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time today. I got two stories, very interesting. The first one, I was sitting at a black owned restaurant beautiful. I'm talking about superb. The ambiance is everything. It's in Baltimore City, downtown near Harbor East, right. It's called Black Swan b l K Swan. Now, Black Swan has only been open for a matter of weeks and they're already booked up

with reservations all throughout the summer. So it's hard to get in there unless you jest him saying, unless you get care But y'all ain't me, so y'all gonna get in at the end of this year. Right. So I'm sitting there, I'm chilling. It's a table next to me full of females. Now they know who I am, they speak, we take pictures. Everything's cool, But I hear them running their mouth about the prices of the food. This is what the girl said, verbatim. Who the funk they think

gonna pay forty two dollars for a salmon? Nobody's paying forty two dollars from the salmon, Like I'm not doing it. They're tripping. They're tripping her home girl said, what the type ship? Day on? It's thirteen dollars for a shot of Henny. Now listen, I said there, I ate my food. I ain't say ship. You know I'm not too nosy because I listen, I've been there before as well, just not in a black owned restaurant. I say this ship about white restaurants. The funk I'm talking about five star

Michelin restaurants. I say this ship. But nevertheless, I've been there, so I didn't say ship. Their bill came, they all complained purposely about food not being cooked right, that they ate that they never sent back just so they can get a discount off of their fucking food. When I tell you, that ship makes me so sick to my stomach. It discussed me that that happened. I ain't say ship I was piste off about it. I did damn sure of telling they asked when they got the funk up

and left. I called their waiter over and I called the manager over to. I said, it was nothing wrong with them girls food. That's why they didn't send it back. It was nothing wrong with the drinks. That's why they didn't send it back. They didn't feel like they should have had to pay that much. Because this is a black establishment. That's another form of tearing down your own fucking people. It's not about bullying all the time. It's not about that that got under my skin, all right.

Story number two cool. I'm from Baltimore City, home of the crab. We love crabs on some of crab legs, blue Crab snow Crab, king Crab, we love it all right. It's a crab spot. All over Baltimore crab spots, but it's one particular one that I liked going too. I used to like going there. Their business hours are Monday through Sunday. The hours are different, but the business days remain the same. Right I go on a Monday afternoon, it's a sign up in the door, be back at

two pm. Had to run out. Cool, come back two pm. Nobody there. This is strange. I called, Hey, let it go to voicemail. I see people in there, though, you know what I'm saying. I see people heads moving around and ship. They ain't asking the phone. Cool, whatever, I leave. This is how bad I wanted these fucking crabs, y'all. Crabs in Baltimore are like crawfishing New Orleans. That's how it is, like. That's how deeply in love we are with crabs and ship. I came back five pm. The

door was still locked. I called this time they answered. I say, oh, y'all gotta sign on the door that said that y'all would be back at two pm. Oh yeah, it was definitely a family, like we are we closed today? Why the funk wouldn't you say that? Then? Why wouldn't you put that ship on the door. And if you had definitely the family, why the funk? Y'all in there and I see y'all like I see y'all a custilet. Okay, cool? But I was so pissed because, bitch, I've been wanting

crabs for three hours. Now, Subtract the crabs, all right? Cool? If it was anything anything. If it was chicken, I don't give a up. It was a black owned florist. You have to be more professional than that. Why didn't you say we're closed for the day or anything. Now we got definite family, Like, so, yeah, we closed, but you put a sign up that said you would be back at two pm. Why did I go the next day and that sign was still up there? Still up there? However,

they were open, but the sign was still up. So I never even tried the door that day. The next day I went home, I called around like three, waited an hour. Called. I said, yo, like, y'all still grieving, you're still going through y'all? You know your thing or y'all. The girl said, this is the girl that hung up on me yesterday. I lied to you. Not now this Bottomore City, anything is liable to happen. I said, yes I am. She was like, yeah, well we're closed today

to you hung up on me? Hung up back on me? You on me? Like, I said, alright, cool whatever. After they hung up on me, I called back to be petty, just to hang up on them and ship you know what I'm saying. Called from a different number and just hung up on their ass like I was mad or whatever, so they knew it was me. They put two one to together, got the same voice. Voice is very distinctive. Whatever. So that's the end of that story. So those are

two different stories. Okay, now we're gonna head over. It's a carefully reckless discussion. Hold up, Hold up, I know the ship getting good, but listen to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. Now let's discuss this. That's two different stories. That's an upside of having a black owned business, and then that's the downside of supporting a black owned business. Okay, the first story where I was talking about black Swan, Now,

it's a beautiful restaurant. If you visit Baltimore, you have to go, but you have to make your reservations, Like right now, if you want a reservation for Christmas, nigga, you better call tonight and ask the niggas do they have any reservations open for Christmas? You know what I'm saying. Like it's really really nice in it's downtown, you know, surrounded by a bunch of white businesses and ship, you know what I'm saying. So, first of all, that's something

big to me. I don't know if that's big to anybody else's ship is big to me because there's been a stigma put on black businesses. Majority of people think black and both white, that black businesses belong in the hood, that they only flourish in the hood, they only prosper in the hood. No, that's a stigma. That's something that we've been conditioned to fucking think. Not true at all. This is in the middle of Harbor East, surrounded by

Ocean Air and Nando's and t Volls. These are nice establishment, you know, restaurants and ship you know what I'm saying. That's been around for years and years. The problem to me when I was sitting next to that table of black girls, that pissed me off because would you have had that same fucking energy sitting in Ruth Chris, where salmon is fifty dollars and up. You can't get no salmon for no forty nine forty seven dollars and no

fucking roof, Chris. But you think, because you're in a black establishment at what it's supposed to be fift a dollars for nine, you want some McDonald's prices because we're black because because this is a black owned establishment. If you can pay a hundred and twenty dollars a plate at roof Chris, you can pay a hundred and twenty dollars a plate at Black Swan. Do you you understand what

I'm saying. That's what I don't like, and it's kind of fucked up, you know, And of course I wanted to say something, but like I said, they were still human, and a lot of people are ignorant. They were ignorant to their actions. They didn't even know any fucking better. How disgusted they made the people around them. I wasn't only when I heard them, you know what I'm saying, It was even white people in that bitch looking at

them like, are you serious? Right now? Are you fucking serious complaining about a thirteen dollars shot When y'all same bitches will go and pay for a section at a club and pay for fifty for a bottle of cosami goes when you can stop by the bar, you can stop by the fucking bar and get the same bottle for under fifty dollars? Is you goofy? That ship pissed me off. Now the second story, the unprofessionalism that I experienced with the black owned crap spot. I was mad

at that ship. They couldn't get past their fucking egos enough to realize we are running a business. Now. I get the death in the family, but it's so many of y'all. One of y'all couldn't cover that store, couldn't open that store. Y'all was in the fucking store. Y'all just had the door locked. You're not at a funeral, y'all. We wasn't sitting in there praying and crying, y'all. We wasn't sitting in there reminiscing about whoever died or nothing.

Y'all were in their bullshitting. I can look through the door and see you guys, y'all didn't feel like opening the store. That's what it is a lot of times, and I've experienced this more than once. We have to do better as black businesses if we want better. Now. That's not in all cases, because it's dudes and don't for customers, and then there's dudes and don't for black business owners. You know what I'm saying, The dudes and the don't. The dudes prioritize your cuss to my service.

I'm talking about get back to your customers as fast and quickly as you can, as respectful as you can, even if you're not having a good day. I'm not sposed to know that I'm a customer. There's a lot of attitudes that that happened, even in white businesses. Listen, I remember working at McDonald's right in the hood podcasts Cold Spring. I used to work in a drive through at a McDonald's in the hood. I never gave nobody no fucking attitude. Never, And that's when I was going

through ship, going through relationship ship. I was pregnant, I was hot that and wasn't working the ice cream machine down. All the funk I was craving was ice cream and fries with extra salt. Then you understand what I'm saying. All of that, They never ever knew what the funk I was going through. Man, I got locked up all that ship. I was on the fucking run working in the window at McDonald's. Nobody ever knew any of that ship because it was always it's a great dad, McDonald's.

Something to take your order? Would you like to try to mc double with the mix sauce of it? You know, I was always like that, like how y'all pull up the Chick fil a? That's how I always as was. But I had other co workers that would be like, how you doing can take? Is that all for you? Ma'am? Ma'am? Hello? Is that all? Excuse me? I can't hear Can you tell your kids? Be quiet? I'm talking about you liable to hear anything. And the motherfucking drive through in McDonald's

in Baltimore City, West Baltimore City. I don't know how East get down because I don't be over there like that, But I'm from West and that happens, and I still order. I still go for my son and deal with the attitude. But why must we A lot of black people have attitudes when they fucking working at white companies. That's why we should try our best not to do it when we have our own fucking companies. It should never happen because customers don't do anything to you off the rip

like you got some nasty customers. But your job is to always be professional. You can't let nobody see you sweat. That's in customer services. When you're working with the public, you must understand that they put the fucking sign on the door. False advertisement is one thing that gets up under my skin with black businesses. Stop it, stop it, stop it. I don't want to see y'all in the comments. Oh white businesses do it too, and my fucking white

are you white? We're not worrying about their asses. I'm worrying about the betterment of us as a people and as black creators, as black business owners, as black CEOs. That's what I'm warring a But I'm not wearing on white people. Let them do what they do. Who cares. But when you're putting your money into your community, you are old that respect because no, I don't have to spend my money here, I can go to a white company,

you know. And then when we say ship like that, we're bashed because that's the reality of how the funk we feel when we feel slighted by our own people who don't want to be professional for free. It's nothing to smile, It costs nothing to say how is your day, thank you, thanks for shopping with us, come back again. It costs nothing. And then you got your black companies

who are a one and everything. I'm talking about customer service, I'm talking about food, like the restaurant Black Swan everything. Them bitches just had to find something to complain about because it was too damn good. And one of the comments is that disgusting me. Even further was a comment that one of my people made who walked in with me. When they looked around, he was like, Okay, now, let's look like a white person restaurant. This looks like the

white people did it. Why the funk would that even come out your mouth? That's shipping on us. Do you not know that? Oh my god, the ignorance. You don't even know that you're shipping on us? What do you mean? What the fund does white people establishment look like? Like? What? Then does that mean like when people be like, oh, you look gay? What the fund does gay look like? What the fund does a white person establishment really look like? No?

Black Swan was created by a team of black people, very close knit friends who've been in businesses for years, who've been in the business for years. You know, they waited for the right time, you know what I'm saying. We got a lot of other black restaurants too. We got Nacho Bangers shout out to him, black owned good food. We got Poppy Cuisine that's cat and that's fella's point. That's where all the white people live. But I ain't gonna say this ship look white, this ship looks like

the white people did it. We're giving them too much fucking power when we speak that ship over ourselves, and then y'all wonder why they treat us like that sometimes because we give them too much fucking power. We give them too much fucking credit. Another thing, why do we always expect discounts from my own people? And I know this is cliche, but I'm gonna keep some im gonna saying. I'm gonna be the hundred person to say, you will stand in the fucking Gucci line, you will stand in

the Louis line. I'm talking about for hours, no appointment. You're sitting there, standing in fucking line, watching other people's shop, waiting for your turn. But let you be at a black owned boutique and somebody wait too long to come over to you. Oh my god, like I can't get no help? Like what is it? You wouldn't say that. I wouldn't dare say that to Marry Claire at fucking Louis Vuitton. You would never say that. That ship pisses me off. I hate it. Don't expect cheap product because

you're putting a stigma on us. We've put the stigma on ourselves. Everything we do is is supposed to be cheap. Are we supposed to look out? Man? Look out for me? Man? Look out? Look out? How to funk? I'm gonna make my money if I'm looking out for you, It's not gonna work. I got cousins who don't want to buy my waste trainers. My doctor who waste trainers. Come on like, come on, no, And because I didn't give any out for free, they brought them from waste watchers. Ain't that

a bit? You went to go buy them from somewhere else? You ain't jumping waste watchers dems? And be like, come on, can you look out for me? Can you? Can you? Because I'm your fucking cousin, you' supposed to get something for free? If I give out all my ship for free? Out of funk? Am I making money? I don't get up and go clocking every day? You know what I'm saying. Y'all got job security, y'all got jobs. I got a lot of family members with great jobs, man, because I

won't give them a discount. All my ship. Bit you've got job security. You know what I'm saying, ain't no selling the Internet wiped out? What the funk I'm gonna dude, you work for the government, Bitch, you are secure as securitis can be. I's fucked up. I do not like that. Now. I'm not saying I won't be a celebrity if the Internet is wiped out. But my Internet, my platform, y'all are my people. The Internet is how y'all know to listen to carefully reckless every Wednesday. The Internet is how

y'all know. I sell waste trainers, and y'all know I got them on my webs site. You know I have another business launching messy pauses for canins is for dogs where I'm selling doggie clothes and um you know, doggie playpens and doggie beds and all that type of ship. Man, don't shoot on your black creators, don't shoot on black CEOs, don't shoot on black businesses. And back some time ago addressed some ship about black businesses. But it's nothing other

than what the funk I'm saying now. We need to better ourselves if we want better results. I don't care if you sell makeup. If you do make up, if you you know whatever. If somebody complain about your product, don't fight them in the comments. Don't tell a bitch pull up what type of ship you on? And nobody Saphora or Mac telling somebody to pull up because somebody complained about a fucking product. No, you apologize to keep it moving. You can even do one further acts. Okay,

what do you suggest I do? Because I'm telling you, your customers make you better. They're the one buying the ship. They're the ones that have to put this ship on their face. They're the ones they gotta walk out and this ship. Trust me, they're a opinions and their feedback and their suggestions matter for the betterment of our brands, for the betterment of our companies. You know what I'm saying.

Your brand is everything protected, especially in your business, and we have to do better as black customers and uplift these businesses. Help them improve, help us improve. When I first started selling my waist trainers, I had a lot of complaints. I don't like the double band just and make my back fat roll up, you know, up into the back of my neck. On all that ship I listened to that ship. I didn't say, oh, bit, this

ain't for you. You know what I'm saying. No, I listened and I went through six or seven fucking vendors before I found the right one waiting for samples and ship. I was ready get up and go to China my goddamn self. But you know, no, I'm not. You know what I'm saying. But yeah, I just wanted to sound like that was something I would do. And ship. No, I'm scared, you know, kind of scared to go over there.

I don't know what the funk. You know, they got different bugs, Like I'm kind of scared to go to Africa because the mosquito the ship heard. Get a bit about mosquito over there, you might collapse. I don't know. It's just I'm scared of the hugs in different countries. I ain't working with it. But um, that's a whole another topic for a whole another episode. The point is improvement. We need to help each other improve. You don't see

Gucci putting Louis down. You don't see Boltega putting down product. You don't see that ship. You just see them copying the same different styles selling that ship because they know we're all gonna run to the fucking store and buy it. Let's do the same with our ship. Let's do the same within our companies. Now we got a commercial and if you click off of this podcast, I swear I'm gonna beat your ass. Listen. Now that brings me to

Jazz fix my mess. Now, y'all know I always come to y'all to get your feedback, because you know I need that, I said on Instagram, I see a lot of black people bashing black businesses. Your take on black business bashing go Humbled and Hungry Underscore on Instagram said as a black entrepreneur, I find it very disheartening that we are so impatient with our brothers and sisters. We will wait in a McDonald's line for shitty service and keep coming back every time, knowing that we get bottom

level service and mediocre product. But let a black business owner make one simple mistake, and now it's this is why I don't support black businesses. That's asked backwards. We do easily subscribe to large corporations, but when it comes to doing business with one another, it's almost as if we look for problems or reasons not to support, and you are fucking right, Chef Serenity and shout out to you because she's a chef, so she has her own

black owned business as well. Chef Serenity humbled and hungry Underscore. Check out her fool y'all. I don't know where she is, but she just spoke some real ship. I have no words for that, because when you're right, you're right hot. Nina Star with two rs Underscore says, Black White, Orange, It doesn't matter if the customer service is weak. I'm not supporting and don't lie and have store hours, but your store is never open. Thank you, thank you so much.

That's what the funk I'm talking about, Emma, thank you, honey. That goes back to story number two. I told y'all, oh my god, that ship pisses me off. Don't do that. Don't do don't do that, dope girl, Slim says. I don't see why we can't give constructive criticism, reviews, help one another to improve, and stop putting failure and black in the same phrase. Remember what I told you about

that stigma. She also said, Also, black women slash men are starting to take over the beauty industry, which once was dominated by non black people. We are raising quality and standards, so let's help each other instead of bashing. We are in a time where entrepreneurship is more accessible, which means more people are trying it and may learn that it's not for them. That's also something else I wanted to touch on. I like the end of that

she said. Some people may be trying to be business owners and start their own business because it's more accessible. It's more at our fingertips than it ever was before. With the Internet and ship you know what I'm saying. People get these platforms and they just want to dive into entrepreneurship. It doesn't work for everybody, but let them figure that out. And also to those people, know when to get out. You have to know, you have to

know what's good for you, and it takes time. And I know this is gonna sound crazy, but don't keep trying to take on a task that you are constantly failing at if you're not trying to figure out why the funk you're failing, And don't miss the message because of who said it, and I'm the one that said it. Thank you so much. Juju Dope girls, Slim. I like

that last one. I'm gonna read getting mad at shipping from black companies, when people wait years for fashion over never giving black businesses grace, acting as if it's a chore to support black owners. Yes, that's another thing I wanted to speak on. That was the end of just fix my mess. I want to end it off on this. I like that, and we're gonna lead this right here, acting as if it's a chore to support black businesses. Now, I see a lot of people that get very upset

and very irritated when people don't support black businesses. And that don't mean that they don't support the cause, they just don't buy. It's not a chore, it's not a requirement. Don't get upset. Where there is two people who won't buy, there's twenty who will. Don't focus on bashing the people who just simply won't support your business. Put all of the energy into the people who do. Put all of the energy into bettering yourself as a CEO and bettering

your company, bettering your product. Always look for ways to be innovative to improve your ship. You understand what I'm saying, and we're gonna leave that right there. But before we go, I want to give a shout out to a couple of black businesses that I have experienced nothing but great, great service with super Scent. She got her crayon case makeup company. Man, I love it. Her eyeshadows are pigmented. My favorite, letna tell you my favorite makeup product by

her is a setting powder. I ain't gonna lie a bitch get creasy um, but I love super Cents makeup. I love it. Should try it. Also Julious Place that's also a black owned company. I was an ambassador for them. I love they fucking make up. Their foundations are rate, They oxidize, but they are great foundations. Is good for coverage, perfect full coverage all day. Be some own beauty. I love be Simone's lip glosses. I love her lashes. You have to try it. No, I'm not just saying this

ship because she's my friend. I'm saying this ship because she is black, she's a black woman, and she has great quality products. I ain't gonna promote no bullshit, y'all. I'm really really not not on this goddamn podcast, not the way y'all be listening every goddam Wednesday. I ain't gonna fill your head with no bullshit now, try that. Remember to try Black Swan. That's the restaurant in downtown Baltimore. Make sure you try it. It's downtown. Remember it's spelled

b lk Swan. If you can get in there, tell him just sent you. You want to get in shape, want to get in fit. You want to start working on your body? Shop doctor who that's my fitness line. You got a dog, I'm dropping my messy pause K nine Clothe Air Company this week. Get it, get it, Get it. Everybody with little dogs, you know, little friend, she's little York ease ship zues be showns all of that. Whatever, you have a poodle, whatever. I catered to the little dogs.

You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna be stopping with the big dogs, you know soon, but right now I'm just catering to little dogs. So make sure you uplift our black businesses. Support them, don't bash them, don't tear them down, help them improve. And just like that, we've come to the end of this episode of Carefully Reckless. Make sure you tune in next Wednesday every Wednesday because it's hump Day. Carefully Reckless is a production of I

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