trolling and how somebody can just literally feel like they can say anything

to anybody nowadays, you know, nobody has feelings anymore. However, I'm gonna keep that man's family and my prayers. I'm gonna say it here and now, God rest your soul, Kevin, God rest your soul. Sorry you had to be taken out like that. And no one deserves to lose their life, literally, no one. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. And other news. I know that y'all saw the first episode of Couples Retreat.

I'm on there. I'm one of the new couples. Daniel is accompanying me, and it's a lot of mixed feelings and doing something like that. People ask me, Yo, was you nervous or you not? Like when we watched it Monday, like prior to watching it, like all my friends were like, Yo, are you nervous? Like what happened? Like what you know? Like do you not want to watch it? Do you want to watch it? Listen? I'm gonna be honest with y'all. Just let y'all in on a vulnerable part of me.

I was scared of ship watch it while we filmed it, because we filmed it last year in September. I was like hesitant and even going there to film it because I'm like, Wow, I'm actually letting people in on my personal personal life. I mean, I know that y'all have seen me in the past go public with relationships, and what I've learned in doing that is don't do that ship, you know. But I'm crazy like that. And you know, I love love, whether y'all can see it or not,

whether y'all you know, really really know me. If y'all are my fans, y'all know that I love love. You know, I want to be married, I want to have kids. I want to and a lot of times, you know, you get caught up in and settling because you feel like when is it going to happen? And it's not happening fast enough for me, it's not you know. And then every person you meet is something wrong with this person?

Or but it's gonna be something wrong with everybody. But you have to actually really get to know a person and decide for yourself. Am I up for this ship? Okay? I see this person has a problem with loving, you know. I see this person is like not even all the way together in their own head, like they still have a lot of ship that they have to figure out for themselves before they can just get in the relationship.

You know, you have to factor out all of those things before you want to just move forward, makeing official with somebody and put a title on things. Because I don't date like I used to anymore. Like I don't date with the notion of breaking up like you know a lot of times now, that's how people date. People date keeping their options open because they already feel like the ship might not work. That's not good. That's how we are as a people now. We date like that.

I don't want to date like that no more. I was dating like that all of my twenties, and I don't want to do that ship. And I'm not just saying that because I'm thirty now, but that's how I feel, and I am maturing, I'm growing, and it's it's a lot of growth there. So you guys have a lot of that in store for you on Couples Retreat, make sure you tune in every Monday at nine eighth Central, and you guys can see a difference out of jazz. You know, I'm not always hard up. I'm actually really

soft and very feminine. I do love love, I do have feelings. They do get hurt. I do sometimes pick the wrong people, and maybe I'm the wrong person at times for somebody else. But you know, all of that ship is living, and all that ship is learning, and all of that ship is living and learning. In love, you have to be able to be okay with making mistakes, and you know, don't be too hard on itself. I'm very, very freaking hard on myself when it comes to feeling

like I failed in another relationship. No one wants to keep on this relationship, that relationship, this relationship. Oh let meet someone new. Oh my god, I'm back to the streets. Like you know, that ship is all cute and cool for social media memes and likes and all that ship and for reposting all that, But in real life, that

ship is not cool. Nobody wants to do that. Everybody wants to have that one person, and those who don't, all right, more power to you if you can handle more than one motherfucker go head, you know, superhero, you know, because I can't do it, and I don't want to do it. I just want that one person, my person. I just want one person. Everybody deserves to have their own person and belong to somebody, and somebody belongs to you,

and that person is your best friend. You're able to say, that's my man, but that's my nigga man, that's my ride or die. That's my girl, but that's my chick. Man. That's I don't want to say my bitch, but you know, and laying the term saying, that's my bitch man, Like I can tell anything. We can lay in a bed, we can talk for hours and we fuck, then we wake up, then we go out. Then I go my way, you go your way, and that now I'm gonna miss you when you come back. You know what I mean?

Just all of that ship. That's what I want. I don't want the glitz and glam all the time of a fucking relationship. I want the problems with the ship too. But you gotta be able to pick and choose which problems are worth you're sticking around, worth your time, worth your sanity, because all that sh it ain't worth it all the time. You can't be miserable. Relationship can't be one sided. You know, it's not fair, And you can't always think you can change somebody. They'll change, They'll change

on their own. Maybe you ain't for them. Maybe you ain't the one to make them change, you know, And maybe they were putting your life for a different reason. You just got it mixed up, you know. And we make mistakes like that too, and that's how you live and learn. And that is the end of this podcast. Today tuned into Carefully Reckless, every hump day tuned into

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