The universe is always speaking to us, whether we're listening or not. In this episode, host Harpo shares the story of a time the universe spoke to her loud and clear. What she realized when she finally tuned in and listened to the universe is that she was in the middle of a great, profound transition. Harpo's White Butterfly Story is one that reminds us that we're deserving of the love that we want and that what we are seeking is also seeking us. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited ...
Oct 30, 2022•16 min
"I saw a quote on Instagram once and it read something like, a man will unconsciously do something once and it will have you moving differently for the rest of your life, and this episode really showcases that", says host Harpo. In this episode, she unpacks the ways in which men have unconsciously touched her and how it has forced her to move differently in life. Whether it's a friend touching her back on a night out or a stranger holding her waist as they move past her, Harpo has just about had...
Oct 23, 2022•16 min
Despite all the trials and tribulations that her love life has brought her, host Harpo has experienced a lot of growth in her journey through romantic relationships. One of them is a situationship that Harpo fondly remembers as her best situationship. bell hooks has taught us that relationships require more than just love. There's a long list of ingredients that a relationship must have in order to be considered a healthy, loving one. Tune in to listen to how Harpo's best situationship had all t...
Oct 16, 2022•18 min•Season 6Ep. 3
Harpo's worst date-- plot twist there's two! In this episode, host Harpo shares two of her most ridiculous first dates. In reflecting back on both of them, she realized many things: she had a hunch and didn't follow it, should've been bold enough to leave, and that she wishes she never goes on a bad date again. Tune in to hear how hilariously ridiculous the dates were and what Harpo is doing differently now as she continues to date. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale ...
Oct 09, 2022•22 min•Season 6Ep. 2
Raise your hand if you've ever told someone, "I think we should just be friends" instead of just ending the relationship. We've all been there. Instead of just telling someone it's over, we chicken out and pivot towards friendship. But what happens when you constantly sign up to be friends with people you still have feelings for? We know-- resentment, hurt feelings, and a whole lot of pain. In this episode, host Harpo shares why she's no longer being "just friends" with people it didn't work out...
Oct 02, 2022•18 min•Season 6Ep. 1
Most of us received a subpar sex education-- both at school and at home. There's tons that we didn't learn about sex and what a disservice! In this episode, host Harpo cites 10 things that she didn't learn about sex. The episode is real, raw, and does not use a pseudo word for sex, which is a big moment in the history of brown girls. How many things out of Harpo's 10 did you also not learn?! Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_b...
Aug 14, 2022•29 min•Season 5Ep. 11
The infamous question: when are you getting married? Host Harpo has just about had it with being asked that question. No matter the age you're asked that question, it's inappropriate, invasive, and incredibly loaded. The reason being? The pipeline from not being allowed to even look at boys to being asked when you're going to marry one is a wild one. Tune in to hear how Harpo's journey with that pipeline has been. Co-produced by Harpo & Jeevan Sangha Edited by Simran Dale Like BGG? Connect w...
Aug 07, 2022•21 min•Season 5Ep. 10
What would life be like if your teenage self knew better boundaries? Probably a lot different than right now. In this episode, host Harpo chats about the radical act of asking her loved ones for space. She reveals that asking for space felt foreign and alien as a brown girl, as so much of her life was spent giving people too much access to herself. Tune in to see how Harpo is asking for space, setting them boundaries, and granting herself grace as she grows into a more straight up version of her...
Jul 31, 2022•19 min•Season 5Ep. 9
If you thought mean girls, you guessed right! In this episode, host Harpo talks about her experience with mean girls-- but in high school and now as an adult. We're going to meet many mean girls in our lives. Sometimes, we might even be the mean girls. How can we start cutting out the crusty energy of mean girls in our lives? You'll have to listen to find out. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.browngirlguilt.com
Jul 24, 2022•22 min•Season 5Ep. 8
Raise your hand if you weren't allowed to cut your hair, shave your legs, or use a tampon growing up. Brown girlies everywhere unite! In this episode, host Harpo talks about all the things she and the brown girls in her life weren't allowed to do growing up. What she realizes in all of that is that seeking permission to modify your body creates a very disembodied life. It means the ownership of your body is actually in the hands of another's, which is not how we're trying to move forward. In the...
Jul 17, 2022•27 min•Season 5Ep. 7
The age old question. What do you want to be when you grow up? This week Harpo is joined by BGG producer Jeevan Sangha to talk about how their answers to that very question has changed throughout their lives. They talk about the confusion, anxiety and excitement around pursuing unconventional career paths and explaining it to their families. They touch on everything from their “I don’t know” moments to the double standards placed on brown women in their careers! Like BGG? Connect with us on Inst...
Jul 10, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 6
Being you is being cool. Trust us. In this episode, host Harpo shares a story about her favourite teacher from high school, Ms. Johnson. In a world where high school breeds conformity and looking like everyone else, Harpo saw her favourite teacher embrace individuality. She was bold, colourful, fiery and fun-- a stark contrast to how Harpo felt when she was in high school. Tune in and listen to see how Harpo is on a mission now to embrace her own individuality and inspire other brown girls to do...
Jul 03, 2022•21 min•Season 5Ep. 5
High school crushes are so fun. They're innocent and cute and the best when they make you giddy and blush. In this episode, host Harpo talks about her many high school crushes and all the ways she tried to garner their attention. What she reveals is that a lot of the boy-crazy, attention-seeking tendencies she had in high school have followed her into adulthood. How is she navigating the craze and attention, while simultaneously curbing her brown girl guilt? Listen to find out! This episode of B...
Jun 29, 2022•23 min•Season 5Ep. 4
You know 13 Going on 30, but do you know 25 going on 15?! Now you do! In this episode, host Harpo takes us back to 15 when we first experienced our first puberty-- the awkwardness, discomfort, confusion, and all the scaries. She then brings us back to 25, where she says she's experiencing a "second puberty" as she navigates life without the birth control pill for the first time in years. This episode of Brown Girl Guilt is sponsored by Biz Post Vancouver. Biz Pod is an accountability group found...
Jun 19, 2022•23 min•Season 5Ep. 3
Definition: a girl who is super chill, doesn't rock the boat, and someone who "isn't like other girls". She's one of the guys. She also makes herself super uncomfortable because sometimes, being "cool" comes at the expense of countering her own needs and wants. It comes at the expense of not honouring what she truly thinks. In this episode, host Harpo speaks to the Cool Girl Syndrome that started in high school for and shares how she's still suffering from it as an adult. Like BGG? Connect with ...
Jun 12, 2022•25 min•Season 5Ep. 2
Ah. The first kiss. Palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy. No matter what age you have your first kiss, it can be a nerve-wracking, anxious, butterfly in your stomach experience. In this episode, host Harpo shares the story of her first kiss, one that she safe-guarded for a very long time. She mentions that during her first kiss, she had no idea what to do. In chronicling her experience with hugs and kisses, she shares that this feeling of "not knowingness" hasn't really ever gone away. T...
Jun 05, 2022•19 min•Season 5Ep. 1
Reverse parenting or parentification is the process of role reversal whereby a child is obliged to act as a parent to their own parent or sibling. When this happens, the innocent childhood we were entitled to is robbed, causing adverse effects that stick with us for the rest of our lives. We can, however learn how to undo the harm caused by parentification by committing to our healing. In this episode, therapist Navneet Gill of Navneet Gill Counselling teaches us what reverse parenting is, the r...
Apr 24, 2022•39 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Whether you're a drinker or not, a lover of wine or gin, or the pre-game bartender for all your friends, this episode is for you. Conversations around brown women and drinking are super important and this podcast episode offers a take that you might not have previously heard. How can we go beyond a conversation around alcohol and choice for brown women? How can we examine our relationships with alcohol and get curious about that choice? In Drink drank drunk, we find out by asking ourselves new q...
Apr 17, 2022•25 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Hyper-independence is a trait too many brown girls and women know. And know too well. Often, our family structures force us to be hyper-independent right from our childhood, and then it ends up carrying into our adulthood. We might've been told we were really mature for our age, received compliments on our emotional intelligence, and told we were good leaders as children but did you grow up and realize, wow maybe those were all just trauma responses? In this episode, we dive into hyper-independe...
Apr 10, 2022•21 min•Season 9Ep. 10
Friend break ups suck, just as much as romantic break ups, if not more. Sometimes, friend breakups can cause greater heartbreak than romantic relationships, simply because of the level of intimacy expressed and shared in platonic friendships. bell hooks says that "deep, abiding friendships are the place where many women know lasting love." What happens when those friendships get uprooted and forced out of your life? What's to come of the space that is created when certain friendships are no long...
Apr 03, 2022•30 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Who were the women that became our mothers? What were they like before the world happened to them? In this episode, I share a powerful and funny story about the woman. that became my mother. I've committed myself to seeing my mother in her totality, as both a human being and a woman, and not just my mother. In this episode, I speak to the guilt that shows up in trying to honour my mother and her stories. Full disclaimer: this episode will likely make you senti. Like BGG? Connect with us on Insta...
Mar 20, 2022•16 min•Season 4Ep. 7
These days, my healing process looks like meeting my 5 year old self and chatting with her. I ask her what she wants to say and what she needs to feel safe, seen, and loved. Parenting my inner child has helped foster a deeper connection with myself. It's allowed me to build self-love from the ground up. In this episode, I talk about my journey with inner child healing and give you all a glimpse into what my process for sitting down with my 5 year old self looks like. Like BGG? Connect with us on...
Mar 13, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 6
A cycle breaker is someone who is actively breaking generations of trauma, hurt and karmic lessons. They're like a stop sign, or dead-end for relationship patterns, toxic behaviors, and addictions. It's where a shift in the lineage happens. Being a cycle breaker is no easy task and it comes with great responsibility, isolation, guilt, and shame. It also comes with a lot of joy, love, and liberation. This episode unpacks it all. Like BGG? Connect with us on Instagram @_browngirlguilt or www.brown...
Mar 06, 2022•20 min•Season 4Ep. 5
This episode had me get into a powerful, important conversation on colourism with Seema Hari. We chat about the disembodying and disempowering experience of living outside of your body and what it's been like for Seema to arrive back into their body-- this time with love. Seema Hari is a nonbinary software engineer, multi-hyphenated artist, and activist. They hope to annihilate the caste system and break the stigma around dark skin through their work across mediums. They believe art is the ultim...
Feb 27, 2022•47 min•Season 4Ep. 4
Calling everyone who was told that they talk too much on their report cards. This episode is for us. In 2019, I was chosen as a speaker for SheTalks and for my talk, I decided to speak on the shame I carried around my voice and its expression. In 2022, I decided to re-read myself that talk and reflect on how far I've come with that shame. What I found is that I've come a long way in embracing my voice and the space that it takes up. This episode of BGG is sponsored by The Whole Bowl. During the ...
Feb 20, 2022•20 min•Season 4Ep. 3
If you also fiercely chase things, people, and opportunities that are not meant for you, this episode is for you. If you find yourself ignoring that voice inside your heart that tells you that you deserve better, while you're busy convincing yourself that you don't, this episode is for you. This episode of BGG is sponsored by The Whole Bowl. During the month of February, say my name when you’re in-store and you’ll get 10% off. You can also use the code browngirlguilt to get 20% off all meal prep...
Feb 13, 2022•14 min•Season 4Ep. 2
In this episode, we talk about lowercase brown girl guilt, how it shows up in our lives, and how we carry it. At the end, I ask how we can begin to undo brown girl guilt and start to live our lives for ourselves. This episode of BGG is sponsored by The Whole Bowl. During the month of February, say my name when you’re in-store and you’ll get 10% off. You can also use the code browngirlguilt to get 20% off all meal prep orders. Check out their website thewholebowl.ca to place your order or order t...
Feb 06, 2022•23 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentleness, kindness, and ease. It's reminding yourself that you can work on things that are wrong in you...
Dec 26, 2021•22 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentleness, kindness, and ease. It's reminding yourself that you can work on things that are wrong in you...
Dec 19, 2021•22 min•Season 3Ep. 12
Truly loving yourself means looking in the mirror and recognizing that sometimes the one creating drama and chaos in your life is your own damn self. Your job is then pointing at those parts in the mirror, picking up on your bad habits, asking yourself where they are coming from, and holding yourself accountable for the mess they may have created. The self-love part is doing all of this with gentleness, kindness, and ease. It's reminding yourself that you can work on things that are wrong in you...
Dec 12, 2021•21 min•Season 3Ep. 11
