Lessons Learned, Past & Present

that out. That actually will be airing tonight tonight. And we got a whole new set up, whole new scenery. UM, this time, it will be only four of us, and that's just what it's gonna be. Look. So I know I just recently went viral, Yes I did. I almost got hit by a bus and I could be r I P right now, you know, I really could. And I don't take anything away from that, the fact that it was a serious incident that could have been even more serious fatal if you will. And this is what happened. Okay.

So I was in l A for a series of five days, uh well six days, and um, of course I'm drinking I'm getting caught up with what my friends. I was with my best friend, my brother, and my friend Quay. I'm name dropping because these people were influences as well. And yes, if you haven't um been able to figure out yet, yes, I am a snitch. So I was with Prince who is my brother. Um. I was with joe Lanna. Her name is um Joela Nia on Instagram. That's my best friend. Joey is what we

call her. And uh Quay Qualin better known as t T blame it on Quay on Instagram is this Instagram handle. I love all three of these motherfucking people. I was dream Yes, we just got finished turning up having fun eating. We pull up to a light. There was a bus on the right of me. Now I need you to understand something. We were listening to Mario at first. Yeah, Baltimore is on Mario. I want to know an a man. I want enough he got a man Elana were listening

to that. We was vibing and ship. We was getting um like we was going in right and do you know that part they'd be like you can't come in anytime. You're like, like, you know, that's everybody's part, right When the beat, the breakdown of the beating ship. But then my best friend Joey, she turned on the song Berserk. Now that is by Big Sean and a Sadford one of oh my god, one of the most dopest collapse that you may not even know you need. But I need you all to listen to this fucking song. Like

stream that ship. I don't give a fuck who is making all the money off this ship. That ship is brilliant. The song buzz Jerk by Big Sean featuring as at Ferd. That is my whole entire ship right there. It's not my favorite song, but that's my ship. Okay, my favorite song is busting rhyms put your hands with my eyes to see, but that is my ship. Now, you gotta understand there are different levels of HI. I was not

like only intoxicated. I was intoxicated. I was high and shipped from edibles and I might even smoked the blunders to who the funk knows. Right now, she played that song and when that fucking hook just come on that ship? What drop down you are afraid bend that over? Touch your cheeks, chicken booty. I know what's little, but you neique that's my ship right there, right, So I get out when I started boom boom. Now we're at a light.

I get out. I started shaking my ass. I boom but I boom but I boom boom boom, like shaking it for the night of nine and the two housands down. And no sooner than I moved my hand, the bus was taking the goddamn door. Now. Look, it was the bus driver spat all day. Let me tell you why, because if you go and actually look at the fucking video, you can see that the bus wasn't even moving. At the beginning of the video, the light turned green as I was in mid twerk. Okay, so I'm looking up

at the light. I see it turn green. I'm about to get my ass back in the car. The bus started driving, Yes he did. Now he was already a little bit of feet past my car. However, if I would have opened the door and seeing that I could touch the bus with my car door, I would not have tworked. And I'm saying that to say he was not close to me. He merged over like he moved over, love bad, love bad, love bad, and probably didn't notice. He's probably looking in that in that um and the

driver mirror. You know, I'm saying he was probably looking in the mirror. But one thing for sure, two things for certain, it was not my fault. I'm not justifying what the funk I did because you're never supposed to hop out of a car and talk at a light in the middle of the road. I don't give you in the middle of a desert and ain't no cause coming, bitch, Don't do that. Don't do that. So that is not

what I am influencing anybody to do. And nor am I trying to justify my reckless endangerment, because that's exactly what it was. I was in the street talking drunk as a motherfucker. That's what it is, all right, But that motherfucking drivers saw me. He saw me, and even if he didn't see me, he merged over and that's just what it is. He just in and took my goddamn door. That's what it wasn't. Yes, that was a one maserati suv. I was pissed about it, but it

was like, alright, cool fucking I got two options. I can act like I was driving, or I can just tell the truth about it. Either way, it wasn't my motherfucking fault. Right Listen, this is gonna be a very expensive mistake on my end, and I mean mistake because I didn't mean for that to happen. I knew exactly what the funk I was doing, you know what I'm saying. I knew exactly what I was doing. That's not my first time hopping out of a car at a light

to berserk. Hence my best friend Joey for playing it every single time I've done that. But like I've jumped on car roofs before and dance to the song, that's just what the song does to me. So big Sean, if you're gonna be in the goddamn comments shaking your head and putting your hand over your fucking face, nigga, also thank yourself for such a banger that it got bitches out here doing this ship all right, because that's influenced all right, shout out to Asta Firk as well.

I know a lot of people were worried about me. I do know that, so for those people, I want to say I am sorry, because then the very next day I may adjust with the mess. And YO know, I don't never feel like I'm too good to be talked about ship. I'm going if something happened, something in the blogs about me, or if it's any type of controversial trouble, I'm gonna let y'all know what it is

right then there, Like I don't give a funk. I may take a few hours and I have to think about the dudes and the don'ts of my actions and all the consequences and ship. But I always can admit when I was wrong, and I definitely was wrong along with the bus driver. But I can definitely um take accountability. No, You're never supposed to be to the point of drunkenness where you do things uncontrollably, you know, And I knew exactly what the funk I was doing. But what I

have done that sober? What I've done that without liquor, No, I wouldn't have. Honestly, I wouldn't have. Or maybe I would have, but just maybe in like a parking lot or some ship like that. Last time I jumped out of a car responsibly is when I was doing the Go Crazy challenge uh by Chris Brown or what I remember that ship? That ship the Go Crazy would they had you jumping out the car and ship? Um that I did that. I didn't do the the Drake one, the Kiki do you love Me? Eat like Na? No,

I'm I wan't re curse on that one. I'm saying all this to say, just be very careful. Be careful. Even if you have friends around you that are doing shit. You know that you don't approve of that. Don't mean you gotta do it, you know what I'm saying. Even if you are easily influenced while under influence, then maybe you don't need to be drinking or you don't need to be doing any type of drugs. Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good, but listen to just

a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Okay, let's show euphoria, guys. Guys, let's show you for you. I want to talk about that for a second. And I know this is very random, but it goes hand in hand. Okay, So first of all, shout out to Zenda. She is absolutely killing this fucking role. She kills everything she touches in a good way. I love it. She's just amazing actress. If you will, And

then shout out also to Drake. Um, I was just I just recently learned that Drake is actually one of the producers on the show Euphoria. So that's actually great. That's something that I did not even know. My thing is it's a it's a great show, not taking anything away from it, it's also a very vivid reality of what millennials experience, you know, um, with going to school and uh, with peer pressure and just trying to find who they are, you know what I mean. So I

definitely do want to pinpoint that. However, I feel like a lot of the scenes and a lot of the ship that they go through and as much drugs as they take, and all the ship that be happening on there, I wouldn't really put that ship in high school. I would say that's like college campus type ship. That's not even like, oh my god, like that's the only That's the only problem I have with the show is that it definitely don't describe high school. That's not high school.

I'm talking about like you got all types of sex, which is in high school. You've got all types of drugs and ship that is in high school. But the day in and died like four times, you know what I'm saying, Like I'm talking about O D on top of O D on top of O D, you know, and then you got like all these real life situations with these kids telling drugs, and then you got these fucking underaged, fucking girls looking grown and Ship. Now, listen, it may seem like I'm describing real life as it

is right now in high school. But no, you gotta watch the show. So I'm gonna ask you, guys, And it's on demand. If you've got cable, it's on demand. If not, go over your friend's house and watch this Ship. It's a really good show. I just don't think it should take place in a high school. Now. Look, when I was in high school, I tried all types of drugs. But that's what it was. I was trying it. These

are already fucking dope things on the show. In high school. Now, it was a lot of things out kids would never mind you. I remind you, guys, I went to a predominantly white high school, um as I've spoken about previously. Now, yeah, of course there were you know, some cracked out kids or you know, some junkie kids or whatever. You but like, I don't know, that Ship is way different. It's way different,

you know, in high school and my days. I can only speak from my experience because I've only lived in my life. I tried drugs there. I had fun with it. Some things I tried, Some things I didn't. Some things I've seen other people try and I've seen them react a certain way, and I didn't want to try it.

I partied. I didn't have sex until later, but you know what I mean, Like my friends were having sex whatever, it didn't make me curious enough to want to do that, so I didn't right away, you know what I mean. I I actually lost my virginity at eighteen, so it's like, okay, you know what I mean. I wasn't really hot in my ass until I was like a senior for sure. But I have no fucking idea why the show has to be so directly centered around what high school students do.

And I've seen Zendaya put out, uh sort of like a disclaimer like guys that don't um pretty much, like although I'm doing this show just doesn't mean that drugs is cool and then that it, uh, this is what you need to do to fit in in high school and all that ship. But honestly, if you watch that ship, you ain't gonna wanna what if you're a parent, But honestly, if you wash that ship and you're a parent of a teenager in high school, even the middle school, you

ain't gonna wanna. You ain't really gonna appreciate that ship too much. You're not going to want your children to watch that ship, your teenagers, especially if it's already one that's sucking up or one that ain't any type of predicament that you are in as a teenager. If your parents watching that ship, you ain't post. They ain't gonna have you watching that ship. And that's really what it is because on the show, it's making it seem like

this ship is cool, this ship is fucking cool. We can get away with this, you know, and kids are so impressionable nowadays more than ever that I think shows like that, like, honestly, I'm surprised that in today's world they actually canceled comedians for certain jokes, but they got shows like this, you know what I'm saying, not saying it should be taken off of TV, but I'm just saying, y'all want us to limit the ship that we make

fun of. But you got shows like that on TV, Like what huh, y'all actually got a grown ass woman to play Maddie on the show. She looks like a grown woman, easily, nice figure, beautiful girl like I'm talking about, but looks like she got a couple of kids of her own and they are actual men who fantasize over this character. Like, but what does that make him? Does that make him a pedophile? Or does that because she's playing the role of a high school girl or what? Like?

What does that? You know what I'm saying, like all types of ship. Maybe I'm just looking too deep into it, but that's why this is carefully reckless and I'm gonna do that and I don't give a fuck, but I ain't gonna lie. I'm a I'm a personal fan of the show, and I do funk with it. I just if I could change anything, would change the fact that they're in high school, I will put their ass in college.

I would make everybody over eighteen, honestly, And if you are an avid ephor your watcher and you feel like you can relate to a lot of this ship and you are a teenager, I'm not taking anything away from your life. I'm really not. I'm not taking anything away from your experiences in your life. But you need to go get help. If you are in any of these

predicaments that are in the show, please go get help now. Seriously, a lot of teenagers can feel lost these days trying to find yourself, and with the um internet being is influencing as it's ever been in life over our babies and our kids and ship like that, I really feel like parents need to step in more. Me as a parent, my son is nine, I'm still stepping in more. I

don't care. This ship starts early. They have access to everything now, you know, even with parental locks and all that ship like, kids got access to every single thing now. It wasn't like that when I was growing up, and we honestly can't stop it. You know, these kids got laptops. Even if you got a phone that you're paying for as a parent and you take that ship away, they

got laptops in school. They are more on the Internet now surfing the web than we've ever have, you know, than they ever been able to so then they've ever been able to do as well. Everything is like Internet generated, you know what I'm saying. Like my son can literally if I let him watch TikTok all day, watching YouTube

all day. You think they're not on there looking at ship that we don't permit them to look at, you know, and whatever they don't see in our presence, they're gonna see in somebody else's, you know, when they're away from us. You know, you got strict mom households, and then you got the household of lenient dad's. Then you got two

parent homes where one parent is more lenient than the other. Wherever, however your your your kid is raised, they're going to be preview too, so much more than we were growing up, and we can't stop it. Sadly, and on that note, I want to take a moment of silence for Regina King's baby boy who just took his own life and he is now deceased, and the amount of pain I know that comes out of that for her, it's just unbearable, you know, losing a child it's hard. Losing a parent

it's hard. I've never lost either, so I could never imagine or understand how she feels. You understand, I just respect and um I give my condolences. So let's just really really give five to ten seconds to Regina King and anyone else's child who has taken their lives. And that was the moment of silence for all the moms, all the dads who have lost their child suicide. And I'm gonna leave it on this note. Be involved, Be involved.

I myself wasn't even as involved as I should have been in my nine year olds life a year ago. You know, That's what this pandemic has also taught me. Get to know your children because the cell phone and the internet is their new teacher now, seriously, they spend more. It used to be that your kids would spend more time with their teacher than you. Now it's the kids spend more time on the internet than with their teacher.

And you you understand. So be more involved, even if it gets on your kid's nerves, like especially these teenagers. These babies are just trying to find their way. If if you have a team that's too quiet, that that gives you one word answers all the time, sit their asses down. Tell me what can I do to make you talk to me? Even if you are, you know, just an introvert kid. Whatever, you're my kid. You came for me. What can I do to get through to you?

What do I have to do. I need to talk to you, you know, provide your kid with examples like Regina King's son taking his own life. Talk to your kids about that. That could be them. You know, it's a lot more kids anticipating suicide than ever before. Nowadays. The Internet has a lot to do with that. Influence has a lot to do with that. Peer pressure has a lot to do with that. Drug have a lot to do with that. This music has a lot to do with that. What they see on TV a lot

to do with that. You can be a lot to do with that too. You can have a lot to do with that as well. Step in get them therapy, but it starts with you. Don't just go, oh, I think my kid needs to go to therapy. No, you try to get through to them first, and then if you if it's not successfully executed, then you go try

to find a therapist. Please, because we need these babies, because we need more generations after them, and I feel like they're dying off and killing themselves off more than other generations that are dying from like COVID and other health issues or whatever. I always say, it's worse if you take your own life. It means you didn't think about what you meant to other people, and you definitely

the value yourself. So that's very important for us to do as a community, as parents, as friends, check on people. And I'm gonna end that with I'm thanking y'all for checking on me, the people who are seriously worried about me. I am okay. I don't have whiplash. I don't know nothing. I know I was moving a little stiff in the video the next day after almost being hit by the bus, But that's because this goddamn girl in l a braid and my goddamn neck up in these braves. My ship

hurting like a motherfucker still to this day. But I love y'all and I know y'all love me, and I know that's why you're gonna always make short just the mess is good so my news can stay real. And that brings us to the end of yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your Girl. Tune in every week every Wednesday Hump Day. Carefully Reckless is a production of I

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