This is how you make millions while maintaining a work life balance. I know this topic of work life balance is super important to people because there's not a business owner that I talked to that doesn't have these questions around how do I run my business? How do I become a millionaire while still fill in the blank? Being a good mom, being present for my children, being able to spend time with my families, being able to have a social life, meeting new people, having hobbies and activities.
And so this is a concept that I feel like business owners really struggle with, leaders really struggle with. And I'd like to give some perspective because I think that I have figured out a way to master this to where I don't ever feel out of balance. And if there are moments where I'm overwhelmed or I'm stressed out, I actually know how to cope with those things. So let's just dive into this for a second. This idea of work life balance, I think it's important to understand
what is balance now. In true Nataly fashion, I looked up the word balance. Here's an interesting definition of the word balance Balance a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions. So here's this funny thing the correct proportions. Who's defined for your life? What the correct proportions of you spending time in different areas are? Did your mom tell you that? Did a school teacher tell you that? Like, who's dictating what the quote unquote
correct proportions are? Where is these correct proportions coming from? When I think about this, I think of my correct proportions related to the goals that I have. So the first thing in this conversation around work life balance has to come down to what are your goals? Where are you trying to go? Because once I've identified, as I've said, helping business owners, it is the most important thing to me in my life right now. It's what everything is
focused on. If that's the case, then when I'm coming up against what people want as an eight hour workday, I'm like, Wait a second. My correct proportion in order to achieve my target is actually a 14 hour workday. That is balance for me based on what the target is. And so once I know that I actually am underperforming, if I'm not working or out working or spending more time doing the thing that I need to be doing
based on somebody else's goal. If somebody only wants to help 20 people versus somebody else who wants to help a million people, the correct proportion to help a million people, logic would state that you would need to spend more time and energy figuring that out, dialing that in because there's more skill there versus the person who's determined, I want to help 20 people, but it's really important for me to spend time doing this hobby that I have.
I want to become the best electric guitar player that the world has ever heard. Okay, well, the correct proportion of that is likely going to be ten hours a day, whereas for me on the electric guitar side, this is going to be zero. Those are like total goose eggs. I'm not spending any energy there because that's not what my target is. So first thing, identify what your goals are. What do you actually want to have happen? Forget this idea of work life balance. Stop comparing yourself to the
people that you grew up with. Do the people you went to school with, even to your coworkers because your goals are not their goals? So this idea of balance in comparison to somebody else makes no sense. Once you figure out what it is you actually want, then you have to figure out, okay, I want this thing, but I need potentially something else. I'll give you an example. I want to help all of these business owners, but I also need to be a good daughter. I also
need to be a good wife. I also need to be present for these other people in my life. And so there's these wants, but then there are these needs. Now when I'm going through this practice of assessing the balance in my life, the first thing I asked myself is when it comes to the needs that I have, how much time do those things actually take? I sometimes can be a bad wife. I can be an attentive. I cannot be paying attention to the details. I cannot be.
Maybe making the house the way that it should be or planning date nights. Like I will forget those things. And when I do forget those things, instead of those moments when I'm not good, where I potentially might feel out of balance, I'm not just going to like overexaggerate that in my head and say, Oh, I'm just such a terrible wife. I'm the worst wife because I did this thing wrong and maybe Brandon's upset. Of course that's
not going to be what I think. I'm going to readjust the time I have to put into the things that I need to do. Now, of course you want to do those things, too. You want to be a present wife. You want to be a good mother to your kids or helpful to your grandparents or whatever those
things are. But once you've identified those needs and maybe your over prioritizing your wants more, so then your needs sit down and have an honest conversation with yourself about how much time those needs need to take from you and be be realistic. Is it an hour a day? Is it 15 minutes a day? Is it two hours a day? Because when you can actually put time to it, it's not just hours spent. It's quality time. It's energy
towards that thing. I'm certain that you can find time that you're wasting in other places in order to dedicate it to those needs so that you can still put the activity in for where you want to go, cover off your needs and cut away any of the fluff. See, those are the sacrifices that you have to make. Like what Are you really willing to give up for what you want? It shouldn't be and does not have to
be the things that you need. It's likely spending too much time on this in areas that are not helping you get to where you want to go. It's scrolling on Instagram, it's scrolling on Tik Tok, it's checking your news, it's playing games. It's just like mindless activity. Those are the types of things that you need to stop doing in order to spend more time getting to where you want.
Because you don't have to create this fictitious picture in your head that you can't have what you want and fulfill the obligations for the things that you need, which are also things that you want. So this is what I want you to do. I want you to get clear on what balance means for you. In order for you to do that, you're going to have to understand what your goals are. Now there's goals and what you want,
and then there's needs. So documenting what my goals are, what my wants are, where do I want to be, but then also having that place for, okay, these things cannot get dropped. These balls that I'm juggling, these things that I'm doing every single day, these are still priorities while I do these things. And your third list is going to be the things that you are wasting your
time on. Where are you spending time that you could be dedicating towards one of these two areas so that you are actually able to hit the income targets that you have? Those things are always the hardest things to identify because normally the things that you like to do are the things that you want to spend the most time doing because they provide comfort, they provide release, sometimes going after your goals and dreams and also caring for the people that need you in life can be, can
feel overwhelming and can sometimes be stressful. So we choose these comfort things. Forget the comfort. That's what you're willing to sacrifice. I'm challenging you to sacrifice those comfort pieces so that you can actually have the life that you want. In order to do that, you got to get uncomfortable. So let me know in the comments what it is that you are going to give up, because in order to get to where you want to go, you are going to have to make sacrifices. And we will see you next time.