Hi, welcome to the latest episode. Call Me Mistress. I'm your Hostess, Mistress Mia, and today we're going to read a nice little e-mail from Tony. But before we get to that, I will tell you that I have to do a shout out. One is to Nikki Ellitz. I'm assuming that's the correct way you say your name, Nikki, but I have to tell you that I am always appreciative of your lovely feedback and your sweet little comments left on the
podcast. I truly appreciate your devotion and I I love that you enjoy the episodes as much as I do. Now for all of my added listeners, I will tell you that I did speak with Baby Tay this morning and Baby Tay told me that finally, all this time now that has gone by and his lovely
aunt finally changed his diaper. Apparently, they were watching a college game with Alabama and Georgia this past weekend and he bet on Alabama and they did, in fact, when and ultimately the deal was she was to change his diaper. And she, of course, was very ready. She had a basket with all the toiletries set up. So Needless to say, they had an amazing time. Now we're going to talk about Tony for a moment. So Tony reached out to me, as he always does, and I'm always
happy to read his emails. I'm always happy to listen to him because I think Tony represents a lot of people, listeners included. Because I think we all struggle at times with our own identity of what we want and our fetishes are kinks and what we can really do and explore in our regular lives. And it's often difficult that so many of us have to really limit what we can do because of our relationships or religious beliefs or family or our living situation. So I'm going to read Tony's
e-mail. We did an episode about this last week. So I think it's only appropriate that we continue so that everyone can kind of get a a good understanding with what Tony's going through. And he writes. Mistress, thank you again for taking time to respond to my emails. And thank you for responding directly via the podcast. Hearing your voice does make a difference. It's so soothing and calming, and I love hearing you talk it through. Your kindness is unmatched.
Thank you for being such a caring person and for being there for me. It means the world to me. You're so kind that I'm having a hard time imagining you being a dominant in the dungeon, but I bet there are plenty of people who can attest to your skills. I love that you love gay porn as much as I do. I would be so interested to see what kind of gay porn you enjoy watching. I love women who enjoy gay porn and enjoy by men.
If you're interested, I would love to share with you a gay Bondage Twitter account that I follow. They do excellent work with Bondage. You may enjoy it. I love your mom too by the way. It always cracks me up when you talk about her. Also your story about your doctor friend who would go to glory holes with you on the phone. It was so hot. I love encouraged by play a lot. I know we talked about forced by play before. I love thinking of that. He was sucking cock at your
command. It was a form of tribute to you, by him. I have to know, were you flattered by what he was doing? I've been mulling my submission options over in my head since listening to the podcast. It's clear to me now that my wife is not a Dom. We had an interesting conversation just last evening. I've known for quite a while now that my wife's old roommate from when she was 21 had a boyfriend who was a sub.
She used to tell me that her roommate would dawn for him and she would tell me how her roommate would tell her about her pegging him and other things. Just by chance we got into a conversation about humiliation and verbal humiliation. Long story short, we were talking about how certain men and women like that being degraded and talked down to being insulted. She said she doesn't think she could ever do that.
She said she would feel so bad about it and she would also feel disconnected by it. Sigh. I understand her. We can only do what we feel comfortable doing. I would never force something like that on someone I love. That being said, I would not feel comfortable finding someone on Fetlife to be submissive to. I think that would not really be appropriate given my situation.
I would consider a pro Dom. I like that there's no feelings involved and it can be planned and scheduled and expectations set. My only problem is there's not a lot of pro Dom options where I am. I know of one, maybe 2. Also, it's tough to get out and find the time. My wife doesn't keep me on a tight leash even though I'd love to be collared. But if I'm not at work I'm usually home with our son. It'd be odd if I was gone for hours, but there are times where
that may be possible. I've been considering a virtual dominant. There are plenty of Doms online who will do some kind of virtual play. I think that might be a good middle ground for me. My only hesitation is I really don't know what to expect from that. I've done popper breath play with Dominic Cam models before, but obviously that's pretty quick. It's something I want to look into. I think it might help.
We will see. Thank you again for taking the time to speak to me and to let me go through these feelings and thoughts with you. I just love that you'd like to share this kinky world with everyone, that you accept people with open arms. I'm so appreciative what you do for the BDSM community as a whole. You make it easier for people like me who have certain feelings and don't know what to do with it.
I know what you do is not easy and there are plenty of headaches and daily struggles with what you deal with. I just hope you know that you are loved and appreciated for what you do. I hope you enjoy doing it as much as I enjoy hearing about it. All the best, Tony. I mean, how could you not love this man? He is the sweetest. Tony, I just adore you. So I'm going to go back and break down things as we process the e-mail that you've written to me. So nice.
You know, your compliments are always so kind and I truly appreciate that. You know, I just try to be
helpful to people. I feel like if I can be one of those people that help other people through their process of finding themselves or finding their kinks and what they really enjoy, and I'm happy to do it. I think it's it's so uplifting, it's so rewarding and I really can't think of something better that I'd really like to do. I've always been in one of those positions in life where I've always helped people and it's
always been my passion. Now I think that I'll answer your first question and that was what kind of gay porn do I like? Please share your gay Your Gay Bondage Twitter account with me. I think I'm always looking for good gay porn, but my favorites are like the Big Bear guys that like to fuck young submissive virgin boys. I think, I think it's really hot. I don't know what it is, but I have this one particular favorite porn where it's this
this bigger man. He's probably late 50s and he's always fucking these young twinks and they're usually bent over or, you know, they're on their back, but they're always calling him daddy and begging for his cock. And of course, you know, he's got a nice fat Dick. He really does. But it's just really hot. I I just can't explain it. I don't know why I like it, but, you know, they say this kind of thing is genetic. But yeah, my mom is a fucking hoot.
My mom is super funny. I don't even know if she realizes I talk about her on the podcast because there's so many episodes, honestly, that I don't want her hearing about my past. But I think she kind of knew about my sex addiction after my first divorce. And so she was really understanding about it. She was just like, really? How many is that today? But she's, she's funny. She was a devout Catholic. She's always been a very devout Catholic, but extremely non judgmental.
She really has zero filter, which is fucking hilarious. She is, she's 85. She just turned 85 last month. And she's extremely passive aggressive, which is funny at times. Other times we don't always have the best relationship when she is very passive aggressive. But as far as porn goes, I think she likes fucking hot Cowboys fucking. And that's again why she loves Brokeback Mountain. She loves Christian Gray. She's just, she's a hoot. I could go on about that, but I
will. I'll go on to your next question, which was, Oh, my doctor friend, my doctor friend of Fort Lauderdale. This guy was sexy as fuck. Really not my type of guy. He's he's bald, which is cool. I've I've fucked a lot of bald men's who with the shaved head don't mind that at all. Sexy as fuck. He's one of those guys. He shaves head to toe, just fucking hot. But then he had a full on beard mustache. I really don't get into the beard, but mustaches I can do. I can do all day long.
But this doctor was so sexy. Oh my God. So here he would leave the ER, he would call me and he'd be like, Mistress, I got to go to the glory hole. And you know, at times I'm questioning was he smoking crack? Because this is before vape pens. But man, he would, he would really fucking choke on something. He was sucking. I was assuming he was smoking
crack. I, you know, it's just, it was one of those things at the time, you don't, you don't think about it because you're sitting back and, you know, I'm on the phone sometimes I would get to see him, you know, we'd get on webcam together on Skype. But he was just a really super
cool guy. But yeah, I think that it was a tribute to me. I think that in a lot of ways he was kind of like my long distance cup because I would tell him about my extensive sex life with multiple people and if he had been in town, we had talked about meeting and we just it was one of those things, you know, it's a big distance. It was never, you know, direct flights where I was or where he was and that and he worked 50 hours a week. So, but Needless to say, he went to glory holes.
I would walk him through it and he would be like, he gets so nervous about it. And I was just like, come on, Jason, come on baby, you can do it. You can have sucked that big cock for me. And yeah, he would go in, he would tell me all about it. And you know, I told him I'm like, I don't care if it's white or black, just see who's got the biggest, fucking hottest, juiciest cock. And we talked about it.
It was great. And I was, yes, I was very flattered by him doing it because it was his passion. It was my passion. And of course, I would send him dirty pics and videos of my, of my multiple partners. And you know, the whole concept of penetration or oral sex. I have, you know what, Tony, I'm going to send you a nice picture of a cock in my mouth and you're going to fucking love it. So then you talk about mulling over your submission. So I think you're absolutely right.
I think that was kind of looking at the side of you not spending money on somebody. So maybe you wouldn't be so invested. But I think you're right. Maybe just keeping it with a level of professionalism is fine. Now again, I am happy to do do this with you. If you ever just want to sit on the phone and you want to do FaceTime or if you want to get on Telegram or something like that or Kik, I'll sit there with you and we'll talk about it. We'll come up with some scenes
or scenarios. If you were my long distance sub, I would tell you, you need to lay everything out that you want to use in that session. I still think you need to go back to journaling. Even if it's writing an e-mail to me, that to me that's journaling. That is a form of time stamp of what you're doing and how you're
feeling. So feel free just to e-mail me and we'll, we'll talk about it. I think it's very clear, you know, you and I have had multiple conversations about this, that your wife is indeed not a Dom. You know, she can't can't cater to what you want. Therefore, I always feel like men that come to see us in the dungeon, I don't feel like they're cheating on their wives. I think we're doing their wives a huge service because there's a lot of wives that don't want to humiliate their husbands.
They don't want to see their husbands dress up. That is such a huge turn off for a lot of women. I think that therefore it's really not a form of cheating. I think it's a beautiful thing that you can act out your own kinks and if that's something you enjoy and you're not hurting your wife, it's something that is completely separate from her. And it's not as if you're fucking some woman. It's not that you're fucking some dude or you're getting
fucked. So I really don't see that there's an issue with it. That's really all that it boils down to is doing what fits you best, what you feel comfortable doing because there are multiple types of virtual play. I know I have my one Sissy slave and you know he's an hour and a half away and there's times where he'll turn on his camera and I will make him fuck his own ass. I will have him on his knees facing the corner. I will have him tell me all of the ways that he disappointed me
for the week. It's just really what your expectations and what your hopes are and what you can accomplish in that period of time. I'll comment as well on your last paragraph, you know, about what I do for the community. Honestly, I feel like I'm just here to help. I think that we're all here to value and appreciate one
another. And I think that we're here to appreciate ourselves in the community, what we can offer other people and that we come judgment free and that we come to explore and express and enjoy ourselves in our life and what really makes us happy. You know, my husband told me over the weekend, he told me that I was kind of explaining to him the situation with one of my submissives. And I said, you know, my one Sissy slave, he is one of those people that struggle with substance abuse.
And there's a lot of people that I've come across that have issues with substance abuse. And it goes back to, you know, addiction, addictive personalities and people that are in the kink lifestyle aside from their own addictions. You know, not all people have that struggle. But even if you're in the lifestyle, I think that, you know, Liv PO, we've all talked about this. It's about self acceptance. And my husband told me that I
define people by their kinks. And I'm like that's I don't find that complimentary. I said I don't define people by their kinks. I define people for who they are and what they are and what they bring to the table as an individual. What can they offer people in relationships? And I think that their kinks don't define them. I think they make their kink and their kink makes them in a sense, but it doesn't define
them as individuals. Just like your job, your profession, it doesn't define you. But I was telling him that my slave has a lot of resistance and a lot of crossdressers that I have, you know, had in my life. They have had resistance about what they want and they hate the follow through a lot of times with what they have to do in order to accomplish what they
truly want. My view of what I would love to see for him is to be a 24/7 Sissy slave, but everyone has the resistance to some point in what they want in their kink lifestyle. You know, one of my slaves, he talks about wanting to be confined and be in his padded closet and you know, only have certain access to certain things like food and capabilities of using the bathroom outside of wearing a depend or wearing a catheter.
So ultimately, Tony, I think we define ourselves and what we truly want to make ourselves happy. And if you are unable to attain your level of happiness with submission and what you truly want, then your life as a whole will be less than and you won't find that complete happiness. So on that, I will leave you those words, whether I'm right, whether I'm wrong, you be the judge. You have to decide for yourself what you want and what's truly
going to make you happy. Until then, thank you for listening. Thank you again for all your support. I truly appreciate all of my fans and their loyalty and to devotion to the podcast. So until then, this has been the latest episode of Call Me Mistress.