Match My Fly or Bye Bye Bye

I love these niggas. They cool, And before I went up there, I had already knew to braced myself right now, Look, that's kind of what the topic is about the day. It's story time about my own self, all right, So grab your t grab your holes, because these niggas had me fucked up, all right. So look, one of the topics was being single. Now neither one of them niggas are single, but they want to ask if I'm single or not. And they know, God damn well that I am.

Everybody knows that I am. All right, So Gilly asked me he just had to be the one, Jess, You're single. I say yeah, he said, okay, okay, I thought that was gonna be it. Willow straight cut him off. Willow said, Okay, damn, what what niggas need to do to get a shot at you look at the camera right now and telling how they can how they can have a shot with jest hilarious. I say, Yo, you just gotta be real. You gotta understand that I'm ahole bit. You gotta be

able to have your own money. You gotta be able to match my ship. If you don't make more than me, you still gotta make something up that statue. You know, you gotta be up there. You know what I'm saying that you know what up there means if you're up there. If you're not, then you know you're not you know what I mean. So Willow cut me off and he goes, you know, you know, Wilo get to talk and he

can't stop this. Nigga says, so you mean to tell me that you you can't date a cash it at walmut or a piece of delivery boy, or or you know, like a driver or no. I said, very calmly, I'm like, no, gilly Quaid, how dumb standing sitting there and looking like okay, cool? She said, No, Let's move to the next question. No, Wiler is trying to force me to be with these types of niggas. He's like, nah, So you mean, like,

what if he a manager at Target? Like you know, because you know you've been in shopping for towels and soap and all of that stuff. You know, y'all girls go there to get your lip glosses and ship. Like, what if you see him in the owls? I'm like, nah, I'm never gonna see a manager in the house because managers don't roam the oles. You know what I'm saying. I noticed because I've been a manager. We stay in the office, not doing ship, watching the cameras, you know

what I'm saying. He's like, no, no, no, no, But what if it was? And then Gilly cut him off, like yo, she said no, nigga, no. Now fast forward to when they posted about this ship. I got a lot of backlash from the men. They did the same thing to me that they were doing to be somemone. Now, listen, it's a preference. It's a fucking preference. My preference is not to deal with a guy who has, you know, a job of that stature. No, you can't be a cash fucking with me. No, you can't be a piece

of delivery boy, fucking with me. No, you can't be a manager at Target working with me. Now, listen, I'm not saying nobody would have nine to five. That's not what I said. That's what b Simone said. You can't have no nine to five. And she gave up a good reason because nine to five. Niggas don't understand what she do. You know what I mean, whether that was her real reason or not. All right, she gave a reason, but still everybody jumped on her asks because that was

her preference. I don't understand why to this date that A lot of guys got mad at her for that, A lot of females got mad at her for that. My preference is, you just gotta have a certain type of job. You can have a job because, believe it or not, I don't want to date a celebrity. No I do not. I do not want to date an athlete. I don't want to date an actor. I don't want to date a rapper. I don't want to date another comedian again in my life. No, I do not. I'd

rather have a working man. Now, you do have to have a certain type of job, like, okay, you can be a principal. You know you can be a professor, you can be a therapist. You know you can be a doctor, work at the hospital. You know what I'm saying, Like all types of ship on your own business, something like that. Work your way up. Okay, cool, I didn't say. No, nine of five is just a certain type of nine of five. What the funk is wrong with that? Yes,

I used to be a cash ship. Even when I was a cash I didn't date another cashi, you know what I'm saying. Yes, I used to work for FedEx. Yes, did I want another package handler to be my boyfriend? No the funk I didn't. I'm not making fun of anybody. No, man, if you have a job, that's good, that's bettering yourself. Having a job is something that's very, very hard, especially for black men, for certain black men, you understand what

I'm saying. But then you got your black men who don't want to work, but they don't want to do ship. I don't want to work for the white man. You're not trying to work for your damn self. So you know you got those types of guys. Now, I've had my share of every type, all right. I have fucked with a broke nigga before. I have funked with a guy who worked with the UPS before, like Chris Mike's boyfriend.

He worked at UPS okay, and after a few months he quit, and then he came to work for me, and then he was supposed to build his own business. Offer the money he was making off of me and off of the the y'all say cloud, I call it the platform that he had built off of me, my coattail. I don't give a funk. Y'all feel offended. I'm gonna tell her like it is. You know what I'm saying. He built his k off of my m and what

did he do with that? Not a goddamn thing. I have put men in positions to make something of themselves, to be entrepreneurial. I've done that. It didn't work. It can only happen with a certain type of guy. You can't have a childish as mentality. You can't have a broke ass mentality. You have to have some type of ambition. I can't raise a man. You're not supposed to raise a man that you're supposed to be with. You're not supposed to raise him. That was his parents job. They

failed him. I didn't know what the fun was going on at the White the wild nigga started stealing from me, but she was already making money. All you had to do was nigga. What So when I say I have upped the anti within my standards of men, yes I do deserve a motherfucker with some money, Yes I do, because I didn't had too many of them without. So why the fun don't I get to say what my standard is? Why the fuck can't I have a preference now because my preference back then was bullshit as I

can see. But it's always something about a woman wanting to help a man, no matter where he came from. You know what I'm saying, I don't sucked with jailbirds. You know what I'm saying that a lie to me told me what it was gonna be when he got home. I hadn't held the nigga, damn. Put money on his books, may show his family was good. And I'm checking up on your kids and and and making sure your baby mother good and all that. Ship you come home and you ain't with me or her. You felt a whole

another bit like all of that. You know, you put a lot of your hope and a lot of your trust, then a lot of your money into niggas to get a slap in the face. That hap that has happened to me four times, there will not be a fifth. So no, Now my preference is a nigga who got some money I'm not talking about so you can take me on shopp and s Freeze and and all that ship and blow your money, you know, frivolously on me. No, I'm not talking about that ship. That's not what I'm

talking about. This so we can buy some properties together, so we can do something together. You gotta match my ship. What if I say, baby, let's open up a restaurant. What if I say, let's go buy some land, build some houses, and you know, create our own community so motherfucker's can move into a black owned community. What if I want to say that I'm not gonna do that ship or my own and then bring you in. No, we gotta do that ship together. That's what the funk

I want. I want somebody who can match me. Like I said, you don't even gotta be having as much money as I do, but you gotta have something and then you gotta be working to get there. Now, let's kick it over to a brief break. Everybody can be better at something like even me. Am I happy where I am? Yes, but I'm not gonna get comfortable here. No, everybody can be better than they are, even people like Beyonce.

You think she okay, well where she Yet we look at her and she's the most perfect woman in the world, richest woman in the world. It can't get no better. But in her mind, that's her mentality. That's why she is where she is, because she always believes she can do better. You understand, you're not supposed to stop anywhere. That's the type of man that I'm looking for. That's the type of man that I'm in search of. That is the type of man that I want. You know

what I'm saying, some ambition, some commitment to something. Not not commitment as in relationship. Okay, No, I'm talking about commit to making something better of yourself. You know what I'm saying. If you work at ups, work up to be the manager. A matter of fact, while you're working there, create your own transportation company, just like Amazon did, just like DHL. It's not easy, but if your work and work and work and keep working, you will get there.

Like it's this boxer I was talking to you, right. He's from Baltimore City. He wanted to own a bunch of like a chain of readers. He wanted to buy a chain of readers, the Italian night Ship. He wanted to buy a bunch of Dunkin Donuts, a bunch of subways. He wanted to buy like he wanted to have like fifteen franchises. I remember him telling me at dinner one time. I said, okay, cool, you know that's how it works. He said, I know. And they're not gonna give it

to me off the rip. I'm not gonna get it easy as a white man would, but I'm gonna do that ship. This was two years ago. We lost contact whatever whatever, ba bah bah. He never stopped boxing, boxing this week get his money money from But now that nigga got five readers, he got five ducking done us to go and five subways to buy, he gonna do it. He sat in my face two years ago and told me he was gonna do it. Had to ex leave him because she didn't believe he was gonna do it.

She that's not only why she loved him. She loved him because he was basically using up all the money to do this ship, but she didn't see the bigger picture. You feel me, She got fed up and she left, just like the movie uh acrimony or some ship? What was it with with Taragi Piens and whatever? She didn't believe in the guy's dream. Long enough, fast forward. Now he's in the process of doing exactly what he set across from me and told me he was gonna do.

That's the type of nigga that I'm after. That's the type of guy that get my pussy weight. That's the type of guy that I I see myself with, not just fucking I see myself with. He did Tom and Jail. He's still got a little hood with him, but he's very class. He cleaned up nice, sexy hisself. And if he's listening, dumping my d m BO because I'm assuring. But yeah, that's that's the ship I'm talking about right there.

You set out to conquer a plan, to conquer a task so big that nobody, nobody believes in you when you're telling them this ship. Because a lot of people can talk a good game. So understand when I say my preference is a guy who has a certain a certain nine of five. It has to be something near my stature of money. That's just what it is. It was such a relief when I dated Country Wane. After dating somebody like Chris, I was so programmed to paying the tab every time we went out to eat too.

You know when men Wayne would be out somewhere and he tried to get me to taste that na is vegan food, shout out to him. I love my ex to death. But no, baby, I was you know, I wasn'ta be no goddamn vegan. I would find myself reaching in my purse or he'd be like what you're thinking about to pay for what? All? Right? Like this ain't that. I'll do this. You know we'll be out. He would just think of me, buy me ship. You know what I'm saying Like that, And that's not what I required.

That's not a requirement for you to to splurge and buy me bags and buy me I can do that ship myself, you know what I'm saying, Like, I can do that myself. I don't need I gotta take me shop and every day to prove his love. No, no, but when that nigga Dwayne Coley a k A. Country Wayne said to me, do you want to go to Puerto Rico? Let's get away? And I said, what, all right, we're splitting it down a half. He said, why would I split a trip. I'm telling you I want to

take you on. Stop playing with me. He couldn't believe. I couldn't believe how conditioned I was by my previous relationship. Always was paying for everything. After a while, like and then yo, Chris had money coming in. He just got lazy, got comfortable and started being a bomb. Slowly but surely you know what I'm saying. That's what happens. That wasn't the only time I was in a relationship with that happened.

And no, haven't always been up. But even when I was broke, I didn't prefer a man who worked any nine of five. I didn't. Yeah, I had standards. Yeah I was broke. I'm talking about lights out everything. I've shared this with y'all before. If y'all are ADVID listeners, y'all know I never let my son stuff. I would go to being hungry, but I would be working with niggas and not even tell them. Or are you dropping me off to a powerless house, buddy? You dropped. I

just wouldn't let you come in. No, that's it. No, you don't need to come in period. That's how strong I was, That's how my pride was. So nobody can never call me a gold digger because I would have been a gold digger from the fucking jump. I dug my own goal, got my own ship. But it feels good to have a motherfucker to match you. Feels good after not having that for so long. That was why it was such a relief, and that's why me and Wayne are friends today. We shared more than just a relationship.

We actually got to know each other after getting together. He showed me more than just what all of y'all saying. He's a really, really good dude. That is what my preference is. A guy that can match me, or you can hand more money or have just a little bit less to me, but you got to have something because I'm done with building niggas, and that's just what it is, and that's vice versa. Just like I got a preference, y'all,

niggas got preference. Maybe y'all don't prefer to deal with a bitch like me, y'all don't prefer to deal with a female like me. Why my voice deep? Why I've seen the comments. Oh it's a lot of testosterone up and shorty, Oh my god, the masculinity is on ten. Oh she had to be born a nigga. And I'm gonna tell you right now. I'm gonna tell you right now, I will have your weak ass and love. You don't know. You only see that side that y'all see you on.

I g you only see that side. You're judging me because of my voice of how much of a Baltomore bitch I am. That's what you're judging. But you don't know to know me, and to know me like that is to love me. Nigga, you will another leave. I'm talking about going all the way back to even my baby father. I know how to treat a man and I've never ever ever lost one that wouldn't come back.

You understand what I'm saying. Period. This is before Jess Hilarius, when I was just regular dirty jests from round away period. Always knew how to treat a man. I got that from mother. Y'all got mad at Ari Fletcher money bag Yo's girlfriend months ago for saying, why y'all mad at me? Because I don't like the funk with broke niggas. That's her fucking preference. That's what she prefers. Apparently before Gie Herbo, she's been fucking with niggas with money. That's just who

are is, That's who she's been. I understood that period. Like, if that's our preference, and she's getting these niggas, what the funk y'all mad for? What y'all mad for? Now? Porsha Williams gold Diggers, that's what that's given to me. The only guy, like I swear to god, I feel like she really really fucking loved and he broke her heart was Cordell. That was the first guy that I've seen that we actually seen her with when she first got on the show and ship. You know what I'm saying. Cordell,

he sucked over real bad. So did the baby Father nigga. But that's some gold diggers ship y'all talking about me, bitch, that's gold digger ship with porshagot going on. Don't don't confuse me with that. That's not what I do. I tried to help these niggas. I'm telling you, some of them are just unhelpable, and like I said as vice versa, even with the guy. You think men want to date a broke bitch. You think that you've got celebrities that say it in their music all the time. You know

what I'm saying. And I love Chris Brown to death. I love him to goddamn death. But he he even said in the song Loyal, I can make a broke bitch rich, but I don't funk with broke bitches. And listen, do you know why that man said that. I ain't even gotta call him up and ask him, And yes, how you got his number and know you're not getting in, But yes, I do not even have to call him up. He don't want to broke bitch because all they're gonna

do is leach. If you're a breadwinner and you're running into a broke bitch, she see to come up, it's destined for her to leach off you. That's broke bitches were broke mentalities. Now it's broke people out here that really want to get it for themselves, that really make the best out of situations and end up coming up

because they know what to do with the money. Like Pleasure p. He was another one on his page The other day this ship hit the blogs, shout out the neighborhood Talk Pleasure P posted, you want me to fly you out so you can lay up under me, reap all the money and all that type of ship to fly you back home and all that, instead of having me put you at a position to get your own business so you can be making money just like me. Y'all are weird. Y'all women are weird. These new women

are weird. And I went through them comments and y'all would not believe not one woman agreed with him. Yo, bitches was in the comments like I'm talking about comment after comments, if you broke, just say that? What? Like? What the funk? Hold up? Hold up? I know the ship getting good, but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. People's minds aren't even wired right anymore with common sense like are you what? Are you stupid? It's the same

with men, like we don't want broke broke niggas. Men don't want broke women. You understand that and especially your mentality behind it. Now. I know women who ain't gotta pop the fucking pissing, But talking about oh no, my nigga in the head. This isn't need the head isn't even know You're not sucking if we if you ain't got this and you've got, you ain't got. You ain't got not a piece of ambition in the fucking world.

You ain't got no thing going for yourself, not a piece of longevity, and no type of business, not not one ounce of business mind do you have and you're talking about all you got a whole list of fucking a one standards for a nigger. No, I don't agree with that, but that's a different story. That's who the ones y'all need to be attacking. In the comments, it was so many mad men under that comment, like that's

why she's gonna be single forever. And even if I am, I'm gonna be I'm gonna be paid, and I'm gonna be able to love myself. Y'all niggas don't love yourself. See, y'all wouldn't have been offended if y'all were working on yourself. That's what I'm talking about. If you work on yourself, you wouldn't get offended. If you're working and you're striving to be something greater than you already are. If you wasn't moving so stagnant ly in your life, if you

wasn't comfortable where you at. You know what I'm saying, If you didn't get comfortable where you at, which is almost no fucking where, then you wouldn't be offended. Being offended is easier than doing something about it. Being offended is the new trend. I say that wholeheartedly and proudly because it is. I ain never seen so many weak ass men in my life. And the reason why I say you weak is because you're you're a punk nigga.

You let what I say, You let that ship like really make you curse me out, really like make you point out what you feel are my flaws. Man. Everybody want her ball head, trash talking red ass. Anyway, the the you're the same nigga selling weed, waking up the sell weed. Go buy a fucking dispensary. Nigga, Go do that because there's money in cannabis. You know, money on these streets. As you're goofy, stop playing build. If you sell weed, grab a bunch of your own boys, y'all

go into business together, open up a dispensary. Do that. You gotta want more for yourself, so again, don't get upset because a woman has a preference. And just like that, that's my time. Look, I love y'all because y'all love me. There was no just fix my mess today because I ain't focusing on y'a. Y'all got me fucked up. So y'all fix yourselves, sir, so you can be something. If you don't got no to do, Gonna find you something to do and keep practicing so you can be the

best at it. Do you hear me? Go work on yourself so you won't be offended by a woman's preference. Alright, alright, and just like that, I'm gonna end it on that note. Tune in every week because y'all love me, and I love y'all back. Y'all already know what it is. And then my deepest teststeronial voice. Nigga Carefully Reckless is a

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