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need to practice reading anyway for breakfast club. Let y'all tell it. A bitch can I read? But I can, and don't play with me, so we're gonna jump straight in. And I love that this message is from a guy your so oh no, Damn's from a girl. Not that I have any problem with girls sending me messages, but I love women, I should say, but I love when men can open up as well, because we know our

men do not like this howiday business, honey. They do not like to expose stories about them else they don't feel vulnerable enough in spaces where they can feel safe enough to tell their business. So I love, always, love, love, love when men send in their mess for me to give advice on. But here we got another one of my girls. So here we go. I can't call into the show because of my work schedule, but if you can help with this, Lord Jesus, this is what been

with me all all right? She said, I can't call into the show because of my work schedule, but if you can help with this, I'd appreciate it. Just don't use my name, please, girl. When the last time you heard me see somebody name, y'all are anonymous. Y'all will remain anonymous. Even if y'all give me y'all names, some people will be giving me their name, and I still don't say it all the time. All right. My man

and I have been together for about four years. We were forced to be with each other because we fell on hard times after a month of knowing each other and stuck it out. It's been crazy ever since. My biggest dilemma is he is a security guard for celebrities. He usually he does security for gay celebrities. Okay, and there's a famous transgender celebrity he works with often. Now, I saw he liked two of her posts on ig

of her in Lingerie. He said he didn't realize he was just clicking and scrolling, then said it's just business to keep her happy. Here's what things started getting weird. He has the only fans Twitter page with him nude and everything, and he follows her and her gay male friend on this page. He follows both of them, but only the boy follows back. Am I wrong for questioning his sexuality and not being attracted to him anymore? Well, if that's the way you're feeling, nobody can tell you

that you're wrong about the way you feel. Now. This is your man, you know, as you put in quotes and in all caps, this is your man. Okay, Like, look at the screen, at look at the screen. This is your man, your man. Okay. These are your feelings, honey, and they're valid whatever they may be. You understand what I'm saying now. I can't ignore what you said in the beginning. You said that you were forced to be together after a month. I don't know what that means.

Who forced? Y'all? Were y'all talking at first, and you know you'll fell upon hard time, so you had to move together? Like what I don't I don't understand what you mean, y'all. This sounds like an arranged marriage. If you asked me, like, what are you talking about, you were forced. Nobody is ever forced to be with somebody unless it is like cultural usually usually that's a cultural thing. Now I don't know your culture. I don't know. You

didn't provide that information. But either way, moving along, he is a security guard for gay celebrities, like you said, and he's main security for this transgender celebrity who he follows, and he liked to of her pictures one time, and you must have said something about it because you said that. He first said, oh, he just be liking the scroland. Why are you following your talent first of all on

social media? I mean, I don't know if you if you just work for this person, all right, cool, and then most of the time, like you shouldn't have to follow him because most of the time, if they're out, then you're with them. I assume you know what I'm saying. As security, I've had security. I know celebrities that have security, and I know celebrities that have main security, and they for the most part keep the same main security unless someone aspire, unless they hire a company and they rotate

security guards. I don't understand why you will be following her and then liking her explicit pictures on social media. Now, you also said your man got an only fans page okay on Twitter and only the gay male friend follows back okay. So I can see why there is speculation there why you're curious of what he likes and curious

of his references. Now, but did you sit down and have a conversation with him about that any further than you just bringing up him liking his clients' pictures on Instagram from the first time, Because I don't understand how you go from liking to scroll into oh, I do this and make her happy. You don't need to do anything but secure her to make her happy and safe. It's not even about you making her happy. It's about

you making her feel safe. That's the only thing that you owe to her if you're her security guard, and that is all make her feel safe, not make her feel wanted. You shouldn't feel wanted by a damn bodyguard unless you are fucking with your bodyguard. Okay. I guess y'all ain't watched the movie The Bodyguard, you know what I'm saying. Unless it's a situation like that, all you need to be doing is securing safely, securing the talent,

that is it. But I feel like you're well within your right to question him, and I think you should sit down and talk to him about it. If you feel this way strongly in your mind, then your decision has already been made because you already said you're not feeling him anymore, you're not attracted to him anymore, and are you wrong about it? I'm telling you you're not wrong.

So what are your next steps? Because I don't want you to sit there and let this roll off your back and then a year later you're still trying to be with this man because you don't want to hurt his feelings and feel like you're exposing him. No, sit down to have a conversation with him, don't put him on blast, don't do none of that. No, we ain't

got to do all of that. What you do, like I said, you tell him you feel some type of way because you feel like he has tendencies, and you feel like I already feel some type of way about you being a security guard for LGBTQ celebrities, you know, and then I caught you liking this, and then you would and then you went from oh I was just scroll and there was a simple mistake to you know, I do this to make her happy? Well, what the

fuck you doing to make me happy? You ain't in a relationship with her, you know what I'm saying to you, Following the OnlyFans pages and all that type of shit and the gay nigga following you back, and shit, No, it's too much. It's too much, And I don't think you're thinking too deep into it at all. Don't let nobody tell you that that's how you feel before you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning, that is what it is. Trust your

women's intuition, honey, and keep me updated. Get out of that situation, Get rid of him and let him be what he wants to be. Let him go over to the side that he wants to go over on, or maybe he wants to be bisexual. Shit, he like playing both sides. So I'm gonna call him by give him what he wanted to walk away from it. Because while some women are okay with that, some women or not, and you seem like one that's not. So keep me updated.

I'm serious. I want to know what's going on. And I want you to keep it a hundone with him and thank you for sharing. Honey, if you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. All right, here's someone else sending from my business profile because my messages from my personal won't allow me to write more, and waiting for the invites we'll be accepted. I got to figure out how to take that shit

off of there. Okay, Hey, Jass, I've been a long time follower of Jess Hilarious and even went to a show in Vegas once. But girl, I just started listening to the podcast and I have been binging. Oh I know that's right, girl. Thank you. Just almost dropped a found dumbbell on my foot listening to you in the gym. All right, Well, you guys to be care money. I

was cracking up because you said something stupid funny. Anyway, here's my mess I've been with my husband for four years, dated for two and a half, and married for one and a half. Okay, while we were dating, we struggled with communication issues both of us. However, the blame would generally fall on me for being the one who was really bad with communication. Okay, I took the blame willingly and worked on it through therapy, my Christian faith and journaling. Okay,

that's it. Congratulations, What the fuck you want me to say? Girl? Shit, I'm it's no advice. That's it now. I don't know if you couldn't send another message because you said you were writing me from your business profile, because when you wrote me from your personal profile it wouldn't let you. But you seem to have gotten through here. I mean, did you just want to give me an update on your life? Girl? All right? Well, whatever you wanted to do, I appreciate you telling me that boom, but if you

can finish your message, all right, let's move on. Okay. This person says, oh, this is a guy. You all we got a man in a house, all right. I like to remain anonymous, but hey, Jess, I have a situation. I've tried calling the breakfast club to speak to you directly or get it off my chest, but never can get through. So here's what's going on. Okay, I'm sorry about that. A lot of people are calling up that early in the morning. You may not think so, but

there are millions of listeners across the country. Guys, So more power to you if you actually get through, Lord, And you see how excited people actually are when we answer the phone, like they even forget what they were trying to get off their chest, so they forget what they even want to ask me because they're like, oh my god, I finally got through. You know what I'm saying, So okay, I'm gonna start. A year ago, I moved from Waldorf, Maryland. Okay, Waldorf, Maryland so Atlanta with my

daughter and girlfriend of three years. I thought everything was going fine. It was her idea to move to Atlanta. Oh Lord, I went with it to make her happy. But on Valentine's Day this year, while I was at work and my daughter was at school, she cheated on me. And the only reason I found out is because her and the guy she cheated with burned my house down trying to be romantic with candles and shit. And turns

out she knew the guy for years. He was an ext and that's why she wanted to move to Atlanta so bad. Oh my god. And now me and my daughter have been homeless, living in my car in rooms when we can afford. She is only eight, and we are trying to get back on our feet. My ex stole money from our account and lives with her ex. I don't know if there is anything to fix anymore. What first of all you got damn right, ain't nothing to fix anymore? Why the fuck are you even thinking

about fixing anything with her? You are now stuck with the child. Now, if this is all true, and I'm not saying I do not believe you, but what in the fuck is going on? You moved down there, you got a job. Did you lose your job? How did you end up homeless? Like? What happened? Did you move down there with no job? Did you not ever find a job? She moved down there to be closer to her ex. Okay, cool, forget her, but the fact that she wouldn't take her child is crazy. Now, how did

that happen? How did you end up with your baby? Not saying that you shouldn't have your baby because you are her father? For sure? Now a child has two parents. But if she knows that you are homeless, why not take the child until you can get on your feet. I want to know more about that situation, damn. And then that eight year old baby, she's well aware enough to see you know the conditions that her and dad

has to live in. Shit. You also didn't provide any type of GoFundMe, any type of cash app either, brother, Like, come on, I need to I need to know. And then I feel like you did get through. I feel like you got through because I feel like I talked to you on Breakfast Club just Monday morning. I feel like you did. Jesus Christ. Shit, I do not know what to tell you about being out in Atlanta. I know you need to be fucking careful because that's the

most dangerous place to be. Sleeping in your car with your eight year old daughter. How do y'all shower? What do y'all eat? Like what? She's a little girl, you know, So I know you're more than scared out of your mind. I mean, people break in cars, people steal cars down there, people like just fuck with you, you know what I'm saying. And this can happen anywhere, by the way, but it happens so much more frequently, and it's it's more expected

in Atlanta, you know what I'm saying. That's like one of the most common crimes there carjacking and shit, Like God damn, I want to know what type of fucking mother. This little girl got ain't no goddamn way did you see any signs? Like how the hell didn't you see signs of this? Lord? She need to be a motherfucking jail for having her daughter. You know what, how did you lose your job? Let's get off the mom. How did you lose your fucking job? That's what I need

to know. Was it because when the house burned down, you know, you had to take several days off? Or like what the fuck was it? Was she remorseful to say the least? Like was she remorseful at all? Was like, you don't have any family that you can bring your ass back up to Waldorf from Maryland and stay with and get on your feet for a while, Like I know how it is moving a plane ride away, not even only hours moving? Like, well, you got to catch a plane too, And if you do have a car,

drive your ass back up to Maryland. That's only what an eight hour drive? Gas that bitch up and drive back up to Maryland. You are now you should not be being homeless, Okay, not with your baby girl. It's too much mistake, too much going on. I don't care what you gotta do. Get your ass back up to Waldorf and figure it out for your baby. Fuck that girl, because that's what it just, that's what it's giving. If she don't give a fuck about your daughter, Your daughter

only got you and that's it. You ain't got a bad mouth tome mom. You ain't gotta you know, if you haven't already, you ain't gotta do none of that. You can just show her all right, my dad made a fucking way. Drive your ass back up to Maryland. That's better than being homeless day in and day out, sleeping in your car and shit, you get what I'm saying. That's better than that. Quit whatever fucking job that is done, and take your ass home where you have stability, more

stability or whatever, like where's your family? Shit like that. Somebody will help you, honey, and we'll be right back after this. Jess, congratulations on everything. Thank you girl. You're too doving of this happiness. I am messaging because I hate having sex with my husband. Damn it's bad sex, girl, And now he wants a girlfriend. What should I do? Leave that? Nigga? What the fuck wrong with you? You leave him? He already ain't fucking you right, and he

want a girlfriend. If you got bad dick for one bitch, what the fuck make you think you gonna do with two bitches? What the fuck is wrong with you? I can't stand for a nigga like that. Now listen, if you want to look a little further, what is going on with you? Do you not get him hard? Or like? How long y'all been married? Because this is a short ass message. Beautiful fucking woman, I ain't gonna take nothing from you. Now, you a bad mama jam. But that's

what the fuck I'm looking at right here. But I can see that you are seasoned, you are older. You ain't no young little whooper snap of what you don't need to be. But it's he into younger women? Does he want when he say he wants a girlfriend, does he want somebody younger? Have you called him with somebody younger? Has he ever talked about younger women? Have y'all ever had this conversation that prompted him to want a girlfriend? Have you ever told him you get give them a threesome?

You know? Like, are you into women as well? I need it for you to tell me some shit, all right, because it sounds like you're hiding a lot from me. And I don't like it, you know what I mean? But I think you leave. You know what I'm saying. If the sex is bad and he wants another girlfriend and you're not open to that, yeah you leave? What the fuck? I don't how long y'all been married? You know? Do I have kids together? What is? I need some

more meat on the bone booth. I'm telling you, don't be giving me these little as stories and expecting for me to fix y'all mess and y'all leaving shit out now, But thank you for congratulating me. Keep me updated. She's so pretty. She's really really pretty. Sometimes I wish y'all could see some of these people that send me these messages. Man, I'll be like, how the fuck did you end up in this mess? Woman? You're too fucking gorgeous? What's going on?

Leave these niggas? Okay, it's the last story, y'all. Hey girl, Hey, I love you and I love your show. Thank you girl, Hey girl, Hey, I g be sketchy with DMS. So that's probably why these stories be incomplete. They call it an invite text, okay, so blah blah blah blah blah. I know it's stink ass behavior. Yes, I hate it. Trust me. I will find a way to fix it, y'all, but bear with me until I do so. I really don't have a mess per se, but I guess you can let me know. I have my own businesses and

I make good money doing it. I have grown to accept that I will not find a man that make as much as me, or even more than me. I'm literally okay with this, but I don't want to feel like I'm settling for a bum ass nigga. I understand, girl, Been there, done that, and I will never do it again. I don't need a man for money, but they seem to like the bitches that want the money hmm that they don't have. Haha. I like that. Well, let me read that one over. That's a word. I let me see.

I don't need a man for money, but they seem to like the bitches that want the money that they don't have. Ha ha. I love it. It's weird as fuck out here, girl. It is like, maybe I sound goofy as fuck for it, but I accept it. If I like a nigga, I'm a whole trick. I buy gifts and do trips. I'm big dog laughing like shit, but I feel like it intimidates these men having a woman that don't need them like real live mo. I'll be feeling wild as fuck for thinking like this. Amn.

First of all, I know you from DC. Don't ever call me MO. All right, don't ever call me MO dummy. I'm from Baltimore. We don't do that. Sagnaw. I'm fucking with you, girl, that you living in your true DC self though, I see that, So DMV in the house. First of all, I love you girl, love you, girl, but you don't gotta feel wild as fuck for thinking like that. I mean, that is obviously all that you have been shown I mean, or most of what you

have seen in the dating pool obviously. And then I know we tend to let social media play on our minds when it comes to dating as well, and all the validation that is needed from both men and women these days, so let's not ignore that shit. But if you take away from all of that, listen, girl, there are men out here that you can get that make more than you, or make just as much as you, that are ambitious and will not allow you to let them use you. They will not allow you to woo them.

They will not like I'm telling you a man when you meet a motherfucker man. I'm talking about a man that I got right now that I didn't think even fucking existed. Okay, seriously, I'm telling you they are out there, these men that own these companies that these men that do that work them. I'm talking about a man man. Now. Most of them ain't on social media. You ain't gonna find them on social media. And if you do find that they got a page, it ain't nothing knowing that motherfucker. Okay.

They just get on that and be nosy when you tell them about something, and they get on that when they're bored. Literally, there are men like that. I'm sorry your experience has been a little fucked up. You know. I've had some fucked up ones myself. But first of all, more power to you for having your own businesses, making your good money and all of that. I ain't gonna keep letting you trick though you ain't ready tell me like you a whole trick. If you like a nigga, No,

that's how you end up being taken advantage of. That is how you end up falling victim to this shit that you're telling me about. Yeah, and that little word that you gave me. You don't need a man for money. But they say the like bitches that want the money that they don't have. That's because you out here warning niggas. You giving niggas money to go give to other bitches. All right, it's intimidating. Now. These men like to be tricked off on, but they ain't gonna stay with somebody

like you because you make them feel small. You know what I'm saying. You know you're superior to them, So they gonna always have a couple of little bitches on the side because they want to feel superior to somebody. If a woman is feeling superior over me, who the fuck I'm a feel superior I'm a man. Who the fuck I'm gonna feel superior over? So let me take this money from her, and I'm gonna treat my other bitches. I had a nigga like that too, that I ain't

give no money to. But he was excited to be fucking with me. But it was known that he would use bitches for the money. So he would use all the other older bitches that he was fucking with to get money and do shit for me. I'm talking about my tw was my twenty ninth for my thirtieth birthday. Man treated me so fucking good with so many other bitches money, and then when the bitches got in touch with me, she said, can you go get my money back? No, the fucker I cannot. I love my little Gucci whilet

I love my Louis Vatane. I love my bird Berry, her perfume. You better go ask that nigga for that shit now. I left that nigga alone because I don't like when no woman is used. You know what I'm saying, and when it's brought to my attention, I stopped it. But baby, you're not getting none of this because once you gave the money to him, it was his, and once he bought me the shit, it's mine. So you know that's just what that is. But boo, I'm sorry.

You gotta stop tricking, all right. You know, I don't think nobody should be a damn trick. I don't think a man should be a trick. I don't think a woman should be a trick. I think you should do something out the conness of your heart, not to keep a nigga around. It is not your job to spoil a nig unless that nigga is one hundred percent yours,

and unless you're getting spoiled right the fuck back. You understand me, okay, So keep me updated because girl, m we don't need you too successful to be a trick, all right, So I ain't gonna let you keep doing that. And it's like that we've come to get the end of another carefully Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious. So what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess y'all up and down, left and right, inside and out. Make sure you catch me on Breakfast Club fixing mess on Thursdays.

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