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cutting off family members that are always around. Like I have a lot of sisters, man, I'm friends with all my sisters except for one of them. She's just really shady and she talks about us to her mom. We have the same die, but we don't have the same mom, and she talks about us and like, I remember one time we went on a trip and her phone was like out and our cousin saw that she was texting her mom saying, Oh, I'm not like her. I'm not like these other girls. Like I don't drink, I don't smoke,

like I'm good, you know what I mean? Like number one, why are you telling your mom that we drink and we smoke like we come from a really religious family, and I could come back to our mom. Number one, you're telling our business to your mom. And number two, why are you talking about your own fucking blood? Like that's so weird to me. I've never in my life said anything bad about any siblings. And I'm the type of person like if you whatever energy you give me,

I will get back to you. That's just like one of the shitty things that she's done. And number two, she's just like really shitty to everybody. This girl never keeps any friends because people always cut her off because of the way that she acts, like she'll talk about you, she'll tell your business. And another thing that she did that just threw me off recently is one of her friends got rejected by her guy friends, and she calls her guy friends and was like, oh my god, like laughing,

like why would she do that? Like it's just like I'm like, girl, you're so you're such a fucking pick me. I don't know. I'm like, she grew around boys, and I grew up around girls, so I know how to be a good friend, do you know what I mean? At the end of the day, the way that she grew up, she never really had like females around her, so she didn't really know, she doesn't really know how

to act. But I don't really like her. And also there's another thing that she did, like her mom sent one of our brothers or half brothers to our family's business and tried to steal our clients. And I think that she gets like she gets all the shady behavior from her mom. Her mom is just mad at my mom because she was the other woman, you know what I mean. So I think that's why she hates us so much, and that's why my sister acts like that towards us to like obviously be on her mom's side.

But it's just like I don't like that fucking talk sh Like whatever our parents have, it shouldn't come in between us, you know what I mean. At the end of the day, where siblings, she doesn't really look at us that way. She looks at us as the enemy because her mom looked at us as the enemy, know what I mean. She's just projecting all of that onto us. But honestly, like I can't never get away from this girl. I don't you talk to her, I don't text her, but every time that I go to her city to

visit my other sister. She's always blowing up my phone and I don't. I just ignore all her calls, and then like she called my sister, and then it's like I'm kind of just like in between. I'm kind of like in between that I can't really escape her. Do you think I should just tell her like yo, I don't. I don't want to funk with you, like I'm good off of you. Or should I just play nice? Because obviously she's friends with my sisters, and I love my

sister Todath They're like my best friends. But I don't like her, and all my other sisters don't like her either, but they just kind of they just deal with her. I can't do that, Like, that's not the type of person I am. I'm not the type of person to like sit here and pull laugh at somebody and play with them and be cool with them and even though I fucking hate them in the inside, Like I'm a sagittarious um. It's just it's hard for me, like to

not tell people how I feel. Do you think that just because she'll she'll never change, I should just accept her for the way that she is, or should I just check her and be like bitch, like this is what you did, this way you did. I don't funk with you, and like put it all out there or should I just let it go? Let me clarify on that one part where I said that one of our moms was the other woman that was shade. Neither of our mom's were the other woman. Our father married for women.

I'm not sure if it was at the same time or I'm not sure, but if you know anything about Muslims, men are allowed to marry up to four women, and both of our mothers have kids close in age, so I'm assuming that our dad married my sister's mom and my mom around the same time, if not the same year. So yeah, I just wanted to clarify on that part. Thank you, no problem, money. I love that. I love the clarification because listen, you sent me the other part

on a whole an other day. You sent me the first story a whole another day, and then you just sent your correction not too long ago. So I do understand the shade was thrown. You were just in your feelings, you were very upset, obviously something had just happened, and you just you reacted. I understand, and I do respect I love and respect how you were still respect her mother enough to come back and correct that, like, no, okay,

she wasn't the other woman. Neither was my mom. You know, we're Muslims, so dad is allowed to have more than one wife or you know, or what have you. I don't want to mess it up because I do not want no smoke with no damn Muslims. All right, So we're gonna keep it moving there. We're gonna get off

the Muslim part, all right. Listen, Okay, I want you to have an open mind when I'm telling you this, But your sister, do you sometimes feel that because you and your other sisters who were so close and tighten it and just loyal to one another and thriving, you have obviously a big part in the family business. And you know, you're very well articulate. You sound very intelligent.

Do you think at with that family dynamic over there, you guys are by the same woman and man, same mom and dad, and then her with a different mom in a different household. You know, not as structured, is what it sounds like. And I'm basing that solely off of her social skills and how she was. You said she wasn't raised around women, so she doesn't really know how to navigate with all these feminine feelings and all this ship and how the sister cod goes, you know,

so she wouldn't really know how to be a sister. Okay, growing up? How was it? Because do you think that she could sometimes feel like a black sheep? I don't know if your dad still stayed with her mother after her mother gave birth to her, or did he break up with a mother and stay with your mother or how was it? Also? Was she around you guys growing up? Was she coming to get dropped off? Did she spend holidays with you guys? And did you guys go over

there to her house or whatever? Or you know, were you guys raised as close sisters although you guys come from two different households, that she ever feel included in anything? Not justifying the bullshit and the talking ship and all of that. But is it possible that she could have grew up disliking you guys because you have each other and she just has her She doesn't have other sisters outside of her dad on her mom's side. I think

you said she has brothers. And let me tell you something right now, I didn't grow up around girls either, but I know not to do that ship. That's why I got something so rough and tough, and I'm real quick on my feet, and you know, I can spawl with the best of these nickels out here because I grew up around guys. I have brothers, you know, I have boy cousins. Not I have female cousins too, But I was a tom girl for the majority of my life. Like girl, I didn't start wearing makeup and all that

ship until I got on a while and out. That's for real, and that's that's literally like what six years ago. I was never into anything girly, didn't even desire to hang around girls. Me and my cousin London and had one female best friend named Jasmine growing up to homegirls and like eighty fucking own boys. Never ever even desired to be around girls. Hang around girls, you know, no

particular reason. I just like basketball and ship better. So I'm not gonna say that doesn't have anything at all to do with why she asked the way she does. But I'm telling you that's not It's different for everybody. It's different for different people. I don't think that that plays a part in it. I think she wants to love. And I think you hit it on the head when

you said she's a pick me. It's like she's a fucking pick me, Yeah, because I don't feel like she's ever felt like she was picked before, You know what I'm saying. That also can have an effect on you. Pick me's generally are the black sheeps, are the underdogs, are the people that gotta fight harder to be seen. They sing like their attention seeking than they are because they never really got attention, You get what I'm saying.

And then if her mother was such an angry bitch, no joking, sorry, if her mother there was such an angry person all her life from what you can remember, not all her life, But you say like she's an angry person, she's mean, she's nasty. If a child is growing up around that, that child is gonna be conditioned to be the same way, even if her mother didn't

teach her to be that way. That's my mother. So I inherit that I see that I watched that I learned her behavior, and she doesn't even really realize she's teaching it to me. And maybe she did teach it on purpose. But I don't drink and all that, you know, all that ship comes from her mother. You guys are living life, chilling, having fun, thanking. Y'all can trust your sister that I have fun with y'all too. Have y'all ever sat down and talked to her? Literally? Have y'all

ever just just sat down? I think that would be great. And honestly, I know you don't like her. I know your sisters don't like her. I don't think she likes y'all either, But that has to stop. And you know you can't save every relationship. You can't save every friendship, you can't even save every family ship. But to be honest with you, I think you even writing me is a sign that you do want to fix it, because you ask me, should I just say fucking them off

of you? Or should I just continue to play nice? I don't think you should do either. Hey, I don't think you should break up with your sister. No, I don't half sister whatever. I don't think you should break up with her. And I also don't think you should play nice, because that's being phony. I think you should set her ass down, you and her, not all the sisters. I think she needs to have an individual conversation with each of you and then you guys can come together

and talk. And the reason why I say that and just hear me out because she could possibly feel like with all of y'all talking to her at the same time, y'all are going to go back and talk about her when she gets up and leave, because she is the only one that's divided. There is a division there, you know that was created because of dad, so real, no one is to blame, not the mother, not your mother,

not the sister. But then again, we can't even really blame that because it's religion that you don't have to abide by one wife or what you know. So and he was married to four women, as you said, So these are divisions created because of religion. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that confidently because that's and I'll be all in a nutshell that's what it is. I can't deem it to say it's wrong. However, I'm not a Muslim, I am Christian, and you can't have more than one wife.

You can't do that. Now, Nigga's do it all day. Men cheat, men do this, but it's not right. And my religion. So what I'm saying to you is, I think it should be an individual conversation. You should go and talk to her, then your other sister go and talk to her. Then the other sister go talk to her, and then the other sister go talk. So I don't know how many of y'all it is Papa rolling stone head ass stamp, but I do think that that would birth a whole new perspective about you guys to her

and then you never even know. She could probably be wanting the love from y'all so bad, but she doesn't want to be the bigger person. She wants y'all to pull it out of her. You know, she wants y'all to make the first step, and it's okay in doing that. You've been playing nice all this damn time. Why knowing y'all don't like the girl, and knowing the girl don't like y'all, have a conversation with her. Hey, look, and then you don't gotta be nice in the conversation, should you?

My sister, I'm gonna talk to you like a real grown ass woman. Listen. I don't like that you talk about me and our always include her. You want to use words like our as mad as you may be in this conversation, as mad as you always probably feel that, you know, you don't want to claim her or whatever. Or she's not like you. Yeah, she's not like you because y'all don't have the same mother. Y'all got the same dad. Trust me, you're more of your mother than

you are your father. I'll always believe that. I don't care. You lived in her belly for nine months. Yes, he helped create you, but you were bonded to your mother for nine months. You are held by your mother immediately after birth. You're breast fair. Whether you're breast fair or not, you bond skin to skin. So she's more of her mother than your father. You're more of your mother than your father. You understand. So sit down and talk to her, you say, hey, what is it? Or you can just

start the conversation like that. What is it? What is it about me that you hate? Why do you hate me? Why do you dislike me? What is wrong? What did I do to you? Why do you snitch on me? Why do you think you're so different? What is the problem with us? What is the underlying issue? Doesn't have anything to do with our dad? You know, give her a chance to talk. Also, things may get a little heated. I know, y'all better not put your hands on each other.

And that's not what sisters do, even half sisters don't supposed to do that. Okay, have a conversation. Go to your other sisters, encourage them to talk to her. Y'all, don't have to fight fire with fire. Let hollow as be the fire. Put that shut out, extinguish that ship. And if it doesn't work, even after a sensible, civilized conversation, then fall back, I would say, and let her come around. Don't treat in a different way. You just learn how to deal with it with a long ageist poem, deal

with her at a distance. Love your sister from a distance. Okay, so check back in with me, baby girl. That was a good one, and she's so beautiful too. All right, we're gonna do one more and we're gonna get out of here. Hold up, hold up, I know the ship getting good, but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Moving on ages, Okay, I'm gonna get right into it. When you six years old and I'm dating that God he's

really nice. He's not one of the typical guys I date. He actually is ship. Most of the guys who you know, we tend to go after. I tend to go after ain't ship, but just when he's doing pretty good either way. Anyways, he has a three year old. I have no kids at all, and he's real cool with his baby mother, and anybody else will be great to not be going to the baby mama drama. But they're a little too cool.

They give their three year old, they sit pictures down in front of her and give her a choice of where she was to go to different countries, and she picks and they go as a family. And I'm dating you, So it's kind of hard for me. What should I do? How should I feel? I'm happy that he's not having drama with his baby mother, but I think that's a little bit much. Okay, so you cut that off and listen. I don't even need you to finish, girl. Let that

motherfucker alone. That's just what that is? Uh? This like what the funk this look like? Over? If? Girl? Please? What you date them? Is it your boyfriend? Because to be honest with you, oh yeah, I'm coming with y'all to the funk. I ain't never been to Somalia. I ain't never been to St. Lucia. I've never been an alright, b or the funk. Like, no, put some pictures in front of me, motherfucker, and I'm going that sounds like some Will Smith Jada pinking ship. Damn what is this?

Because you know Will Smith has an older son right before Jada. His name is Trey. Now, Will was married to his mother before. Look the bottomore is coming out of me. Will was married to this woman before. Okay, and I just watched a little snippet of Red Table Talk where she actually came on. I think her name is Lisa. I do not want to screw this woman's name up. I think his first wife's name was Lisa.

She comes on the show and Jada says, oh, they say trips together and everything, like I did go out the country together. And then so Lisa said, you know you're going to clear this up, right, Like, No, that's your husband. Yes, he was mine before, but he's your husband. You know, you say stuff like that, you're gonna have to clear it up. No, we don't just go on trips because we're you know, like we're sucking around. Nothing like that. No, I think they have some type of

like their business partners or something like that. But either way, I don't care. Jada is so secure in herself because she ain't really She don't give a damn bundle damn Willie, so she don't care. Right, she got a few entanglements of her own still going on that we don't know about yet that she probably will tell us, because she tell us every damn thing, even ship that she shouldn't tell us. But that's neither hero there. She doesn't mind.

Will travel in the world with his baby mother, and the sun don't even be that because the son has grown so imagine that I wouldn't even do that ship as comfortable as I am with my son's father, me and my son and his dad will never go out the country. If I'm dating someone, we'll never go out the country together unless he taking his girl and I'm taking my man. There's no way. I don't care. That's just the respect level that I would have for my man and that he's supposed to have for his woman.

That's just what that is. Girl leader, they go along, especially if he ain't inviting you, and when they go out the country together. Do he called you? Knew he talked to girl? Look funk that lay that nigger. That's just what that is. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Now you cut your story off. But I didn't even need to hear nothing else. Suck that. Leave that ship alone because I don't have time to girl. I ain't got time for that ship. Did y'all hear that?

That just piss me off? I want to know how serious you guys are. And when you say dating, dating to me just means you're getting to know a person. You know. You could be dating four or five six people. You know what I'm saying. You could be dating a lot of people. You could be dating one person if you choose the date one person you But are you in a relationship. That's the difference, because if you're actually in a relationship, that's unacceptable. I mean, come on, come on, seriously,

ask him? Would he allow the same? If y'all are even on those terms, have you ever bought this up to him before or is this your first time even taking it outside of your relationship bringing it to me? I think there needs to be a communication level established. I don't think there is one? The fuck? And you you say it like this is a regular thing that they just be doing and ship that can't be healthy, You can't like possibly be happy. The fuck? I don't know.

You said they're a little too cool? Do you see any other signs of anything going on? Like? What the hell? And then and then hold up, hold up, let me, I think this ship just clicked. I'm gonna say this to y'all. I'm gonna leave on this note. Is this nigger rich? And is that why you're fucking with him?

Because he got money? Because if he is frequently taking his family, because that's what it is, honey, his family out the country, and the way he's presenting the destination is setting pictures in front of a baby, a three year old who don't even know how to say country, probably much less spell it. The fuck this nigga got some fucking money. What if she picked Egypt? Is he was just gonna go over there because the flight's highs? Hell? Because that's where I'm going next week? Hell? Do this

nigger got money? And is that the reason why you fucking win him? Because if that is the reason why you with him, girl, you might as well stay where you're at. If that's the reason ship, if you really love him and you really value loyalty and you value faithfulness, leave But if you just win a nigga for his money, you can be cool with your baby all day. Baby a matter of fact, why y'all go on the trip, send me on one so I ain't got to think

about y'all me. I ain't gotta go with y'all. Go just send me on my own and give me another ticket so I can take a nigga. What the fuck, girl, get your life. But chuck back in because I need to know. Do this nigga has ship, And just like that,

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