Can You Pay My Bills?

ship for you, all right. So for those who don't know, my dad is a karaoke host slash DJ, and he just karaoke at this restaurant every Tuesday in Maryland. Right, I go when I can, and every time I go, I see this particular girl with a different dude. Now I've gone like eight times, so that's like eight niggas. I'll sing all way. Right, let me find out. Eight is the lucky number. We're on the eighth episode. Okay, let me go play that number. So I'm sitting at

the bar right now. She sees me and she never says anything, but this particular night last week, she wanted to take a picture. She got kids and they would love if she brought home a picture with Jess hilarious. So I took a picture and she was there with a different dude again last week. The week before that she was there with another dude, and the six times before that she was with different niggas. So in exchange for the picture, I wanted to get in her business.

You know, I think that was fair. So after the picture, we got the chopping it up, and I said, Yo, let me ask you something. Every time I'm in here I see you with a different guy, teach me the game goes, How the fund do you do that? Now? Listen. I didn't actually want her to teach me the game. I just wanted her to let her guard down a little bit, to let me know how the funk she is doing this and why the funk she's doing this,

because it ain't cute to me. So she said, well, Jos, I got a nigga for every bill that I have. I said, what, Let me let me get this straight. So you got a nigga for the rent? She said, oh, no, baby, the mortgage. I said, okay, okay, Chocho, black woman owning some ship like that? Still a hole? So I said, okay, you gotta nigga for the mortgage. You gotta nigga for the car payment. You gotta nigga for the B G and E, which is electric here in Baltimore. You gotta

nigga for the water bill. You gotta nigga for the car insurance. She gotta nigga for And she's not in her head as I'm naming the bills, and so I stopped at six. So I'm like, so you got six niggas. She said, no, no, six men. I said, okay, okay, six niggers for each bill. You know that you have to to pay the bill. She said, yeah, because the nigga came funk with me unless he paying a bill. And I said, okay, so you're not in a relationship with any of them. She said, oh no, I'm saying

I do what I want. I said, obviously, but they have to pay a bill to funk with you. She said, yes, man, I got kids to feed. I said, okay, where are their fathers? She said, bits not no intervention. I said, no, hopefully it can be by the end of this conversation. Where are their fathers? And she she said, I don't know, and I don't give a funk I said, got many kids you got? She said, I got two girls. I said, okay, okay, cool, two girls. So you only got two baby fathers. Okay.

In the world today, it's usually around five or six for your age. She's thirty five. I said, so you don't get emotionally attached to any of these guys. She's like, nah, half of them are in relationships and that's how I like to keep it, so there is no emotional attachment. I said, okay, you do realize this is prostitution and somewhat extortion. She laughed, and then she ordered around the shots. The nigga she was with came over and I was like,

you ready to sing? They were about to go up and sing a song, so she was like, yeah, but when I finished talking to Jazz. When I finished talking to Jazz, so he kissed the on our neck. She was already drunk and ship right. So when he walked off to go back to the table, I leaned over. I said, so, which bill is that? And she laughed and she was like car payment. I said, yeah, he looked like a car payment type nigga. He was lazed. He was good, you know what I'm saying. He looked

much younger than her. He looked like he's so drugs. What I'm saying, I'm not stereotype the niggas, but in my city, I know each and every type of nigga you've on me, And this nigga looked like he sold some some some mean ass coke, you know. So I'm like, okay. He looked like he he paid and she has she got a nice bends, and he pays the car payment. I said, okay, you look like the car payment type.

The only thing that threw me off was that he had braids, And I was like, damn it, I don't given how old you are, why do you have braids? It's okay, right, that's neither here there. So she was like, I can't teach you the game if you want. I said no, I was just bullshit. I don't want to be you. I don't want to be like you. In fact, I want you to be more like me, be independent. She walked away. She wasn't trying to hear that ship and it's cool, and it's cool, but that brings me

to the carefully reckless discussion. Ladies and these days and times, why the funk do you feel now listen, it's not all of y'all, but it's a lot of women out here these days that feel like a nigga can't funk with me unless he paying for a bill or paying something. That's not how you go into it, unless that's your profession, unless you are a proster to unless you do just want to use this nigga, unless you don't want nothing

more than just the coin from the nigga. But if this is the way you're operating in your everyday love life, it's not okay. This is just how I feel, and this is my opinion, and opinions are like assholes. Everybody got one. I got a strong one about this topic. I don't feel that a woman should base her liking of a guy on what he can pay for her, you know what I mean. I feel like self stability, being independent, all of those things are what women must embody,

you know what I mean. I've never fucked with a dude based off of what the funk he could do for me. I've never done that. In fact, I've done the total opposite. Now, I've been dumb and shipped for a nigga, Like I didn't took care of a guy two years in a row. Learned to never do that ship again. So I kicked myself for my own ass for doing that ship. Even with doing that and never doing it again, I only did it one time. Never, never in my life will I ever do it again.

And y'all know who I'm talking about. Took care of the nigga for two years, was with the nigga for three. For the first everything was good. Then he got comfortable and I started taking care of him. And it was convenient for me because in those times I didn't like to be alone. So I just stayed with this nigga because I didn't like being alone, you know, the nigga with the braids. Now, when I woke the funk up right, because I was in denial for a long time, my

friends were around me. They were saying, this ship going on. They were like, Yo, this nigger having paid Like my mom even stepped in because my mom is my financial advisor. She pays my bills for me, you know, just to keep my ship all together and organizing ship. She said. I noticed that he hasn't turned in his half for the rent in six months. Jessica, what the funk are

you doing? He's still living in your house. You have a son, You're feeding everybody in your fucking household, so he's kind of like your oldest son at this point, Ladies, I'm not saying take care of the nigga. I'm not saying pay up for everything. But I'm saying, do not make it a standard for a nigga to pay something to funk with you. Now, I'm not even saying to be with you, because this girl at the bar, she was telling me she's not in a relationship with any

of these guys. Now that's different when you want a relationship, yes, but the bill, pay a bill, especially if you're living in my house or we're living together everything. If you stand with me, pay some bills, nigga. If I'm staying with you, I'm gonna offer to pay some bills to you because that's not my house, that's your house, you know what I mean. I feel like she should be all the time, especially if you make your own money, Ladies. If you make your own money, pay your own ship.

Show a nigga that you independent make a niggna want to pay some ship for you because you got your own Like Neo said, she got Harrald like seriously, have your own to make a nigga want to pay yo. Neo said it best. I love it because she got her own. She don't touch mine. She leave my ship alone. There ain't nothing that's more sexy than the girl that

want but don't need me. Ladies, don't make these niggas feel like you need them, because if you give a nigga the power to feed you, you're giving them the power to starve you. And that's the word. You know what I'm saying. Yeah, Yeah, we're gonna clap it up. I'm gonna I'm gonna bring it back. I'm gonna bring it back. If you give a nigga the power to feed you, you're giving them the power to stop you. And we're gonna be serious about that. That's on some

real ship. But that gets into something else. I'm letting y'all know. We need to stop normalizing these niggas paying our bills for us for some pussy. That is fucking prostitution. I don't care how you slice it, how your dice it, if you turn it on a side, horizontal, vertical, bitches, prostitution. If you ain't with that, nigga, now listen, I've been a situation where I sucked with a guy. I was working with him for a couple of months, and he

was buying me ship. You know what I mean, design and ship Gucci Louis what you know, he was buying me ship. That's different. Those are not my bills, Those are not my bills. I got my bills. Actually got all my fucking shopping too. I got my this. I don't expect that they're gonna buy me because I dressed expensively, now you know what I mean, Like, that's not all

I'll wear. I wear Alexander McQueen. Then I might pop up with a pair of fucking Nike Air Forces or pay Adidas or under arm like you know what I mean. I wear everything, But I have a very expensive taste when I want to get particularly cute when I go on when you know, when I want to go out and put on my ship. You know, because I throws that ship on you know what I'm saying. I'm just gonna brag and boats for a second, just be throwing

that ship on it. I don't give a funk who don't like what I wear A bitch, I love it, and my style can get a bit expensive, So No, I don't expect the guy come and buy me. Why I sell because that's what he sees me wear or that's what he's seeing me put on. You know, I don't expect you to buy me a Gucci bag to match, you know, my Gucci boots and ship. No, I'll do that my own self. But by all means, if you want to go to fun Head, even if you want to pay a bill, you can ask, but I won't

be asking you. I don't feel that we should ask these niggas to pay bills, like I said, unless they're staying in our homes or we're in relationships. It's just different. I don't know it would be a turn off to me if I was a nigga. Bitch. I just I like, you, can can we go out on a date? Like? Can can we please go out on the date? Before you ask me? You know? Can I pay your water bill? And I'm saying, bitch, I I ain't. I ain't wash my hands in your house one time and I'm paying

the fucking water bill. Bitch? Can I drink some water in your house before I go ahead? And you know, give you some money for this bill? Damn? Can I watch TV in your ship? Can I at least watch a commercial before I pay your cable bill? Bitch, before I buy you a fighter stick? Damn something. Now we got a commercial, and if you click off of this podcast,

I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen that brings me to just fix my mess where I ask questions to my fans about their personal experiences and I help y'all or try my best to help y'all get out of the ship that y'all got yourselves into. So I'm gonna read a little bit off I posted on Instagram. Ladies, do you feel a man it's obligated to pay your bills? If y'all are involved, go and explain your answer. Shanny Crawford said, Um, if we're together, he's definitely paying all

the major your ones, rent, utilities, et cetera. I can take care of everything else. And this is coming from a space of me already being financially stable. Well, bet you're selfish and greedy at the same time, because what if he got his own goddamn house, so we're gonna pay his bills and your bills, and then your selfish that sitting up there some about and I'm already financially stable, So I'm yeah, like bitch, and I didn't say if y'all were together. Now, I like what she said at

the beginning. I'm gonna take back one of my bitches. I called you a bit twice. I'm gonna leave one there, but I'm gonna take back the one because you did say if we're together. However, I'm not talking about if y'all are together. I'm saying if y'all are involved. Involved, can be dating, involved, can be just fucking involved, can be you talked this the nigga you text every day when you wake up, the nigga the last nigga you

talked to every night before you go to sleep. But y'all are not necessarily together because in relationships it is different. Billion Blinks says, not obligated, but if I need, he should provide or offer without me asking. I like that. I agree, she said, not obligated. I love the non obligation because the guy is not required to pay any fucking thing just to funk with you, you know what I mean, just to take you out, you know, just to see you, just to like you. I shouldn't have

to pay a bill to like you. You understand what I'm saying. Now, that's a manly duty. Anyway, if you see that the woman that you are dealing with, or you're involved with, or even in a relationship needs something, it's your manly duty to do that, you know what I mean, Like like it's your manly duties. Like for instance, the guy that I'm dealing with now, who shall reing main nameless and don't be in my d m asking me who it is. I don't give a fox that

my job business my job business. So he goes shopping from my house. He loves going to like home goods and and and marshals, and like he loves home decor. And now he's older, you know what I mean. And and he loves doing this ship for me. Fine, you guys own ship. But he sees like in my house when I need ship, so he gets it for me, all types of ship like that. I think that's fine. I'm not really a needy person to need and if I did need him, not the type to show you

that I need anything. That's just my dignity and my pride. I've never been the type to let a nigga know I'm broke, like I really need it not, it's not gonna have a happened. I just I don't know. I've never been I wasn't raised like that. I'm very very strong in that particular area. I've never been. I need you to pay my bill and I and I there has been times I've been flat broke as a fuck. Okay, still faking it till I make it. You would never notice,

bitch was broke. My rent was late so many times, and I was dealing with guys with money and they would buy me ship and I would go sell it and then pay my bills. You know what I mean. But I was never gonna be like, can you pay this bill? Can you? Can? You? Can? You? Can? You? Can you? I've never been a can you person. Sharon d Rogers says, heck no. My responsibilities are mine. Even if he's my husband, I'm still going to carry my weight.

What he does extra is a bonus period. And I love you, Sharon d Rogers, because that is the to me of a woman, a real woman. My responsibilities are mine. That's how I was raised. That's that goes back to what I said. I've never been a ken you bitch. I've always made it happy. Myself, and that's what we want to show these guys, that's what we want to normalize again. Independent. Okay, this is interesting. She would like

to remain anonymous. Okay, so her boyfriend must listen to this ship, she said no, because then he's gonna feel like he gotta move in or he runs ship. Nah, I'm good, Jack, I got these bills. But that's another thing that's me. I don't want you to ever ever feel like, oh I did this, I paid this, because you know, petty, guys will hold ship over your head. That's the last thing I've ever take from And don't you have in your life throw something back in my face.

That's not the ship that I'm on. I don't like that, and guys have a tendency of doing that. Women do it as well. But I'm never, like I said in the beginning of this episode, will ever give a nigga the power to feed me, Because he can starve you with that same drive, with that same money, with that very same ship you always got your fucking palm out for he can stop dropping in the hand any day and hold over your head what he's dropped in it before.

So I definitely understand baby, who would love to remain anonymous sister Underscore Survivor said, uh no, niggas aren't reliable. Pay your own ship and use them for what you need the dick and some casual chit chat. I know that's right. I know that's right. And you're saying pretty single sister survivor, and I love it. I love what you're staying for now. At least she knows what she wants. She knows she just wants. I'm digging some casual chit chat,

you know what I'm saying. She ain't saying that he ain't gotta buy her nothing because gifts are different. But you ain't gotta pay my ship. I'm reliable for my own ship, not you. I don't want to be redundant or repetitive, but y'all need to get to see you'll greasy heads and this is the last one I'm gonna read. Gabrielle Boysellino says, hell, no, women need to be independent. You are your own person. Be okay with taking care

of yourself. If you take things to the next level, like sharing a place together or getting married, then yes, splitting bills between both of you is just fair. Relationships should be fair. But if you're just involved, take care of yourself. Now, listen, I agree with that. It's nothing like taking care of yourself. That's how you discover self love.

That's how you open up Pandora's box of self love because you'll learn through taking care of yourself that you don't need You don't have to depend on anyone to take care of you ever, because you know how it is. You know how you've gotten through that struggle. You know how you didn't know where your next meal was coming from, but you made a motherfucking way. You know how it feels to grind it the funk out and get it yourself. So therefore, you don't need a negd to take care

of You don't need a man. And I want you all to realize that we don't need these men financially now, women we need these men. Set surely we need these men. We we need our men. That that's what we were created for. A man and a one was created to be together. Nowadays, you know it's remixed. You know we got a man and man, we've got women and women whatever. You know. For all the gays listening, yes, you need

that affection, you need to love. But You do not need your companion to pay your motherfucking bills, especially if they ain't your motherfucking If it ain't official between y'all. Come on, man, it's normalized stability and people self stability. It's normalized responsibility being responsible. If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. Now.

That brings me to my current news. Okay, So Lisa Ray has announced that there will be a reboot or a remake of Players Club Now Johnson Hernandez Love and hip hop reality star and Drea Michelle. They want to both go up for the part of Diamond. Um. If I had to choose between them too, it would be Drea. If I had to choose period, it would be none

of them. You know what I'm mean. I think there are other people who could embody Diamond, and probably a little better than Lisa did it, you know what I'm saying. She was in a problem, she was very young in that movie. She did good. She did good. I just feel like it's somebody else that could do, you know, even better than she did. Shout out to Lisa Ray. I do love her and to death, by the way, now, Joscelyn. I do feel like she could play Ronnie with a

couple of speech classes. And I'm not being funny. Y'all know this the fun y'all know, y'all, y'all know this. She could clean out English up a little more now she's gotten better. But when I was checking out her show on Zeus Johnson's Cabaret, I noticed that she still says cavaway, you know what I'm saying, And I'm like, damn, you know, she sounds like she bought you know, four you know, as an English baby. You know that's cavaway, you know. But she can clean up in English a

little bit. I think she would be grateful a movie like that. She got the banging body. She knows how to dance, you know, how to pop it and ship. She could play you know, one of the dances. She actually be great on p Valley if you ask me, you know. But again, I don't know about about the English, you know what I'm saying. And then that's a country show, you know, that should take place in Mississippi, so you know, I don't know. Drea could also be in the movie

as well. Like I said, if I had to choose at all, she wouldn't play Diamond though I'm trying to play Ebony. That's just what I'm saying. I could play Ebony and let Woodie McClain play Jor the one who raped Ebony. Ha ha, y'all get my draft anyway. Anyway, anyway, next story, six Doctor Seuss books will no longer be published due to racist imagery. Ship is trashed, y'all mean Doctor SEUs. Dr SEUs like the niggad that we grew up on green eggs and ham. You know what I'm saying.

I am, I am Sam, I am no I. You know what I'm saying that Dr Seuss. I don't like that. And the reason why I say I don't like that is because we have so much other ship to conquer, so much other racist bullshit that we still have to endure, we still have to face and go through, like police brutality. There are still cops that are not in jail for for killing, wrongfully killing black people. You know what I'm saying.

You got all types of motherfucker's who did not get locked up for storm in the Capitol, all them white motherfucker's that are still free. Yeah, we got some of them throwing in jail. Fuck that all of the motherfucking nasers deserved to be in jail. We got so much racial injustice going on, and y'all snatching books off the shelves. Y'are removing mops and shipped off of syrup bottles and ship y'are changing the names of the rooms in the houses,

like master bedroom. Oh, that's racist. We don't want blacks to feel offended if we call it the master bedroom. Bitch, y'all worring about the wrong ship, That's what y'all worrying about. You asked me, y'all doing all this ship, all this ship, and still not giving the funk about us, still not giving us equality, still not giving us what the funk. Well, we don't give a funk about no mop on, no

syrup bottle. I know I don't because I'm gonna still eat the ship until we get some black owned seruping this motherfucker cause I ain't gonaver stop eating no no French toasts, worrying about a can doctor Seuss book, My nigga, what the fuck arrested Brianna Taylor's killers. Give more time to the nigga who killed George Floyd More time. Now, I don't give a fuck. Give him the death penalty. Ship like that tripping talking about some fucking books. That

ship making me mad. Next story. Okay, so last week Instagram scared all the social media influencers and non social media influencers by taking away the likes. Now, they've been experiencing and trying to test a few new features for the feed, post and everything, and they even wrote something we unintentionally added more people to the test today, which was a bug. We're fixing this issue and restoring like counts to those people who needs it. So Instagram basically apologized.

They said they did not mean to hide the likes in the views for everyone's post. Now, you would have thought that they snatched away a Grammy from somebody. They snatched away Emmy's. You would have thought that jobs were snatched away from motherfucker's. Do you understand what I'm saying? Do you see how impactful those couple of hours were without people seeing their likes and views? If Do It for Cloud was a people now, I get it, y'all can say the same ship about me. I wasn't upset

when that ship happened. You know why, because we've got so many people nowadays living just to be seen, living to get the most likes, leaving comments that are hurting people mentally, and and fucking with people and and bullying people just to see how many likes they can get on it. Nowadays, you can do anything and become famous internet wise, because famous is a very broad word. If there were no Internet, if it was just the up

and cease today, there would be so many suicides. And I know that because people now only live for the Internet, for the approval, for the validation of other people that should trash. We've become a trash ass world. Even myself, like I contributed to it, you know what I'm saying, Like because I am an influencer. You know that's not only what I am. Don't play with me, baby comedian, actress, entrepreneur,

business owners, ceo. Oh that don't play. But I started off as a social media influencer and I'm still once it is day. You know, I still do skits and keep my content fresh for y'all. I'm always creating new ideas, but I don't do it for the likes anymore. There

was a time where I did it. There was a time I did that ship man I used to make fun of people all that type of ship, not worried about how they would feel, not even worried about Damn, I'm gonna meet this person because I'm actually in the same industry and I'm actually an actress now, you know what I mean. Hence the reason why I would love to stop just with the mess but y'all won't let me. But it's not as messy as it used to be. I used to be very mean at times, you know,

and I do apologize about that. For no reason. I would just wake up and choose violence that day, you know, on those days, at that point in my life. You know, I can't say at that point in my career because it wasn't a career yet. It didn't feel like a career. Just felt like a habit, you know. It felt like like a playful abbot, felt like a game. But people's lives are not games, you know what I'm saying. And that's why you can't play on people's feelings just for

no fucking likes, you know. But going back to that Instagram ship, social media runs most of our minds everything. You know. There could be somebody on fire, literally burning, burning alive, the average person would not try to put them out first. The average person would pull out their phone. That's sad as fun when you take a moment and

really think about it, it's sad. You've got people going through real life relationship problems who would run to social media before they actually can sit down with their mate and talk out their differences. Social media ruins relationships. I don't give an what you say, because you're putting every one of your business and you're you're getting all these different opinions that you don't need to validate your relationship. Social media is not the only thing that ruins your relationships,

but it goddamn it doesn't help. So the fact that Instagram had snatched the way those likes by mistake and so many people were affected, I'm talking about Twitter went crazy. That's said. That's said, just like the bitch from story Time with the six Niggas who got the bills that she man listen, and I know some of my listeners are like, no, she she doing what's right. Jacks like don't try to don't try to take her off her throne, and not that ain't no motherfucking queen. That's not a queen.

You're a queen. If you can do it for yourself, you don't need no guy. You know what I'm saying. You ain't gotta answer to no nigga at the end of the day because they're gonna hold that ship over your head. And even if they don't, bitch still get up and get it on your own. Independent, stability, dignity, pride, have it all. You have it all wrapped up into one.

You ain't gonna ever feel like you need nobody for ship, okay, because it's prostitution, like I told her, And like I'm telling y'all, stop selling your pussy to pay your bills, because that's exactly what you're doing. All my people from just fix my mess, a lot of y'all were right. And I love y'all to death because you're gonna keep loving me. That's the end of this episode of Carefully Reckless episode No but Hey, listen to the episode No But nine next week. I'll be back this be like

just you got your aster, nigger, shut the fucker. I've been out hit on my cash, on sold you bout my hustle. I've been stop. I don't do no lapping getting money like it's snapping Carefully Reckless is a production of I heart Radio and The Black Effect. For more podcasts from I heart Radio, visit the i heart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows.