Episode 310: Summer's Over?

and got them and I love it. It was a cute NFL collab with G four, really great great material. I love it, love it. G four. Let's do a collab, oh please, and we'll be on a G four or five. Interesting. I'm really bad about buying merch from like those kinds of events, But then in retrospect, I'm I was like, oh, I want something like that. It's like commemorative and nice. Although I do have my Rebecca mincuff wear by Aaron Andrews leather jacket. That's great. That's good, you know what.

That's a great club. Okay, welcome. Also that shirt that that Neon one that I ended up being a big hit. I love that shirt and I love that shirt when you wore that day to year rehearsal. That shirt was ended up being real cute. So how does that work if people wanted I mean after the fact, like for me, if I'm oh, we're going to do them next year for next year Super Bowl, and I think we're going to do it for the All Star Game because that was a big hit. So giddy on up. But thanks

for the support this weekend. Yes, tell us everything. Okay, you guys, there was an amazing event happening. I'll let Aaron speak to it. Because you partially hosted the event. I didn't realize you were doing so much with it, but you were spending your time for a great cause. Tell everyone about it. So the Los Angeles Kings and the NHL, they really did a great event on Sunday

and they hosted kind of a celebrity game. They had four different teams hosted by like Snoop Dogg, Will Ferrell, Danny DeVito, Vince Vaughn, Michaels, Michael and I didn't get to see him. There were so you dinner there. I didn't get to see I was working noo and thank you to Fox for giving me permission and a thumbs up. I was told I was doing the in house kind of like interviews of some of the LA heroes, and then it went, you know, to the different stations that

were covering it. So thank you so much to our bosses for being so sweet. It was so much fun, and I was so proud of the organization and the league and my husband. My husband worked really really hard on the event. He's he's so great and I have to tell you this, our friends in the NFL. I was kind of giving him a hard time about it. He uh, he reached out to Travis, he reached out to Tom, he reached out to I'm forgetting somebody else with the NFL. He reached out to and he got

all these videos done from guys in the NFL. And I was like, oh, well, you got him done because they're my friends. And he was like, babe, and he's so sweet and so nice, and he did such a great job getting all this stuff done. And yeah, they had a lot of the first responders, they had a

lot of people that lost their homes. They had a lot of people that you know, are trying to help people get back to life and get back to the real world with all of it, and they are still running this LA Strong event and there is still time to donate, and I'm going to make our social media people put up the code. But it was really really fun and these guys came out and they were skating. I posted a picture with Mackie Babes with Justin Bieber,

which was so cute. Mark Metchnew, who I wanted a picture, was so bad. Yeah, it was a lot, a lot of fun and then great people like Andrew Whitwre showed up. He coached a teenager. Edelman brought his daughter. We had a big family skate before there's just in a really neat moment. I wish I was there. I was out of town, but I just love that. And here's the thing about those kinds of events, to your point about

Jarrett and the effort, like they don't just happen. That's a lot of time and effort for people to organize that, and also for crypto like using you know those venues and everything that like goes into that, but for obviously for an incredible cause, and that's the thing too about these you know, devastating situations, whether it's a hurricane or whether it's the fires. Like there's the immediate help, right there's someone's like, oh, I want to help. I want

to help. But then it's like as unfortunately, like life moves on for people, but it's like life doesn't move on for the person that's still living sometimes out of their car or at a relative's house or at a rental. Like if you're lucky enough you can get that's the time where it's like you got to check in on the people that are going through it because everyone helps right at the beginning, and then you know, life moves

on and sadly like for these individuals. But it's really cool, and you were interviewing some of the people that just stepped in into you know, in the world that we live in, and sometimes people are inherently selfish. When you see people like that, like the guy that organized all the meals and those kinds of things, it's just really special that people step up. So kudos Jared Kings and everybody who was a part of that. You Matthew Stafford was the other video. I'm so sorry, but he got

all these guys and it was so neat. Guess who got the biggest applause though when his face came up, Can you guess Travis? It was crazy. It was so wild, like we're like, who it's really special. Yeah, he's the best. I love that we are in our our re entry off season phase. Aaron just got back home. I'm coming back home in a couple of days. Avoiding reality, but we have a lot that we want to discuss. Aaron has stepped into the world of let them. We will

discuss that. We all so like many girlfriends do. There's always that funny meme where it's like we communicate via text via DMS back and forth and have multiple conversations going with each other at the same time. Aaron sent me a great DM that was from Kate Winslet that resonated with both of us. We'll talk about that. We got a re entry update. I was saying how last week when we were talking, how I need to be

less bitchy about things and let stuff go. So I'll fill you guys in on that, and then also just what's happening in our world of off season. I know it's not really an off season because this gal's already booked and busy. She's got a lunch date, so we're recording this podcast early so she can go. But all right, so that's what you were up to over the weekend. You also before we jumped on here, and you told me that you started reading the Mel Robbins phenomenon. That is,

let them your thoughts. I know you're early on, but why did you want to pick up this book? And now there's dogs barking out there. I don't know much about Mels. I just she ended up being on my algorithm, which was refreshing, and I stopped and I listened and watched her clips from her podcast, and I started sending them to you, and I think Constance was sending them to me, and I just was like, okay, I don't this is a time where I'm not reading the daily

clips about whatever game I'm covering. Let's do something useful besides watching Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, which I am deep into right now. I need an update on that. I haven't seen anything since you told me to watch the one that went to like got arrested and was like, yeah, there's a lot happening. Okay, I don't know anything. I need a recap there. It's so good, Like I don't do that during the season because I just feel guilty

and I don't really have time. So now I'm full blown in this is like when I'm doing my skincare routine or I'm like plucking or whatever, I've got it on in the bathroom, like it's making me happy, or I'm purging or I'm trying to put stuff away. It's on, Like it's on, I'm happy. But then to balance out the trash and I'm not calling those women trash, but let's you know, just like bing like yeah, reality tale, it's reality television. Yeah. I was like, I want to

start reading this book. I need. I'm interested, and I really love the vibe of let Them Now. I'm not there yet. I only got like ten pages in and that was her introduction about the five second what is it method that she does, which I thought that was fascinating because she for those of you that haven't joined the phenomenon that is the let Them train, It's this

idea that she was getting. You know, she was unmotivated and she was just like lying in bed and she was had this theory that like a space shuttle, like five four three two one, and just get yourself out of bed, just propel yourself and so just something sit as simple as that was sort of I think that was her first book, right, that was her first book. But then anyways, that idea of just you got to

start somewhere, and so that was something. But then the let them theory is predicted on something that her son. I think it touched about it. Anyways, I'll let you guys read the book. You don't want me to tell it because you're further than I am. Tell me what you've gotten out of it so far and what's resonated with you. What do you love? Yeah, I mean even just that theory of not or the theory that don't

you can't control the things you can't control. So the idea for her came about when her son was going to homecoming and he didn't have a reservation for a restaurant and her daughter was like, who cares if he doesn't have a reservation, Like, let him deal with the fact that he's going to get to the restaurant and

they're not going to be full. Or the cursage she didn't get a carssage or whatever is it called curso for the his date, or that he didn't have the tucks or all these things, and like the mother wanted to she wanted to control this, like we have to get a touch, you have to get a reservation. You haven't done that, like, oh my god. And so the daughter's like just let him, let him fail and all

of these things. But ultimately, like he had a great time and it didn't matter that he didn't have the reservation. It didn't matter. So that theory applied to everyday life is if you don't get invited to a bunch of your girlfriends at a brunch and you didn't because you on Instagram or whatever and you didn't get invited, instead of being upset about it, you're like, well, just let them like that was they wanted to go to brunch, you weren't invited, Like, don't obsess about the things that

you can't control. Yeah, And so if somebody wants to be in a bad mood, like if Steve, Steve doesn't wake up at a bad But I'm just saying like, if you know somebody's upset about something, you know, like let them, Like that's their problem, it's not yours to take on. So just that continuous ideas is sort of what and again, what page am I know, I'm pretty pretty part I'm on page No, I'm only on page forty one. I'm on that part of let them a tool to implement wisdom.

But anyways, so my sister and my niece are both reading this book as well, and I just I like, I like that it's become something that everyone, not everyone, but a lot of people are adapting and adopting because it's clear that we all tried to meddle in things that or control aspects of our life. And so if this book has resonated with so many people, that means that everyone needs to just fucking chill out a little bit,

you know. I mean, there's a reason that in this book they talk about people have like are getting tattoos, and what if my niece got a tattoo with this? But just I don't know, I think hopefully, if there's like this wave of people that are all operating with a new intention of just being more chill, then maybe it has a I don't know, maybe it has a resounding effect somewhere. Maybe she's always something. I love how

she said. And again, I'm only ten pages in, but she talked about how she was she was asked to speak at something and she had a nineteen minute panic attack throughout it, and then she blanked out and she ended up talking about the five second method was something she wasn't even going to discuss, and little did you know, that was the beginning of Ted Talk, and she blew the fuck up. That's amazing. And so what you think in your own mind might be like your worst moment

could end up helping. But I think there's a lot of that too in vulnerability. You and I and know even when the therapy that I've been through in my life, it was it's all about for me in particular, it's been about vulnerability that the more vulnerable I've been, the better. The more success I've had in relationships, the more success I've had in friendships, the more success that I've just had, even in work relationships where I've said to my boss

like I'm really sorry, or I got that wrong. That one's on me. You know, like in basketball when someone commits a turnover and they run back down the court and they're like chap tap their chest like my bad or you know, you see Baker Mayfield did it. I saw him do in the playoff game and he fumbled or something, and he was like sitting on the bench and he kept going to his team. He's like, my bad,

like taking responsibility for your mistakes or your actions. I think that there's also so much to be said about that, but yeah, I'm excited. I'm glad that you're reading it too. So let's maybe so we catch up and we can do it together. Oh calm down. Book club, Yeah, I would love that, andbody else that wants to jump on board if you haven't already, let's just do it together. I think it would be really fun and then something we can discuss to that. I've always wanted to be

in a book club. My friends had a dirty book club, but I just it started, like, you know, then going into football, and I was like, listen, these clubs are as dirty as they can be. You know, I just can't. I've never read a dirty novel, although I did just open up to chapter thirteen, which is very apropos how to create the best friendships of your life cut Yeah yeah, no, no, no, I'm just saying it was like that was a side note on this thing, but yeah, jump on board. They

let them train I've never read a dirty novel? Did you ever have to hide it? Like? Yeah, we talked about this, like I was trying to keep up with the book club. By the way, right now, what I'm doing, I'm telling the book club story, but I'm also trying to see what other books does old Mel Robbins have because it's exciting. I letting them very five second one. Right, that was for sure? We go Yeah the half did Mel Robin on the podcast here and I know she's busy.

Take Control of your life was in twenty nineteen. The high five is a journal, work it out the high five five second rule and let them This is great. I'm going to be a new mean watch out watch Out world. Okay, so we're not going to get that let them tattoos just because I already have too many tattoos that I shouldn't have gotten. Not that this would be bad, but anyways, but Aaron, you and I do need to do a couple of things. We're going to give ourselves an off season to do list a trip,

another earring. Also, we talked about it on the pregame. Aaron and I are going to we don't know where yet, we don't know what we're going to do. But we have to do a vacation together in the off season. You know what's crazy, though the off season is already over. It's over. I mean we talk about I lost over. I was like, we have to sit down and do a schedule because every time I turn around in an email, something's popping up and I'm like, wait, why is this already?

I'm the summer's gone. I don't like that feeling. I don't like that feeling at all. So we have to build in some stuff because if not, oh yeah, we're screwed. I'm excited about like events and dates, but I hate getting the email where it's like, hey, it's on this date or it's something's on this date. No, I don't want to do any dates. Like our nanny the other day just said to me, when are you going out

of town? Again? When are you doing this? And I said, I don't know, because I think it's like with football, you are so it's such a routine. There's such a schedule. I got on Thursday, I've got this feature Friday, I've got the game on Sunday. I like acting like I don't know what anything is. Now I know I've got stuff coming up. We're going to Tampa together. We're going to do on podcast at the Tampa Bay Buccaneers Women Summit. Excited for that, yep, hearing rumors about who may stop buy,

which could be super fun and a time. By the way, But I like acting like I'm loosey goosey right now and I don't have a schedule. But summer's over. Off season is over. Yeah, it's already done, do you Because when I'm here at the ranch, I am well, I just billed half mine. I am very It's so I

don't know if you're like this. I like doing things here that I don't like doing at home, emptying the dishwasher, doing laundry, like okay, I was wondering if you had that same thing, Like I wake up here early, like i'm here like, well, I guess the same kind of time in LA between six thirty seven's like late, get up, I feed the animals. I have my own little routine there. I make my coffee, I go for a walk with the dogs up to this one little area that I like.

And then I like doing the tasks that I hate doing at home, like all the homemaker stuff. I make cookies the other day, Like I don't make fucking cookies at home, Like what I know. I'm such a like homemaker here. And as I was folding tells this morning, I thought to myself, like, I could totally be a stay at home mom. I don't have any kids, but like I thought to myself, like I could do that. I probably couldn't because I'd be bored after like five seconds.

But I don't know. I just have this like maternal thing is I don't know. I don't know. Like I meet the bed because Jen was here, so I like she She's like wanting to strip the bed. I was like, oh no, I'll do it. I made the bed all not all these things. And I'm like, I hate doing I don't. I don't like doing any of that shit when I'm home. I wonder why. I like, maybe because we're not in our normal routine and so it just

feels like we have the time to do it. I don't know, but I kind of liked it because you don't look at the ranch as like a place where you know, we're at home, and it's like I got this closet and I got to weed out. It's like all my Fox, shit's in there, all my rein gear, all the craft. It's like, that's still ranch is still kind of your vaca, your vacation. Yeah, and maybe that's

the way. I don't know, but I just thought to myself and not like the stay at home but you know what I'm saying, Like where it was like I liked being a little homemaker and I liked, like, I don't even like cooking. And I said Steve last night, do you want me to make you dinner? And he was like, are you okay? And I was like, well, what going to make? Well? I only make three things. I can only make three things taco, salads, spaghetti, and then like

breakfast for dinner. That's the extent of my cooking. I don't have any And always there's this girl, Aaron O'Brien that I follow on Instagram. She is amazing. She does all of these like quick recipes. I have never made one of her recipes, but I go in a deep day of watching them. You have Yeah, I forgot what it was. I made one of her recipes one time. You told me about her, so I tried. She makes one to try so easy wine. Don't this is any

measuring cops. What the hell, No, they don't. And that's the thing where I'm like, I want to be that person, and so maybe I'm I don't know, I don't know. Should I try other than reading? Reading? Other than reading? What else we do? I think we should have a checklist for our quote off season, even though we already say it's over, but before football season starts again. I think it's important and for anybody else out there, we'd love some advice, like things that we should do, we

should finish. Obviously, that's embarrassing if we can't finish one book. So we got to finish this book. Yeah, we'll finish it like cook once a week. Like, let's think about our list. Definitely the vacation, we need to clean out our closets, our purses, all that stuff. Yeah, and then we need to do something volunteer wise. I don't know.

I'm coming up with a lot of ideas. But then I think we'll feel very like accomplished by the time the season rolls around again, and we won't be mad like, oh my god, the whole off season went by and we didn't do anything that was a real mel Robins thing. I think I sent that to you like, do a checklist, like if you are starting on Sunday night to have anxiety for the week ahead, like think of the things you need to get done and write them down. But I have list, so sister, but I am not. I

have so many lests. Another thing that you sent me was Kate Winslet. Yeah, had spoke to me. Okay, so do you explain what it was because I don't know who did this. I don't know if you were able to put that together the voices behind it. But there was some interview that somebody did. It looked recently with Kate Winslet and they went back and looked at I don't know if it was like a fashion kind of

show of her. She was on a red carpet and it must have been promoting Titanic, and they were speaking about how they thought her dress size was a little too small for her body and they played that in front of her, and the interviewer was asking if she ever confronted the people that said the nasty things about her, and she said she did, and the interviewer asked what she said to them, and she said, I hope that

haunts you. And that just spoke to me mmm hmmm, And I was like, the girl, look at this because which by the way, let me tell you, working at Fox, they have this archive, like you can see some of the amazing costumes from different movies and shows and all this kind of stuff. Kate Winslet's dressed the famed dress. Where was the black with the maroon like underlay and

it had the beads. It was like the first one I think that you see that she's in from like the dinner the night that like Leo's there, this dress, the waiste size on it is like this big. It is so tiny. So the fact that she was fat shamed at all is fucking insane, like and it's I know, it's you know, so many conversations about unrealistic expectations for

women and their bodies and the whole thing. But as it pertained to this, that quote of saying I hope it haunts them, I think there's a little bit again this reoccurring theme where let them if they want to say something about you, if they want to fact shame you, or if they want to say you're not this, or they want to let them that's on them, and I hope it haunts them. I hope they have to live with that thing instead of letting it be a problem for her or having her feel bad about it, like, no,

that's their shit, not mine. Like I like that projection of not projection, but like pushing off of internalizing it, like just no, get you get to live with the fact that you're an asshole, like that's your problem, not mine, because we know somewhere it's like instead of absorbing that and letting it be something we lose sleep at at night over people that have you know. And by the way, I'm not a saint, but I definitely know a few people. I hope it haunts them. Wait they act you know

what I mean? So that's great. We love Kate Winslet we love to summarize. But yeah, we're real girls girls, you know. Yeah. But all that is good. We have a lot to be thankful for. We have a lot of exciting things coming up. We're going to make a list of all the stuff that we wanted to do. Well, hold on, how's your re entry going? Can we get enough? Because you were upset about somebody in their loud talking. How are you guys doing? Where are you with re entry? Better?

Because even in taking my own advice of our is we posted and when our clips came out, when I'm like hearing myself, I don't want to be bitchy. I don't want to be controlling. Steve is so wonderful to me, especially during the off seats or during the season, and just taking care of shit at home. So re entry is going better because I'm putting it on myself to be more mature about some stuff. Some stuff's good. English's like English. I'm trying to be better with English stuff.

But also I think it's just being honest about like I because we're together all the time, you guys are, and it's fine because I like him, but like up here, like we're in the middle of nowhere, so it's not like we're even like going into town and like hanging out with you know, the people. Like it's just last night, I was just like looking, He's sent me a text. I was out doing somebody. He goes, hey, do you want to come back to the house, And we just sit at each other, sit on the couch and stare

at each other. That's the text I got. I go, sure, I'll be down in twenty minutes. We sat on the couch and it was actually really nice. Steve doesn't like TV, doesn't not into watching TV. He doesn't share. I always know that if this guy would have TV's taken out of his house, if it wasn't for sports. That's the only thing he likes to watch. Every time he goes, oh, what are we going to watch? Another? D Dateline? Season forty two, episode seven. I love Dateline? He goes, Oh, murder,

kill kill. All you want to watch is murder? He goes, can we watch a comedy? But yeah, he is not a TV person. I will catch him sitting in a room listening to Art Pepper, this like jazz musician, and just staring at the ceiling and I'm like, huh, I go what does that do to you? And he goes helps me relax? He goes TV I just like get inundated and gives me anxiety about like killing and murder. And I was like, really, because killing and murder makes me relax because now I don't have to think about

all the things I'm supposed to be doing. I just think about how great my life is because it's not that so I don't know it's going good. We just have to like balance out. I just I miss you. I think I need a little airon too. Well. Yeah, I can't get a hold of this chick. She's watching Dayline and feeding the cows. Where are my friend? So busy? So it's been two weeks actually, so yeah, I'm ready to see my girlfriend. Hopefully we get together this weekend.

And I miss Mac. I haven't seen mag what's Mac been up to? He's busy, fifteen years old. I see the picture of him and Justin Bieber, which, by the way, he looks like Justin Bieber. Yeah, and somebody actually said that to me before I forgot who did. I think it was somebody at the super Bowl. It was like, your kid looks like Justin Bieber. I was like really, And so he's he is cute. He was so good

at that La Strong event we brought him. They were so loosey goosey about letting him in the locker room. He was hanging out with dad. Dad was sending me skates. I know those are the Copauitar's sons. Yakub skates is so sweet and Jared was like skating with him on the ice and he loves going fast. That was really fun. He's good, he's busy, he all right, let's talk about it. What do we get talk about it? I get it. He's nineteen months. This is where I am in my life.

We had our babies late. With our baby late, I was around a lot of people that were having babies for many years, and I was sitting back and observing. I went on a lot of family vacations with people that had kids. I was all my friends from the La Kings at the time had babies. So I got to observe a lot of stuff. I realized what I really liked and what I didn't like. And what I don't like are kids that have free rein and that

aren't well behaved. What I do like is somebody like Greg Olsen who has children that walk in, look you in the eye, shake your hand, and is very are very respectable. Now I've gone to dinner with Greg and I've sat next to both of his kids, and Greg is trying to talk to me and he has said, hey, it's adult time. Now. I love it. Like listen, no kid is a saint, No adult is a saint. But I realize what I want out of a kid. I'm also having a big struggle of when you learn to

I'm not say discipline, but rack oh yeah, okay. We went to sushi the other night Jared had to work, and I love our nanny and she's so great, and I said, hey, can I take you to sushi tonight? And twofold can Matt come too? And I think it's so important to socialize him, and you know, I want him to sit down and have a meal with me. Now. Are there times he needs an iPad? Sure, but I also really get a kick of the fact she's great to show him you don't need it, and we never

had that. We went to dinner with our parents and I never had that. Yeah, here's a coloring book and color crans from the hostess exactly. The one thing I love about our nanny, Barbara is she is really great

in teaching me how to do things. She is like, Okay, let's do it this way, let's try it this way, And so I feel confident and comfortable because I also have a huge insecurity that I haven't been around for six months and I want to do it how they've done it, so I don't mess up the schedule any whot nanny, my man is not talking yet, but we are saying something dad, my momm okay, great. He is so smart. He is very attentive, but we have not figured out how to lower our voice yet, and we

have stayed while they are related out of nowhere. At Izakaya, which is a very small sushi restaurant in our town, one of our favorites. He wasn't pissed, he wasn't happy. He was just in four loud shrieks where the entire restaurant turned and looked at me. His father is not there, and I'm mortified. And I looked at Barbara and I go, what do we do? What do we do? What do we do? She goes, it's okay, you're okay, Matt. We

do not yell at the restaurant. We're good. It was that at the end of the meal, he had had such a great meal, we gave him ice. But then in the back of my head, I'm like, am I rougar? Oh? What am I doing? Because Barbara had said to me he did that at the park. Everybody turned and looked, and she said, We're not doing that. We're going to behave I went home that night and I texted one of my girlfriends who has kids, and I just said,

at what point. I don't even know if I can look at him the same after that, because everybody looked and I was like, what point of I'm like, no, I wanted to grab him run out, and she's like, he's nineteen months. He's understand. That's just where I am right now. I know what I want out of a kid, and I don't know when to start. She said, you know, you have to say like, hey, let's not do this. We're in a place, but he doesn't know what the help but he does, but he doesn't. Yeah, okay, look

I will step in here only to say this. I obviously I don't have children. I did grow up. My mom did daycare for us when we were growing up because you wanted to stay home with us, and it was a way for her to make money. So I was always around kids. I was a nanny. I started watching it an eleven nine month old when I was eleven years old, and then stayed with that family until

I graduated high school. Shout out to the Luhamburgers, and they had three kids, and I would go on vacation with them and I was the one that would travel and I was responsible for, you know, when they wanted to go out to dinner, I was with the kids and all that kind of stuff. The only thing I will say about that is like distraction right where it's And again I'm not the professional nanny that you have, so I will only say from my own experience, is

that same reason for kids on airplanes. I feel for them. They don't know what they're doing, their ears are popping, it feels weird. They're in a confined space, and it's like they want to move. Especially he's at an age where it's like he wants to move, he wants to do things, and so it's like busy. I don't know about the yelling part, but like that's just more of like, okay,

we don't do that. But like I always feel for kids when they're like in a situation and they just want constant distraction, Like take the credit cards out of your wallet to give them something to do. Here's a color cran, here's a oh my god, do you see a bird outside? Like just constantly like give them something else to do so that they're not like I'm trapped in this high chair or whatever. Again, I'm not speaking to that situation that you have. I'm only thinking about

the things that I do with kids. And that's the part too, where it's like you have went forty to forty five years without having a child, and now your whole. I'm so proud of you though, like no one prepares you for that. Your whole, like your whole and your whole work. But here I'm gonna say this, and I don't have an interjection. You guys, Aaron may sit on here and she's vulnerable about the things that she doesn't know and all that kind of stuff. She is the

most amazing mom. You will show me pictures of him sleeping in his crip, will look at the little monitor, and you'll show me the pain. You are such a good mother, and I'm really proud of you, like no one prepares you for how to do that. But I know that this is like you imagine, you wanted this for so long and now you have this perfect little boy. And so if he screams at the restaurant, yeah whatever, it's true. I was actually thinking of this the other

day and I said this to Jarrett. And I'm very very also grateful for our help that we have and we have such a good team in place, and we are so thankful because whatever, but we are so grateful for our group. But because it does take a village. The other day when we got home from Montana, we're back, We're in our Routineer goes to the office. I was, you know, with him for a bit. Then I went to work out, and I was saying to Jarrett, my god, this is how it's supposed to be. We have such

a lovely like team working with us. But this is how it is when you don't aren't working and you're not traveling to Green Bay, or you're not worried about

getting on a conference call. Like I will say this and not to toot my own horn, it's fucking hard to do this for a full time job and traveling and not even traveling like I think of all the football stories we read where guys talk about their mom and how they had three to four jobs and they didn't see their mom during the day and then at night the mom went to work while they went to bed, and my mom would go exactly like that is fucking hard.

Like And I'm not saying I didn't give myself enough credit, but I sat there the last six months thinking about what a failure I was because I was like God, I'm like half asking it with foxing, though I wasn't half asking it with my kid. It is so hard to do all that. I will sit and I try to remind you of this. My mom worked three jobs, my dad was working all the time, like all of this stuff. And there's never a time, ever, ever, a time where I look back at my childhood and I

was like, oh, I wasn't loved. All I think about was I was loved, and my parents were working so hard so I could have that extra They could make a hundred oll My mom would make a hundred dollars at the restaurant, working at a restaurant night so I could go join the select basketball team where I could

get the new basketball shoes. Like you have to give yourself the credit, like your kid sitting in that high chair watching you do that postgame interview and pointing at the screen and saying, Mama, like I like cried watching that video. And it's not even my kid. It's just the fact that like he he sees you working like that is a beautiful thing. And by the way, if you don't work, if you stay at home with your kid all day, that's almost the joy. The hardest job.

I imagine that's the everest job is everybody always says is the hardest job in the world because it's constant. So I think all of this is about giving yourself grace and knowing Like when you got Howie as a puppy,

he would dig, he would chew on things, whatever. How he's grown up and he's a great dog like mas a baby, he's like gonna try things until But I'm really really proud of you and I hope that you're seeing like instead of instead of focusing on the like, oh I'm not this or I'm not that, like, I really hope you give yourself the like this is a whole different set of you know, things in life that no one prepares you for and even if you've been very vocal, you're lucky enough to have help and it's

so really hard. Yeah, yeah, I I love you. Answers you know, you know went in out. So this in to summarize. Mel Robbins, we would love for you to come on the Calm Down Podcast us like you're now innumerable amount of fans appreciate that you have the vulnerability to put this down writing so you can help all of us be better people and just less stressed out or less you know, upset about things that don't matter

and that we can't control. I'm going to go look for a new recipe to cook and fold some more laundry because this is the things I like to do now. And I love you and I'm going to see you this weekend. I can't wait to view. Yeah, let's figure that out. How they tacked? Yep. Okay, you guys, thank you for listening way in and buy the book if you haven't already, because we're going to continue to talk about it. Play along you. Calm Down with Aaron and

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