Dating For Today

my right is my cousin London. Closer to me is my brother Brand to the left of me, little baby father, what's up? Roy? And then over there to the far left is my best friend Shane. What's going on? Listen? So I missed the memo because everybody got on black but me. But I'm special. I'm a star and I shine like a diamond, So listen. The topic is dating for today. I don't know if these spoil will agree with me, but a lot people date for today. That's

what it's called dating for today. Back in the day, you would date to get married. A lot of people date to get married anymore. A lot of people just date because it looks cute, because as they want to be relationship goals on social media and ship like that. So we're gonna get into that now. Me, I've dated it a lot of men to get where I am now and where I am now as in a relationship. Yes, I've dated a lot of men, though to to get to this point. What's a lot of men? Who's counting?

I feel like that's what you have to do. You know, I've dated a couple, you know what I mean. I ain't just ain't no who here slob and every nob as my cousin London would say. But I think that, uh, that's what you have to do to find the one that that you love. You know what I'm saying. I don't think it's a problem dating, but it's been a low lot. How many have you did? Seem like it's been a problem of them shere? Goddamn lie? Maybe she's not who kids. The one I'm dating now is the

only one that matters. Yeah, so listen and y'all, y'all, y'all gonna be quie jruggle and just let people think I'm the only home understanding. I think you might be right, Mr Infamous. I think my home, my wholeness has been deleted because I'm in a relationship right now. But listening, what's up? What do you think men? I'm at you because you are a man. Do you think men dating a lot of women is acceptable? Yes? Okay, why because you don't Each of those women do different things for

us that men might need. Okay, they do stuff for y'all that your need. What every woman said their purpose? Okay, so that's why you date multiple the sayings because yeah, I feel like that at a time at a time, Okay, date, I'm not a relationship. I'm not married. I can date one for women, and you absolutely can't because that's what dating is. You're just having fun getting to know somebody. You can definitely date with the one person. Am I to say it right? A wrong? Yeah? You're like, yeah,

you're nobody. Somebody watch this. When I say dating, that don't mean I'm fucking on that. Okay, just because you think he doesn't mean I'm sleeping with him. Are you talking about how you guys are? You know I'm in a relationship, baby, and oh yeah I got that guy reship. I am in a relationship, but I wasn't. My whole wish ways that was okay, you keep eyeing me, prince man, because don't left turn I'm trying to come back. Then don't apply to me. You know what is going on.

It don't apply to me no more. You are I was? You are faithful. He's saying about it too. That's why I changed my friends, because you don't believe in me. Okay, I have a question, and just miss Jess. Why can't you keep it? Man? You dated so many why can't you keep on? Because I just didn't know a lot about myself. Honestly, I was. You know, a lot of people date, you know, with the notion that they are perfect,

and that's how I've always thought. And then you know, I learned something about myself with every person that I've dated. You know, I also learned um, Like in my relationship now, I'm learning a lot of things that I didn't learn

from previous guys. That Also, when you date somebody, it can kind of like you kind of see like your pattern, like I have a type, and then you can see whether you have a type or not because the person I'm dating now ain't know I'm like the guys that I am before, And so you can kind of see where you've evolved as well, because now you pay attention to certain things like other things that you've never paid assentence to before. So I date to get experienced and

I learned myself and I'm loving it. Okay, So what did not do? Right? Every listen? Listen? That brings me to the next segment, which is called scenario. So I'm gonna give everybody scenarios, and y'all gonna tell me how y'all will feel and be honest about it. If one of your friends are dealing with somebody and you find something out about that person, or you already know something about that person, would you tell your friends? No? No, okay, bro,

no you wouldn't. I want to know why. I don't, Carrious? Why not? Shanna? I mean I would have before until just proved to me that I can. Okay, I ain't gonna get into it. Why not because I don't remember that? What would you? What's the question? I actually would, if the circumstantial, I would, if that person would be open to hearing me, I would be like, wow, girl, I can't believe this. Why y'ada y'all? But if she's like, not my man, girl, and I'm saying, oh well, I'm

gonna let you find out by yourself. And then what she found out, gona say, I told you some baby girl, but you thought she thought she called the right nick. It's not the one I need. Yeah, I like the mama been doing Nash. I like the mama. But if it was a family member like me, you would you tell me if the guy that I messed with was with somebody, If it was a guy that I was messed with as my cousin, would you tell me that there was something about it? Yeah? Yeah, of course I made.

We tell each other everything, like everything about guys that we did. But one thing I round Jesson is I wait, I've learned to wait because she does not take the uh you know from the beginning. She has to learn her lessons to side and it's like you know that person. Then you're like, okay, I know how, ain't no points I learn not You're just gonna watch and look sleep And you're like, okay, how you learn experienced back? And I've never none of these homes anyway? What is the

deal breaker? Okay? So, and when you date people, there are deal breakers. It could be something that like really really turns you off. It could be little, but if it's a pet people of yours and it keeps happening, it could be big. So what is a deal breaker for you? We're gonna do from small to big? What's

a small? A deal breaking from me would be if you're not um like committing to something right, So if you're not taking me out, if you're not calling me checking up on me, so you're checking out on my mental you know, it's my love language communication. So yeah, it's like I need that. So that's if you're not giving me that because I'm a talker. So if you're not a hummunicating with me, you're gonna get You're gonna get cut off. Deal breaker, prince break. I hate a

lie and having motherfucker okay one right now neither. A deal breaker from me now would be a married but separated man. I feel like that's like that that is so I can't ever do that again. Y'all know how to that. I ain't doing that no more. I need no rings. I need to know you know. I need to get to know a person. That's why I said learning a person, learning before you just dumped a relationship is very important. That's why dating for today is really

important for this segment. Listen, deal break for you not spending enough time, Okay, you're making time time time. I feel like everybody makes time when you want to make time. So when you're not making time, yeah that's yeah. Yeah. And consistency okay. Would you date a woman with five kids? Shots? Well, every so that's close enough, So I guess I would. Okay, how about it. Yeah, you don't get tying, no, no, no time. I ain't have no time with her. I

didn't used together like six seven years. Yeah, but you were children, yeah everything. Yeah, so she was a steps I love that. Yeah, that's great, look at me now, yo, all right cool. Oh I asked you. Would you date a guy was five different baby mamas? Yes, I would if he was involved in the children's lives. He can't be a dad. Well, I don't see the kids. He doesn't talk about the children, because at the end of the day, like kids are like our next generation. You know,

that's your offspring. I can respect that as a mother. But if I see your kids, you're hanging with them, Hey, we can go. We can take myself to the park, you know. But if you have children and you don't claim them, I'm not claiming you either, Okay, I caught you. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Last, but not least, this

one's gonna get you off. What you deal with someone that your friend has dealt with in the past, even if they told you it was okay, go away because we weren't necesarious. You can fun with it. But yeah, you can take out whatever. Na. No, Now, you wouldn't deal with somebody that's your friend gave you permission to do because there's so many guys out here in the world like why did that? Thank you? I like that? I agree? What's up? No, it depends because on one

it depends on how serious it was. Okay, so you're open to that. You're not opposing, you know, I'm open to it. Okay. It depend on the relationship now your baby mama, no years? No, yeah, just somebody you hung out with the for me, it depends on their stass because that could be my my wife there, you know, come with me. I like that? So what about you wrong? Yes, that's what Yes, ma'am. We deal with a person who data data one of your access would you would you

like it? If one of your friends data one of your asses, would you be willing to pass that up? I mean, I didn't happened to you, so it happened. It has not happened to multiple time you always wear ivery, think is about you? I would did it happened? He's like, what happened? Mean? Tell us about it briefly. I don't understand, man, I four different children moms like that impossible? Right? Not that one? Okay? You know I was a friend of mine's.

Once you're not friends, no more like their mutual friends. Now I see him, he see me, yes, and when you speak whatever it a peace me be. But I felt I feel like you know, I mean, he didn't that though, you know, we just duped my child mom. I think I couldn't get mad at him because he's a man. Man do what they want, right. I felt more so like mad at the child mom because I thought l Yalt was like she brought it to me. She did bring it to me. I can't take that

from her. She brought it to me. I told her how I felt about it. She's still pursuit m you know it was what it was. It didn't last week, which it wasn't but well, that's why you're baking my last dated looking about her. She wasn't looking for nothing like that wasn't last anyway, Like I said, like, I ain't gonna speak too much on it, like it because it troubles him, Like I still feel type of way about it. But go ahead, I'm sorry, go ahead, I'm sorry.

I'm getting to I don't like her soul was. But like I said, what it is, I ain't feeling type way about him. I ain't feeling no type of way to him. I felt it to the child mom, like you like thing. I thought it was better than it. So you're talking about are you talking about question? And everybody gonna be like, are you talking about jobs? Are you talking about jobs? Like? Did she put you in the circumstance what you were about to say? What did

you give it? He im talking about it's always med you had just up for her too, never did it to her? You did a lot to you that nigga w your friend. That's what I wanted. You won't your friend. But you felt like he ain't nobody freend because you told me that he was an opportunist and that's the thing he is. He was only your friend. You were an opportunity. You were an opportunity to So he got used that he knew. So if if that's the claim that you want to take on, I take that at

the standpoint, I want to block claim, standpoint whatever. I'll take that. Look, this is for the world. I'll take that right. But to be clear, if I take me personal, you know I'm selfish. If I let you hold something, you're my friend. No, no, no, fuck what you ring if you let somebody hold something? Yeah, I got listen, I was young. Listen, I got and now so the last I know that was a greenist. But that was young and dumb. Yeah, I can't hold you that was greenish.

I did. Yeah, I got opportunists. But admit that. That's that's part of your healing. You got used by opportunity. I can't get used as much as she did. It doesn't matter, bro, it's not a comparison. You got used by opportunists. No sinner is greater than no sin. Brother. I take that, Bro, you got used. I take that. That's motherfucker. I take what are you talking about? I take that you didn't get used like I mean, didn't

get nough back. I'm sorry, oh we still shoot because no, no, I'm saying that's like, man, you know, as a man and a woman, you know you gotta open up and you know what you mean. You use like what? Oh my god, we used for? What can we liken use what? Welcome to care? Folive reckless? That's what we're doing. I was young, I was done and I'm learning. Keep it this that alright? Used for? Oh all right, because I I just want to make joy. Nigga want talking about

no money. I used your dick just like you use my pussy, but he better you Yeah, got them, she got money. You know you're still paying payments. But whatever your damn right. Look everything is still at least every goddamn thing though, just like and we're moving to that's why y'all was friends. No that's not don't touch me, no man anyway, So listen. That brings me to confessions. Everybody has to go around the room and confess something thirsty that they did to gain one's interest in the past.

So basically, when was you a thirsty is nigga? Bitch? Yes, just don't wait. I was at working on a flight yesterday. Actually no, no, no, no, actually was not thirsty hold up, but I don't. When I was thirsty last night, yeah, call you run. So I was I gonna call you back control of that. No, I was d trying to tell you someone already got you had them my already. No, I wouldn't heat come over the phone. I'm talking about the restaurant when you went over to somebody table you

need know, came back, came back moment. That's thirsty moment. Yeah, I think I think I haven't setually called my ass over. I came over. I don't know, but it was good. Was a little right back in me thirsty moment I had two fifteen. It was a female that I wanted bought a bag. Thought I was gonna get a I ain't get up. I wanted my bag, bag your big fellow. That was fun. I was like, I aren't alight hello all right, um, I'm like my thirstiest moment. Um, I

actually was. I wanted to date this guy right, Oh my god? So it And I was actually cool with his girlfriend and we weren't like friends like I was cool with her and I knew that she was cheating on her boyfriend and I got proof and I told him said it to him, and then we started talking. He end up being a clown. So I was like, why did I go through all this? But yeah, I know he no, no, no no, it was okay cool. I

used to work with her. She would tell me about when she would cheat on her boyfriend, and so I just got proof. I showed him and so didn't up breaking up with her and with men. But then he did. Did he ever? Did ever get back to him her that it was for him? No, I put my job on, didn't fight. Yeah, I got fired. I was stilling. That's why I had I got caught. Listen anyway, all right, anybody else, baby's not thirsty before your little ugly I mean, give me a little bit consos now I'm like grassing

my hand in the club or something like that. Definitely, Yeah, when she get drunk, every man when she when she drunk should be like, you want to go with me? I mean, what the funking that boy? And I'm not thirsty, but I can't get thirst You've been thirsty, so let me hear it. At that time, we was down to Samy and she grabbed in the hands. Okay, location precise, but yeah, listening, you've grabbed plenty of hands hands like this we can do. I'm listening. That's it. I get

a little I get right first. I get right personal with people when I drink. But not on the regular ship. You would never catch touching nobody. I don't know regularship. Where's my mask? People talking too? So that's enough confessions because apparently hand don't have one? Do you have one? On my turney, I was waiting to be next. You goes moment I just think, oh I go. It was thirsty. I just say this here we all say that we don't let us slide. I ever done was boils on

my car. Okay, but it was new like like they're still having a new date cap Like wow, that's nice, little going like I was in my prom. I was in my prom. I was up. You know, we all got a listen lest say listen. We can go on about this ship all day. But we got gyms to drop. Anybody got a gym before we leave these beautiful people, because we talked a whole bunch of ships. But it only add as if we close with a message. So anybody got a gym to drop? What is it? Tell us? Mr? Player?

Date for yourself and not to not for the perception of others. Give us that again, date for yourself and not for the perceptive of others. Like that, alright, Well to be like, yeah, that's good, all right, Mine would be I would say, well, in my relationship right now, I'm being taught patient, So I would say learning each other. Like I have said, it's not a bad thing. Um, And I'm gonna also give you all this and my experience.

I was so used to everything happening so fast, like you know, and I don't like clinging people, but I like like to be clung to and it's so freaking weird, right, But I know I like people cling to me, but I don't like when people are clinging, right, that's just a getting me letting myself, how about it? So this is the thing, learning each other. It's really not a bad thing. It doesn't have to be fast. Time is everything. Take your time and we're gonna end just like that.

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