EP 026: How to Effectively Communicate Your Needs with Lisa Kaplin

This episode with Lisa Kaplin is all about getting over the fear of voicing our truth and creating a clear channel of communication. You know something I see constantly with my clients is the fear of speaking up because we're afraid of rejection and something I always say to them is it's not rejection, it's re-direction. As children we were taught to be quiet, fit in, just accept what’s given to us and follow the rules because that’s the respectful thing to do. So as evolved women when we want to speak out, wr second guess ourselves and think, "What if they don’t like me?", "What if I'm not loved?", "What if I'm rejected?" Lisa does a great job explaining how to get out of this mindset so we can feel worthy and deserving and truly just ask for and get what we want.

About Lisa

Lisa Kaplin is a psychologist and professional certified coach who works with women on building their confidence in all areas of their lives. She believes the least important aspect of a woman is her appearance so she's dedicated to helping women find meaning and joy in other ways. Lisa is a recovered good girl and perfectionist and her life is so much better because of it.

In this episode, Lisa shares:

1. How to get clear on your needs.
2. Asking for what you want from a position of power.
3. Understanding your love language and expressing what makes you feel appreciated (link below)
4. What happens when we have expectations that aren’t communicated.

What You’ll Hear:

2:02- What it costs us when our needs aren’t communicated.

7:40- The small steps we can take to ask for what we want.

19:00- The difference between being assertive and discerning vs aggressive.

31:28- The extremes of helplessness vs taking on everything.

You can find more of Lisa at:

http://www.smartwomeninspiredlives.com

http://facebook.com/Smartwomeninspiredlives

http://instagram.com/Lisakaplin