You're listening to a mother mea podcast. Okay, so you're in a bit of a situation. Someone, your boss, your friend, your partner has asked something of you, and your body it's saying no, but your mind, your mind is spiraling. What if they get mad at me? What if I let them down? What if this changes how they see me? And just like that, your people please are kicks in and you're about to say yes even though you don't
mean it. If that feels familiar, this is for you because setting boundaries isn't about being a bitch, and it definitely doesn't make you a bad person. Boundaries aren't walls their clarity. They're actually one of the most respectful things you can bring into a relationship because when you're honest about your capacity, your needs, your energy, you create relationships that are built on truth, not resentment. So let's slow
it down a little. Before you automatically say yes. I want you to get curious about what's happening inside of you. What's the story you're telling yourself? If you say no, is it? They'll be disappointed in me, I'll get in trouble, they'll stop loving me. Notice that because a lot of the time. We're not responding to the actual situation. We're responding to a fear. Now, come back to you, why do you actually want to say no. Maybe you don't
have the time, Maybe you're already overwhelmed. Maybe you know you won't be able to show up fully and you'll end up doing a rushed, half hearted job. That matters. Your capacity matters. Now here's where we shift from awareness into action. Instead of avoiding the conversation or over explaining, we're going to communicate clearly. Here's a simple way to do it. First, acknowledge the request, then share your honest reality,
and finally offer an alternative, if there is one. So it might sound something like this, Hey, I know you asked me to get this to you by tomorrow morning. I actually won't be able to get it done by then, but if I had an extra two days, I could do it properly. Do you hear that you're not shutting
the door, You're opening a more honest one. And yes, this might feel so uncomfortable at first, So if you need to practice it, say it out loud, role play it with someone you trust, because what you're really doing here is you're teaching your body that it's safe to hold your ground and that you're allowed to take up space in your own life. Now, this is important. Setting a boundary doesn't mean controlling the outcome. The other person might have a reaction, they might push back, but this
is where your strength comes in. You can stay open to the conversation without abandoning yourself in the process, because boundaries aren't about winning or losing. They're about alignment. And every time you choose honesty over people pleasing, you build self trust, You show yourself I've got me, and that that's where your power is. Mamma Mia acknowledges the traditional owners of the land and waters that this podcast is recorded on