Do You Boo Boo

I've been liking just fix my mess. Y'all have been just piling up y'all differences and y'all situations on me, and I have been sitting here playing Dr Jess, and I really really love it, or not Dr Jess, but you know, like a therapist, and I really do love it because that means that y'all actually get good advice from me. You'll actually do love the things that I

tell y'all. And I'm always honest with you guys, So I never want anyone to think that I'm just doing this to be nosy or just to be funny or none of that. Ship. I may answer or give you advice in a humorous way, but I am dead as serious, and I appreciate y'all for submitting you'all situations and letting me know how I can help in any way. And this week we got some good ones. Let's start with the first one, just this clown asked, just told me he needs some time off from my relationship to refresh

after two years. What the funk am I supposed to do with that? Because I'm about to do me well, baby girl. I mean, I can give you further advice, but it sounds exactly like you know what you need to do, you, okay, And that doesn't mean going out fucking with other dudes or trying to see who else is available to date you and making yourself available for other men that actually, honestly can be assigned to you. That he's not the right one and that maybe you

need to take this time to work on yourself. And I know that sounds cliche, but you have to think about this. You all were together for two years and he just comes to you out of nowhere. Now is this out of nowhere? And I always say, y'all gotta always give me as much meat on the bone as possible, so I don't have to assume the rest of the story or assume that I know every predicament that you're in in the basis or the foundation or the history

of your relationships or whatever. But two years is not a little bit of time to marry couples and two people who've been in relationships for more than five years, The probably is, but to me, two years, it's not just like two damn weeks. That's a lot of time to put in for somebody to just come to you and say, I need to take a break from this to refresh. Now, this is a communication thing as well. Everything goes back to communicating and being able to be

open enough to talk to your partner about. What makes him need to hit the refresh button? Is the sex stale? Are you guys getting bored and conversation with each other? Are you guys spending too much time around each other? Are you guys not spending enough time around each other? Like? What is going on? Did you do something? Has either of you ever been caught cheating or caught doing anything? Lying to one another? It made you, guys, get to this point. That's a good question for you to ask

him if you haven't already. I feel like in your mind you already made the decision to say I'm about to do me, So you already know you're about to do you. Okay, Now, what the funk am I supposed to do with that? That's what you do? You go and sit down and talk to him about it, because two years don't sound like something you'll just throw away, and you know he's the one with the issue, so

it could be somebody else. It could be that he doesn't want to cheat on you with somebody else, so he wants to tell you he wants a break, when in fact he just wants somebody else. Or it doesn't even have to be that serious. I'm just throwing out examples of what can be. He may feel like he's stagnant in his life and maybe something that he feels like he needs to get together on his own, and he doesn't want to stunt your growth of who you

are as a person. You may not need help in the area he needs help, so he wants to do it by himself and then probably reconvene. But you want to do you. I don't know if you wrote that last part out of anger or not. But when a woman says I'm a do me because I'm about to do me, or I will do me, or you don't know me, because look, if you do you, I'm gonna do me. We already know what the funk we're about to do in our mind, and nobody can change that

ship nobody. So yeah, communicate baby before you go, do you boo boo? Communicate with your man paved Moving on. I met this girl in my d MS. Okay, so this is a guy, one of my guys. Y'all know. I always love shouting out the guys because they do not open up. So this is good that you guys

are opening up to me. I love it. Okay. I met this girl in my d M S and I've been following her for a few years, so I had a crush on her, and when she finally gave me some rap, we got the talking and she let me know that she has a lot of bodies and I can't get past that ship. So I fell back. But I do want to funk with Shorty. I just can't get past all those niggas she fucked. And we live in the same city, so I'm sure I know a few of them. I'm a promoter. Okay. Alrighty, okay, So

let's just start here. The fact that you opened up opened up to me, I love it. I love the fact that you just gave me a lot of meat to this story. Alright, fine, So you met this girl at the ms R and you had a crush on it. You've following that she finally gave you some rap when you go take her on a date or whatever, whoever. It may have not been a date, but y'all talking

and you find out that she has a long rap sheet. Now, for those who don't know what, she got a lot of bodies main nor rap sheet is that means she has had a lot of sex, different sex partners in her life, I'm assuming, and the fact that she was honest enough about that speaks a lot about the woman that she is. I applaud her because, honestly, it's really no one's fucking business whatever happened before you, unless it's

still happening right now. And I'm a firm believer in that, I really don't give a funk about how many women a guy has slept with, as long as they were all before me and not while we're dating. You understand, You gotta also know when you first meet somebody and you first thought talking to them, they might be still talking to someone else, or they may have a roster. They may have two or three people that still text their phone casually. They may be hanging out with somebody that,

like you, just never know. I used to say all the time, nobody has no one, like there is no one on this earth who's not talking to nobody. I used to say that until a couple of times that was me. There were times and more in my recent years of living because I just couldn't be alone for a long time. You know that I was actually by myself at a couple of points in my life. I didn't have not one nigga on my line, and it

felt good. It was by choice. It was because I just got so tired of always having someone, and that's when you get to best learn yourself. So I totally respect her honesty, babe, and I think that you should too. However, a guy can never get past a woman fucking a lot of men, but we're just supposed to get past y'all fucking a bunch of women. Now, that doesn't go for every man, and I'm not saying it goes for you. But did you share how many bodies you had? And

how did that even come about? Did you ask her that? Because if you did, that shouldn't even have been a question that you asked. Honestly, that that would be a childish ask question. How many niggas you fuck? How many women did you fun? How many you know? How many bodies you got? That don't even sound like a conversation for somebody who's trying to get to know someone that does not That sounds like a question that g I

N would ask a client. So I I need for you to tell me how to hell y'all even got there, but either way, if you didn't ask, and y'all just get to know each other. And this came out respect the honesty, But I can't tell you what to do now. That's something that's a deal breaker for you, and that's gonna prohibit you from going further with Shorty as you called her. I think you need to do some work on yourself because men love honesty, but men can't take

honesty all the time. Y'all can't take it. And I think that's why a lot of men find it easier to lie to women so they can save our feelings and ship. I don't really honestly feel like all men lie for a personal gain or just because they can. Honestly feel like men lie sometimes not all men, but a lot of men lie to shelter your feelings because truth hurts. Truth hurts them, so they lie and they don't want us to lie, to be dishonest, but when

we are, that ship hurts. So at least you know you ain't got a liar on your hands, and you may not even have a cheater. I'm gonna just go ahead and jump out there and say, because they both go hand in hand. If she told you truth about how anybody she got nine times out saying honey, she ain't gonna lie to you, and she ain't gonna cheat on you, and she's gonna be honest enough to tell you if she's about to go another dude, so she's gonna break up with your ass. That's what the funk

sounds like to me. And as far as y'all live in the same city and you being a promoter, yes you know a lot of people, but have you fucked half the city as well? Because y'all promoters. I know how y'all get down. Okay, I know how y'all get down. I just got out of a relationship with one and I used to fun with another one, and they're totally two different types of niggas, right, two different types of men. I'm sorry, I'm trying to stop saying in word, y'all

because our men are not niggas. They're not okay, but you know, in the slang sense, yeah, nigma nigam nigga. But now I'm trying to like stop change my vocabulary for that when I'm giving serious advice on this. As the promoter, you know, you have women around you all day, every day. Our promoter's job is to live a facade to make everything picture perfect. The parties, the ship they wear, the jewelry, the money, the height, the women, the girls,

all that ship. That is the promoter's job, you know. Finesse, finesse and facade. So I know you got a long rap sheet to show me a promoter who does not. I'm not saying they are all the same, but show me one, that's all. I'm asking you to show me one. All right, So you gotta take the good with the bad, and that may not even necessarily be bad in life. That's just bad to you in your opinion, it's bad. Now. You don't let me know the number, probably because you're ashamed.

But I don't know if she told you the exact number, but it sounds like to me it's too damn many for you but you seem to really like her. You've had a crush on her, you've been following her for years. See what she's like. Funk that the worst is already out, because according to you, the worst is having a lot of bodies. It's already out. It's already out. Let's see. And honestly, I don't really feel like that matters unless you get up in that pussy and that ship too loose.

Then that's when it matters. Like, Okay, you want something tight to be up and I get it. So if you ain't have sex with her yet, my dog, you need to chill out, relax, take the honesty with the bodies, and give short of your fucking chance because she gave your ass one after ignoring you for three years. So get it together. Hold up, hold up, I know the ship getting good, But listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

Moving on, I'm dating two men, tim Hold up this. I didn't even I didn't brace myself for this one. I'm just going in order. Are down in the d M. S chaw And if y'all want y'all listening to this right now and y'all want to give me, y'all inputting all that ship d M the carefully reckless page please, I'm following the page from my personal page. Just hilarious underscore official. Okay, let's go back to it. I'm dating two men, and no, not because I'm a pimp, but

simply because I can't choose between the two. I'm lying to one of them, but I'm more truthful with the other one, and it gets harder and harder every day to leave the one I'm lying to. And before you ask, no, I don't have a favorite, because then I wouldn't need your advice. Okay, miss lady, all right, Miss Mama's well, I wasn't gonna ask you if you had a favorite, because you just shouldn't be dating two men anyway. But you know, to reach his own and there's no judgment here.

I'm just gonna let you know that has to be draining, first of all. It has to drain you giving your heart to two men, giving your pussy to two men, giving your body, kissing two men, having to share thoughts with two men, having to be open and vulnerable, with two men, having too many duties for two men. It's too much. Do you love one more than the other?

And that's not even asking you do you have a favorite, because even if you love one more than the other, that doesn't mean that's the one for you, because that one could treat you worse than the one that you don't love as much. So that's why I was never going to pose the question of who is your favorite. I actually don't give a funk who the favorite is, but you do need to choose one because this can end for you horribly. I was caught in a situation

like that before. I wasn't in a relationship with either of these two men, but I liked both of them. I loved both of them. One was from my past, he wasn't an ex, but he was from my past. And the other one I was dating, but it didn't really go that well, so we stopped dating, but we were still communicating and still sucking around and ship. That ship drained me, and I was single, and it drained me.

It's not cool to always have a roster and ship like Okay, even if you ain't fucking both of them or whatever, you know, it's just still mentally draining to share yourself between two people, to give yourself to two people at the same time. That ship is hard, and it honestly is very, very toxic because you're leading on

both people. And you can keep telling yourself, telling yourself, telling yourself, I'm gonna pick this one, I'm gonna pick this one, but then something changes with this one, so then you holding on to that one, and then you're like, no, no, no no, I'm gonna go over here because he just made me mad yesterday. Yeah, but it it's gonna be

a back and forth forever. You look up and a year has passed and you still dating these two saying niggas right, But the reveal will be worse if you keep letting time go by, because they're gonna find out. They're gonna find out. I don't care how slick you think you are, it's going to come out because it's just not right now. I love your honesty. And you've told me your name. I told you I wasn't gonna

put your name out here. Sold y'all. You don't have to send your names because although this is carefully reckless, I'm still trying to turn over a leaf to being more careful instead of reckless. Reckless is felt reckless. Discussions on YouTube. Do what I want to say, what I want, whatever. But I have more of a delicate audience here, more of a fragile audience, predominantly women. And I want y'all to know I don't always play around. I'm not always vulgar.

I'm not I care, just like y'all care. I have a heart, just like y'all have a heart. And if I can help anybody, that's all I want to do. So, Girl, you gotta choose, Baby, you have to choose. Now you're lying to one of them. What kind of lies are you telling them? And the only thing I can get from that, because like I said, you left a little meat off of here reading this. This is what I think the one that you're being more truthful to knows

about the other one. That's what I think. I think you're you're truthful with that one because you kind of feel like you have nothing to lose with that one. That one is more understanding than the other one. You're lying to the other one because the other one doesn't know about the other one. You don't know about the other man, And I think that's the one you want to pick. But he don't treat you that well for you to let go of the one you're telling the truth to. If you get what I'm saying, I told

you I was calling a situation before. So what you're holding onto is both with the reservation in your mind and the hopes in your mind that the one that you're lying to is going to wipe you up and be your night and shining armor and give you the relationship that you really want. But this man that you're truthful with is the one that's in love with your ask, the one that's willing to do whatever for you, the one that gives you the attention that the one that

you're lying to lacks. So you have two minute love you, but one don't love you like you love them, and you don't love the other one like they love you. You need to choose or leave both of these brothers alone, because you're doing both of them wrong, and you're doing yourself wrong because you've gotta be tired mentally, physically, emotionally. You have to be tired, and this is a level of toxicity that can only increase. So I just I just want you to work on that. You need to

work on yourself. Moving on. My best friend introduced me to her new dude, and it turns out that I used to talk to him back in the day. It was brief and it was before she was my best friend. So I don't think I should bring it up to her. But does that make me a bad person. I don't think it makes you a bad person. No, no, no, no,

it does not make you a bad person. But if they're going to be serious, that they're going to get serious and you see their relationship going somewhere, I do think that you should tell her, or you don't have to. Sometimes some things are just better left unsaid. But I don't want him to tell her. And then she looks at you, like, damn, bitch, you couldn't tell me this ship. You're my best friend, Like, come on, you're my dog. Why the he do I have to hear it from him?

Is he that type of guy you have to be careful because your best friend's feelings are at state. So I don't know. That's why I said, it's just better if you do tell her, because if this nigga tell her, you're not gonna be best friends no more, She's gonna feel very betrayed. Depending on the type of guy he is, he would tell her that ship, oh gosh, and I wonder how the encounters go when she brings you around and he's there and and are you guys palm, sweaty knees, weak,

arms is heavy, It's like, no, I'm joking. I'm sorry, Oh my god, so sorry? But yeah, like, how how does that even? Girl? You wanted to follow up with me? Because I want I need to know. I need to know. But yeah, I would tell her, I would unless but not least you got the last one? What's up? Just my name is mar and I pay all the bills in my relationship, so I expect sex at any time and every time I want sex. Okay, big daddy, Daddy. My girl feels differently, but that ship is unfair and honestly,

it makes me one to cheat, all right? So this goes back to the first girl, the first girl that I checked. Bitch, I'm about to do me, That's what it sounds like. I do understand how you're feeling, understand how it could make you upset. I don't understand how it can make you want to cheat. In any event where a man is not being sexually satisfied, there needs to be communication there. Have you asked her, like, why can't you do this? Because there there could be a

lot of things. Babe. It doesn't mean that she's unappreciative of what you do just because she don't want to have sex every time you have sex. She's at home girl, stay home wife or stay home girlfriend. Whatever. She don't work, you don't allow her to work, or you don't want her to work. That's not what you want. All you want to sex and return whenever you want it. You probably have a high sex drive where hers is probably low.

You can't get so upset where it makes you want to be unfaithful, where it makes you want to give someone else what belongs to her. Because she belongs to you, you'll belong to each other. And I used to always say that only happens for mary couples. But no, no, no, no. If we're together and were playing on being together for a long long time we don't see an end in our future, then yes, I belong to you and you

belong to me. Okay, no piece of paper officializes that anymore than what it already is in the eyes of us. So yes, I honestly do feel like it is unfair. But maybe her sex drive is low if she on birth control, it could be her hormones up and down. It could be something that's bothering her that's within her own personal vagina. You know, we go through all types

of how old is she? Is she going through not menopause but sometimes and where I find now that I'm thirty, my ship don't get as wet as it used to. God damn ship. And I'm not about to be going online buying all of this bullshit that these bitches are selling, putting this ship all up my pussy because I a lot of this ship ain't even approved by no fucking g y And Okay, so this this is the thing. I'm just gonna let my ship be a little less wet. I say, I don't get wet. It just ain't wet wet.

It's just one. So it's just be wet. But that comes with age. I don't know how old you guys are or whatever, but it's just simple sit down. And I know it's easier said than done because I'm not in your relationship. I'm not living with y'all are going through. I'm not there with you. But honey, don't cheat on her. Don't cheat, especially if you know she wouldn't do the same to you. Give her the benefit of the doubt enough to set down, give her a chance. Just give

her a chance. Like I said, I do understand, but it shouldn't make you want to cheat, because then your heart really isn't there anyway, And that's just gonna be out of spite because you're upset that you can't get your Jimmy John off every day. You gotta hand beat that ship sometimes and ain't gotta be penetration all the times sometimes, you know, just ax for the oral, all right, you don't you don't want me to enter you, okay,

but your mother phone is sometimes. But you can't hold the fact that you do everything, pay all the bills and all the ship over her head. Can't do that just like men don't like it, neither do we. You're not gonna do that in exchange for sex. Seven. I know couples that don't even have sex every day. That's what it sounds like you want. I don't know because you didn't tell me. But just communicate, and just like that, we've come to the end of yet another carefully reckless

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