#86: Show Up
We need to show up. We need “courage over comfort”, like Brene Brown says. We need a safe space that can support our needs. We need people who can help and listen. But most of all, we need to show up.

We need to show up. We need “courage over comfort”, like Brene Brown says. We need a safe space that can support our needs. We need people who can help and listen. But most of all, we need to show up.
I have zero expectations about myself. Actually there are three things I truly expect daily about myself: 1. Journaling (~ 2-3 lines) 2. Blog (~ 1500 characters) 3. Walk at least 1km (146km so far in 2021) And monthly I have only one expectation: At least 2500 made shots recorded on HomeCourt (basketball). All other things are projects and progress. Those above are foundations that help make everything else possible.
You know life is happening because things happen and emotions are flowing. How do you make sure you don't do nothing in excess? Moderation is key. Temperance is one of the virtues from stoicism, and one I respect a lot. And one I'm learning a lot years after year. -- Daniel Wildt Cover: https://flic.kr/p/Z8aWsy
Make your life and projects a long term goal. Play the infinite game. Are you in?
How do I play with emergent learning? To me, it’s all about learning. I find people that can share stories with me. Usually I’m more interested in failures than victories. I want people interested in living the problem with me. I want to understand experiments we can try. Again, it’s all about learning. I aim a vision, i aim results, but again. I’m always learning. :) /// Cover picture https://flic.kr/p/29Mwfpe
I was thinking about this word: journey. Actually I was listening to Don’t Stop Believin’ and there’s this part: … Some will win, some will lose Some were born to sing the blues Oh, the movie never ends It goes on and on, and on, and on… I was checking movies I have that I don’t want to find a finish line. And I started thinking how can I make subscription modes out of them. That’s why I’m starting to focus on http://patreon.com/dwildt and other initiatives. Those will become sources of infinite...
This reflection came after listening to “try everything”. That’s episode 71 from rework podcast. They were talking to Mert Iseri about his process to learn something new every year or sort of. I was thinking about my process and stuff I have learned through the years. Table Tennis at 12 Keyboard / Piano at 15 Basketball at 15 Guitar at 16 Programming at 17 Technical Writing 20 Poetry at 21 — Basketball at 27 Tennis at 28 Time Management at 28 Neurolinguistic Programming at 28 — Dad at 29 Neuroli...
How do you help people? You need to engage with kindness, to be able to listen and care. Do you have the space needed to do that? You also need the courage to show up. You may need to share information that are sensitive and people may struggle with that. But in this process, as long as we can be curiousity over frustration and as long as we have courage over comfort, we are going to be just fine. We need to make sure we are couscious about our own process. You can do good. — Daniel Wildt P.S.: ...
How can you feel this? This is a process of consciousness. How can I build this feeling of tranquility, because I have what I need and I am what I am? So I’ve found in minimalism part of this answer. It’s been a process of letting things go and understanding what’s real important to me. And it starts with people, with health, with how I am sleeping, and I believe (don’t have the paper here) possessions became like number 10. I was much more interested in access and services than buying new thing...
If you are not feeling amazing about something, say No. Throw yourself into projects that resonate with your process. Say hell yeah when you feel like you need to start something and are willing to drop something else because of that. I started to say No in 2006, when I was 27 years old. I thought I had to say yes to everything otherwise I was going to lose opportunities. I had fear inside every possible no. What would they say if I can’t show up into that event? What people say if I say what I ...
I’m learning to see the difference from desire and needs. I was listening to “don’t stop til you have enough” from Michael Jackson, and a different issue came up. I thought: I do have enough. Do I? How are you looking at your needs x your desire? I have done an episode asking about something being necessary, and I believe we have the power we need and also the connections we need. How are you playing with your own power? How are you playing with self awareness? How are you playing with your conn...
In times like these I will just stop. Just for a moment. I will set the stage to come out again. Not stronger, better, nothing like that. I just want to let it flow. In times like these I will just let it flow. I always remember my friend David “The Dude” Hussman who passed away years ago. I remember his face looking after a set of rules and practices and tools and saying: let it flow dude, just let it flow. That sentence got a special place in my head since 2010, and I remember with a powerful ...
Making life simpler. I live my professional life with a backpack since 2008. Clothing, I’ve made my wardrobe filled with less stuff year over year. Books are becoming digital or I can choose a service with most of them available. Same with music. Same with movies. Same with on demand videos. So in the end I can live my life with less possessions or at least I can be really focused on what’s real important to me, thinking about material stuff. What about my mind? What are my needs? That’s where s...
I write every single day. It can be a couple of book pages, a blog post or a base text for a podcast episode, like this one. If I write, I feel fine. And the good thing about this is that sometimes I’m writing business stuff, to share with my colleagues. So I have added asynchronous communication to this equation. I’m able to express ideas and document the discussion process. I’m now able to have less meetings and more question based discussions. I have short 1:1s to follow up, and a big focus o...
In this particular time where we are playing isolation mode, I believe courage is a good virtue to play along with us. When I think about courage it turn out to be a matter of having a set of things in place that makes us feel the confidence and force we need to make something happen. When I play in crisis mode, I go defense and understand my constraints. As soon as I can, I move to atack. There I have the opportunity to create more space. Space to think, act and space to do nothing. Time is the...
Work as hard as you can, they say. Build your work ethic, they say. People who are able define a why, find any how. Can you work without sleep? I can. Can you work without living the house during the weekend? I can. Can you work 18 hours per day? I can. Now if I ask myself: Is it necessary? We are most of the time living in an autopilot mode. Make sure you can find places and times to “turn off” autopilot and get back on your real life track. Try to use less hours, so you can do more things. Pla...
Ups and downs, highs and lows... cycles, seasons, you name it. The thing is that we can’t be happy all the time. And we can’t feel awful because something happen more than the time we need to reflect and learn. Same happens when something good happens. We can’t be euphoric for a whole week and forget to do what we need to do. As a stoic and a vulnerability practitioner, I want to understand my days and be present as much as I can. It’s a very tough process. We live in auto pilot mode a lot... th...
If you have focus on safety, you need openness too, before you can consider inclusion. Being able to listen, to have internal space to listen, is not something easy and available 100% of the time. And being open to listen someone saying that “I can’t continue this conversation” without trying to go faster or trying to forget that we need presence is awesome. If we want inclusion, we want people to be who they are. We want safety. We are not talking about employer branding. It comes from the insi...
I want to play basketball. How good I want to be? I want to be a three point shooter. I want to read the game and read defense better. Can I play in a competition team? No. I need much more than I want at this moment. My body can’t handle the training process needed. So I need to stop to play basketball? No. I need to understand my limitations and find ways to improve my game. A weak side will always exist, and there I will be to receive the ball and shoot a three pointer. :) The same happens wh...
What do you really need? Why do you need to run? Patience can help you. Calm can become a routine. Are you ready?
Planning poker as a metaphor to say you don’t know. Safety environment. Being who you are and find spaces to communicate what you need. Non violent communication. I will discuss all of that in this episode. Let’s go!
That’s it. Make sure you care about your journeys. A victory or a defeat means just a step, a result, but it can’t define your journey. Make sure you understand the importance of living the process and learning during every experience.
The two aspects to have success running your side projects. Patience and persistence!
Don’t know about you but I believe we can’t plan our legacy. It’s about making sure we are doing things we believe. And making sure we are on track about things we care. Someday you will look back and see what you have done so far.
I talk a lot about work life balance, but here I am to tell you to take another look into that concept. I came to understand that my life is always forcing me to one side. I can't be balanced 100% of the time. Sometimes I need to work more than I wanted. Sometimes I'm tired, and I just can't do anything than doing nothing. And that's ok. So I'm looking at this process as something more daily. I would like to practice programming every day. But I can't, because of other tasks I have to get done. ...
I’m learning again to play the drums, and using more of the process I’m using to practice basketball. I’m giving a lot of importance to fundamentals. Accourding to the dictionary, fundamentals: it’s a basic principle, rule, law, or the like, that serves as the groundwork of a system; essential part. Make sure you are giving enough attention to fundamentals!
Make sure that you are able to teach people about stuff you know and that you are able to find people to teach about what you want to know. Creating knowledge is a continuous process and it’s pure joy. Make knowledge explicit!
Making sure you are able to delivery quality work is key when thinking about sustainable pace. It’s not about doing less hours than needed. It’s about understanding your process and your team process, to execute, plan, reflect, improve and learn.
Don’t fake til you make it. That’s not fair to your story. Document and share your process. Don’t be aspirational. Be who you are. Be true to you.
Find people that can help you along the way. Those people will be mentors. They have real life experiences. Learning by doing is great but understanding by context is awesome!