Ep 280: This Goes Out to All The Broke Bobbys

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let me let's talk some smack today about what's going on? Right, the T is the tea. Well, it's not personal, ta, But have you heard I'm sure you've heard of the site Only Fans correct, of course, right, sexy get you get.

but quite honestly, that's how they got known. A lot of sex workers you know, went to only fans and like you know, and the truth is it provided a safe space because you know, one, you know, COVID was out and about two you know, I'm sure as you guys know, being a sex worker is dangerous because someone could kill you, rape you, take advantage of you. It allowed people to have ownership because there are some sex workers, unfortunately that have people who feel like they have dominion

over their bodies, you know. But here was like I get to decide in a safe space what I want to do or not do. So however you feel about sex work, I'm not here to judge one way or the other. But I'm just giving you guys the backstory. Now only fans really blew up as a result of sex workers, and they've made millions. And some sex workers were making like six figures a month, you know, people paying like five ten bucks a month to see their

feet or whatever, you know. And now only fans and all their raggediness has decided that they gonna be KFC without chicken, Popeyes without the biscuit, a black hair dresser without the weight. You already know what I'm talking about. I went natural because I couldn't wait no more. But no, for real that they are kicking off.

what do you think about that? That letting this particular you know, segment of the population sex workers build up their their platform, like like honestly Tumblr, right, So it's my understanding that Tumblr. I did not know this, but there was a huge, you know, adult component to Tumblr. Tumblr was sold to who who bought Tumblr? I want to save a Verizon?

And yeah, I mean judgment free zone, you know, as far as how they're making money, but it sucks. It definitely sucks. I wonder how like prescriptive they're going to be about what kind of content you know, how on Instagram basically anything but a nipple is okay. I see some stuff on ig and I'm just like, what is this follow It seems like everyone's tits an ass are out now because that's like the look, you know what

I mean, like celebrities and influencers or whoever. Anyway, it's it's like sex sells and people are obsessed with building their their I mean, you're not going to see any of that on Mandy Money. I'm sorry. I mean you'll have to be a little bit better first, But.

stat or something. I was like watching a video where they were saying that, you know, as much as people pretend to be conservative in their outward lives, someone said that when church conventions come to hotels that they actually see a spike in pornography sales on like you know, like which I mean, And so it's just really hypocritical. Unfortunately, like I said, I'm not here to judge what you do or how you do as a grown person with

other grown people. You know, that's consensual, but you know people love to judge and then they you know, then you look at their history, their computer history, and you're like, oh wow a system, Mary Clarence.

they don't want to back them, you know, publicly. But I bet you people who work there would have no problem in the margins, you know, in the dark corners taking advantage of you know, women or other people who are offering these services or this content, you know what I mean, in a place that they wouldn't have any

oversight and they'd be less safe in doing so. So just another step back for giving sex workers the protection you know, and the visibility that makes the profession a little bit more safe.

masks and only fans, if they're even able. Because here's the thing, like I wouldn't start at only fans, like you know, you and I talked about starting a Patreon for brand Ambition, which we've done it y'all will see soon, okay, But you know, like if we had it never even occurred to me, well, oh, Mandy, we should start an only fans for Brown Ambission, Like you'd be like, what because I associate only fans with sex work which is fine, but I would say that's not a platform that that

Branna vission falls under. So I don't even know if they're going to be able to attract you know, like and I don't know. I guess time will tell if they'll be able to attract enough traffic new kind of traffic to not be Tumblr. So we else.

highest paid friend is five million dollars a year. The lowest paid friend is one hundred and twenty five thousand dollars a year. Like they have paid time off, if they're gonna get maybe like any like bonuses they also have, if they're willing to go to a third world country, if they are willing to pry fly private, how much they're willing to spend on a one day vacation, a seven day vacation versus a three day vacation, if they have a significant other, So something.

what he called. That's what they call him because broke Bobby makes a hundred and twenty five thousand dollars a year, and Kiki Key, isn't that so funny because he's poor and any one of their friends that there's about ten friends that make an under a hundred and they call them the welfare ten because just when you're like, ohh.

feel bad for where they're at compared to you. I mean, Jesus Christ, broke Bobby needs some new friends unless they're gonna pay for all of his vacations. And that's why he's friends with them.

One guy was seventy percent single whatever that means. I'm sure his girlfriend is thrilled.

know their business. Because some friends, you know, you have their real names on here how much they make, and you know, if they're in a relationship, you know, the person with the friend, the person in the seventy percent relationship with with that person might be like oh wow, And so I don't know, I think raking your friend it seemed less like, because here's the thing to me, if it was really Mandy, for like, hey, Mandy, you and ten of our friends we're trying to decide on

vacations every year. Why can't you just say, in the beginning of the year, here's my vacation budget. Now, yes, having knowing how much you make whatever something that we might talk about. But to pretend like this sheet is to figure out if we can go on vacation. I don't need to know how much you make, you know, if I'm just figuring out your vacation budget, you know, like you might say.

trending for all the wrong reasons. And it's just I just thought like, oh, so the guy's name is he's a real estate agent. His name is Tom Cruise, and I just think, quite honestly, he wanted people to see how much he makes. And he said, like, for example, he said, I if the trip and I get this. If there's gonna be a trip that's going to cost ten thousand dollars and a friend only wanted to spend five, he wouldn't invite them. But you don't need all this

back information in order to know. That's just something to ask, Hey, this trip is going to cost five do you want to come? That's it, And then people can decide from themselves versus you trying to publicly shame them so you can say, hey, look at me, I make good money.

like had posted about this recently. The more transparent I've become about my income, I have had people reach out to me, like even friends or just randos from the internet, which is fine, and ask you know, aren't you worried about people knowing your net worth or how much you make or that you're successful and whatnot? And I guess I just made a decision that I'm not worried. And their insinuation is that once people know how much you make, they're just going to come and ask you for things,

you know, ask for money. That has not been my situation at all. But even if it were, what else is the money for if not to create a comfortable life and to help others you know, when I need it. Call me a dirty liberal socialist whatever you want to call me, but I'm not here to I'm not here to hide it as if there's only enough for me

and there's not enough for anyone else. Like the whole point, And I think what can be inspiring to a way of looking at so if you're the broke Bobby and your friend group, instead of maybe comparing yourself and feeling down, look at it more as Okay, this is what's possible, and maybe I should ask so and so some questions about how they approach their finances or do they even you know, you make three million dollars a year? Do

you like your job? Are you happy? Those are the questions I'd be asking on top of that, you know, do you maybe.

look at Brooke, Bobby. He can't go anywhere with us, he he And it's just like that's your friend, that's your manson them. What if they call the others the welfare the welfare ten, anybody who made less.

who do not have the spectacular mansions. And I wish why, Yeah, I wish that he would knock on some regular ass people's homes and say, hey, what's your net worth? Or just knock on the mansion, you know, knock on the people's mansion and say, just wondering, you know, what's your

cash flow? Like, are you are your house poor? I know they're not gonna tell, but it just gives us perception that and still in America, like this idealization of like the home being the like the trophy of all trophies for success, and how so many people's version of success. You could have a millionaire living in a tiny home, you know, or a tree house in the in the

forest or whatever. I just I don't like it because I feel like it does proliferate that idea that wealth is home ownership and spectacular homeownership is the way to wealth, because that is just not the case.

want some huge base. I never see my husband. But we went to a house this weekend and their house was about the same size of ours. And that they had a pool, and I was like, you know, what if when we do get a next house, I would like a pool because the pool was really nice. It was in ground and it was salt water. It was just a record pool. But she just switched it out

for salt water. But I thought, hmmm, because I grew up with a big backyard and I kind of missed that because we don't have a big backyard here with grass and stuff, and so ours is all paved and so that's probably like the next move because I think one of the reasons why I've been spending less time on social media. So if you've been following me lately, you know that, like I've been doing lives when I

feel like it. But at the at the suggestion of doctor Green, my coach and she's also a therapist, she said, you know, like cause I was just like, I've just I go on social media and then you see terrible things like someone's being killed or harassed, or people are posting in ways it's just not edifying to me anymore. It used to be so much fun, but it's not. But I told her I missed like teaching, you know, and lives where they're one of the main ways that

I used to like teach. If I learned a lesson, I would teach it, whether it's financial education lesson, a lesson in business. And she suggested why not go live and then come off? And I tried, but I found myself like, you know, like cause it's almost like, you know, it's that one bag of chips. So then I try this. I go live, and then I actually take the app off my phone, so I uninstall the app, so it for me to go scroll again, I have to like

go actively install it, and so that's helped tremendously. So I have found myself going live more and more. So I've been doing like cause I get a lot of requests for people to mentor for me to mentor people, and I'm like, yeah, I don't have as much capacity, but during the lives, because I don't say them to the I just go live and I come off. I

don't save them to the feed. During the lives, I've just been doing like mentorship and it's been so much fun where somebody will like, you know, send me a question about there. Typically for me, most of my lives revolve around personal finance and but largely business you know, and I get to answer these questions that normally I would only have like about five mentees that I talk

to on a weekly basis. And so I've just been really enjoying it and that's been my way to kind of like protect my peace but then doing something that I really enjoy which is like this kind of like digital mentorship viaized. But then I get to jump off and like, you know, take my you know, take myself off Instagram and let the team do what they do. So yeah, I just there has to be ways around figuring out how you get to show up for you so you can be a millionaire and say I don't

want the big house. I feel like it's so hard for us to be cause people, you know, we all kind of follow the trends and sometimes it's really not to our benefit, you know. Like I had to ask myself, Okay, Tiffany, like you want to I always say baby millionaire, but I only say that because it makes me uncomfortable. But the truth is I'm not a baby millionaire. I'm just a millionaire millionaire, you know, And like, okay, and I don't necessarily want the big old house. And I'm like,

is that wrong? I have like, like literally, I was picking up a young woman from the train station who wanted to be my mentee, and she said, what does she say, because my car is a two thousand and I want to say fifteen or sixteen Lincoln MKZ right.

off social media. It's helping me become more aware of how do you actually want to live, Tiffany, despite what your bank account might say, like how do you align that?

I reach it. For example, when I wake up in the middle of the night for whatever reason and I can't go back to sleep, I usually get on TikTok and then yesterday it was like it wasn't even daylight yet, and it's like, your limit has been reached for the day. Meanwhile, I know I had some tiktoks. Most later you're like, say,

how I just really like extraction videos. But anyway, so that's a good hack and it has saved me because my screen time between that and uh Rio wanting to use my phone to watch TV all the time to watch Pepa. My screen time was like seven hours a day.

So she will. There are shows where kids who were her age play with toys and interact with each other that there are four and five, and so she doesn't like roam in. Her brother, who six, likes to watch educational TV, but she's like, no, I want to see these kids play these tools. Oh, look at them in the pool. Okay, splash. I call it ratchet baby TV. I'm like, but you need to learn something. She's like,

I want to see my friends. But yeah, but no, it's just really like, yeah, it's interesting, how you know, sometimes you can wake up and find that you might not be living actually your life, just someone else's idea of life and resetting because social media really almost encourages that. And so whatever your tools are, whether it's your off social medium, for the most part, you have that timer. Like Mandy said, I wanted there's a timer y'all. Let us know. Is there a timer like that for androids?

I wonder if there is.

cooking show on Netflix. I'm going to manifest it for her, but she will she literally, I mean, and first of all, she is just entertaining as hell, because she runs out into nature or her backyard or your backyard or these random street corners and finds edible food, finds edible plants, plants, fungi, all this stuff and flowers and whatnot. And she comes back and she does like a mini cooking show, and she'll cook something like a plant cracker or like a

seaweed cracker or whatever. But she is so entertaining and so full of life and energy and just joy. And what I love most about her is that I was.

it so far. So she's truly educating Alexis Nicole. If you don't follow her, she's on Tiktoks.

And so I'm a Yahoo Finance contributor. Now I mean not to speaking back, not to sneak another boost in there, but I was pitching ideas because now I'm going to be writing an article that I want to write which is so exciting, so topics that I like, and then also appearing on their Yahoo Finance Live segment once a week.

And anyway, I was pitching ideas. Struck a little bit of a chord this week because people still are hung up on this myth that job hopping switching jobs is going to make you unemployable, and that recruiters will look at your resume and be like, ooh, I don't know five jobs and ten years. Can't trust this one. She's shifty. And I'm excited to do the story because I'm ready to bust this myth. Wide open, wide open. I have had seven jobs in ten years, seven and I have

not I haven't quit all of them. I quit most of them. I was laid off once. That sucked. But you definitely can job hop. And what I'm trying to get a what I'm trying to get across is that one corporate America would love or not any I mean just anyone who relies on employees for their work, nonprofit, small business, big corporations, they would love if we believe this, because it means that we'll be reliable and we're gonna

stick around. So I'm not. And first of all, as a hiring manager who hired dozens of people and used to run a team, I get it. It sucks when people quit and you have to go and do the work of recruiting all over again. That is part and

parcel with being a manager and having a business. But from the employees perspective, it is so important to job hop, not just because you have you stand to earn such big pay raises when you job from when you jump from one job to the next, but you have to put your career ambitions and your career goals, and if you are not getting what you need from a job, you shouldn't let this idea that a future hiring manager may worry about you leaving a job keep you in

a bad situation, not getting the you know, not getting the investment in your career and your skills that you need, working in a toxic environment, you know, working in a place where you don't feel accepted or your ideas you know are not appreciated, you need to get out of there.

The key. The key is so if you're a hiring manager and I'm not going to say that I didn't look at a resume when I was hiring, and maybe Tiffany you have too, and see, you know, okay, so many jobs you were there for six months here, nine months there. I might ask what happened because I'm interested, But you need to be prepared to have a true, honest story of why you left. And I think that telling that story is what is going to help you remove any little, you know, whisper of doubt that could

be in the recruiter's mind. If you don't have a good, honest, compelling story. If it's just I don't really like that much, or you know, I wasn't sure, I don't really want to do that anymore. Like if you're wishy washy, that in and of itself would turn me off as a

hiring manager. But if you were very confident and you said, oh, okay, well, in that one job, I was really excited to try this new skill set and I was told that wasn't something that I could do in my existing role, so I had to pivot and move to a new company. Or you know, in this particular role, I was up for promotion, I was passed over for X y Z reason, So I'm really looking to take the next you know,

look for a new career challenge. So like, tell a compelling, honest story, and that whole myth that you're going to be you know, penalized or you know, your resume is just going to be pushed to the bottom of the pile because you you moved around a lot. It's just it's it's Bosky or bo Hockey.

or something to that effect. And I was like, when I love how the Black Women contingency rose up, was like, not on today? Will you come from both? Not bos She's one of the sweetest, kindest, most genuine people. Despite all this, She's accomplished that I've ever met. And so, yeah, they dragged, we banged them against the wall and a week you know, ended apologizing, ended up apologizing and like re I guess rewording their terrible title of the article.

Yeah and so, but yeah, she's a great one to watch because you see as she I mean, she's worked everywhere from ubern as CMO, from Endeavor and there was a huge, a huge what is those companies called the

represent like celebrities like publicist, no agency agency. Yeah, it's like but like huge celebrities are at Endeavor She also came from Apple, where she really blew up as a result because she she spoke on stage at Apple like during one of their like launches whatever, and she I think she was like with Apple Music in particular, but

both of them is amazing. And you see some of the major companies that she's come from, and she's hot because people have requested her presence because at that level, you're not applying randomly. They're literally tapping you on your shoulders say please come here. We have a coin that we'd like to give you because in exchange for your brilliance. So yeah, that's just I think I can't wait to read it and I can't wait to see you. Yeah who yeah, yeah.

no shame in that. Just tell the truth and say it with your chest, like, just be confident, you know, be confident in your story, make like they won't challenge you on it, I promise you. So I'm excited about that.

don't have the time. And she was like, hmmm, I don't believe that. And so I started to really look at my schedule and make them make changes. And as a result, I really do have Wednesdays light where I don't take any phone calls or any any no interviews, no nothing on Wednesdays, no meetings and Fridays off. But I can use those days do whatever it is that

I want. And I found myself. So I started off pre hiatus with three three core mentees and now I've got like an additional three, and I'm like, I thought I didn't have the time, but that just was not true. And when I tell you, I'm enjoying myself so much, Mandy like, I just like my mentees don't put anything in my pocket. I just love seeing like them do well. So I love being not just a mentor but also a sponsor. So a mentor is I'm here to give

you advice. Ideally, you want a mentor that's maybe ten steps ahead of you and they're like, ooh, chid Ben, they've done that. Oh don't do that, don't do that, you know, like or like, you know, here's some advice. Here's what I think right before you know taping today. That's why I was a little bit running a little late. I was just wrapping up with my mentee because she was letting me know that she had to let go of somebody on her team and she didn't want to

do it. And I was like, that's the fuck, that's okay, you know, like, you don't have to let her go. It's only gonna get worse. But you ain't gotta let her gos this. But you sometimes you just gotta learn. And she was like, oh, hold on, it's gonna get worse than this. I was like, much worse. How ask me how? Psych Yes, but also because I know, because I know what it's like to need to let someone go and let them stay for months, if not years, and then for it to get really terrible and toxic.

And so we were just I was just telling her that, just really proud of her because she finally made the move, but in a way that was kind so anyway, like I realizing how much I love that, and even like one day when I no longer work as budgetista or whatever, I would really love to create some sort of fund or whatever that doesn't just give you money but also gives you guidance. And so in the meantime, that's what I've been focusing my IG lives on, is that it's

just me being a mentor. We talk a little personal finance, but mostly talking about business and how you as a woman can navigate. Like today the talk was why you should build a community before you build a business, and like what does that mean and how do you do? So so it's just been really like, I don't know, my boost is just like being able to show up the way I'm wanting. This new mentorship that I'm doing like for like the masses. Oh, it's just called that

mental for the masses. Mental for the masses.

zero eight three seven three eight three three four. You text live to that, and that just lets me know that everything my goal on to me?

my Twitter bio. But I've just been really enjoying it and it just feels so great because it just feels nice to do something just to do something, not for some like desired outcome, because the desired outcome literally is the thing itself, and so I think I feel like, you know, to be reconnected back to that then, like just to do a thing because it's enjoyable to do a thing, not because there's anything on the back end

to gain other than this is fun. I'll though I'm not gonna lie, and even though I tell people this is mentoring, this is it I'm getting way more requests for one on one mentorship, and I'm like, h y'all was supposed to leave me alone and.

because it was so sweet. It was a guy and he said, my friend put me on, but she doesn't have Instagram. I want to say her name was Bridget. Ah, let's just go with Bridget for now and I will find it and I will shout her out next week. If it's not Bridget, right, well, Bridget for now.